Why Fifty Is Not the New Forty or What Is Middle Age Anyway?

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You hear people say it all the time--"fifty is the new forty". It is usually said by people about to hit the half century mark and it usually means they are not happy about time marching on. Fifty is the new forty is a fear-based phrase uttered by those who are whistling in the dark. I have the credentials to say this, by the way, having passed both my fiftieth and sixtieth birthdays and now having reached the serenity of acceptance that only membership in AARP and a Medicare card can bring.

It is true that people live longer these days and that the number of people reaching their 100th birthday is on the rise worldwide. But that rise is slow and gradual and living to 100 is still a rare event. Living to age 65 and beyond, however is not. The 2010 census indicates that life expectancy in the USA is definitely on the increase. For men, it has increased from 51.5 years for someone born in 1900 to 80.1 years for someone born in 2001.The stats are even better for women.

So there, you say? Then fifty really is the new forty. You are only as old as you feel, right? Not so fast-- put down that gym bag and postpone the plastic surgery and listen up. Fifty year old's may have better bodies, more energy, and look younger than they used to, but inside, fifty is still the same old fifty and the fifties are still the same pivotal decade for both men and women that they always were.

Turning 50 is a big deal. It is the moment when most of us really get that we too are going to get old and(yes, it is unthinkable)... we too are actually going to die someday. The end of the trail suddenly looms up ahead with startling clarity. Where did it come from? How did it happen? Most of us are surprised and just not ready-- Fifty? Really? Where did the time go? Oh well, " Fifty is the new forty" We comfort ourselves with that thought and we hope against hope that it is true.

Why Fifty is Not the New Forty

People age at different rates both physically and emotionally so it is hard to come up with a one size fits all formula for exactly when middle age begins, or when it ends for that matter.. For most people forty probably still technically represents the middle of life-- 40 down and 40 to go if they live to be 80. It is when people start taking stock of their health, actually consider going to high school and college reunions, and may even start to notice aches, pains and weight gain enough to make some lifestyle changes.

However we age physically, somewhere between 40 and 50 most of us hear the dark flutter of the wings of our own mortality in the background. It's a sound most of us try not to pay attention to..... an awareness we try to avoid. The first signs of physical aging tend to appear in the decade between 40 and 50. These include but are not limited to:

  • extra pounds creeping on each year
  • more belly fat
  • a need for reading glasses
  • grey hair and/or thinning hair
  • loss of strength and flexibility
  • gradual loss of fertility
  • problems with sexual performance

Forty starts the ball rolling, but fifty is the birthday that really brings it all home. By fifty most of us have either already lost a parent or are dealing with parents who need increasing care and attention. Meanwhile, our own children( if we have had them) are growing up or have already flown the coop. They may have already made us grandparents -- or not.

In our fifties some unsettling things often happen. We lose our jobs to younger people who can do them better and cheaper. Our sight and hearing are really not what they used to be and we are more interested in the local obituaries than the wedding and birth announcements. People start calling us " sir" and "ma'm" We no longer recognize the celebrities and rock stars gracing the covers of supermarket tabloids and we have trouble holding onto being hip. No-- fifty is serious business. It is a birthday that burns. I gave myself a big party for my fiftieth, but other friends of mine slunk away from the big five oh and began to lie about their age.... Fifty is a very personal and intense birthday for everyone and it is not-- definitely NOT the new forty.

Do you get where I am going with this? While good health can make one's forties, fifties and beyond happier and healthier, it cannot turn back the clock. A fifty year old woman who bears a child through in vitro fertilization is always going to be fifty years older than her offspring and may well die before the child comes of age. A sixty year old man who impregnates his 30 year old trophy wife with the help of Viagra has not magically become thirty something by that act. He too will probably die before the child he fathered has reached its majority.

As long as everybody recognizes this and plans for it, no problem. But the point is that looking and feeling young does not actually make you young and certainly does not confer immortality. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look and feel younger. Three cheers for Botox, plastic surgery, Hair Club for Men and hair dye for women, vitamins, working out and even sheep glands from some spa in Switzerland. Just don't think that these things can do things that they can't. You are still you and your birthday is still the same.


