What is Happiness? Happiness is.....

...Best of times

Two friends sharing their happiness
Two friends sharing their happiness | Source

"It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness.. ." written by Charles Dickens for his novel, "A Tale of Two Cities" in 1839. Think about it...doesn't it describe today?

We can make our own 'best of times' by not letting the 'worst of times' get in our way! Each day we have the opportunity to start anew and look for the good things in our lives, the things that make us happy. Happiness is defined as "the quality or state of being happy". We can do that, really. We can ensure our happiness comes from within. What is happiness to you?

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Take time to smell the flowers!
Take time to smell the flowers! | Source

Happiness and Friends

Rita Mae Brown said, "One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory." Of course that is easier for some of us than it is for others, but discounting our ability to forget things naturally, why not forget the bad things? Another line I found with no attributable author is "Every life has its dark and cheerful hours. Happiness comes from choosing which to remember." Why not let go of the hurts and hateful things that happened before right now? They aren't doing us any good anyway. Isn't it nicer to remember the good things and the happy times? Doesn't that bring happiness? Forget about the past and the bad times, remember the good times...maybe when you were a teenager or when you were in college. Remember those frat parties? Remember that first kiss,or when you drove your first car?

Someone said, "Life’s truest happiness is found in friendships we make along the way." That's surely an easy one! You have friends all around you (especially here on hub pages.) Friends you known for years and friends you've just met. Friends can bring you happiness just by being your friend. I'm not talking about the friends who stab you in the back or desert you, certainly they are not your friends....and plotting against them won't make you happy. If they're that miserable, they own the problem, not you. Feel sorry for them and be happy you're not them!

Happy People

How about hanging out with happy people? Won't that make you happy, especially if those happy people happen to be your friends in the first place! Everyone wants to find happiness and if we just look around it really is right there to find. Okay, so before you go out and find happiness, what about where you live? Does it make you happy? It doesn't have to be a mansion in a ritzy neighborhood....it just needs to be a happy place. You can make it a happy place by fixing it the way you want it.

Where you work may not make you happy, after all it might not be the job you chose, but you can try to find something there that makes you happy. What about the woman in cubicle B with her dress starting to split because her behind is too big...makes you laugh anyway and laughter can lead to happiness or be happy you don't have to stay there more than eight hours and then you get to go home to that happy place!

Happiness is:

Okay, so what is happiness to you?

  • Seeing an old friend
  • Taking a bubble bath after a long day
  • Finding your car keys
  • Petting a dog
  • Holding a baby
  • Having lunch with a friend
  • A nice cold can of beer
  • Helping others
  • Losing 5 lbs. the first week of your new diet
  • Buying a new car

What about laughing? Laughing makes you happy, it makes everyone happy. Not only does it make everyone happy but its contagious. If one person starts laughing and doesn't stop, pretty soon everyone will be laughing. Now you're all sitting around laughing and even though you don't know what you're laughing at, you're happy!

What about your dog or cat? Don't they bring you happiness? Whenever you come home, no matter what your mood, there's your dog with tail wagging, happy to see you. Aren't you happy to see him too? He loves you unconditionally and always will, let him cheer you up. We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. Frederick Keonig

Happiness Can Be What You Make It

As you can see, happiness can be what you make it. Don't let it pass you by and don't walk around feeling sorry for yourself...my father used to tell me all the time "there's always someone worse off than you"...of course at the times he told me that I didn't particularly care because I was feeling 'worse off' but I knew what he meant. "I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet." Anonymous That saying kind of says it all. We're not always as bad as we think we are. Yes, you may have lost your job, but what about the guy who lost his job and has ten kids? Yes, the darn car broke down again, but what about the family that doesn't have a car? I know when things aren't going your way you'd rather shoot 'Suzie Sunshine' than listen to the brighter side of things, but when you think about it, she is right.

Helping others can make you happy. Volunteer somewhere, visit a cemetery, stop in at a nursing home and spend some time, remember our soldiers by sending them something or participating in a ceremony. So many ways to be happy while making others happy.

