Where Do You Draw The Line Between Social Drinking And Abusive Drinking

Where Is the Fine Line?

Where do you draw the line between social drinking and abusive drinking is a good question that we need to address.

There is nothing wrong with having a social drink or two when you are attending a function of any sort, but there are some people such as myself that just don't know the word, "social drinker."

With all the hubs and articles I write about regarding drinking alcohol, please don't think that I am an anti-drinker, or hate those that do drink. That is not the case at all. The problem with me was I loved to drink too much and never knew when enough was enough.

I loved my beer just as much or even more than the next guy, but alcohol and me just didn't hit it off. It made me a person that I was not, so the steps I took were to just stop drinking alcohol and start to change my life around for the better.


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HERE I AM 4 YEARS AGO HAVING A COLD ONE AND THINKING I WAS AS HAPPY AS CAN BE.
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Questions to Be Answered

Here are some questions you may want answers to by asking yourself these simple questions:

  • DO I ABUSE ALCOHOL?
  • CAN I JUST HAVE ONE OR TWO SOCIAL DRINKS AND CALL IT QUITS?
  • DO I KNOW WHEN ENOUGH IS ENOUGH?
  • CAN YOU LIMIT HOW MUCH YOU DRINK OR HAVE NO CONTROL AFTER STARTING?
  • CAN YOU GO OUT TO EAT, ETC. WITHOUT NEEDING TO HAVE A ALCOHOLIC DRINK?
  • CAN YOU HANDLE GOING TO A PARTY WITHOUT ALCOHOL BEING SERVED?

These are the questions I asked myself when I finally made up my mind to stop drinking alcohol and start living a sober life once more.

None of us are stupid people and I am very sure those that do have an alcohol addiction knows this deep down inside, but they, like I, never wanted to admit it, and we all live in this little world we call denial.

I hope and pray always for those that do have a huge addiction to alcohol that they, like I will see the light sooner than later and change their lives around like I did almost four years ago.

Which Are You?

ARE YOU A SOCIAL DRINKER OR ONE THAT ABUSES ALCOHOL?

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Sobriety Rocks!

When I say that Sobriety Rocks, I truly mean it, and the fact that I wasted all those years drinking and abusing alcohol really upsets me to no end.

Nevertheless, that was the past and it is now a new and clean life for me and my family to enjoy.

If you think or know you have an addiction to alcohol, what I think, and this is only my opinion, that you should really stop and take a hard look at your life and determine what side of the the line you are on.

Take a moment and look at those that love and care for you, and look them deep into their eyes, and just maybe you will see the pain that they are going through right along with you and your addiction.

You have to remember many people are suffering because of your addiction to alcohol. We the alcoholics never think of things such as this simply because we are in our own little world and are mostly living in denial.

When I say Sobriety Rocks, I truly mean it. If I were to know how it felt to be sober and living each day with a clear mind, I might of had second thoughts of ruining my life with drinking alcohol.

The problem was, and is, that once your demons get hold of you, and you don't have the willpower to keep them back, then they can and will start to take over your life one day at a time, and before you know it alcohol will indeed be a huge part of your everyday life.



Where Is That Line You Cross?

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How Do You Know Where That Line Is?

In order to find that line between social drinking and abusive drinking, ask yourself these questions:

  • Do you know when to stop drinking and when enough is enough?
  • Is one or two social drinks enough to satisfy your desire for a drink?
  • Are you okay to go to a place that doesn't serve alcohol at all?
  • Do you feel the need to want more alcohol after those couple social drinks?
  • Do you have the willpower to say. "no more alcohol" I have had enough?
  • Can you go days or even weeks without having an alcoholic drink?

Social Drinking

Drinking to be social is okay in my book. I just wished I could of been a social drinker and not an abusive drinker.

There is nothing at all wrong with having that social drink with a family member or friend. Having that social drink to celebrate a Birthday, Wedding, or just a time to relax at a local pub. All of us need that time to unwind and just relax after a hard days work.

The problem with people like myself is that we tend to not know when to stop that social drink, and we wind up abusing that drink all through the night.

As for myself, I have had weddings to go to, and one of those weddings were my own Daughters Wedding. Sure I paid for all the alcohol so that the guest would have a wonderful time. The thing with that was most of the people only had that social drink or two and of course the toast to the Bride and Groom.

