What You did not Know About Fears

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Powerful -Primal Emotion of Fear

Fear is a very powerful, primal emotion, which is a reaction to danger. Fear was a critical factor in keeping our ancestors alive as they had to stay alert to so many different types of dangers. It can also keep us safe. Driving a car in a strange, busy city can surely evoke these emotions very quickly. However, fear can be an individual reaction or that of a collective group. Consider the Washington DC sniper attacks, which created such wide-spread fear in a geographical area.

People cope with fear on many levels daily in many different forms. Some of the common fears people experience involve: financial problems, health fears, work or boss problems, relationship problems or maybe dental appointments. The list could go on and on.

Winston Churchill

We make a living by what we get,

but we make a life by what we give.

Physical Symptoms of Fear

The most prominent components of fear include:

  • Feelings
  • Sensations
  • Behaviors
  • Cognitions

There are actually two stages of fear. There is a biochemical response and an emotional response. The biochemical response is the “fight or flight” mechanism that is the evolutionary response, which prepares the body by the use of adrenalin. This is a survival response.

Great Advice on Fears and Solutions

Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm
Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm

Without fear, we are able to see more clearly our connections to others. Without fear, we have more room for understanding and compassion.

 

Coping with Anxiety

Anxiety and fear have different physical responses.

Anxiety can cause:

  • Nausea
  • Sweating
  • Palpitations
  • Difficulty swallowing
  • Dizziness

Physical Responses

Typical physical responses to rational fears that are due to the perception of loss of control include: an increased heart rate, shortness of breath, trembling and the muscles tense up as blood is shunted to the long muscles to prepare the body for a fight or to run. The “fight or flight” stress mechanism kicks in and our focus narrows to the perceived threat.

The emotional response is a highly individual response. Think about Halloween. It is a whole industry based on the fact that many people enjoy fear. They are not looking to be injured, but they like the thrill of being scared. Then, there are some people who are adrenalin junkies, which is a person involved in extreme sports as they thrive on the thrill.

The emotional response to fear is somewhat unique to each individual, based on their life experiences.

FEAR!

Source

Panic, Anxiety and Flight!

When I was about 14 years old and walking home one afternoon from my girlfriend’s house, I waited to cross a street that had a stop sign because a car was stopped. The car did not move for a few minutes, so I looked inside and to my horror there was a male driver watching me who had one hand on the appendage that protruded from his trousers, standing proud and tall. I panicked and fear instantly took over. I’m sure adrenalin was coursing though my veins. I ran behind the car and ran all the way home in record time, which was probably about a half a mile. I could have easily ran to any house on that street and knocked on the door, but I could only think about the safety of home.

I don’t think the car followed me, but I never looked back. My parents called the police and I gave a description of the man and car, which was probably vague. I certainly had other small fears when I was growing up, but this one topped the chart.

Loving Relationships

Many people wonder what is expected of them in a personal relationship with so many crazy things happening in the world today. They want to hang onto that dream of having a "soul mate" for a lifelong companion, and the bulk of relationships do not work out this way. They take a lot of work.

Trust is a major issue in a strong relationship, and it is one thing that can instantly destroy a relationship. But, should you be worried your mate is going to be unfaithful, or that you might say the wrong things causing anger? No one can life their life worried about what might happen. It is an awful way to let fear control you. It is impossible to be happy and to have faith in the future is you are always worried about what MIGHT happen. Most of our worries do not happen. Live a day at a time as life is short.

Scripture

Psalm 56:3-4

When I am afraid, I will trust in you. In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I will not be afraid. What can mortal man do to me?

How to Manage Stress

Worry and fear can stop you from fully realizing your dreams. If you are afraid you will not do well in college and therefore, do not attend, your dream job will never happen. Many people are afraid to speak up because they think they will look foolish, or be embarrassed, and the end result is depression.