What about music? Doesn't music make you happy? The sound of the instruments, the rhythm and beat, or the beautiful voice singing a song...it can relax you and soothe you and when your relaxed and soothed you should be happy!

If you know me then you know this is one thing I would certainly say can make you happy; gardening. Think about it...out in the fresh air and sunshine seeing the beauty of nature all around you. (Never mind that darn mole, you'll get him later.) That beautiful butterfly stopping on a nearby flower, or the hummingbird at your feeder, or the little frog peeking out from under a lily pad! What about the lily floating by the lily pad? There's nothing like nature to brighten a mood and make you happy.

Happiness isn't always easy. Sometimes we really have to work hard at it. Don't listen to the news for a day...tune out all the doom and gloom going on around you. Instead, count your blessings. Think of all the good in your life. Love yourself so you can then love others...

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” Bruce Lee Do what you know is right and what makes you happy.

Happiness is loving your life! Find the good things in your life and cherish them. Tell your loved ones you love them, make time for yourself and be happy! Do I dare say, "Don't worry be happy?"

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Happiness is

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Finding a kittenLearning something newWatching the cloudsMarching in a paradeOwning a hot rodMeeting someone famous (especially if he's your favorite ballplayer!)Kissing a dolphinGetting engaged!Remembering old toysLeaving a snow angel for your grandmotherPlaying in the leavesFinding the right pumpkin in the pumpkin patchWatching a sunsetA good game of rugbyHaving a partyHanging out in the dryer ;)Parasailing..with a friendPlaying in the surfSnow falling at nightThe Brooklyn Bridge...in Las Vegas
Finding a kitten
Finding a kitten | Source
Learning something new
Learning something new | Source
Watching the clouds
Watching the clouds | Source
Marching in a parade
Marching in a parade | Source
Owning a hot rod
Owning a hot rod | Source
Meeting someone famous (especially if he's your favorite ballplayer!)
Meeting someone famous (especially if he's your favorite ballplayer!) | Source
Kissing a dolphin
Kissing a dolphin | Source
Getting engaged!
Getting engaged! | Source
Remembering old toys
Remembering old toys | Source
Leaving a snow angel for your grandmother
Leaving a snow angel for your grandmother | Source
Playing in the leaves
Playing in the leaves | Source
Finding the right pumpkin in the pumpkin patch
Finding the right pumpkin in the pumpkin patch | Source
Watching a sunset
Watching a sunset | Source
A good game of rugby
A good game of rugby | Source
Having a party
Having a party | Source
Hanging out in the dryer ;)
Hanging out in the dryer ;) | Source
Parasailing..with a friend
Parasailing..with a friend | Source
Playing in the surf
Playing in the surf | Source
Snow falling at night
Snow falling at night | Source
The Brooklyn Bridge...in Las Vegas
The Brooklyn Bridge...in Las Vegas | Source

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Sunshine625 profile image

Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

Family! Friends! Music! Chocolate! Mary's hubs! HubPages! That's my mini list of happy things. Oh and lots of lists! :)

Superb, happy hub!


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

I'm happy as long as others are happy. Inspiring and positive hub. Being helpful to others also makes my soul happy. Joking at times, makes the day less stressful. Your pictures show a good deal of your happiest moments around your loved ones. Thanks Mary! ;))


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josh3418 4 years ago from Pennsylvania

Mary,

This was truly beautiful and inspirational! There are so many things that can make us happy! I enjoyed your conclusion. "find the good things in life and cherish them". Awesome job Mary!


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Mary....happiness is love! You have done a marvelous job with this one. The wisdom and common sense oozes from every line of this fine hub. You are speaking my language my dear friend; I might add, happiness is having friends like you.

Peace and happiness always,

bill


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

Happiness is a state of mind...a choice. And you hit the nail on the head when you wrote that "hang'in with happy people" bring happiness. A few years ago I "cleaned house" and cleared out all the negative people in my life. One is a family member and that wasn't easy - but it was my choice. You've done an outstanding job here Mary and your conclusion is magnificent! Up, beautiful, awesome and sharing.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

OMG SS...I left chocolate out of my hub, and your lists...what was I thinking!

