When I Grow up I Want to Be an Old Woman

Getting Older

When I grow up I want to be an old woman, an old, old, old, old woman. Those are the words of one of my favorite commercials. At this writing, 2009, I am 62 years old. You might wonder why I don't mind telling my age. For one thing, I am so happy to have lived this long. I know it's not that old, however, some of my friends didn't live to be this age. So, you can see why those words are dear to my heart. One of my friends said, her mother always said she didn't want to get old, and she didn't, she died young. At times during conversations concerning aging, I will hear complaints about growing old, and my answer to that is, there's only two ways to go, grow old, or die young, I prefer the former. This article is not meant to be morose, or morbid, but to make all of us grateful that we are alive.

On a lighter note, when I was young, I use to think people my age were so old. I have a penchant for putting my foot in my mouth. Once, when I was about thirty years old, an older friend, and I were having a conversation about age, and she said, when she was young, she use to think that 60 was old. Now, mind you I didn't know her age, so I said, "that is old." She said, "no it's not." Then I asked, (as I was inserting the big toe of the foot that wasn't already in my mouth), "what do you consider old?" She said, "about 80." Then I said, ( with the second foot firmly implanted in my mouth), "that's ancient, 60 is old." All of a sudden, I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me whole, when it dawned on me to ask her age. She said very proudly, 60. Believe it or not, I had no words. Thank goodness she had the wisdom of her 60 years to recognize the stupidity of my meager 30 years, and didn't hold it against me. She even had a good laugh at my expense. In my defense, when I was real young you were considered old in your late fifties, or, early sixties.

Actually Social Security was designed with the premise that if retirement age was 65, the retiree would be dead in about 5 years, but because that premise no longer holds true, Social Security is running out of money.

Feeling Young

I am constantly told, I don't look my age, well my response to that is, "this is the way over sixty looks these days." For the most part, that's true, because of the advances in health care, and the promotion of physical fitness, we're taking better care of ourselves, and, so living longer is the new norm. I am not a mirror person, so I don't spend a lot of time looking at myself in the mirror, but when I do, I don't see the person others see. Sometimes, I will look in the mirror and have to ask the lady standing in front of me to move over, so I can see myself, then I notice that, she's saying the same thing, and I realize that she is me. You see, to me I don't look as young as I feel.

At times I'll run into someone that hasn't seen me for years, and they'll say, "you look the same, you never change." My response to that is, "I hope that's not true, because I thought I was cute back then." Seriously though, when I say feeling young, I do, so much so that I still run up, and, bounce down the stairs, I even still skip through the house. I know that might sound a little silly, but I've done that since I was young, and see no need to stop, until I can't do it anymore. I'm not the only one, I see my friends with the same level of energy that I have. This could be the way we look at life, you know, age is more of a state of mind over matter (if you don't mind, it doesn't matter).

My activities

I tend to act the way I feel, therefore my activities are not indicative of a "normal" 62 year old. Of course, most of my friends do the same, so the new norms must be what we do. None of us are sedentary, we walk, (some run) for exercise, we dance (some of the latest decent dances). Actually we, (my friends and I), are never home for any length of time. We have what we call Ole girl pajama parties, movie nights, we go to spas together, and so many other activities that fit our lifestyles. You know the saying, growing old gracefully, or fighting it all the way, you might say we have combined the two, because we do know our limitations,and boundaries, and we respect them.

My mother is eighty something, she still lives alone and loving it, drives the freeway alone, works in her vegetable garden, and is generally very active. I have an eighty something year old friend that you would declare she was in her sixties, because of the way she carries herself. She wears inch and half high heels all the time, and dresses to the nines, albeit conservatively. She is all over the country visiting relatives and friends, never home and completely enjoying life. Both my mother and my friend don't consider themselves old, I don't either. You see, my take on that is you're only as old as you feel. So, I have a long, long way to go, before I'm an old, old, old, old, woman.

Join me

So, if you want to join me in my quest, here's what you must do. Get up off that couch, out of that bed, leave that rocking chair behind and do something, anything active. First check with your doctor, to make sure of the level of activity you can safely participate in, then with the green light that he or she is going to give you, go for it. Join a group, a gym, or just walk around the block. Implement some of the things I do, or make up your own. You see, with the advances in health care, there is no reason you should not live to be an old, old, old, old person.

© 2009 Alfreta Sailor

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ladydijay 7 years ago

(smile) excellent.


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stephanie mclain 7 years ago from Texas

I throughly enjoyed this! :)

My great auntie and I were just talking yesterday about this same subject. She is going to be 72 yrs young in just a few months and she was explaining to me how she still does many of the same things she has done all her life. She is also very active, always in her garden or out with her girlfriends for the day.

Ladies like you two make me look forward to the time when I become an "old" woman. :)

Thanks so much for sharing!


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BkCreative 7 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

Old is in! That's how I see it and enjoy it. And when I lived in S. Korea (I'm a NYer) elders were worshipped, respected, revered - what a pleasure!