Fear can keep you in a place where you are not even taking on the smallest risk. Certainly many people have legitimate fears regarding their finances, job security or over the way things are rapidly changing in our county. Try to write down some facts about your fears. Write the nature of the fear, the triggers and how the fear began.

Often fear comes from some instance that occurs in childhood. Then, by recognizing the root of this fear it is quite possible you can move forward without this fear being a problem. Write your experiences as it can be helpful. You can look back and see fears you have overcome, or if you start feeling that fear again, you can read exactly what you did the last time it was a problem.

If the fear is controlling you and the prior steps haven’t worked, then, the last step is to desensitize yourself to the fear. Make a plan to overcome the fear by taking baby steps toward your goal. Sometimes direct confrontation of the fear is the way to move forward. Find someone you can trust. Sometimes things seem much more manageable when they are shared. Do not let anyone stand in your way toward meeting your new goals.

Of course, there is always professional counseling if your fears are interfering with the quality of your life on a daily basis. Psychologists, for instance, are safe people to talk to as they can not divulge anything you say to anyone else.

Secrets to Overcoming Fear

In Conclusion

If you truly want to change and overcome worry and fear it is time to redefine you. By redefining yourself, you become willing to talk and write about your fears, to try new and different things. You are willing to take a few risks. Every victory makes you a little bit stronger and more willing to break away from the destructive thinking and actions of the past.

© 2013 Pamela Oglesby

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jabelufiroz 3 years ago from India

Brilliant article on fear. Voted up.


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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

Fear is an interesting phenomenon for sure and you have covered it well. I know I have overcome most fears but it took work, and many of the suggestions you have mentioned I employed. Well done, Pamela.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

jabelufiroz, I am glad you enjoyed the article and I appreciate your comments.

Billy, I have had to overcome several fears also. I greatly appreciate your comments.


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AliciaC 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

This is a great hub, Pamela. The analysis of fear is excellent and the suggestions for overcoming fear are useful. I love the Winston Churchill quote, too!


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bravewarrior 3 years ago from Central Florida

Pam, I have experience fear (pursuant to a horrendous experience) that absolutely stopped me in my tracks. I was unable to move. The same thing happens when I go to haunted houses during Halloween. Although I know the ghosts and goblins are people made up, fear takes a debiliating grip on my being and I simply cannot move! Needless to say, I avoid situations that I know will scare me. And don't even think about asking me to watch a bloody movie like Chainsaw Massacre!


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Aliicia, I am so glad you enjoyed the hub and I appreciate your comments, I eally like that quote also.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Bravewarrior, It is amazing how we are all different. If I froze up like that I would not go into any haunted houses or do anything risky either. I never, ever watch horror movies or I get nightmarrs. I decided I do not want that stuff floating around in my head. I appreciate your commetns.


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JannyC 3 years ago

Hi Pamela! Long time no write! hahaha Brilliant hub!


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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

If fear did not exist, Pamela, all those industries that sell Halloween paraphernalia would have to go out of business. And those 'Elm Street' and 'Saw' movies would not make a dime. Bust since it does exist and much of the population is fearful at times, you have offered some very sensible solutions. Voted up.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Kanny, It is wonderful to see you, if only on the computer. Hope you are doing well and thanks for the comments.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

drbj, I never understood the attraction to the horror movies, but I know people love to have fun on Halloween. It is big business. Thanks so much for your comments.


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bdegiulio 3 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi Pam. Interesting look at something that we all face in one form or another. Great tips for dealing with it.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

bdgiulio, We do all face fears in one way or another and I am glad you liked the hub. Thanks for your comments.


Vickiw 3 years ago

It is great to know that many of us suffer from fears and anxiety. I certainly do. Like others, I never watch scary movies, and have to walk out of the room if it seems something awful is about to happen. The music soundtracks are usually a pretty good indicator! I often wonder if those daredevils who appear to have no fear actually have some kind of deficit in their personalities. Even small babies have an instinct for self-preservation.


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marcoujor 3 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Dear Pamela,

This is well detailed, sensitive and helps us remember that fears are universal to us all.

