When Life Throws a Curveball: Mood, Nutrition & Mindset

MOOD: “Remember when your plans fail, that temporary defeat is not permanent failure.”

There are times we get in a funk. Despite all of our best intentions and even with our understanding of the power of a positive mindset, we can still get discouraged or experience a setback. Perhaps we are disappointed in a certain outcome, or had hoped for a different response from someone whose opinion we value. Maybe we’re upset about something we did or didn’t do. It might be something small, or quite serious. Stuff happens. We are both vulnerable and resilient, and sometimes Life throws us a curveball. The key factor in how it will affect us, is how we respond to it.

Remind yourself that a setback happens at a moment in time and will pass. As Napoleon Hill so beautifully put it, “Remember when your plans fail, that temporary defeat is not permanent failure.”

Things we control and things we don't.

There will always be many considerations, situations, and conditions outside of our control. The important thing is to focus on what you can influence, control and change, as needed. Our attitude, our thoughts, what we initiate and how we respond are things upon which we decide.

Something which I find extremely helpful to emphasize in my self-talk is a profound bit of wisdom within another quote by Napoleon Hill. It contains a genuine sense of hope and a sobering dose of accountability: “Positive and negative emotions cannot occupy the mind at the same time. One or the other must dominate. It is your responsibility to make sure that positive emotions constitute the dominating influence of your mind.”

Often it helps to identify and try to understand the source of our undesirable mood when we are feeling off or out of sorts. Is it ego which is causing the distress? Are you perhaps blaming someone or something else for your feelings? Or is it possibly based in something physical? Are you getting enough sleep, exercise and all the essential nutrients your body needs to support the activity you are expecting of it? Consider the possibility that you lack motivation not because you're tired, but because you're uninspired. Are you trying to live up to someone else's expectations of you, rather than heeding your heart's desire? Are you honoring yourself and your true Life's path, which includes both passion and some type of contribution or service?

Where are you and Where do you want to be?

Are you where you want to be - emotionally, physically, and mentally?

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Health isn't expensive. It's priceless!

NUTRITION: What achieving true health means for us today.

According to Peter Greenlaw in his insightful book, Why Diets Are Failing Us, he explains that the body requires 51 nutrients to be nutritionally satisfied. When even one of these essential nutrients is missing, we don’t feel full or satisfied no matter how much we eat. Without this full complement of micro and macro nutrients our bodies cannot carry out the many complex neurological processes we require for physical health and cognitive function. Many studies link deficient nutrition to depression as well as a host of physical problems, disorders and diseases.

Greenlaw writes, “Achieving true health is all about nutritional density, nutritional calories and the balance of fats, carbohydrates and proteins. Cutting calories is no longer an efficient method when there is a foundational lack of nutrition.”

We need to flood our bodies with nutrients; otherwise we are craving empty calories and it sets up a downward spiral. This in turn has a direct effect upon how we feel, including our mood. It is not about what we eat (and keeping track of calories), but rather what our bodies absorb, that most matters.

When I feel out of sorts, and have less patience or compassion than my heart would like and my integrity requires, I reach for natural herbal adaptogens; I also direct my thoughts to focus on anything and everything for which I am truly grateful; and if possible, I do some physical exercise or spend time in Nature. In the beginning this can take some discipline, but it quickly becomes a habit if we commit to it.

We are awesomely and wonderfully made. We have keen, powerful minds; marvelous, regenerative bodies; and our spirit is imbued with free will. If one aspect is out of alignment, it effects the whole. It’s a bit like our vehicles: it doesn’t matter how superb your high performance engine is, if your transmission goes out.

Knowing WHAT we need to do, is not the same as knowing HOW to do it.

Some days we just may need to give ourselves a pass, and be gentle with ourselves and with one another. If we have cultivated good habits, or we are in the process of doing so, it might be little more than needing to make an adjustment, or a mid-course correction. At this point in my life, and given the work I do as a physical and fiscal fitness coach, I believe most people know what they need to do to move their life forward; but many simply don’t know how to do so. That is one of the main reasons I love what I do and am passionate about being a solutions broker. For more information, check out the quick video about how to Breakthrough! www.wheycoolhealthstyle.com

Are you living a Healthy Lifestyle?

Disease - A look at the numbers and causes

According to the National Institutes of Health, more than two-thirds (68.8 percent) of adults are considered overweight or obese. Almost 3 in 4 men (74 percent) are considered to be overweight or obese.

The American Institute for Cancer Research (AICR) and World Cancer Research Fund (WCRF), state that by eating a varied and healthy diet, undertaking regular physical activity, being at a healthy weight and limiting alcohol intake, as many as 340,000 cases of cancer in United States could be prevented each year. “Cancer is the leading cause of death around the world and its incidence continues to rise. Each year 12.7 million people discover they have cancer and 7.6 million people die from the disease. However, evidence shows that 30-40 percent of these deaths can be prevented, and one-third can be cured through early diagnosis and treatment.” (HuffPost World Cancer Day: 340,000 Cases of Cancer A Year in the U.S. Could Be Prevented, May 25, 2011).

Then of course there is heart disease, the leading cause of death for both men and women. Factors such as high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, depression, obesity, smoking, poor diet, not exercising and excessive consumption of alcohol are well known. Again, many are risk behaviors over which we have both choice and control. (From an article in Healthline: Heart Disease Statistics by Rachel Maier and Medically Reviewed by George Krucik, MD, MBA February, 2014).

I find these all of these numbers heartbreaking, staggering and potentially hopeful. Toxicity, nutritional deficiencies, too much sugar, highly acidic diets, poor choices and chronic inflammation all contribute to dis-ease. Among those 51 essential nutrients we need for physical, mental and emotional well-being, minerals are the spark plugs that power our lives. When any are missing or misfiring, we are going to sputter and run rough, causing problems either now or down the road.