Others that did have a problem with their alcohol intake were those that were addicted to alcohol for sometime and they were the ones that made complete fools out of themselves.

I sat there at the wedding and watched those that were over drinking and making fools of themselves and believe me, it brought back some bad memories of my past drinking days which I am not very proud of.

Don't Let Your Drinking Get out of Hand

If you feel that you are only a social drinker and know for a fact you don't have an addiction to alcohol, then you should be very proud of yourself. On the other hand if you are one of those people that feel that social drinking is not for you because you never can get enough of the alcohol with only that one or two social drinks, then you may want to think about getting your drinking under control, or try to at least cut down on your alcohol intake.

For myself, cutting down or only having that social drink or two was never enough and I was never satisfied until I got that buzz I was so used to having. So, in that case I needed to stop drinking alcohol altogether and have been sober since October, 2009.

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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

Mark, I could have saved myself about twenty years of misery if I had been able to answer your title question. LOL Some of us just have to find out the hard way.

Great message my friend.

blessings always

bill


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

Hi Mark, this is an awesome hub as usual. These are good questions to ponder. I have been reading your articles on addiction for some time now so I do believe you when you say that you are sobriety rocks! I'm sure that was the best decision you ever made and it does take a lot of will power to do that and you did. Congrats! The way that I see it is that if a person needs to go out every night after work to a bar and have a drink or two even if it's only beer that they're drinking, then that person has an alcohol addiction. I actually know this guy who would get really buzzed whenever he would go out to a club and then just sleep in his car until he was sober enough to drive home. Sometimes he would even stop on the highway. Now, this is an example of someone who just doesn't know when to quit. voted up awesome and useful. Marlene


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

when you say that sobriety rocks is what I meant.


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the clean life 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ Bill - hello my friend and thanks for your comment as well. You can say that again Bill about the title. I too wish I would of thought of that in my many years of alcohol abuse. It would of saved me years of misery and saved those that I made a horrible life for, but we are great now right and all of us make mistakes through life. This is how we learn I guess. Sometimes it is the hard way but we learn and then we teach others!

God Bless you Bill.

Mark


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the clean life 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

@ Marlene- how are you my dear friend? Thanks for reading this and all the others I write and your kind comment as well. It is such a shame about your friend. Going out every night 7 days a weeks all year long was me Marlene. I could never get enough and the more I drank the more it took to get to that point of feeling good (drunk). I thank God everyday for giving me the willpower to quit that horrible addiction. 4 years in October Marlene :) God bless you always dear!! and thank you for being a great friend.

Mark


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

@ Mark, I'm fine, thank you. Sorry to hear that. You had enough strength and will power to break free from your addiction and remain sober. Four years is a long time. You should celebrate with a Heineken. just kidding. God is good. If you have a spiritual relationship with him, he will give you the strength and release you from the bondage of addiction, I'm going to order your book through amazon. Thanks for your friendship and support. God Bless.


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the clean life 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Marlene- Thanks for your support and thanks for ordering my book. It is very short only about 9 pages. It was my first attempt at it. I am going to write another one as soon as I find some free time to get started. Now I know how to do it.

Have a wonderful week my friend :) PS Yes God is good for sure!


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CarlySullens 3 years ago from St. Louis, Missouri

This is such a useful hub. There are many adults who drink way too much and call it 'social drinking.'

Can people be allergic to alcohol? I myself have one drink and feel sick, like I am going to vomit. If I have more than one drink I get a headache. So drinking too much never happens to me because my body won't let me. But I wonder if I am allergic to alcohol.


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the clean life 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

CarlySullens- Hi Carly and thanks for reading and your comment. I so wish I would of got sick on that first drink and then I wouldn't have the addiction I used to have. I am not sure if people are allergic to alcohol but it sure makes sense. Believe me you are better off not drinking Carly! My life is so much better living it sober.

Mark


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

Excellent article. So true, there is a fine line ... between life and death.

Voted up ++++ and sharing

God bless you, Faith Reaper


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the clean life 3 years ago from New Jersey Shore Author

Faith- Thank you for your kind comment. You said it..life or death is so true. thanks for the Vote Up and sharing Faith.

All the best to you and God Bless,

Mark

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