Your strategies are hopeful that fears of past events do not have to rule our present or hinder the quality of our daily lives

Voted UP and UABI. Hugs, Maria


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always exploring 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

I have had many fears in the past that i was able to release but the fear of flying remains. I have flown many times, but the fear has never lessened. I never watch scary movies. Great tips Pam..Thank you..


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Vicki, I had not thought about small babies but that is so true. I appreciate your comments.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Marie, I do think must work through past fears to move forward or they control our future. I appreciate your comments. Hugs to you girlfriend.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Ruby, I think fear of flying is one of the more common fears. I never watch scary movies either. Thanks for your comments.


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Elias Zanetti 3 years ago from Athens, Greece

I think that fear, to a certain amount at least, is a natural feeling that exists since the dawn of humanity. The same can be said about stress. However, for modern humans, I agree, it is a feeling that if left uncontrolled can lead to serious complications and an obstacle in dealing with life. Interesting and well written hub, Pamela.


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epbooks 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

Great hub on fear. It's an interesting topic because some fears are rational and others not so much. When I wrote my book Phobia, I did a bit of research on the topic and it is amazing the types of fears that people have (and why). Voted up- useful and interesting!


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Elias, I think you are right about the fears existing since the dawn of humanity. Thank you so much for your comments.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

epbooks, I thought about the phobias and types of fears, but this hub was already long enough. It is an intereresting topic. I appreciate your comments.


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DDE 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

I learned lots here about fears a well informed hub on the topic and so much more for one to learn from here. You have mentioned many points which I had no idea of, your research is to perfection thanks


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

DDE, I am so glad the hub was helpful to you and I appreciate your comments.


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Dolores Monet 3 years ago from East Coast, United States

Your story about fear was a good one. Instead of being paralyzed by it you ran like all get out. I had a recent brush with fear. I was not in danger but someone I cared about was. I paniced and started to run, in the wrong direction. Not that I would have been any help. In the circumstance, I could have gotten into trouble myself.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Dolores, I guess we never know what we might do in any given situation. I was so young and very active, so running was something very natural I think. I appreciate your comments.


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tobusiness 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

Pamela, a very interesting topic, fear is fascinating. It can destroy us, but it can also protect us, your adrenaline certainly kicked in when you encountered the pervert in the car, but we go to great lengths to scare our selves, and some even thrive on it; however, no one should have to live in a state of constant fear.

Great hub, well done.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Jo, I agree with your statements. No one should live in a constant state of fear. I know critical care nursing can be stressful as that is what I did for a living for many years also. I really loved working in that area at the time and that is different from fear, as you are helping to save lives. Thanks so much for your comments.


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tobusiness 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

Pam, I wasn't really thinking about work when I wrote the comment, more thrill seekers and the so called, adrenaline junkies, rather like my other half in his younger days.

His passion were once sky diving, and from a perfectly good airplane, I might add.

But now that you've mentioned ITU work, you're right, it's not fear exactly, but we do thrive on the heightened drama of it all, maybe not so much as we get older :).


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prasetio30 3 years ago from malang-indonesia

Very informative hub and I learn a lot about fears from you, Pamela. Sometimes fears come to me when I am alone. Thanks for sharing with us. Voted up :-)

Prasetio


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Jo, Yes, we do as critical care can be a tense area. I found the more I learned, the less stressed I was when caring for critically ill patients. There did come a time I was ready to move on however. Thanks for the comments.

Prasetio, I think that is the same for most people. Thank you so much for your comments.


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MPG Narratives 3 years ago from Sydney, Australia

There seems to be so much fear in the world these days and Pamela I think articles like this will help individuals to understand and overcome their own personal fears. Great hub, voted up and interesting.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

MPG Narratives, I hope that is the outcome as I agree that fear seems to be rapparnt in today's world. Thank you so much for your comments.


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

Interesting and so very useful to many I am sure. Voted up and shared and enjoy your weekend.

