How to Cope with Tinnitus

Tinnitus is noise coming from within


I have had tinnitus for over 20 years, and as well as the regular “ringing in ears” variety, for the past four years I have also had a pulsing sound in my right ear.

As I wrote that first sentence an image came into my mind of a server in a fast food restaurant asking, “And would you like regular or large? How about a side order of pulsing along with the hissing, buzzing and ringing in your ears?”

Now, if you feel miserable because you have tinnitus, you might think that it’s not a laughing matter, or that mine can’t be all that serious if I make bad jokes about it.

So let me say now, that I don’t always laugh about it, that I would love, love, love to hear silence again and that I am not suggesting that you should just grin and bear it. I’d love to find a miracle cure just as much as anyone else would, but I’m not willing to make myself miserable while I wait and nor need you.

Ringing in my Ears

I cannot tell you how the internal noises I hear compare to yours. I can tell you that a doctor recently put his stethoscope to my neck and told me my pulse there is very loud, which possibly explains the sound I hear. He also sent me for a MRI scan and told me that the results of an audiology test showed significant hearing loss at higher levels. What that means to me on a daily basis is that if the television, radio or washing machine is on I cannot make out what people say. It also means that I long ago gave up going to the loud concerts that possibly contributed to the tinnitus in the first place. I avoid noisy places because I don’t enjoy them and can’t hear conversations.

Too much loud noise can possibly cause tinnitus

I can’t say for sure that going to see to “The Jam” when I was young caused my tinnitus, but for me rock concerts are a thing of the past
I can’t say for sure that going to see to “The Jam” when I was young caused my tinnitus, but for me rock concerts are a thing of the past | Source

Anatomy of the Ear

Damage to the Cochlea, shown in purple, is the most common cause of tinnitus. Loud noise can damage the Cochlea.
Damage to the Cochlea, shown in purple, is the most common cause of tinnitus. Loud noise can damage the Cochlea. | Source

Ways to Cope with Tinnitus

But tinnitus doesn’t depress me, doesn’t keep me awake at night, doesn’t make me bad-tempered – all things I’ve heard people say it does to them. (No, when I’m bad-tempered it’s got far more to do with what I’m thinking than anything else, and thankfully it happens considerably less often than it used to do.)

I’m not for one minute suggesting that I am better than anyone who does find tinnitus hard to deal with. I am not better than you or anyone else and I have had my moments of despair. My aim in writing this is to encourage you to see that life with tinnitus does not need to be a life of unhappiness.

Since two thousand times as many people search on Google for a miracle cure for tinnitus than search for how to cope with tinnitus, my message may not be what everyone wants to hear. But would your rather suffer with tinnitus, or enjoy life? While we may not have much choice in whether or not we have tinnitus, we do have a choice in how we deal with it, and I’d like to share with you some practices that help me. When I say practices I don’t mean that I consciously work at these on a regular basis – for me it’s much less formal than that, and more an integral part of life.

But - if I find myself feeling miserable and wishing for silence then I do consciously focus on these.

Information about Pulsatile Tinnitus

Pulsatile tinnitus, to give the pulsing in the ears its correct term, can in rare cases be an indication of a serious medical condition. In the vast majority of cases the cause is benign, but if you experience this do get it checked out by a specialist doctor. Around 3% of people with tinnitus experience pulsatile tinnitus, and like, me, many have it along with continuous tinnitus. It is the form of tinnitus most people find bothersome, and luckily it is also the form most likely to be cured.

Focused Breathing Can Help Feelings

Try this short exercise and see what happens. You can read it through first and then give it a go.

Focus on your breathing. Allow the breath to come and go naturally without trying to force change, and notice that as you do this it will naturally begin to slow down. Now focus on how you are breathing: shallow breathing into your chest, especially mouth breathing, creates stress in the body, which leads to anxiety and could make tinnitus worse.