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Nobody blows a whistle and says " middle age begins at forty" and nobody sounds a gong when you turn sixty to say " middle age is now over and old age has begun" It doesn't work that way. It's all very individual. Some men buy little red sports cars and run off to South America with their twenty year old secretaries when they are 45. Others do it at the age of 60 and still others not at all. Some women dye their hair, get facelifts and hormone treatments and lie about their age because the idea of losing all that female sexual power and becoming invisible to men, is more than they can bear. Others are mother earth at forty and stunning old ladies and still others simply manage to negotiate every stage with grace and style.

In the end, middle age is the period between youth and old age and nothing more, and that period is definable only in individual terms. There is a part of all of us that is eternal-- that is the same as it has been from early childhood and there is another part that is the accumulated experience of life that changes from year to year and from day to day.

I know one thing for sure, that young, old. or in the middle, life is a wonderful banquet to be savored and enjoyed in the moment. Today's joys and travails will not come again and all of us are on the same train and will eventually arrive at the same station.

The leading cause of death is birth( as a good friend of mine, now deceased, used to say) so relax and enjoy the ride.


© 2012 Roberta Kyle

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amy jane 4 years ago from Connecticut

I loved this beautifully written hub Robie! As I just turned 40 (and felt it to be a rather traumatic experience) I can now see how 50 will be much different. You are so right - life is to be enjoyed in the moment!


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JamaGenee 4 years ago from Central Oklahoma

robie2, I think you spelled out quite clearly *everything* twenty- and thirty-somethings will ever need to know about hitting the Big 5-0! Well done, O Wise One! ;D


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ElizaDoole 4 years ago from London

Robie, I am now very afraid. And you look much younger in your pic by the way! Turning 40 is a milestone I've just passed and I do worry about getting old now and many of the things you said ring true to me. Good hub!


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Aya Katz 4 years ago from The Ozarks

Very well put!


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thougtforce 4 years ago from Sweden

This article is wonderful and I agree with everything you say! That day is more close than I want and I must say that I am not ready, and it is unthinkable! No, 50 is not the new 40 and it will take some time to get used to. But on the other hand I also welcome some part of it since I know so many fantastic women who have already passed fifty. Somehow we all need to make the best of it:)) Thanks for this article, I loved it! voted up, interesting,

Tina


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Judi Bee 4 years ago from UK

I'm just hoping that with age comes wisdom - otherwise it's going to be a total bummer! Great hub, voted up etc.


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Jerilee Wei 4 years ago from United States

Right to the point and so right about this very important topic. Reminds me of a best selling book of yesteryear "Passages," which if I remember correctly took the best and worse of each decade in life and pointed out the obvious. Great topic.!


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Sally's Trove 4 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

Spectacular hub, robie. You are a sound, wise, and necessary voice for those who are facing the inevitable bridging years into old age but who don't want to think about them, talk about them, or even acknowledge them. Voted up and everything else. Oh yes, and thank you for the link. :)


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Ohmygoodness-- dear all of you, thank you so much for these wonderful comments and for sharing your own thoughts on the two important birthdays that can strike terror into the human heart. Happy Birthday Amy. Thanks for stopping by Jama, Eliza Doole--the anticipation is much worse than the actuality, I promise and thanks for the kind words about my picture. People do often take me for younger than I am and I am actually quite vain about that. I'll be quite disappointed when I start to look my age hahaha. Thanks Aya, good to see you. thoughtforce-- don't worry for women particularly, things just get better after 50-- really-- you get a new and wonderful freedom so not to worry. JudyBEe-- I'm hoping for wisdom too. At the moment all I'm sure I have is experience :-) Jerilee and ST-- you ladies both rock and are two of my very favorites here on Hubpages. Thanks for reading and commenting and ST-- you are most welcome for the link:)


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

A wonderful answer to the question I asked, robie! We might just win this one! You write so well, so descriptive, so humorous. And your hub hits home. I'm 45, so I'm starting to feel just the way you described as 50 looms closer and closer. Thank you for this hub. One of my favorites. I'm going to have to bookmark it to read again. Voted up and everything else. Sharing, too!