Lord, I am blessed and try to appreciate the blessing my family is to me. You are most welcome...thank you for stopping by and reading my hubs.

Josh, I'm so glad you found this inspirational. That makes me happy.

You my friend, Billy, made me cry! Thank you for your friendship and guidance, and your happiness page which inspired me to write this hub ;)

Thank you so much Vocalcoach, sometimes we do just need to take stock of what's good around us. It must've been really difficult for you to move away from a negative FAMILY member but I applaud you for doing it and hope you are always happy.


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Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

Happiness for me is one word....my family (my husband my girls). When I hear that word, I have a picture of all 3 of them in my head. Anyway, great hub, of course shared and voted too.


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Julie DeNeen 4 years ago from Clinton CT

Wonderful hub. Happiness is a choice for many- to choose to find the good in whatever circumstances they are in. Nice job!


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Docmo 4 years ago from UK

Mary, what can I say. This left me speechless. You have compiled the most heartfelt, sensible, thought provoking compendium of happiness is... Your outlook shines through in these words as do some of my favorite quotes that you have woven into your article. You are a blessing and a shining light in dark times. This hub is something I need to treasure and remind myself to choose happiness. Thank you so much! Up and across!


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

Many people consider material things as the source of happiness, however, material gain will make you miserable because you want more and more,you will never satisfied with what you have, unsatisfactory state is sadness.

You have to be happy with the things you have and not with the things you crave for.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

I have often wondered: what is happiness? Can we really define it? I guess for me it is contentment. I am contented with all those things in my life that give me joy...my family, friends, my dog, good neighbors. You have written a wonderful Hub here. I voted it UP, etc.etc. and will share.


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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

An inspiring and wonderful hub! Happiness is the state of mind and it is up to the person to be happy on his/her own, provided this person develops a positive outlook which of course leads to ultimate happiness. Your list of suggestions are very helpful and your numerous photos exude positivity and appreciation of everything that life offer. Here is my list of things that brought me utmost happiness - my creative hobbies, reading comics & books, watching nice films & interesting tv shows, meeting good friends, chatting with my favorite cousin and many more things....HubPages is one of them too. An uplifting read. Well-done!

Thanks for SHARING. Useful & Awesome. Voted up


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moonlake 4 years ago from America

You photos are beautiful. You are so right about everything. Anyone can be happy some just don't want to be. Voted up.


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LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

This is a wonderful hub, Mary! Great reminder for everyone to be grateful for what we have..... Happiness, for me is watching my kids grow, to love and be loved, to share with the world, and to find happiness in little things!

Voting up and awesome!


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Fennelseed 4 years ago from Australia

Frederick Keonig is so right, it's not the having its the holding and you have given us so many reasons to hold and appreciate what we have rather than continually hanker for what we don't have with the false believe that when we finally have it we will be happy. It really is a mixed up attitude, but I know I have been like this and I know many others who also have this mindset. The many examples you have given us fall into what I consider the simple things in life and you have back up these examples with awesome photos, yes happiness lies in the simple things and is there for all of us to enjoy. That's my long winded way of saying - Spot on, great hub and thank you for these wise words!! My votes and best wishes to you, Tillsontitan!!


iamaudraleigh 4 years ago

No," happiness isn't always easy". I sure felt happy when I read this! Loved finding a kitty! Vote up!


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TToombs08 4 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

So, this is the ultimate recipe for happiness? :) The only thing missing on your list that I can see is a horse. :)

"There is something about the outside of a horse that is good for the inside of a man." ~Winston Churchill

Awesome hub, Tillsontitan, well worth the read. VUM.


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

Thought provoking hub Mary - happiness for me is family, friends, music, my garden and comedy. The list would be endless if I had the time to write one. I think happiness is usually about the people in your life and I agree with Audrey, avoid the negative people in your life and you can't go far wrong.


