What do you do to Pamper Yourself after a Hard Day's Work?

Valuing yourself is the missing step in the manifestation process. We think a thought, we act on it, and ordinarily the desire will manifest, if and only if we feel worthy of it. In order to do that, we have to be in touch with ourselves, value ourselves, above and beyond any material desire. That everything is inside is true but we need to access that "inside" first. Books have been written on how to raise self esteem. Many of them. Why? Because no matter how much we say we want something, somewhere deep is a feeling that "I don't deserve it." The reason could be cultural, family, an unhappy childhood, a whole lot of them. Some of it have been embedded so long we don't remember it anymore.

So to feel worthy, we have to take care of ourselves. We also have to relinquish all the guilt feelings no matter where they came from. You have to want to value yourself and you have to want to let go of guilt, no matter where it came from. As Jesus Christ said "Father forgive them, for they know not what they do." Allow yourself the fact that if God can forgive, why can't you? First and foremost, forgive yourself. It makes it easier to forgive others.

Forgive yourself, forgive others, let go of the guilt that comes with hating another. Be free of it forever. Love yourself. You are absolutely worth it.

The poll below is a very rough but progressive way of looking at yourself, valuing yourself. If there is anything that I missed in the choices in the poll, please feel free to write them in the comments. The readers would appreciate it very much.


What do you do to Relax?

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What do you consider a luxury time with your self?

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What would you spend on which you would not normally, to feel "I have earned it"

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You have just been given a 5 figure check [commission, a gift, return on investment] which you did not expect, how would you use it?

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You have just won the lottery. Congratulations!. Assume you are getting in cash after taxes, mid 8 figures. What would you do with it.

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AlexK2009 7 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland

When working I relax with a meal in a restaurant. Atmosphere more important then classiness. Generally speaking the less classy the more friendly.

At weekends my relaxation is to go somewhere I cannot go during the week, a neighbouring city for example.

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advisor4qb 7 years ago from On New Footing

Interesting hub. I enjoyed reading it and participating in the surveys. You are absolutely right, we are worthy.

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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Most often what separates us from what we want, after we have already done our due diligence, is our doubt of whether we deserve it or not. We may say we do but unless we are convinced at the innermost level of our being, it will not happen.

Thanks so much.

Amanda Strydom 7 years ago

Dear Malinda

I took your advice to work on my internet presence, I decided to upgrade on ecademy and start Twittering. I looked for you on twitter, but cannot find you. Please look for me - Amanda Strydom or MasterKeyZA

Have a blessed day

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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Dear Amanda,

I am glad you are doing that.

Thank you for answering at eCademy.



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metaphysician 7 years ago

Preferably sit still and clear the mind. You don't want the stress to continue.

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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Me too, thanks :-)

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Sky321 6 years ago from Canada

Great hub and I like the voting too. Thanks msorensson.

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msorensson 6 years ago Author

I am glad you liked it, Sky321. Thanks for reading and leaving a comment. Much appreciated.

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Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

Hi, interesting questions, I always knew what I would do to relax and if I won the lottery it would be easy! now I am not so sure, if I want to relax, I usually go round to my brothers garden and just drop to the floor on the grass! lol thanks nell

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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Hi, Nell,

Thanks for visiting!!

You don't have to win the lottery to relax, but I do wish you to win the lottery!!! Me too!!!

There is a castle for sale near you with 1300 acres..horses!! Who hoo...

Sitting on the grass is wonserful.

I take baths to relax.

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katiem2 6 years ago from I'm outta here

I enjoyed the great ideas as I do make an effort to schedule me time at the end of each day, weekends are the hard days, so busy. I meditate often at least twice a day.

I love the polls you've included. Very inspiring, I enjoyed all of them.

Peace :)

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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Wow..awesomeness..meditation twice a day is great, katie. It keeps you centered.

Once a month of pampering yourself is good. To keep up and not to neglect yourself is what is important.

Thanks so much for dropping by and leaving your comment. Always appreciated. Hugs.

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Sa`ge 6 years ago from Barefoot Island

Hi Melinda;

I will lay quietly and meditate on all the muscles in my body relaxing and being as light as they can get. Once I levitated. Thing was when I realized I was doing that I fell. LOL good thing I was on my bed. hehe I really enjoyed this hub. It was fun. Thanks :D hugs :D

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msorensson 6 years ago Author

You are so hilarious..ahh the mark of an enlightened being. Thank you, Sa'ge for making my morning. I love you.

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marcoujor 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Voted UP & AWESOME~~ always love reading about women caring for themselves as we care for others all the time... I am now comfortable enough with myself to take care of myself and not feel selfish. Thanks for writing this!

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Angie Jardine 4 years ago from Cornwall, land of the eternally youthful mind ...

Loved the polls, msorensson ... I surprised myself with my answers! And I didn't cheat to appear saintly either :)

This was the sort of thing I taught stressed and over-worked women when I was a complementary therapist. For the most part they just never considered giving themselves 'me' time at all. They simply gave and gave until they broke which was when they came to me to be mended.

But I never called it 'pampering' as that immediately made them shy away from it as being unacceptably decadent (strong, hardworking Yorkshire women, you know). So I called it 'self-healing time' or anything else I could think of; I just dare not use the 'p' word.

I'm sure that looks as though I missed the point of self-care but I had to get them to take time out for themselves so I used any trick I could. I like to think of it as just semantics ... lol.

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msorensson 4 years ago Author

I love the self healing time concept, and "me" time, I love that too. Thank you, Angie for dropping by and leaving a comment.

Hard working women, I can relate. I would like to think myself as that too.

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