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AudreyHowitt 4 years ago from California

Really well-written! I am right in the middle of the 50s. And they are so different than my 40s. You really do look toward the back half--


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WD Curry 111 4 years ago from Space Coast

I know what you mean. I've been hip since hip was hep! I remember when George Carlon was a kid. I work with twenty somethings. They think the Beatles were Ringo's first back up band. I recognize the celebrities, I just can't stand them. I think the biggest problem with marking time in our culture is that we have trends instead of tradition. The old Native American elder was the bomb!


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Thanks, Victoria Lynn, for asking the question and nothing could warm this writer's house more than your kind words.

Audrey, thanks to you too for reading and sharing your own experience here

WD-- I remember when hip was hep too -- nice turn of phrase-- and I don't know if I care as much about traditions as you do, but I am about as fond of " trends" as I am of "polls" which means I don't like either of them.


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WD Curry 111 4 years ago from Space Coast

I like people from Polland, I just want them to hang up and drive!

Hey check this guy out in the ad. What can they do for his face?


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diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico

Hi. Good article.

All I know is 72 is the new 110!!

Bob


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Haha WD-- there are Polls and then there are Poles-hahaha

Hello Diogenes--the truth will out :-) thanks for stopping by and injecting a note of humor into the proceedings


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eolikes 4 years ago from Bangladesh

wow.. Beautifully written :)


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grinnin1 4 years ago from st louis,mo

Great hub, and rings so true. I think the harder we try to run from it, the more we realize we can't. Really well written, funny and thoughtful article- Thank you!


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Thank you eolikes-- must say I like your taste in writing:-) off to follow you now.

Grinnin1-- yes, that is it. we can run but we can't hide LOL glad you liked it and thanks for taking the time to read and comment. I'm off to look at your hubs and follow you too.


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Chuck 4 years ago from Tucson, Arizona

As a member of the boomer generation I can still remember when 30 was considered over the hill in terms of age (by those of us in our late teens and early twenties.

As far as I am concerned it is all attitude. We can either choose to obsess about our age or accept the fact that we are getting older and continue to enjoy life. I recently heard about a woman, in her eighties, who retired in her early fifties after concluding that she had reached old age and there wasn't much life left for her. Thirty some years later, she is still alive and healthy but waiting to die and doesn't realize that, by giving up on living she has just thirty years of what could have been a happy and productive living.


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Absolutely, Chuck-- like they say "it is better to trim the sails than to try to change the wind" Obsessing on anything gets you nowhere and life is for living in the moment whatever age you are-- so exactly when middle age begins or ends really doesn't matter. I love the George Carlin video -- it really says it all. Thanks for stopping by. Nice to see you:-)


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christianajohan 4 years ago

Nice photo expression you have. I like your hub being an interesting mind. Keep up with it.


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cookies4breakfast 4 years ago from coastal North Carolina

Voted up and with thanks. As someone who will see 50 in a few years, it helps to hear someone who has crossed that bridge declare it's not the end of the world. I'm really struggling with the physical realities of not being a spring chicken any longer, and menopause (to me, the most dreaded word ever) is right here in my face. But, it's not over til it's over, and I still have a lot of kicking up my heels to do. I just hope I don't hurt anything in the process. lol


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Ginn Navarre 4 years ago

Well, I just came in from mowing lawn so I will add my two-cents worth. Yes I'm Jerilee's wacko mom above--and I have written several hubs on this very subject.

1. Don't loose your attitude--GET ONE

2. You have a freedom now that is what ever you make it.

3. I quit looking in the mirror at 60 and that did help.

4. Keep you hands and body busy and your mind will follow.

P.S. DID I MENTION THAT I JUST TURNED 80?


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Christianajohann-- thanks for the kind words and for reading and commenting.

cookies4breakfast-- Turning 50 is a piece of cake-- especially when you consider the alternative:-) Honestly-- you won't believe it now but the best is yet to come. Check out Ginn Navarre-- she's 80 and still mows her own lawn

Right Ginn? Yes of course I know you are Jerilee's mother, but I think you are far from crazy. You are that amazing woman who at 80 is still writing novels and getting them published and who gives great advice and is an inspiration to the rest of us. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your wisdom here-- much appreciated and I'm going right over to your profile to read those hubs you wrote on the same subject.


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WD Curry 111 4 years ago from Space Coast

I'm not saying you don't look good, but I thought your avatar was groovy.