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GClark 4 years ago from United States

You are definitely as happy as you think you are - it is all about choice and what you choose to focus upon. Very inspirational hub that underlines my own beliefs. Voted Up!


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mperrottet 4 years ago from Pennsauken, NJ

Your hub made me happy! I especially loved the pictures at the end. Laughed at the little guy in the dryer - how cute. Voted up and beautiful.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Janine I so agree. My husband, children and now grandchildren are my world and they fill it with happiness.

Thanks Julie.

Docmo you humble me...if I can be an inspiration to you then I think I have reached the epitome of hubs..I would love to be a light shining in the darkness for all ... to see the light of love! Thank you for your very high praise.

Vinaya you are so right, "Happiness is not getting what you want, it's wanting what you've got!" (Same words you used just switched around.)

I'm glad you enjoyed my hub Mary...you are right, contentment is happiness...not wanting for anything.

ishwaryaa22 I love your list of things that bring you happiness...I was remiss leaving out hubpages!

Thanks Moonlake, we have to make up our mind to be happy.

LaThing, you too add to the list ... share with the world and find happiness in the little things.

Fennelseed, I loved your "long winded" way of saying Spot on! Thank you.

Audra, glad I could give you some 'warm fuzzy' feelings! Kitty was cute wasn't it?

TTombs, I'm sure a horse can do that. Like other children I always wanted a horse but living in the city just didn't leave room for a horse! Glad you found my hub worth reading, makes me happy!

Jools you too are so right...enjoying the people and things we have and staying away from the negative.

GClark nice to know we share the same beliefs about happiness. Thanks for voting.

Mperrottet, it makes me happy to know I made you happy...its all about happiness. That was my grandson (in the dryer) a year ago...he thought it was cool to climb in there.


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PegCole17 4 years ago from Dallas, Texas

I love the kitty found picture and the quote about the man with no shoes. Very well said. Don't worry, be happy. My Dad had a favorite saying that always made me laugh. He said, "Cheer up, things could get worse. . . So I cheered up and they got worse." LOL


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michiganman567 4 years ago from Michigan

I don't see any reason not to be happy. I can try to remove some people from my life that get me down. It gets a little complicated when those are the same people that make me the happiest.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

How right you are Peg...they often do get worse ;) Happiness is our state of being and hopefully the one we choose. Thanks for stopping by.

Michiganman, that does make things complicated for sure!


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Jenna Pope 4 years ago from Southern California

This was really cute. And true. We do have a choice of whether or not we choose to be happy. Beautiful job on this hub!!! Voted up!


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Thanks for stopping by and leaving such an upbeat comment Jenna.


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

Love your photo playing in the leaves! haha! lovely! yes seriously being happy is such a lovely feeling, I did smile when I read "One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory"! the reason being that when things have got me down and I know someone who sales through life with hardly any problems, a particular person I may add! haha!, I often think to myself, oh I wish I could be as 'up' as her, because she is so dappy as we say over here, no I am not being horrible she is in fact my friend! lol! she just doesn't let anything worry her because she doesn't think about it too much! lol! I'll show her this remark she will laugh herself silly! lol!


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Then maybe you need to take lessons from your 'dappy' friend! Try not to let things bother you...I know Nell, easier said than done. Thanks for reading and commenting.


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beingwell 4 years ago from Bangkok

Very nice hub. What makes me happy is being stress-free. I love cooking and definitely enjoy movies.

Sharing this one, thanks!


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Whatever it takes to be happy beingwell! Happy to have you stop by and read.


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mmsu 4 years ago from Pakistan

Great Hub!Voted up and shared via hub pages!


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Thanks mmsu...be happy!


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Movie Master 4 years ago from United Kingdom

I love all your happiness is photos... and I love this hub! there is a lot of happiness to be found on HP!!

Family and nature make me happy especially!

Thank you and voted up.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Knowing you and having you here makes me happy Movie Master. Thanks so much.


IntegrityYes 4 years ago

I voted up,Mary. That is absolutely excellent.


IntegrityYes 4 years ago

I voted up,Mary. That is absolutely excellent.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Thank you so much IntegrityYes...nice to know you enjoyed it!