Eddy.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Eddy, Thank you so much for your comments, and I hope you are enjoying your weekend also.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida

This is so important, Pamela. I am so glad that you have shed light on this topic for us. Living in the grip of fear and angst can steal our lives away. I have anxiety disorder and for years it was almost crippling. I often felt I was becoming an agoraphobic. But I learned coping techniques so while I do suffer from it I am able to manage it and have a life.

thanks for sharing...Angels are on the way ps Shared and voted up


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Patricia, Fear can certainly be disabling. I am so glad you have improved and learned some coping mechanisms. I put so much of my faith in God that it has helped diminish my fears. I appreciate your comments. Love the angels and sending some back to you. God bless and sleep well.


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Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

Hi Pamela, being fearful most of the time is a debilitating thing, this really covers it well and its great to know that its not just me that gets gripped sometimes, mostly irrationally in my case, but other times I have such a feeling of panic it takes my breath away, nell


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Nell Rose, That is an awful way to feel and many people deal with these fears. I went through a time like that many years ago, but thank goodness it gradually got better. I appreciate you sharing your feelings and I hope the fear times lessen. Wishing you well. Thanks Nell.


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Lady_E 3 years ago from London, UK

Thanks - this is an eye opener. Very touching stories you shared too.


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Lady E, I am glad you found this hub interesting and I appreciate your comments.


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denden mangubat 3 years ago from liloan, cebu, philippines

confronting our fears can help us moving forward


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

denden, I think it may be the only way to really move forward, but it is not always easy. Thank you for your comments.


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CloudExplorer 3 years ago from New York City

Great job on the fear topic here, I use to have many fears as a youth as well, and can relate to your personal story as well dealing with that slimy guy in his car. Life does indeed have its twists and turns and I learned to face many if not all of my fears, and have been able to live a much better life since doing so.

Thanks for tackling this topic and for sharing your truest experience dealing with it all, oh and great tips on handling fear. Nice hub Pam. Thumbs up and sharing!


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Pamela99 3 years ago from United States Author

Mike, Thanks for sharing your feelings and your comments. I appreciate the share as well.


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CraftytotheCore 2 years ago

I really needed to read this today. My grandfather passed away recently and yesterday I felt as though I had a panic attack. I never had that feeling before. I'm just wondering if it is my body's way of decompressing from all the stressful events that took place after his death. Otherwise, I feel fine.


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Pamela99 2 years ago from United States Author

Crafty, I think it is common to have emotional responses to very stressful situations. I am sorry to hear about your grandfather's passing. I hope you don't have any more panic attacks, but you will have some grief for a while I imagine. I wish you the best.


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lyns 2 years ago from USA

Very well written hub on fears, I would like to link my hub which I just wrote last week on Overcoming your fears to yours I found this very enlightening. Thanks for sharing. Have a great day. lyns 6/28/2014 8:49 am


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Pamela99 2 years ago from United States Author

lyns, That sound great, and I will go read your hub now. Thanks for your comments.


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lyns 2 years ago from USA

Pamela, you are welcome, and thanks for sharing you have been through much and writing about it really helps and sharing. Have a great day. lyns


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Pamela99 2 years ago from United States Author

Lyns, There was a time when I kept everything I could a secret, but now I feel free of that time in my life. Sharing if it can help someone is my reward. Thanks for your comments.


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lyns 2 years ago from USA

@Pamela, that is wonderful that you are choosing to share your own experiences of challenge with others, it not only helps the ones you share it with but yourself it does free you from everything, and when you help others it's the right thing to do. Thanks for sharing your reward of help. I hope you have a wonderful day. lyns 7/1/2014


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Pamela99 2 years ago from United States Author

Lyns, I'm glad you enjoyed the hub, and I appreciate your comments. I hope you have a great day also.


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lyns 2 years ago from USA

Yes, very much so you are welcome. Enjoy your day. lyns 7/1/2014

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