Which Road Leads To Happiness? Feeling your desitination and not your path

Where Does The Road You're on Lead?

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Is it really a road at all?

"Happiness is a journey, not a destination; happiness is to be found along the way not at the end of the road, for then the journey is over and it's too late. The time for happiness is today not tomorrow." ~ Quoted by Paul H Dunn

Like life, in my humble opinion, the road to happiness is a mysterious path. The road to happiness can be a path filled with intrigue, adventure and sometimes even disappointment, when that disappointment turns out to have been in our best interest. I have often wondered where this road begins and ends; where it leads to and who else gets to travel this road with us? This hub is a compilation of what I have found over the years and though it is just my opinion, I believe much of what I have seen and experienced and read is common to almost all of us at one time or another. Whether or not you agree with me here, I sincerely hope that each moment of your life is so filled with happiness and joy that all you can do is participate in it fully and anticipate the next moment to come with the greatest expectations!

Happiness 101

What Would Convince You To Believe It?

"Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response." ~ Mildred Barthel

We can choose to be happy in almost any appropriate situation. Harvard's Professor of Happiness Tal Ben Shahar says I'm not sure it's always healthy to be happy in every one of life's circumstances. Actually I think happiness is derived, in part, by knowing ones self so well that one can observe his/her emotional responses without reacting to them, because it is the action and reaction to the stimulus that determines the outcome and our feelings about it. Guess who gets to decide what situations in life are appropriate or not? That's right, YOU do!

So, happiness does seem to be a choice that comes from experience. Circumstances do not dictate our happiness. Life events do not determine which road we will follow, where that road ends and what we will see as ultimately joyful and happy. If I haven't convinced you of that yet I would direct your attention to the work of Viktor E. Frankl M.D., Ph.D. and the author of "Man's Search For Meaning," The road to happiness then, is determined in large part by want, what we see as valuable and worthy of our energy.

Happiness Is!
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Experience - The Greatest Teacher

"Being happy is something you have to learn. I often surprise myself by saying "Wow, this is it. I guess I'm happy. I got a home I love. A career that I love. I'm even feeling more and more at peace with myself." If there's something else to happiness, let me know. I'm ambitious for that, too." ~ Harrison Ford

Not all of us can be Harrison Fords! On a percentage basis, in fact, very few of us will enjoy the fame, notoriety and success of this iconic actor. But every one of us can say exactly the same thing he says above; that being happy is something I must learn. That is, of course, unless you are already happy and have been since birth, in which case I'm coming over to your house for dinner, because I want a little of that to rub off on me!

It May Not Be a Road - But An Intersection

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Great Intersections

If what we wanted or desired provided all of our happiness we would simply dream our life into existence. Not a bad idea, come to think of it, and even though there are a number of us who are attempting to see and achieve happiness in this way, our realities often don't align with this method. There are two additional pathways, other than what we want, that lead to the construction of our happiness. They are what we need and what we have.

What we need will always be an element of happiness. If our needs aren't being met and physical or emotional poverty sets in life can be extreme and not in a positive way. We can choose to change the circumstances of that poverty to create the environment in which we can again experience happiness, but as long as we allow that impoverished circumstance to remain with us on the inside it will always remain as a reflection on the outside.

Then there is the pathway of what we have and I'm not speaking of our physical, material possessions here, I'm referring to the intrinsic tools we have been given as humans to determine our past, present and future. It is that something within, incomprehensible to me, yet it exists within all the same. It is that fire that drives us to discover who we are and what we are doing here in this space time continuum. Every human being on the face of the planet with the power of conscious thought, and maybe even some of those who do not yet convey this power, possess the extraordinary potential to create their own happiness.

My choice, my decision in creating this hub was not to explain the "how to's" of happiness, though I'm sure many of you would be interested in some suggestions. Alas, the purpose of this hub is to highlight a philosophical viewpoint about happiness and encourage you to explore its possibilities for yourself. In my view it is a process, a journey down not one road, but many. Most of us know by now it isn't a destination yet many times we think about arriving on the plateau and settling there for a while without ever having to make the trek.

