When Someone You Love Is Diagnosed With Cancer: What You Should Or Should Not Do

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When a friend or family member is diagnosed with Cancer it can be heart-breaking. Suddenly your world has changed. We believe all of our hopes and dreams with them have forever been changed. The battle has begun and its hard for both the person you love and friends and family.

Mom was diagnosed in October 2009 with stage 4 Metastatic breast cancer. The cancer had already moved to her brain and there was a small mass in her colon. When we found out as daughters, we were devastated. When the doctors' told us a year we still tried to remain hopeful.

Radiation began in November and she was hopeful, she was going to beat the Cancer. With fear in my heart, I also prayed that she would be a survivor. We journeyed 60 miles everyday, round-trip for radiation. When chemo began it was going to the oncologist and getting blood transfusions. My eyes would well up with tears when she wasn't looking and I would cry.

Angry by the diagnosis I remained hopeful. Mom and all of us were supposed to grow old together. She was my best friend. Little did all of us realize 10 months after her diagnosis God would call her home.

There will be those who survive a Cancer diagnosis, my younger sister is a survivor. Valentine's Day of this year, we were told she was Cancer free. That response was a moment frozen in time for all of us. Although mom did not survive,she fought for her life until the very end. We made our sister fight when she wanted to give up and she survived.

What You Should Do

When someone you love is diagnosed with Cancer, regardless if its Stage 1 or Stage 4, its imperative that you are supportive.

Enroll in a strong support group. Many hospitals and the American Cancer Association have a list of meetings you can attend.

Talk to the person who is going through the treatment. Treat them the same way as they have always been treated. If you are afraid, remember they are too.

When someone is diagnosed at a late stage like mom was, cherish each moment. Go places, do things together when feasible. Ask all of the questions that you may not have answers too.

If you are the care giver, you are allowed to take a break. Have a family member or friend spend time with your loved one. Treat yourself when you can, they are going to need you through this journey.

Share with others, your thoughts, feelings and emotions. In mom's final days, I openly wrote each day about our journey together. It was my outlet when I was in pain. They are still published and I am not ready to go back and read them. A great on-line site for people with cancer is, people with cancer its a place where they can share stories when they are going through this troubling time.

If you get upset or angry, its okay. Go scream at the mountains, take a walk or exercise. Its a great stress reliever and will help you release all of that tension.




What You Should Not Do

When they are diagnosed the doctor will give you the outlook on the diagnosis. Positive or negative never make them quit any habits right away. If they smoke, allow them time to quit. If they drink the same applies.

Let them decide if they are going to seek treatment and what type of treatment they will seek. If your loved one decides not to go through with Chemotherapy or radiation it is their choice. Not ours. It sounds harsh because we always want the best for them; but let them make the choice.

If they don't feel like eating, don't force them. Treatment can take a lot out of a patient. So long as they maintain there weight, it will be fine. Ensure shakes, protein shakes can be used as replacement meals.

Sharing their dreams is important. Don't tell them if they don't quit those bad habits, they won't be here to see it. Don't think of it as a death sentence. Millions are diagnosed and millions survive cancer everyday.

Don't complain about all that you are going through and wish it would soon be over. I over heard a woman saying that to her father, when we were at radiation with mom. He to was fighting for his life. I walked right over to her and said, " How would you feel, if you were walking in his shoes?" If looks could kill, I am sure I would have been six-foot under. But seriously, never say anything negative that could come back and haunt you when they are gone.


When your loved one is diagnosed, each individual is different. There were times when I would get frustrated because chemotherapy was so long. In the beginning we would drop her off and run errands. She still felt very independent. But as the months progressed and her body could not handle the chemo anymore, we would stay.

In July 2010 during a visit to the oncologist, they told us her Cancer had spread to her liver. They informed her she only had weeks. Mom cried, I cried and writing the end of this is hard; because it brings me to tears. On August 21,2010 mom lost her life to Cancer.

She was courageous, a fighter and never gave up when the odds were against her. If you have a loved one who is going through this diagnosis, please be loving, caring and compassionate. If they survive, rejoice and be thankful. If they are fighting for their life, spend time with them, treat them normal and be there soldier.

Survivors are miracles that happen.

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FloraBreenRobison 4 years ago

Cancer has racked my family. Some have survived, some have died.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

FloraBreenRobison: Mine too. :( My Uncle passed away 8 months after mom and I love him bunches.