And if those numbers aren’t enough incentive to get serious about your health, an article in the Washington Post by Ariana Eunjung Cha, from May 3, 2016 reads, “Researchers: Medical errors now third leading cause of death in United States.” The article states, “Nightmare stories of nurses giving potent drugs meant for one patient to another and surgeons removing the wrong body parts have dominated recent headlines about medical care. Lest you assume those cases are the exceptions, a new study by patient safety researchers provides some context. Their analysis, published in the BMJ on Tuesday, shows that "medical errors" in hospitals and other health care facilities are incredibly common and may now be the third leading cause of death in the United States -- claiming 251,000 lives every year, more than respiratory disease, accidents, stroke and Alzheimer's.”

Making it personal

My Mom used to smoke, drink and eat very rich, often highly processed, foods. When she had health issues she’d go to the doctor, ask him to fix it, and took whatever drugs he prescribed for her without question. She died of Cirrhosis of the Liver at age 59. I will be 63 next month and take no prescription drugs. I am hereditarily predisposed to cancer, alcoholism, diabetes, hypertensive heart disease and alpha-1 antitrypsin deficiency. I am also a firm believer that mindset, exercise and eating clean is very important. My diet, until recently however, was much like my Mom’s. When told by my physician I needed to be on a mega dose of high blood pressure medication (just like my Mom), I said I will change my diet and exercise more. She was adamant, saying, “You need to accept the cards you’ve been dealt, Linda” and she emphasized that my diet and activity level were “fine.” She told me I had advanced hypertensive heart disease and was an excellent candidate for an imminent, massive stroke. I never took the Rx she gave me, changed my diet, increased my activity, and lost 15 lbs. (of skinny fat”). Since then my blood pressure is regularly slightly below normal. That was 4 years ago and I’ve not been back to any healthcare practitioner since. Am I recommending my personal approach? Absolutely not! What I am saying is that given the influences of Big Pharma, the truly frightening side-effects of most drugs, and all of the studies indicating the perils of our conventional food supply, that there is a better way. I wholeheartedly advocate clean, organic, all naturally-sourced optimal nutrition (80% of the time, with 20% of the time for indulging); as well as consciously maintaining a truly positive mindset. Decide what you most value, and set your priorities accordingly. Make the decision to favor healthier choices and control what you can, since so much is outside our control.

MINDSET: It matters...a lot!

As Zig Ziglar put it, “When obstacles arise, you change your direction. To reach your goal you do not change your decision to get there.” Thankfully, there are healthy options, alternative solutions, and the possibility for much happier outcomes. If you find yourself at a cross-roads, it may be time to change the direction in which you’re headed. What you don’t want to do is give up on your decision to get there, especially when Life throws you a curve ball. If you find yourself in a slump, examine the causes. Make the changes you need to make. Hug the naysayers in your life good-bye. Question your old ways of being and your assumptions.

Given the costs of resentment, blaming, and holding on to grudges, here is a very healthy approach to life, as expressed by David Wolfe, “Whether you pushed me or pulled me, drained me or fueled me, loved me or left me, hurt me or helped me. You are a part of my growth and no kidding I thank you!”

Be grateful. Just don’t continue to spend time with others who are negative. And be proactive. Don’t wait for, or expect, someone else to decide or to do this for you. No one else can. As Pablo Picasso put it, “Action is the foundational key to all success.”

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Jeff Greene 7 months ago

Awesome article and nicely done.

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Linda Compton 7 months ago from The Land of Enchantment Author

Thank you, Coach Greene. Your feedback means a lot to me! Glad we're on this awesome Healthy Lifestyle journey together! L.

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billybuc 7 months ago from Olympia, WA

Great truths here, Linda, a ton of good packed into a few paragraphs. Worth book marking for future reference. Nice pep talk, my friend.

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Linda Compton 7 months ago from The Land of Enchantment Author

Ah, billybuc, you are so steadfastly supportive! You're hubpages' finest ambassador of good will, inspiration & information. Thank you, my friend! Hugs to you, your beautiful muse and all your critters ♡♡♡


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aviannovice 6 months ago from Stillwater, OK

Your sure said it, Linda, and I am right there behind you. My uncle died of heart disease when he was 39. My mother died of cancer at 57. My father died at 85, having never smoked, but drank like a fish, finally stopping that to smell the roses. I am now 59, eating like I did when I grew up, and continue to eat organic foods, but rarely meat. I don't drink or smoke, and walk for several miles each day. My life revolves around the lake and its denizens, as you know. Positive mindset has a great deal to do with live, as you state, and probiotic yogurt was a blessing in disguise. Since I changed my eating habits, I dropped weight without evening trying and the probiotic yogurt keeps my gut bacteria running efficiently, so I crave nothing harmful. Now all we need to do is to convince people to eat well and the government to keep GMOS and other bad things out of our food.

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Linda Compton 6 months ago from The Land of Enchantment Author

Thank you, aviannovice! Deb, I am so happy for you. Not everyone "gets it" and I always rejoice when others, like you, truly do! Appreciate your comment and love your photographs :0) L.

Dfb 5 weeks ago

Hi honey. I get it. I really do. Neither of us wished to hurt anyone especially the ones we cared so much about. The tragedy to our story is that we are two people who should be together but are not. We had a love that was so deep it is in a far away place in a far away land of splendor. Sweetheart, I was afraid to meet with you. Afraid I would disappoint you. And I knew I would never return home. I'm so sorry.

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