Now close your mouth and consciously breathe more deeply, allowing your stomach to expand with each in-breath. At first you might find it easier to do this lying down, placing your hands on your stomach. If you spend about 10 minutes a day doing this it will help you feel calmer. It’s also a good idea to become more conscious of your breathing throughout the day and use it to help you stay calm. This technique also has the added bonus of taking your mind off the tinnitus.

Choose to reframe



I find it enormously helpful to remind myself that tinnitus is not dangerous, not life threatening and not even painful. It’s just a noise – or several noises. (But please read the note about Pulsatile Tinnitus in the blue box.) My father has been living with cancer for three years and has constant pain in his spine as a result. A friend of mine died of the same cancer last year and another friend of mine died of cancer three years ago, leaving behind two young children. Compared to that, tinnitus is a dot on the horizon in an ocean of suffering.

That’s one way I reframe the tinnitus, and another is to think back to a year ago when I told a friend about the pulsing sound (and yes I was looking for sympathy!) My friend said, “That would be reassuring, to hear your heartbeat.” He has raised cholesterol, and his father died of a heart attack in middle age, so I can see his point!

Yet another reframe I often do is to notice that some of the sounds I hear are similar to the sea. I love to be by the sea, so as I notice the sounds in my head, I imagine the sea. All of these practices mean that noises no longer seems unbearable and I don’t feel like a tinnitus sufferer or victim. That leaves me feeling much happier.

You will have your own stories like these, so use them to reframe for yourself.

Take each moment as it comes

In some ways this is similar to reframing. Notice the thoughts and beliefs you have about tinnitus, and in particular watch out for beliefs such as: “It’s unbearable," or “There isn’t any cure so I’m stuck with this forever.” Now notice the images that come with those thoughts. Are those images of you forever stuck feeling weighed down and unhappy because of tinnitus? And how do those images make you feel? Do they make you feel overwhelmed and maybe even depressed?

You are not alone. Since we constantly hear that there is no cure for tinnitus it’s not surprising that many people feel this way. Especially if tinnitus is new to you, it can seem frightening and overwhelming to read that there is no cure. What I find is that both believing there is no cure and hoping for a cure leave me feeling powerless, whereas when I simply focus on this moment, I feel calm.

Notice that what makes tinnitus feel unbearable is not what’s happening right now, but our thoughts about it. When instead we focus on this moment we can cope. Each moment is bearable because we are bearing it. It’s not necessary to have spent years learning meditation to focus on this moment. My suggestion is to observe your thoughts, notice when they are racing off into scary scenarios and then focus on the objects around you, or on whatever you happen to be doing - at what’s actually here right now.

If you struggle to sleep, focus on the feel of the bedclothes, of the pillow beneath your head, the colors in the darkness (you’ll be surprised!) Again this takes you back to what’s here right now, and that might include the sounds in your head. When you notice the sounds, as best you can, do it in the same way you notice the feel of the bedclothes - with neutrality.

If you have resistance to this suggestion, that’s absolutely normal, because if you have been focused on trying to change your situation it may seem at first that this is pointless. But it’s one way that works very effectively for me, so consider giving it a go.

Welcome your feelings and let go

If I find myself feeling frustrated with the endless noise, I do my best to welcome that frustration and any other feelings such as self-pity or hopelessness.

Welcoming does not mean wallowing. It means allowing the feelings to be there and allowing them to go. You don’t need to try to get rid of them; willingness is all it takes. This might seem alien at first, especially if you are used to pushing away feelings or have been trying to think positively about your situation. But when we welcome what we feel right now, it doesn’t mean we must try to “put up with it”, or that it will always be this way. We simply open and acknowledge that in this moment we feel frustrated (or whatever feeling we have), and that it’s okay to feel that way. This in itself is enough to ease our feelings.

By welcoming what we feel in this moment we open to change, because our energy is no longer being used to resist what is. That frees us to be open to solutions we might not have considered before.

One Possible Cure

While researching for this article I came across one such possible solution, Tinnitus Retraining Therapy. It seems that tinnitus may not be caused by irreparable damage to our cochlea after all, but because our hearing is over sensitive.