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Rusticliving 4 years ago from California

This has to be one of the most well written informative hubs for dealing with cancer and loved ones. It touches every area that we should all be aware of. Your sensitivity not only to the patient, but to those who need to be aware of what to and what not to say is perfect. Wrapping my arms around you and sending you the biggest, warmest hug. Voted way up and shared. :)

FYI: Three things come to mind as I write this, not sure why... Butterflies, potatoes, and the color blue.


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Lord De Cross 4 years ago

Rustic:

You were right... butterflies, and the color of her diaphanous eyes (BLUE). This is a testimony that AEvan's has been answered through you. Potatoes in paradise, like the ones from Cardiff...

LORD


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Anamika S 4 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

My Mom died of Cancer too! I was not close to her but sometimes I feel a void too... Hub voted up and tweeted...


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Turtlewoman 4 years ago from California

I was going to wait until the 30/30 is over to catch up on reading hubs, but this one got my attention. It's beautifully written, Julianna. Thank you for sharing your story. I watched my fiancé go through the same emotions with his Dad. I had to remind him to not do some of the things you mentioned. He was a loving son and took care of his Dad, but it took a lot out of both of them.

I admire your strength. Voted up and beautiful.


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chamilj 4 years ago from Sri Lanka

Very useful article. Voted up!


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2patricias 4 years ago from Sussex by the Sea

I know more about cancer than I ever wanted to. This is a very good Hub, and everybody should read it.

I think it is important to get the most out of every day, pray for patience, and let friends help when they offer.

The message that cancer cannot steal eternal life is very important.

Thank you.


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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

I am sorry for your loss Julianna. You have a lot of good advice in here. I have many relatives and friends who have both survived and died from cancer and for 3 years my father has been living with a form of it for which doctors say there is no cure only containment. I was particularly struck by your comment to let the person choose their treatment. I came to see this particularly with my father - that any suggestions as to what he should do would just add to his stress, and so I told him that whatever route he chose I would support him in that. I do my best to stick to that.

I recently read a report from a study at a hospital in Mexico where their natural methods actually result to considerably more survivors than conventional treatment so if someone chooses that path it may be their best chance, but whatever path they choose, we need to honour that and allow them to decide what is best for them. What my father often says it that it’s not the length of time he has left that matters, but the quality of it. It’s not always easy to hear that, but it’s certainly true.


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Peggy W 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

"The message that cancer cannot steal eternal life is very important." I like that thought best.

So very sorry that you lost your mother to cancer. I know several people who have died of it and others who are battling it + some survivors. May God bless you and all those you love.

Thanks for writing this. Useful, beautiful and will share.


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Marcy Goodfleisch 4 years ago from Planet Earth

I'm so sorry for your loss, AEvans - I know how heartbreaking it is to go through that with a loved one, and how intensely you want to take away their pain. This is very helpful advice, especially from the viewpoint of one who's been there. Thanks for opening your heart to us, and sharing the wisdom thar came from such a painful experience. Voted and shared.


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

This is such a novel approach to writing about cancer. Most things we read deal with the person having cancer not those surrounding them. Loved ones often suffer as much if not more as they watch the cancer take its toll. You made so many, many good points. This is an excellent hub. Voted up, interesting and useful. Thanks for SHARING.


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deepateresa 4 years ago from Trivandrum, Kerala,India

Really heartbreaking !

I had lost three of my aunties bcoz of cancer..

Thanks for sharing the experience..

Voted Up


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Just Ask Susan 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

So beautifully written. Everything that you've said here hits home with me. I know how hard it is to lose a loved one from cancer and my heart goes out to you.

I have several cancer hubs and if you don't mind I would be honored if you'd allow me to link this one to mine.


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carolinemd21 4 years ago from Close to Heaven

Great hub. It is heartbreaking when cancer happens to your family. My dad and grandmother both died of cancer. Thank you for sharing.


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L.L. Woodard 4 years ago from Oklahoma City

Thank you for sharing you and your family's experiences with us. I am sorry for the losses you have to face, but rejoice with you in the victory of your sister over her cancer.

So much of what you have said in this hub can be useful to friends and family members of a person diagnosed with other life-threatening conditions.

Voted up and SHARED so that others may benefit from your wisdom and insights.