Nice to meet someone else who enjoys her age! Although I am now 60 I tell everyone I am 100! I love the wisdom that can only come with age.

Thanks for this hub and other great ones! I'm joining your fan club!


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks Stephanie, ladydijay, and BK, I'm just learning my way around HubPages. Thanks for the compliments and with fan like you three, I am inspired to continue hubbing.


\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

old old old that is what you will be if you wish it


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks Brenda, I'm working on it! Thanks for being a loyal fan!


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Mighty Mom 7 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

Thanks for the nudge. I'm getting off the couch right now (to go to bed cuz it's night, but i PROMISE I'll do something active and think of you tomorrow!). MM


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Might Mom, while you are over here reading mine, I'm over at your hubs reading yours. We have a mutual admiration society going on here. Thanks, I am a follower!


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Catlyn 7 years ago from Somewhere in the OC

Well, after reading this, I am holding myself accountable. I have been on vacation this past week - and when I say vacation, I mean not doing ANYTHING I normally do - going to the gym included! Thanks for an inspiring read; I do like your style!


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks Catlyn for stopping by, and the comment and compliment. I'm new at this writing thing so, I'm encouraged to continue writing, when I get comments like yours.


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Shalini Kagal 7 years ago from India

Age really is a state of mind, isn't it? We do need to shed our age-old perceptions of age and accept that it's OK to feel young, act young, think young. The great thing about your hubs fastfreta is that it makes your readers want to get up and get going - thumbs up!


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks Shalini, as usual you give me courage and encouragement to continue.


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Bail Up ! 7 years ago

I love reading your hubs. You are truly an inspiration - wish more of our older generation had the same perception. I want to be like you when I get to be your age :)


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thank you Bail Up very much for the compliment. Please come back soon.


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create a page 7 years ago from Maryland, USA

This is an enlightening hub and a must read. My concept of age has certainly changed simply by reading this hub. I refuse to hide my age anymore, thanks to you.

When we are young we want to get older, and when we are old we want to get younger. It seems strange. I think society and my children especially made me feel I had to hide my age, because it was the 'womanly' thing to do. Forget that, I will now live the way I am supposed to live, and be the way I am supposed to be at this age. Thank you so much for the encouragement.


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thank you so much create a page, you truly inspire me. What more can I say, but thank you again, and again.


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habee 7 years ago from Georgia

Good advice! Sounds like we have a lot in common.


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Great to meet you habee, thanks for stopping by, hope to see you again soon.


Kim Garcia 7 years ago

Amen!! I just love your Spirit!! Great Hub, and well taken advice!! Blessings!!


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks Kim, for stopping by and weighning in on my hub.


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loveofnight 7 years ago from Baltimore, Maryland

i remember my younger years when i thought that 35 was old, i never thought that i would allow myself to get old because i never knew that i would enjoy life so much.i am 55 years old now and loving it.


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks loveofnight for weighing in on this hub. I agree, I too am enjoying life.


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MFB III 7 years ago from United States

Good stuff, we can have wheelchair races when we get there.

It doesn't have to be sad, when one is proactive about it.

celebrate a new wrinkle, a ull aches, by getting out there and acting young again. ~~~MFB III


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fastfreta 7 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks MFBIII, for stopping by, I agree totally. Please come by again.


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lorlie6 6 years ago from Bishop, Ca

This hub is excellent and thoughtful, and as a 53 year old woman, I have much to look forward to.

I'm not a mirror-looker much either, but I was wondering if you see your mama when gazing at your own face. I am proud to say that I do.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks lorlie6 for stopping by. Yes I do see my mother, and my daughter sees here mother, (me), also. Please stop again soon.


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Juliet Christie 6 years ago from Sandy Bay Jamaica

We i am getting on to my sixties and I feel like thirty in mind and spirit my body is not feeing bad either


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

I feel much younger than my years also Juliet, so I agree with the saying, "you're a old as you feel." Thanks for stopping and leaving a comment.


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stacies29 6 years ago from Washington DC

Great hub, I luv thius commercial also


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks stacies29 for stopping, please come back.


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Eiddwen 6 years ago from Wales

I was 'old' at 20 years old, much older than I am now at 52 years old. Circumstances made me that way but having managed to break away and start my life over again I am now a very young 52 year old. As I get older I am determined to beof the same mindset as you. Well done


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks Eiddwen, for the comment. I agree with you about how I feel now at this age. Thanks for stopping, please come back.


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Scribenet 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

I agree, I am as old as I think I am. Sure, there are slight changes,like poorer eyesight, but there are many younger folk with half the energy! Plus the wisdom and common sense is priceless!


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Hey thanks Scribenet for stopping, and you are right so many young people have more complaints than we do. I guess as is said we're built of "stronger stuff." Again thanks for stopping, please come back.

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