Our brains all have the ability to filter out noises, so that someone living next to a railway ceases to notice the sound of the trains, or a mother can sleep through a thunderstorm but wake with her baby’s whimper.

It seems that it is the meanings we give sounds that determine whether or not we go on hearing them and that the key to lessening the effects of tinnitus is in relearning to filter out the sounds we don’t need to hear. Although sound patterns are generated in our ears, it is in our brains that we become aware of sounds. Therefore it is with our brains that we can learn to let go of what tinnitus-retraining therapists refer to as the conditioned response, our reaction to sounds.

I am excited to have come across Tinnitus Retraining Therapy and I will be looking into it further and will write more on it in the future. Maybe it will be that soon all of us with tinnitus can all once again hear the sound of silence.

Read More about Tinnitus Retraining Therapy

This website has extensive information on Tinnitus Retraining Therapy:

The Tinnitus and Hyperacusis Centre

And this is a short introductory article from deafness

Simplified tinnitus retraining therapy reduces tinnitus distress

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

That was pretty interesting and I have to admit I have never heard of tinnitus. I like your approach of writing about how to handle it rather than hope for a miracle cure. Well-done my British friend.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi Billybuc,

Glad you found the article interesting, even if you are not my target audience since you’d don’t have tinnitus.:-) Thanks very much for reading and for your kind comment.

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seekingpeace91 4 years ago

This was a great hub- I'm just hub hopping, but happen to have tinnitus too! Since I tend to have some anxiety as well, I love the suggestion to become aware of the breath. The "reframing" idea is great, too- different perspective can really help me reduce the "poor me" attitude. =)

Thanks! Voted up

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Sunnie Day 4 years ago

I am so happy you wrote about this. I have lived with this condition for many years and know that I have slight hearing loss. I have trouble like you said if there is a lot of noise at once and someone is trying to talk to me..I have compensated for so long that my family did not know..I never talked about it until recently. My husband really have ringing in your ears constantly?..I had it before I met him. It does not keep me up unless I am not that tired then the humming can be annoying...I knew there was nothing to fix it and I do not visit the doctors unless I am really really sick..that's a nurse for you.. Sometimes I just tell myself that I have a gift and can pick up alien frequencies...(I am so kidding) Anyway great hub and thank you for your wonderful suggestions.

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iamaudraleigh 4 years ago

Great hub!1 I understand what you are going through. I had 8 sets of tubes in my ears and have a little loss of the real high pitches and to the really low sounds. Your hub was very informative...voted up!!

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Marcy Goodfleisch 4 years ago from Planet Earth

I'm so glad to read this, Melovy - I've had tinnitus for the past few years. It's scary and depressing when you first realize you're getting it. I had injuries long ago that contributed to it, and now it's a daily thing. I will do a search for the retraining therapy (wouldn't it be wonderful if that offers a solution!). Please let us know if you learn anything new.

Excellent hub! Voted up, useful and interesting.

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Heather1956 4 years ago from Oklahoma, Texas, Alaska, Utah, Florida, Arkansas

Had Tinnitus X 10 years from airplanes/medevacs/drone of loud engine plus loud music. I went to have my ears checked & with the assistance of the person doing the exam found the pitch/sounds I was hearing. Yes, the sounds will get louder. No, there is no treatment that will stop it unless surgery & that causes deafness. Your taught to relax, sedatives, breathing, you can try hearing aides, but nothing is known to stop it. If suicidal do not wait till it worsens go to the hearing specialist. There is an MD in Seattle, WA who can be referred for surgery. Yes, it can drive you crazy, decrease your tolerance for everything around you. Make you feel crazy. It has gotten louder and occasionally I see people's mouths move but miss what they are saying. I rather would be deaf than this. It's 24/7.

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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

Many people have slight tinnitis that isn't louder than the tv or fridge, etc. But for some people it is really loud. William Shatner did a sumersault in a Start Trek episode that involved bombs going off straight into the sound bomb and got the worst of it compared to Nimoy and Kelley. It became so loud and painful that he had to be taught to isolate the frequency and ignore it. Now he can handle it, but he was quite desperate.