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CloudExplorer 4 years ago from New York City

Hi there AEvans, I turned my intial response to you here into an entire hub, because you have touched on so many important factors, and issues in the dealings of cancer. My mother died back in late 2006, and due to breast cancer.

It has made me worried about not only myself, but countless other people who have no idea what, and why this is happening to us all today. I know of many people personally, who have suffered such a fate as my mom, and so I did a great deal of research to determine what cancer is all about, and recently I've made some major breakthroughs.

Awesome hub here overall, and I also like the part that you pointed out about letting people make their own decisions as to treatment, but I might add helping people with health knowledge in general can't hurt any if it may actually help prevent it from happening at all, my dad was going the wrong directions, drinking & smoking so I found a video about blood ph, that changed his focus altogether.

So you never know, today he's working towards a healthier diet, and he quit smoking, he drinks lots of water rather then flooding his system with, soda's, sports drinks, liquor, or beer.

Thanks for writing such a courageous and heart felt hub here, I'll return to read more of your hubs soon, for sure.


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alipuckett 4 years ago

When my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer, I remember that my first instinct was to shut down. I will always remember my mom telling me not to pull away from her, because now was when she needed us most. She died 6 months later. I spent a lot of time with her in those months: chatting, laughing, learning. I'm so grateful I took my mother's advice! Great hub. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Rusticliving: Now you have touched my heart. You also have a very deep insight. Mom has also came to you. The answer to the three words you have given me is the following:

Butterflies: Before mom died, she said she would send butterflies from heaven to let me know where she had gone. The day after her passing this beautiful monarch butterfly, flew right in front of my face. I had never experienced that before.

Potatoes: When we were together in the midwest and came back home, it was common for us to make Fried Potatoes. She taught me how to make them and it is a recipe that has not been forgotten.

Blue: That was mom's favorite color. She loved the color blue.

Glad I could share awareness with others, it was something near and dear to my heart. (((Hugs Back))).


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

lord de cross: Yes mom's eyes were blue. Stunning blue and the butterflies were sent as she promised when she crossed over. Mom did reach out to Lisa what a beautiful gift to receive. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Anamika S: (((Big Hugs)) to you. The void is because we wish we had more time. Questions we needed to ask, the love that was lost. They will always be in our heart. When you look in the mirror, she is right there with you. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Turtlewoman: It is hard when we watch the ones we love who are diagnosed with Cancer, suffer. We hurt because we will miss them. It is hard to be a care giver and a son/daughter or friend. Even harder when we watch them whittle away and disappear right in front of our eyes.

You did the right thing by reminding him to stay in control. It wasn't his father, it was the disease. ((Hugs)) to you for being his support group. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

chamilj: Thank you for appreciating the hub on Cancer. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

2patricias: It is great to see you! Cancer may attack those we love, but it cannot steal eternal life. We will see the ones we lost again. If we believe. :)


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Wrath Warbone 4 years ago from Cleveland, Ohio

Very well written, very informative and helpful to others. Thanks.


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50 Caliber 4 years ago from Arizona

A well written message that represents some points I am familiar with and some that are great thoughts that even though I spent my mid 30s with 4 aunts and uncles all brother and sisters, taking part in helping and supporting. I spent 2 years in my mid 40s with my father. A family with the gene, 12 brothers and sisters, 8 and 4 respectively with three that missed the prostate and/or colon cancer. It was hard to see a 5 year period that destroyed a "Family Reunion" of mind boggling proportion, imagine 12 with husbands and wives and the children and grand children, I've never sat and counted the people in the pictures of the summer before the first diagnosis, but I'm certain 50 would be conservative.

It was years filled with much prayer and burnt fuel to and from medical appointments.

I absolutely advocated the prayer and never forgetting that the spirit would be kept and held by the creator no matter the outcome. In these cases all 4 were going on in overlapping time, it seemed like a perpetual funeral procession that lead me to just about drag my father for the tests.

It came as a punch in the face when he tested positive for prostate cancer but on the up side an early diagnosis where his elder siblings were late. It allowed him choices and though he wanted me to choose I offered to pray with him after hearing the 3 choices and the forth of none of the above. We prayed and finally he chose. It gave him another 10 years of worry filled but trouble free life. I wish he could have let go of the worry for the years that he just needed a check up to verify his blood count. It came back but in a different way and he still managed another 5 years and he reached the level of Faith I wish he could have had the years that the original cancer was beat.