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Thanks WD:-) I'll probably go back to the avatar in a few days, but I wanted to put the real me up for just a bit-- this hub kind of cried out for an authentic picture and I'm doing a little research to see if I get more traffic with the avatar or with the real me. I think the avatar is pretty groovy myself:-)


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cookies4breakfast 4 years ago from coastal North Carolina

Ginn and Robie--you have given me a laugh and a lot of smiles this morning. Thanks for the lift!


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Smiling is good, cookies-- very good-- and it makes getting older a lot easier.


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healthwriterbob 4 years ago from United States

Hi robie2,

I could not agree with you more. I have often said: "Fifty is fifty is fifty." No matter what your mental disposition about aging is, the body itself slowly becomes less efficient with all functions as we get older. Voted up and interesting.


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mackyi 4 years ago from Philadelphia

Great hub. They say "Life begins at fifty",so I believe it's the functional age that matters most and not the chronological age so much! The way I look at, it is that, when you get to the age of 50, think of yourself as being fortunate, because there so many people who have not made it to this mark.


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Hi Healthwriter-- I love people who agree with me:-) You and I are totally on the same page so extra thanks for stopping by and commenting

Hi Mckyi-- and I agree with you totally about being grateful for each day. Life is precious and aging really isn't so bad when you consider the alternative. Thanks for commenting


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Hady Chahine 4 years ago from Manhattan Beach

Nice hub! I do what I can to stay fit and feel young and healthy, but I have accepted and appreciate my wrinkles and graying hair. ;)


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Glad you liked it Hady and thanks for stopping by and taking the time to read and comment.


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Eliminate Cancer 4 years ago from Massachusetts

Part of the reason that we are statistically living longer, is that there are less accidents, and young children dying from fatal illness. Yes, life expectancy is creeping up, but your point is well made - we are still aging.

Great hub! I personally am enjoying getting older - but then I find wrinkles attractive - especially when they smile :)


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susiempn 4 years ago from Michigan

Great hub! Now if we can only convince society to stop its obsession with youth and have it begin to appreciate the 50 and above group for what they truly have to offer, fifty won't be so scary.


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Good point susiempn. Fifty would be much less scary for both men and women if people knew they would still be valued when they got old. Strangely enough I find that GenY values age and wisdom much more than Gen X and the baby boomers ( that's a gross generalization I know, but it is based on my personal experience with no science to back it up) thanks for commenting.


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AnnaCia 4 years ago

One phrase I do not like when a person turns 50 plus is "she/he STILL..." Still? what does that mean, right? 4 more years and I ll be 50...brrr! No, I wont be able to put back the clock but the way I see life now is so different and gets better everyday. On the other hand, fifty means more wrinkles and pain.


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

haha -- as in he is 50 and STILL likes the circus-- well, whatever fifty is, it is a milestone and I am here to tell you that once you have passed that milestone there is a wonderful freedom and enjoyment of life to be savored one golden moment at a time...more wrinkles yes, more pain-- nahhhh


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CR Rookwood 4 years ago from Moonlight Maine

AWESOME hub. Voted up all the way across!

Thank you for saying this. It might seem obvious but judging by the media you'd think that anyone who ages or admits aging happens is just a big pussy, and if you only try a little harder you can stay fit and attractive and sexual into your 90s.

Bleh. That doesn't even sound good! I turned 59 recently. I'd rather read a good book or have an ice cream cone than have hot sex, and I don't really care what anybody thinks about my ass. Thank you, thank you. Sanity is always appreciated. Keep on spreading it around. :)


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Shadesbreath 4 years ago from California

Awesome, beautifully written, and sadly true. I'm 45, and it's funny, I started going to the grocery store more often with my wife than I used to (because I am so awesome and attentive), and now I look at the magazines and I see these people and I'm like, "Who the hell is that nancy-boy?" or "Woah, how is there a super-hot actress I've never heard of?" They do the announcements for who is coming on Jay Leno or Letterman or whatever during the local news at night, and it's the same. "Tonight, Jay sits with Blah Blah from Blah Blah," and I'm like, "Uh, so?" lol. Anyway, you hit this topic fabulously. Rock on.