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sholland10 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri

Interesting information. My husband is an "old" soldier who was around weapons and engines for much of his career - during a time didn't require ear plugs. I am quite sure he has tinnitus. He has a lot of hearing issues. Great hub! Votes and shared! :-)

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bestcoconutwater 4 years ago from Sri Lanka

Pretty interesting buddy

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The Writers Dog 4 years ago

Thank you for your Hub. I have had tinnitus for 30 years now. In my case it is connected to my Type 2 neurofibromatosis (NF2). It is important that people are aware that there are other things you can do than just pop pills for medical problems.

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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA


This is informative and comprehensive, as all of your writing tends to be. What I especially love about the way you address this subject is your perspective and positivity...your inner beauty and spirit radiates through.

Voted UP & UABI. Love, Maria

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duffsmom 4 years ago from Pacific Northwest, USA

Will follow this closely to see what more you can offer. I am troubled by this which is intensified by the ibuprofen I take for pain. So your research is very interesting to me.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi seekingpeace91, so glad you found this hub useful. I have noticed that stress makes my tinnitus worse, so the breathing exercise is great for reducing that (as are the other tips.) I hope you it helps you too!

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi Sunnie Day,

I have been amazed to get up this morning and see so many comments, so I’m glad I wrote it too as it seems to strike a chord.

I know what you mean about compensating and not doing anything about it. I have only very recently seen a doctor, so am at the early stages with that. I think because so often you read there is no cure it discourages people from seeking treatment - certainly it did me - and from what little I’d read the ’treatment’s seemed to be white noise, which didn’t appeal. But after reading about the retraining therapy I can see that it’s worth getting support and I’m looking forward to my visit to the tinnitus clinic!

As for alien frequencies - who knows maybe in 100 years they will discover you are right! :-)

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

HI audraleigh

8 sets of tubes sounds ugh! I take it they were for earache? I hope they relieved your pain. Thanks for your comment and vote up!

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Marcy, I think your comment sums up why I wrote this hub. It is scary when you first realise you have tinnitus, and I think the emphasis on ‘there is no cure’ makes that fear worse - because people think, “I have to live with this forever.” That is what feels unbearable.

There’s a lot of information on tinnitus retraining therapy in the first link at the end of the article, including where to find therapists. I will write more about it once I’ve tried it for myself.

Thanks very much for your comment and vote up.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi Heather1956,

It sounds as if you find tinnitus hard to deal with, so I hope you find the suggestions useful. Relaxing, as you say, it a huge benefit, and I’m glad to see that you have been taught breathing techniques, as this is very helpful to me. Wishing you well and thanks for your comment.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi Flora,

It sounds as if William Shatner has had tinnitus retraining therapy if he has been taught to isolate the frequency and ignore it. Thanks very much for that information as it adds to the hub.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

HI Susan, I can imagine that weapons and engines could cause tinnitus. I’m amazed my husband doesn’t have it because he’s worked on helicopters and planes all his time. Glad you found the hub useful and thanks very much for your comment and for sharing.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Thank you, bestcoconutwater.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi The Writers Dog,

I haven’t heard of NF2, so I just looked it up and sorry to hear you have that. It sounds like quite a challenge, but from your comment it sounds as if you have found ways to support yourself which is great. Thanks very much for your supportive comment.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Thank you Maria, for such a lovely comment, and for all your wonderful support of my writing and of others too. You do such a great job of it!

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The Writers Dog 4 years ago

@Melvoy... most people have not heard of NF2. ANd that includes a vast majority of the Australian medical fraternity :)

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi Duffsmom,

I am sorry that you experience pain. I can imagine it must be hard to know that the ibuprofen you take will intensify the tinnitus. I think the tinnitus retraining therapy sounds very hopeful and will certainly write more when I know more. Do check out the links at the end of the hub.