After moving in with him in his last 6 months I kept the conversation to levels of things that brought laughter and we laughed a lot. The day before he passed, the hospice nurse came and she was sweet and handled the discussion short and light about preparations.

The next morning at breakfast he looked at me seriously and told me that he was sleeping in his own bed, not the one they brought and he wouldn't be getting up the next day. He was at the stage that cancer had moved from colon to stomach and for days he couldn't eat and keep it down. He could enjoy some bits of ice cream and sherberts were entirely acceptable so the two of us lived on lemon, lime and orange sherberts. I asked if he was giving up and he said that it was time for him to move on, to the rest and new place that we are promised. That afternoon he entertained a packed living room and there was a lot of laughter for 2 or three hours and as he tired out a close friend of his Brother Chuck, said he'd like to pray with all together. He prayed a special passage of protection and promise and then folks gave him hugs and kisses and slowly left and I moved off to the outside porch swing and smoked a cigarette while he and Chuck spent a while together. As he came to the door to leave I gave him a hug as he left and came back in.

He passed in his sleep at 23:30. I believe he reached a spiritual contact that didn't reveal to him the hour or day, just that his place was ready.

I still miss him but that day I felt no sorrow, just relief that he had accepted and made the spiritual connection that the promises of a better place is as real as the key board that I'm touching right now.

I wish you peace and that you find the acceptance that one day we will meet again.

May the Blessings be,

50


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Melovy: Allowing your father to choose is a blessing he will never forget. Less stress for a person fighting for their life, the better. I am here for you whenever you need an ear to listen. Enjoy each day with your father and live in the moment. ((Hugs to you)).


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Peggy W: I like that thought too. What words of encouragement and empowerment. The journey with mom was so hard; but I am glad that I can now offer support for those who are dealing with it. Those who do survive are miracles. I believe this could be a way for me to heal. Thank you so much for commenting. ((Big hugs)) to you too.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Marcy Goodfleisch: Thank you for your understanding. When the question was asked in the Q&A it tugged at my heart strings. If I can help one person; than I know in mom's honor I am helping someone. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

tillsonitan: Thank you for appreciating my approach. It was on my heart to write about it and sharing is also a way to heal. Thank you so much for the share. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

deepateresa: That is also heartbreaking. My advice to you is, also take care of yourself and get checked once a year. I am sorry to also hear about your losses. ((Hugs))


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Just Ask Susan: I am sorry to hear about your loss too. It hurts when you watch someone go through the pain. My heart goes out to you too. Yes, you can link this to your hub and will be reading those hubs too. Thank you for being supportive. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

carolinemd21: It is very hard. Sorry to hear about your losses to and thank you for commenting. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

L.L. Woodard: I believe it was time to share with others the do's and don'ts when their loved ones are suffering with the diagnosis. We have been rejoicing in the victory of my sister being a cancer survivor. She has to have regular check-ups every 3 months with her oncologist; but we believe God isn't finished with her yet. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

CloudExplorer: I am sorry to hear about your loss with your mom. It is also great to hear that you have turned your dad's life around. We need to worry about ourselves especially if Cancer runs high in our families. I will also being reading yours. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

alipuckett: I am glad you took your mom's advice too. Those are memories you can never lose. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Wrath Warbone: Welcome and thank you for the kudos. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

50caliber: Mom passed at 9:21pm I was by her side when the Lord allowed her to open her eyes and say my name one last time. She squeezed my hand and I watched her soul leave her body.

From 9:21pm until 1:15am on August 21, 2010 I sat with her until the funeral home picked her up. I knew it was only her body that was left, but I was not going to leave her alone. I always made that promise to mom. Although we take our last breath in this World, it takes 7-9 minutes after that for our brain's to completely shut down.

I know that I will see her one day and that she will be there one I arrive. Her joyful spirit, courage and laughter I truly miss.

Many blessing to you to and thank so much for sharing your family story through a comment on this hub. (((Big Hugs))


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Rusticliving 4 years ago from California

That's wonderful to hear Julianna. Those thoughts were very strong. It's beautiful how you know exactly what it would be. That's what it's all about. ((((HUGS)))


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Jessi10 4 years ago from Lancaster, CA

This is a wonderful hub! I used to be a volunteer at ACS, and most of the time, patience, and family or friends of patients would come in and ask What they could do to make the person diagnosed feel better. People really do feel helpless most of the time, this hub is wonderful because it tells what people SHOULD DO, and whats best left out!