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Jewels 4 years ago from Australia

Great article Robie2, the truth is the truth is the truth. I remember the time I discovered mortality, it wasn't a nice feeling. A wakeup call it was and personally I rather like denial!


girltalksshop 4 years ago

Insightful hub. Interesting and useful. As some might say...'time is not always on our side'. Only time will tell. ;)


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

:-) and thank you girltalkshop for taking the "time" to read and comment on this hub... much appreciated


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Hi Jewels-- good to see you-- yes, well, about denial-- somebody called it " the shock absorber of the soul" which I thought was a rather delightful way of putting it.... and it is indeed that among other things. I must say that for myself, I feel a sense of relief having accepted my mortality-- and a kind of serenity. I'm no longer scared of it having looked it in the eye.


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Thelma Alberts 4 years ago from Germany

Wow! Very well written. I came across this hub and was eager to read it as I am over 50 and wanted to know how the other feel about being at this age. I agree with what you have written here. Voted up!


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Hello Thelma:-) Glad you liked the hub and thanks for taking the time to comment and for the up vote-- much appreciated.


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Lilleyth 4 years ago from Mid-Atlantic

What a lovely hub robie2! The video is just wonderful too. Everything you wrote hit the nail on the head. Thumbs up.


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Sharyn's Slant 4 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

Excellent article Robie ~ I was certainly drawn to it since I will be the big five oh in 11 days to be exact, ha. I have many thoughts, feelings and emotions about it all and am trying to write something . . . we'll see how that works out. Anyway, I really enjoyed this and truly laughed out loud at the comic strip at the end. SO funny.

Sharyn


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Happy Birthday Sharyn--and thanks for the great comment. I promise that life after fifty is fabulous and you are going to have some wonderful years ahead.


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Why thank you Lilleth-- and what a lovely comment. Thank you so much. I'm glad you enjoyed the hub and thanks for stopping by. ( sorry I got a little out of order with my responses-- I mixed you and Sharyn up-- should have done you first, then her, but nevermind.... it all comes out in the wash as they say LOL)


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fiftyish 4 years ago from UK & Southeast Asian Region

Hi Robie, love your hub.

I've been writing on some of these very issues and any man that tells you he's not bothered about ageing is - bothered! Those who don't go on about it are less so, in my experience.

Even so, becoming 50 doesn't mean we have one-foot in the grave, far from it, and for those lucky in health, the best may be yet to come ;-)

My favourite saying of all time, is an old English proverb, and goes like this;

A man is not old until his dreams become regrets’ (man, can of course, be changed to woman ;-))

Andy


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Hi Andy-- thanks for a great comment. Glad you enjoyed this one-- I'm on my way over to check out your Hubs on becoming ( ahem ) what we like to call " chronologically gifted" Thanks for stopping by.


whowas 4 years ago

Hi Robie,

This is a beautiful, engaging and challenging hub. I needn't mention the quality of the writing because anyone who reads you frequently will already know to expect excellence.

This is a very refreshingly honest voice. So many myths arise from that one thing over which we still have no control: ageing and dying. Acceptance would bring and end to much that is bad in our human world.

Death itself has no sting for me. I am not afraid of the non-existence before the constellation of consciousness in my brain so I can have no rational fear of the non-existence to come. However, we do well to remember that if we grow older (rather than dying younger by sudden accident or disease) then there may be many years of slow decrepitude to face. That is surely worth taking into account.

At the same time, life is so wonderful that there is much, even with the increasing limitations of advancing years, to be deeply enjoyed and shared.

You're riding along on the railroad happy as can be. Then, for some reason and quite a way down the line, you realize that you only have a one-way ticket. The train hurtles on. There's no going back. What do you do?

Take the wisdom of Robie to heart: relax and enjoy the ride.

I am stuffed full with admiration for you. Thank you so much.


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robie2 4 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Well hello whowas-- what a beautifully crafted comment and thank you so much for the kind words. You are definitely not without talent in the wordsmith department yourself, so I am doubly flattered and delighted you enjoyed this one. Thanks for stopping by. It is always a pleasure to see you.


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That Grrl 3 years ago from Barrie, Ontario, Canada

Turning 30, 40 or even the coming 50 don't bother me. I have a melt down at 28, 38 and this year at 48. By the time the real milestone comes along I'm all over it.