Thank you for your comment.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

The Writers Dog, I hope you are going to write a few hubs on it to bring it to people’s awareness!

Love Australia by the way, though I haven’t been to your part.

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The Writers Dog 4 years ago

One is already in research and development.

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Aliswell 4 years ago from Iowa

Hi Melovy..Thanks for the answer on my question. And thanks to all that have responded and shared their "unpleasant" experiences with this Curse. I call it a curse, because something unwelcome with you 24/7 is definitely a curse in my world.

As I stated in my Question, my curse has been with me around 8 years with the signature of a pink/white noise with crickets thrown in for good measure. Suddenly in an a spontaneous stroke of addition Bad Luck, I was awarded an additional sound that I would describe as Kettle Drums played way at the back of a stand of trees about 1/4 mile distant. The ONLY control I have over this sound is to intentionally increase my heartbeat, as the candince is one with my heart beat.

Again thank you for all that post on this Terrible afliction and let's all keep hoping for the cure!!!!

I also find it very helpful to find everyone's search for ways to cope, and in this type of correspondence to truly help another fellow human being in their time of need, you are truly blessed with the best that mankind has to offer.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi Aliswell,

Thank you for asking the question. Without it I doubt that I would have written this hub.

The kettle drums tinnitus you describe is Pulsatile tinnitus. I think from what you wrote on the original question that you have had a medical check, but if not be sure to do that. From what I’ve read, the good news is it does seem to be the kind that can be healed, though I am too early in treatment to know for myself. I find the breathing exercise I described helps a lot with pulsatile tinnitus. I remember when mine started I it did feel at times that I could not bear it any longer, but 4 years on I am still not only bearing it but finding a degree of peace with it, so I can understand that it feels bad to you, but don’t give up heart.

Thank you for your comment, I’m glad you have found the hub and comments of some comfort.

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Aliswell 4 years ago from Iowa

Hi Melovy,

Thanks for the comments. My doctor had an ultrasound performed to check my carotid arteries weren't abnormal. Then when she determined they were fine, she prescribed two different medicines for possible Eustachian Tube infection. All these medicines did was to create Subconjunctival Hemorrhage, especially in the left eye.

After Googling Tinnitus, I found that aspirin is a possible cause and I realized that I had only recently started taking aspirin again after many years of not taking it. I, of course, stopped taking it, but so far still have the Pulsatile as well as the Old static type.

I too, found the Pulsatile almost unbearable at first. Now I am using the sound to monitor my heartbeat, or so I tell myself.

It is estimated that 36 million Americans suffer from this curse. I don't know how that makes me feel. It seems to be a disease with sufficient numbers that it would necessitate research and pill development by the pharaceutical machine. Since the damn thing doesn't normally kill us, except in some cases I'm sure, death from the .357 Magnum projectile,the need for research is low priority.

Anyway, thanks again for your suggestions Melovy. I will try the breathing exercise.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

HI again Aliswell,

Thanks for coming back, and sharing some more of your story. I hadn’t known that aspirin was a possible cause so wish you well now you’ve stopped taking it.

Meantime your practice of using the sound to monitor your heartbeat sounds a great reframe to me! You might also be heartened to learn there is quite a bit of research going on in the UK and Europe. Here’s a link:

I hope you find the breathing exercise helps and I’ve added in another technique that helps me hugely but that for some reason I forgot to include before.

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htodd 4 years ago from United States

That's nice info ..Thanks a lot for this great article

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Aliswell 4 years ago from Iowa

htodd, I am following you now for your Great information on writing. Isn't it serendipitous that we find that which we seek when we put forth the effort to ask what we want to receive?

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Thanks htodd.

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Gracenduta 4 years ago from Kenya

informative hub, thanks

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi Gracenduta, thank you.

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pstraubie48 4 years ago from sunny Florida

Thank you for sharing this. I have suffered with this aggravation I chose to call it since age 12. I had a mastoid ectomy at that time and then at age 32 I have an eardrum reconstruction. AFter the eardrum surgery the sound akin to the snowy sound on a tv became much worse. Sometimes it is difficult to block it out. I will certainly give these suggestions a try.