Wonderful HUb! voted up!


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Rusticliving: She also loved baked potatoes. I surely do love my mom. ((Big Hugs)) back. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Jessi10: You were a blessing and being able to volunteer, was so kind. It takes a very strong and compassionate person to work with terminally ill patients. Thank you for the vote up. :)


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Dexter Yarbrough 4 years ago from United States

Hi AEvans. I am so sorry for your loss. So many of us have lost loved ones. I am thankful that you shared your story and provided helpful tips on how to deal with our friends and family that have or will be diagnosed. Great hub!


Giselle Maine 4 years ago

Thanks so much AEvans for writing a hub to answer my Q. A family member recently was diagnosed with cancer. I was scared of saying or doing the wrong thing, and I definitely want to be supportive. Your hub is very helpful for me and it is a guide I know I will be re-reading.

In fact, the hub made me realize that my attitude and interactions with the person is, actually, important - I didn't realize how much the do's and don'ts could affect the patient. Wow, that is a very humbling thought. Thanks again for a great hub.


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algarveview 4 years ago from Algarve, Portugal

Hello, AEvans, I am very sorry for your loss. One my best friends is now going through that, when she told me, I couldn't bring myself to believe it was true, it felt like a joke, she turned 42 yesterday and I'm still not quite sure how to handle it. I don't know if I should talk about it or not, I try to talk to her the same way as before, but I wonder if I should be paying more attention to this, talking about it, debating, etc. But does it really help? Doesn't it remind her about her problem and that's bad or is it a way to let it out? As you may have realized I'm a bit confused. Anyway, your timing, for me, was perfect. Thank you for the article and have a good day.


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sofs 4 years ago

Great advice. I have spent the last six months with a friend who was diagnosed with cancer and passed away just a month ago. It has been a tough time and your words brought back all those memories. (((((hugs))))) to you. Take care.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Dexter Yarbrough: Thank you so much. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Giselle Maine: Always be supportive. It is always okay to cry and express your feelings. Try not to get upset and be strong, they need you right now. :)(((Big Hugs))


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

algarview: Support her. Depending on the stage she could survive it. My younger sister has. :) Talk about it with her, because if you don't she will feel isolated by you. Talk to her in the same fashion, she is alive and she is the same person. She knows she has Cancer just ask her what options she has chosen? Be open and honest, she will be thankful you did. Remember she is scared to and needs all of the love and support she can get. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Oh Sofs, I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you and ((Hugs Back)). So glad you were there for them.


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Cardisa 4 years ago from Jamaica

My great Grandmother died of colon cancer and my mother had a scare last year. I have had friends die of cancer and rust me, it's never easy to handle. The best thing, as you said, is to show them support. Help them to stay positive.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Cardisa: The best thing is to help them stay positive although it can be complicated, it can be done. :)


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PegCole17 4 years ago from Dallas, Texas

Dear AEvans, Please accept my deep condolences on the loss of your Mother. You have my heartfelt sympathy. As daughters we are tied to our mothers in so many invisible ways that run deep.

Your story touched my heart and reminded me of the way that a cancer diagnosis affects the whole family along with the individual. Nothing is ever the same afterward. I'll will always remember the day in 1999 when my sister told me she had breast cancer. I was stunned and at a loss for words, worrying that anything I might say would be the wrong thing. I was in shock and disbelief and then in fear for my own health. We traveled together to MD Anderson Cancer Center in Houston for a second opinion and while going through the process of treatment, it came to me that this disease is the great equalizer that drops us all to our knees regardless of our financial status, our religion, our race or beliefs. It was an eye opening experience. These years later I'm grateful for my sister's strength and eventual recovery and today she remains free of cancer markers. Since then we have lost our Dad to Non Hodgkins Lymphoma and her husband to lung cancer along with other friends who succumbed.

Your well written hub is a valuable source of information on things to do or not do and will be truly helpful to many who face this issue.