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CarNoobz 3 years ago from USA

For me, I think my 30 was the new 50. I put on so much weight in my 30s, it's not even funny. Now I'm pushing 38 and I feel older than my Dad.

Weight = Years =/


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robie2 3 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Hi That Grrl and CarNoobz-- every decade is its own trauma I think, whether you start thinking about it a year or two early or not-- the surprise is the reality of aging and the fact that no matter what, we can't turn back the clock. And I hear you CarNoobz and I would say that the closest thing there is to a fountain of youth is exercise. If Weight=Years, then Exercise= Staying Young. It has worked for me every time, but the hard part is just doing it( like Nike says)


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CarNoobz 3 years ago from USA

Well said. I think my motto has been, "Just eat it."

Time for a new motto LOL


Beth37 2 years ago

Hahaha. Just the title alone makes me laugh. Why am I reading this article? I should be reading your stop smoking articles. I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed, but this one drew my attention. I didn't mind hitting 40, but 43 made me a bit uncomfortable. Im 45 now, but I'm snowballing. I'll be 80 before I blink. Tell me it slows down for a minute at some point.


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robie2 2 years ago from Central New Jersey Author

Hi Beth and thanks for reading and commenting ( and for identifying with the topic LOL) Life is funny. It seems to slow down only if you stay in the immediate moment and savor that without looking back at the past or worrying about the future too much. Now is where the magic is for sure. Enjoy your forties, fifties and more because there is still lots of life left to savor. Every decade has its particular sweetness.


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Glenn Stok 19 months ago from Long Island, NY

Great article Roberta, and I definitely can relate to it. I'll be turning 65 this year and I'm not aware of it. I somehow got stuck in my 40's, but only in my mind.

I've made a few mistakes of not recognizing that my body isn't the same and I pushed it a little too much. I tore my rotator cuff, not knowing that a man in his 60's should not lift heavy things over his head. I wish someone told me that before I injured it. Nevertheless, life goes on.


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robie2 19 months ago from Central New Jersey Author

Hi Glenn and ouch on the rotator cuff. I did that years ago lifting hand weights at the gym.... got a little cocky LOL it takes a long time to heal, but it eventually does. Fortunately, one of the good things that comes with age is patience. I still have a long way to go, but I am better than I used to be for sure. Great seeing you and thanks for taking the time to comment... oh and happy 65th birthday.


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FatBoyThin 15 months ago from Kinneff, Scotland

Hi Roberta - great Hub, but I can't say that I agree with you on this. I'm 54 and I think the phrase '50 is the new 40' simply means that people act differently than they used to at that age. When I was growing up, old people WERE old - they dressed old, they talked old and they acted old. I don't think this is about wanting to stay young, but more like living a life rather than simply thinking ' Oh my God, I'll be dead soon!'


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robie2 15 months ago from Central New Jersey Author

Thanks, FatBoyThin, for a great comment and glad y ou enjoyed the Hub. I suppose there are many different interpretations of the phrase " 50 is the new 40" and mine is only one of them. Yours also has merit and it all boils down to individual interpretation anyway. I just think that there is a lot of wishful thinking that goes on during the decade of the 50's which I also call " the lying to yourself and others about your age" decade LOL. We all come to terms with our own mortality in our own way and one way or another, nature opens our eyes to the fact that our time here is limited one way or another.


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Elsie Hagley 9 months ago from New Zealand

What an interesting article, wish I could go back to that age, I didn't consider that I was old even in my seventies.

These days since I had my cancer operation last May, I'm happy to see a new day, wishful thing, hope to see my 100th birthday, but I now feel older.

Let's enjoy the years we have left, all the best for 2016.


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robie2 9 months ago from Central New Jersey Author

Hi Elsie, and thanks for taking the time to read and comment. Really nice to see you here. And I am so totally with you on enjoying the years we have left, no matter how many they may be..... but I am hoping you make 100 too :-)


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Elsie Hagley 9 months ago from New Zealand

Thanks Robie for that nice statement,"Hope you make 100 also".

Blessings to you my new friend.


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robie2 9 months ago from Central New Jersey Author

So far so good, Elsie...... Each day is a new beginning and let's have many more between the two of us :-)

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