WHY DO PEOPLE CRY WHEN THEY ARE HAPPY?

TEARS OF JOY ARE....PUZZLING!

WEIRD TIMES TO CRY?

It happened when I got married. It happened when I gave birth. It happened when my daughter graduated pre-school. It happened when I saw the Rocky Mountains up close for the first time. And it just happened right now, when I watched the final episode of the Sex and the City, when Big met Carrie in Paris, and Carrie realized it was Big she was destined to be with all along. I....CRIED!

I often feel like a big wuss crying at these happy events. It's just so...mushy...so weak. And anyway, why am I crying? These are HAPPY things! Crying when I am sad or hurt or frustrated or depressed..now THAT makes sense. But when I'm happy? When everything is going so well..or when something is so beautiful, or when a movie or show seems so perfect, and everything ends up JUST RIGHT that I feel literally filled with joy to the point of bursting? NOW THAT MAKES NO SENSE AT ALL! Or....does it?

TEARS OF JOY DO MAKE SENSE, AFTER ALL (SCIENTIFICALLY SPEAKING)!

Turns out it does. It seems that there is a perfectly good reason why you cry at happy events. And no, it does NOT mean you are a wuss. Just human! It's actually a sort of scientific reason, so bear with me. Here goes:

Emotional tears contain more manganese, an element that affects temperament - and also more prolactin, a hormone that regulates milk production. So, sobbing out manganese and prolactin is thought to relieve tension by balancing the body's stress levels and eliminating build-ups of chemicals....therefore, making the crier FEEL BETTER!

Whoo! So THAT'S why it happens!  Basically, it's just a way for the body to relieve a build-up of tension....even GOOD tension....because any strong emotion can cause this reaction in the body. Hence....tears of JOY spill out, and cause your body's stress levels to be balanced, once again!

EMBARRASSING UNCONTROLLABLE LIBRARY LAUGHING (AND CRYING)!

Here is a funny story .....(LITERALLY)....I was in the library with my daughter, looking for books to read. We picked a few, and sat at a table, thumbing through them. There was this one book...it was about a little boy named Sam, who was being toilet trained. I started reading some of it out loud, and it just struck me so funny!

It was written in a really humorous way....something about Sam thinking the "training" had to do with "choo-choos" ......it was just one of those situations where my funny bone was tickled, and I could NOT stop laughing...and in a LIBRARY no less....with my daughter, whom I'm SUPPOSED to be setting a good example for!

Anyway, the more I tried to stop laughing, the funnier it seemed (we've all been there) and before I knew it, I had TEARS streaming down my face as I sat there laughing hysterically. My daughter, thankfully, was too young to be embarrassed. But I was embarrassed. People probably thought I was crazy! I remember my daughter being surprised, asking, "Are you CRYING?" Well..yes...I was...laughing so hard I was crying!

TOY STORY 3?

So don't feel bad about crying at a funny book in the library, or when you're witnessing something so beautiful it moves you to tears, or at the end of a movie. It's actually good for your body - and perfectly normal.

If it makes you feel better, I cried at the end of Toy Story 3. Sure the toys found a good home, and a great NEW owner. But Andy was going off to college - it was the last time he'd ever play with Woody or Buzz again...it was happy....the toys would live on...but it was also a very emotional event for me!

(I have to go now. I am making the keyboard wet)!

Here's a question: What happy events make you cry? Which movies?

Carrie and Big in Paris; last episode of Sex and the City
Carrie and Big in Paris; last episode of Sex and the City
The beauty and grandeur of the Rocky Montains...brings tears to my eyes
The beauty and grandeur of the Rocky Mountains...brings tears to my eyes
Toy Story 3...funny, happy...yet...sad
Toy Story 3...funny, happy...yet...sad

DVDS THAT MAKE HAPPY TEARS

BOOKS ABOUT LAUGHING - WHICH IS WAY BETTER THAN CRYING..HOWEVER, IF DONE HARD ENOUGH, CAN MAKE YOU CRY!

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pinkydoo 5 years ago from New York

I thought Toy Story 3 was sort of "bittersweet", too! There's this one part in the movie Stranger Than Fiction, when Will Ferrel is playing the guitar for his new girlfriend, and suddenly, she just has to "attack" him with kisses..it just seems so beautiful and emotional - but in a GOOD way, that it makes me want to cry!


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MAGICFIVE 5 years ago from New York

I dont' know if I want to see Toy Story 3 now if it's so sad! Or maybe I should say, so happy it's sad?


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Stevennix2001 5 years ago

Wow, I'm glad to see another person out there besides me almost got choked up while watching "Toy Story 3." To be honest, I was almost choked up by the ending too, but I didn't cry. I wanted to, but I can't. It's a bit of a long story for me, as my father used to always tell me that only women and children cry all the time, so I kind of grew up repressing my emotions a lot. The funny thing is, he cries more than I do. lol. Kind of ironic, huh? Anyways, that's why it's hard to make someone like me cry, as I'm used to holding back emotions.

However, "Toy Story 3" almost got to me though; almost as much as "Castaway" did. That's another great film as Tom Hanks was stranded on a deserted island; with nothing to keep him going except for the chance to see his fiancé again. Anyways, he makes it back home, after a few years, but his has moved on and married someone else. Plus, she has a child now to boot. Anyways, I won't spoil it for you if you haven't seen it, but the end really got to me. It was one of those very sad and happy endings at the same time. Like I said before, I wanted to cry, and tried to, but couldn't for the reasons I just said. I guess for me it's a psychological thing if that makes sense. lol

Oh by the way, I loved that show "Sex and the City" also. Yes, I know it's weird because I'm a straight guy watching the show. Not that there's anything wrong with it, but I did enjoy the clever writing and stories of that show. Of course, the movies were a big disappointment to me, as I thought they turned Carrey into a bit of a undecisive wimp in the films. However, that's just me. Anyways, thanks for the great read, as I'll be sure to rate this up.


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MsQuestion 5 years ago from New Jersey Author

I actually had a friend who was a straight guy - and we used to watch Sex and the City together sometimes, so you're not the only one! My husband who CLAIMS he doesn't like the show, will always sit there chuckling when it's on! And yes...Castaway..one of my FAVORITE movies...that part where she says to him, "you're the love of my life!" and they're in the car with the rain pouring down...that part ALWAYS gets me! I think that's the sign of a good movie, though, when it can make you feel that way; you know, bring up all that emotion.


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida

MsQuestion, I love the story of the uncontrollable laughter in the library. I can remember it happening to me more than once. Great hub. Rated up.


Jack Lancaster 4 years ago

Gypsy 2008 Broadway Revival Overture recording on YouTube! A PERFECT RECORDING. The only perfect multitrack recording matrixed to mono I have EVER heard!

Also a great many Broadway show songs to numerous to mention here.


Relish 4 years ago

The Lorax - Somebody help me if I hear the song Let it Grow Celebrate the world in public. It's just so happy and beautiful it makes me cry my eyes out.

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