Kind regards,

Peg


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

PegCole17: What a blessing your sister is a survivor. The best gift is when they survive. Thank you for the condolences, it was really hard. I have great days even now, and bad days too. If I can share with someone how to go through this hard journey, then it makes life so much better. I am also sad to hear about your father and my heartfelt condolences given back to you. (((Big Hugs)))


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota

I am bawling my head off right now as I am a survivor and I connect with all you say. Thank you, God Bless you for educating people on how to deal when a loved one is diagnosed. I had many people who came up to me after my diagnosis and say, "Oh, my uncle died of that, it's hard to beat." To me it was a no brainer but sometimes people don't think. My thoughts are with you and your family my dear and know your mom is watching over you. I know it's hard but she is still with you. I am blessed to be 8 years cancer free even though the doctors said I had a 20% chance of making five years. Great hub, great educating and very touching. God Bless your mom in heaven.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Minnetonka Twin: I am so happy you are a survivor. That touches my heart. My sister is a survivor too. Mom was determined to beat it and I believe if it didn't spread so rapidly she would have been here. ((Big Hugs)) to you and its great you are Cancer Free! :)


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Zooloot.com 4 years ago from Europe

Show them this: http://www.ted.com/talks/bill_doyle_treating_cance...

...and then get busy looking for ALL the cures out there you can find.

I recently had a friend who was told he only had a short time to live due to liver failure. I searched on-line and found a Dr Burt Beckson who's had an amazing success rate with a simple remedy he discovered. My friend started to take it and is now well on his way to FULL recovery.

So often we rely on doctors to seal our fate when we our unlimitedly responsible for our own health and survival.

The internet has opened a pandora's box to research that is not yet 'FDA approved' and it may take another 10 years before it is. BUT we have access to this research thanks to the internet. PLEASE use it (while it's still freely available) as your life and the lives of those you love, may literally depend on it.

I have been using a simple remedy (discovered by Jim Humble)for 3 years and have not had a flu or cold since. It also removed a large (red brown) growth on my stomach, in one week. I can't mention it or recommend it here as it is of course illegal for me to do so. I can only tell you that it has worked for me...

The FDA are trying to put a stop to the freedom to publish information such as Dr Beckson's, Jim Humble's, Dr Becker's and so many others. Now may be your only chance to learn the truth about cures that could help millions of sufferers. START LEARNING NOW!! Before it's too late.


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Zooloot.com 4 years ago from Europe

The liver Dr guy is 'Burt Berkson' and not Beckson :))


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alekhouse 4 years ago from Louisville, Kentucky

Appreciate your article. Your suggestions and tips for dealing with this terrible thing are so right on. I am also a cancer survivor and know how much what you've written here can provide support and comfort.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Zooloot.com: I/we truly take this comment to heart. My Uncle before he passed away last March had treatments that were not FDA approved. He survived an additional 3 months. I believe there are many cures and the sad thing is the pharmaceuticals wouldn't make any money if everyone survived.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

Zooloot.com: Thanks for the correction. :)


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

alekhouse: I am so happy for you. When someone survives that is a miracle and a blessing for everyone that surrounds them. :)


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zduckman 4 years ago

Hemp oil applied externally has been shown to eliminate tumors


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

zduckman: That is amazing. I wish I would have known that when mom was alive. I hope that others take the opportunity to check the treatment out. :)


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zduckman 4 years ago

Yea, I wish it was available for my friend Owen...rest his soul.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

zduckman: So many cures and still there is cancer so sad. My hearfelt sympathy and prayers are with you. I am so sorry to hear about your friend.


kelleyward 4 years ago

I'm so sorry about your loss. My mom was diagnosed two years ago and is now cancer free. I agree that the one with cancer needs to be supported in whatever decisions they make. Some people choose to have chemo and some don't it's their decision. Voted up. Take care, Kelley


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

kelleyward: You are so blessed to still have your mother what a blessing. Thanks for also agreeing that they should be supported in whatever choices they make.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

ausmedus: Thank you so much and I hope it guides many to understanding. :)


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sdstone1972 4 years ago from Massachusetts,USA

Sorry about your mom, This hub is amazing right to the point with lots of class. I think you are spot on with your content and your insights for both the patient and the caregiver(s) is refreshing. I have pancreatic cancer and without my support team I would be lost.

Thanks for taking the time to share your story and insights.


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AEvans 3 years ago from SomeWhere Out There Author

sdstone1972: I am wishing you all of the best! You can do it just stay positive and I will keep you in my prayers.

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