When Life Falls Apart, Pick Up the Pieces You Still Want!
Sometimes, life feels like it’s falling apart all around us. People die, people lose jobs, and loved ones have issues that get dumped (for lack of a better word) on us because we are the ones that are there when they need a sounding board.
Sometimes, when life falls apart, we feel like the world is ending, like we have no way out. There are a couple of very awesome facts to keep in mind when something like this happens in your life:
First of all, the way “out” would be by walking “through” whatever life happens to throw your way. It’s not always easy; for some, it’s very difficult. Honestly, there is no difficulty in life that can’t be overcome. The innate empowerment we have deep within is always more powerful than any event or circumstance we come across. Those who take drastic measures to end their circumstances are just as empowered as anyone else on this earth. They were just not aware of it.
Secondly, when life falls apart, you have the right to pick up only the pieces you still want! That’s the exciting part of this whole journey in life.
When we remember that our entire life is created by the thoughts we hold, we realize that our thoughts and attitudes and perspectives can be changed in order to see our world in a whole different light.
All of life is subjective. The unfolding of events is different for everyone. Two people can see one car accident caused by a drunk driver (for example) and when asked to give police the details about the crash, it usually appears as if they were looking at two different crashes! It isn’t because one of them was deceiving. It was because of the subjectivity of each person.
We all have our own view, our own perspective of life events. That’s why it’s so extremely important to remember that when we change our perspective on events, we change the outcome of the consequences. In the accident example, we may not be able to change the consequence of someone being severely hurt, but we can change how we choose to feel or what to do about it. We can pray for that person, for example. We can commit to making a difference in the world in general by becoming part of a program to prevent drunk driving. We can volunteer at a hospital, to be a positive influence on those who have no family and no visitors. Anything at all that would benefit the life of someone else would be a way to change the effect of one “bad” event into something “good” for others. It’s a ripple effect. The more positivity we send out, the more positivity we get back.
So, when our lives seem as if they are falling apart, we can pray for ourselves. We can sit quietly and focus on what the proper action would be in order to make a more positive outcome on the event. Then, take that action. We can choose to keep the pieces we want. We can then move forward. We can then decide to focus on others instead of dwelling on the negativity of the current past. If we remember that some others are in far greater straights than we are, we can realize that we are not alone and we can teach others how to pick up only the pieces they want from the “broken” part of their lives!
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