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pagesvoice 4 years ago from New York/Pennsylvania border

Voted up, awesome, beautiful and interesting. I love the Rita Mae Brown quote. I like to say, "Turn that frown upside down." I also like to tell people I would rather laugh than cry. When I'm around little kids I take my thumbs and place them in the corner of my mouth and slowly open up my hands to form a smiley face. Remember, a smile is the magic key to the wonderful magic kingdom of life. :)


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Yes Pages Voice, it take less muscles to smile than it does to frown, so why not smile? Thank you for stopping by and leaving such a 'sunshiney' comment!


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

What a great hub! So full of encouragement. And you are so right, there are so many ways and placed to find happiness. Most of us have it, we just need to refocus and be appreciative. A grateful spirit goes such a long way. Theresa


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Thanks so much phdast! We can all use a grateful spirit!


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shalini sharan 4 years ago from Delhi

this is a really nice hub, it depicts the number in which we can find happiness :)


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Sheeeeeeeeeeeeeee's BACK!! Hi-yo Til!!!! Whew!!, Happiness is getting back to your cyber friends on HP and reading all the wonderful writings of our talented authors.........Happiness is ALL of the above and more.....

I say make your happiness list so long you'll never ever find the end of it!!! Love ya Til!! Effer


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Thanks Shalini and may you always find happiness.

Happiness is knowing Effer and having her back! Nothing beats a comment from my GF Effer! May your happiness list never end either.


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sgbrown 4 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

What a wonderful hub! We can find happiness all around us if we just look and have the right attitude. Happiness is a state of mind, you can find it if you want to. We need to appreciate what we have and realize how lucky we really are. This is a great hub, it makes me think about what I am grateful for today. Meeting wonderful people like you here on HubPages is one! Have a wonderful day! Up and awesome!


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Oh SG....how nice of you. I guess people like you are the reason my list keeps getting longer :)


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA

Just reading your hub on Happiness makes me happy! I share your belief that sometimes you have to work at happiness by forgetting some bad things and concentrating on the good. You've given some wonderful examples of happiness in your photo collection, and proven that happiness can come from many different sources. Great hub!


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quester.ltd 4 years ago

sometimes just finding a quit minute to be by yourself can make you happy - animals always help, no matter what - Great Hub

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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Stephanie I believe that's part of the success ... working at happiness. Always glad when you stop by...it makes me happy ;)

Quester being an animal person I have to agree with you 100%


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Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

What a delightful Happy hub.. love the photos that trail the pics too voted up and HappY!


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Frank, I am happy you enjoyed my hub and photos! Wishing you happiness every day.


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midget38 4 years ago from Singapore

Enjoyed this, Mary!! We always forget the little things that can make us very happy. This is a delight....and I am wowed by your lovely quotes and photos too!! Voted up, interesting, beautiful, awesome and away!


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Thanks so much Midget. Having just read your hub on Thank you, I believe we are of the same mind! Thanks for stopping by.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

Great Hub! I try very hard to be positive in my every day life, and I can find happiness over something each day. Happiness is just what we make of our lives, I think.

I voted this Hub UP, and will share.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Seems you and I have many thoughts and feelings in common Mary! Thanks for the vote and share!


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rajan jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

Everyone has a different measurement for happiness but in the end it just boils down to one thing, a state of mind. We cannot change anything least of memories, good or bad so rather focussing on the bad why not focus on the good times.

You list many ways of staying happy by remembering the good rather than the bad, the things we have rather than that we don't and the rest. I entirely agree.

Voted up and beautiful.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York Author

Thanks Rajan...I think we need to keep ourselves happy and not rely on others.


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pstraubie48 20 months ago from sunny Florida

I love that quote about having a bad memory. Let stuff go and it all becomes good in our world, does it not?

Well said....others need to read and feel the happiness

Voted up++++ and shared


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tillsontitan 20 months ago from New York Author

True Patricia, forget the bad...there's so much good to remember that will make us happy! Blessings. Thanks for the votes and share.

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