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Made 4 years ago from Finland

This is an interesting hub. Tinnitus seems to be quite common, and it's good to know how you can cope with it. Very informative!

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi pstraubie

Thank you for sharing your experience, you have had tinnitus from a very young age! I think it helps to share experiences too because then people don’t feel so alone.

I recognise the snowy tv sound you describe!

I hope the suggestions do help you, and wish you well.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi Made, glad to know you found it interesting.

Thanks for your comment.

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BayAreaLawyer 4 years ago from San Francisco Bay Area

I can only imagine how horrible it must be to be a sufferer of tinnitus. I've experienced it when I was younger, but thankfully haven't had it in years.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi BayAreaLawyer,

I am heartened to hear that you no longer have tinnitus. Did you have any treatment or did it go away by itself? I’m sure the other people who have commented would also love to hear. If you write a hub about it let me know and I will link to this one.

Thank you so much for your comment.

Veronica Young 4 years ago

This is a great article!

I have tinnitus and just happened to come across the article through HubPages Twitter stream.

I've been to a few doctors who told me it was just pulsatile tinnitus and not a tumor, but it's extremely fustrating nonetheless. I still don't know how I got it.

Thanks for a great hub!

VeronicaInspires - A fellow hubber

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi Veronica,

First, thanks for letting me know how you came across the hub, that’s really great!

I think doctors often don’t know what to do to help people with tinnitus, which is a bit frustrating. I have tried many alternatives too, but so far none made a much difference so I am keen to learn more about tinnitus retraining therapy. (I’m still waiting for an appointment.)

Thanks for you comment and glad you enjoyed the hub.

diogenes 4 years ago

I have had severe tinnitis since about 1983. It began when i went onto blood pressure medication (I think) and may have been associated with that at the start. It is worse in my left ear. I don't pay much attention unless it gets "angry," if you know what I mean then it is stressing. I hope one day the medical fraternity finds a cure for this silence-robbing affliction.

Great article.


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BayAreaLawyer 4 years ago from San Francisco Bay Area

@melovy, yeah it just went away on its own, but it did scare me and since then I'm always careful to wear earplugs at concerts, etc.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi BayAreaLawyer,

Thanks very much for your reply. I find it very encouraging to know that your tinnitus just went away.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

HI Bob,

I think I do know what you mean about when tinnitus gets “angry.” The noise levels to vary quite a bit, but I’m not sure whether that’s because sometimes I pay them more attention. It sounds as if you cope very well and I agree it would be nice to have silence again!

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gramarye 4 years ago from Adelaide - Australia

Thanks for this great hub. I have had tinnitus for many years. I have heard about the retraining, but didn't know much about it. I did find that when I focused on breathing as you suggested that I didn't notice the ringing so much. Voted up

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi gramarye,

I am really pleased to hear the breathing exercise helped. I recently read that when we deep breathe it actually changes our brainwaves from beta breathing which is how most of us are most of the time to alpha breathing which is how we are in meditation or prayer. So, if this is the case, not only does it take our minds off the tinnitus it also helps us to shift into a more life-enhancing way of thinking. It does seem to me that this could be right, because deep breathing is very relaxing.

Thanks for your comment and the vote up!

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Glenn Stok 4 years ago from Long Island, NY

There are so many claims out there with cures for tinnitus, that it was refreshing to read your hub where you talk about the truth instead.

As a sufferer of tinnitus myself, I appreciate the way you explained the coping mechanisms. I find that I can live with my tinnitus simply by accepting it.

From my own experience, I can agree with you that there are methods that can be used to help. Such as the retraining method, and focusing on other things, as you had mentioned in your hub. The methods you discussed are very good reminders for people with tinnitus to review from time to time and make use of. Voted up.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Glenn, I agree acceptance is hugely important in coping. I'm still waiting to get tinnitus retraining - it takes a long time in the UK but your comment has reminded me I planned to ring up and find out if the clinic has forgotten me!