In my travels on some of the roads of life over the last 59 years I have proven to myself that happiness was always the most evident at the crossroads or the intersections where several of those roads met. The happiest of those times were when I understood what I truly needed, knew what I really wanted and recognized that I had every tool necessary to obtain both. Happiness comes as we stand at each intersection of life, where we realize we are moving down a road all the time and the weigh stations at which we often stop for a while are there to help us know and experience the purpose that particular place has in our lives. Happiness lays, for me, at the intersection at which I know what it is I truly need, feeling that what I want already exists and is within my grasp, and the realization that, no matter what transpires, I have all I need to experience and share every facet of it. It is, in this way, not a destination, but many of temporary destinations strung together by a belief that all is good and an incomprehensible spirit providing the fuel for the ride of a lifetime.

Peace be with you always!

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

As always the message is true and awesome and from the heart and soul of Bruce! Bravo my friend; we have been on similar paths and the outcome is the same...we choose to be happy.


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Thanks Bill!

I am grateful for your partnership on this journey. I'm beginning to learn how to enjoy this ride from the soul position. It's sweeter than I thought it would be, like shake and bake...you helped!

Thanks again my friend,

Bruce


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learner365 4 years ago

I really agree with the fact that happiness is something that needs to be discovered and identified within us and around us,on which ever road we go to,whether standing at crossroads or going straight,it really relies on us how we seek for it.

This is an awesome Hub and i really loved reading the every bit of your point of view.Voted up and SHARING.

Stay Blessed !!!


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KeithJK 4 years ago from Milwaukee, WI

A great hub! It's always more impactful when you make it deep and personal.


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Thank you Learner365,

I am blessed, each and every time you comment and share as I know you are prolific here at our Hub Pages community. I have said this before but in my mind the greatest accolade comes from fellow writers. I am deeply grateful for your time!

Thank You!

Bruce

@KeithJK

Hey Keith!

Welcome to our family! We get a little excited, at time, and there is always room for one more to join in the excitement. Thank you for reading this hub. I look forward returning the favor and keep on writing...and learning here at Hub Pages. If I can be of assistance in any way, please ask!

Humbly,

Bruce


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Cyndi10 4 years ago from Georgia

Your hub contained many truths. Happiness is one of the more elusive emotions because it is so different for everyone. I think you are right when you say that what makes us happy usually touches on our core of who we are. I also think one of the aspects of happiness is to know who you are. I liked this article and voted it up.


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ImKarn23 4 years ago

Happiness IS a conscious choice! So succinctly stated! One cannot know the true joy of happiness - if they have not experienced the depths of despair and been strong enough to still stand - and learn! That's when true appreciation comes! I'm very happy you wrote this hub! lol ps..the 'paths' in the photos are breathtaking. I'm sure they lead to happy place if traveled with an open heart..


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hi Cyndi10!

I greatly appreciate the time you invested reading this hub. It is one of our most precious resources and to know you chose to read it and comment on it touches my core and contributes to my happiness.

Thank You and May Peace Be With You!

Hi ImKarn23!

Thank you for your support. If the origin of true joy and happiness is a source of being that is so big (infinite) to be incomprehensible, how could we know? But oh boy getting ever closer with each joyous experience is a hoot, yes?

The photo was shot in Maine at or near Booth Bay Harbor. I am happy to include my wife's work with photography as what she sees is often so spiritual.


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Thundermama 4 years ago from Canada

What a message of hope you bring with this hub. We can choose to be happy, we don't have to wait around for it to happen to us. Wonderful. I really enjoy your positive outlook.


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hi Thundermama,

It isn't always easy to be up, but it is a choice we all have available. I am quite grateful for the time you used to read this hub and for the comment! I am indeed grateful!


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Availiasvision 4 years ago from California

I like the Mildred Barthel quote about happiness being a choice. We can't control EERYTHING that happens to us, but we can choose how we respond to it. You might just find a blessing in disguise.


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Born2care2001 4 years ago from Asheville NC Author

Hello Availiasvision!

Thank you for reading on commenting on my hub. I am very grateful for your time and I am blessed when people read my work!

Please come back again!

Bruce

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