I'm very glad you think this useful and thanks for your comment.

Martin 4 years ago

Thank you for this article. I've had tinnitus for 6 years now. Initially, it was incredibly difficult, distressing, and depressing, but I managed to learn to ignore it... Recently, as some commenters have put it, it's become 'angry' and, as such, has forced its way to the forefront of my thoughts (and has brought back the distress, depression, etc). Times like these are very difficult; I just have to remind myself that it may return to being just a noise I ignore, rather than something I obsess about. Your article helps me believe that the former may yet be a possibility.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi Martin, I am sorry to hear you have found tinnitus difficult and distressing, but not surprised because so many people do feel that way. I think that stress plays a big part in aggravating it, so anything that reduces stress will help.

I am glad you found this helpful, and thanks very much for leaving a comment.

kaz 4 years ago

Iam suffering and what some creaturs think is how to sell their products where is humanity?

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

kaz, I'm not sure if you meant that comment that had a link on it, but I had thought I'd deleted it, and have made sure it is deleted now. You have my sympathies in your suffering and I hope some of these suggestions help you get some relief.

serenetm 4 years ago

What a great post! So happy there is so much info out there on learning to accept & deal with tinnitus. I was so lonely & frustrated back in 1983 at 25 years of age & no one to take me seriously. Melovy, you have provided many people with great knowledge about this, thank you.

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

serenetm, thank you very much for your comment. I am glad you found this useful, and it sounds as if you are coping well with tinnitus nowadays.

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yahwhon 4 years ago

I don't understand how you can say it doesn't depress you, doesn't keep you up at night, etc. I have had it for 15 years now and its killing me, its so loud I have panic attacks daily and anxiety all the time. I resorted to alcohol for years only to end up in hospital with heart arithmias and ectopic beats so have been dry now for 3 years, tried every pill out to knock me out at night just so that i can sleep. Nothing works and nothing helps, it's a loud, hot peircing sound in my head, it drives me insane . I am in tears on many occasions, it has stopped me from doing almost everything, I don't enjoy anything anymore, I hate going out ,everyone is happy except me, people don't see my pain, they don't know why I am always sad, pleas if there is a god "Help me"

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Melovy 4 years ago from UK Author

Hi yahwhon,

I am sorry to see that you are having such a difficult time with tinnitus. I hope you try some of the suggestions here because, while I realise from what you've written that you probably don't feel that anything can help, these techniques do help. You say you don't understand how I can say it doesn't depress me or keep me up at night: these techniques are why.

I also suggest that you get some support for your panic attacks and anxiety. I have felt my tinnitus greatly increase when I've felt anxious. It can become a vicious circle: you feel anxious about the tinnitus and anxiety increases the tinnitus, which makes you feel even more anxious. Getting help for your anxiety can break that circle. I don't know where you live, so don't know what facilities you have available, but, if you can, ask your doctor for some support for anxiety. CBT is a form of therapy that many people with tinnitus find very helpful. (I haven't tried it, but only because I use a similar process.)

You truly don't have to go on suffering, and I feel sure that if you told a few trusted friends how you feel that they would want to support you.

I am very glad that you have expressed your feelings here, and I hope you don't feel quite so alone now. Please do leave another comment if you have any questions and I wish you well.

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nifwlseirff 3 years ago from Villingen Schwenningen, Germany

I've just developed pulsatile tinnitis, possibly as a side effect to an endometriosis medication which causes increased migraines and headaches (and pressure around the aural nerves). It's disturbing to say the least! I hope it will go away when I stop the medication in 6 months or so.

Thank you for sharing a few tips that will make dealing with it easier!

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Melovy 3 years ago from UK Author

Hi nifwiseirff, sorry to read that you've developed pulsatile tinnitus. It does take some getting used to. It must be hard with the increased migraines and headaches too - wishing you the best with getting some relief for it all, and I hope these tips do help.

Thanks for your comment.

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