Why Do We Become More Emotional and Cry More As We Get Older?

I have noticed that as I have got older, (now 38), I cry so much more easily than I did when younger. I wonder why this is, as in my teenage years, not to mention my twenties, I could watch the most depressing programmes and although I cared, I was rarely inclined to break down in tears.

As a child I would watch the Lassie films, and yes, I did cry to those, (especially "Lassie Come Home"), but apart from that, and the normal things children cry over, such as falling over and cutting open their knees, or getting in trouble with my Mum, I seldom cried at all. It was only when I hit my thirties I suddenly seemed to undergo some kind of metamorphosis, and now I can easily end up in floods of tears over a sad movie, or a murder case on Forensic Detectives. Does this mean I am losing the plot, or is this normal?

Thesedays I can cry over the silliest things, such as watching an episode of "The Secret Millionaire", (where a millionaire goes under cover in an underprivileged area, finds good causes, volunteers to help free of charge, and at the end of a week or so, donates large sums of money to the causes he or she felt the most deserving of his or her help).

I break down in tears over people dying in Soaps for Christ's sake, yet this is not logical when I know it is only an actor, who undergoes a rapid recovery as soon as the cameras are switched off.

Even watching programmes such as "Extreme Makeover Home Edition", can leave me in a right state, as I feel so touched by the people who put in the money, time and effort to build these people a new home that is far nicer than any home most of us could hope for.

Does this mean something is wrong with me? If so, what? I mean, this never used to happen to me, but now I seem to have suddenly become a changed person, and I don't even mind the fact I cry so easily, as to me it shows I have compassion and care about others, (not to say I didn't before, but now it makes me break down in tears in a way I never felt the need to before).

Hell, I even cry over seeing a mistreated, starved dog being brought back to health and re-homed in programmes like "Animal Cops Houston" on Sky!

I have ended up in tears over the end of such series as "The West Wing", although this could be explained by the fact my late Husband loved watching it too, and never got to see the end of the series, so I felt as if something really important had come to an end when it did!

I can cry over "The X Factor", when I hear of a story of someone who has suffered such great hardship in their lives, and is also a fantastic singer, and now is their chance to make something of themselves. When they get through I feel their emotion as if it were my own, and so want them to do well in the following rounds.

If someone shows me a kindness, or empathises with a situation I am in, I end up tearful. If I see someone else lose a loved one I cry. If I even contemplate the ultimate death of my currently living relatives, I break down and cry.

So is it something about getting older, and if so, what, hormones? I really don't know the answer, but I think I like myself better for being this way as it proves to me I do have feelings that matter and I care for everyone and everything.

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VioletSun 8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

I don't think everyone who gets older becomes more emotional or sensitive, it depends on how the individual reacts to life; some become quite hardened. Sounds like you have opened up your heart even more (not that you were not loving before, as you mentioned) and you allow yourself  feel compassion and empathy; could it be because of your husband's suffering and passing? After my sister's son passed away, she was always a loving person, but a bit tough; now she cries even during commercials, feels a deep compassion for others, (is going to open a foundation when the $$$ becomes available) and yet she is stronger nowadays. As for me, I have always been a crybaby, LOL, very emotional, but oddly when it comes to facing an emergency, a crisis, I am usually very calm because long ago, I learned how to detach so I could function with mental and emotinal clarity.


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mistyhorizon2003 8 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Yes, I can still function, but I feel pain in a way I never did before, not sure why, I guess we are all different. :)


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trish1048 8 years ago

Hi Misty,

Perhaps you've reached a point in your life where your mind isn't cluttered with things you experienced in your teens and twenties. Just a guess. I wouldn't be concerned with it personally, as it just reveals a loving compassionate nature. The times and reasons we cry are many. I am so much like you. I watch a lot of the same shows you do, and cry every time. A big contributor to my crying is music. Give me a song that is filled with love, or love gone wrong and I'm crying a river. Sometimes it can be as innocent as a thought or memory that will trigger my tears. One of the things I love to do is pick out cards for my family and friends. The one I ultimately pick will be heartfelt and could be interpreted as gut-wrenching. My daughter and I have kind of a rating factor when it comes to cards. If the tears start before you finish reading, it's a hit. Silly I know.

Anyway, I do feel that hormones are sometimes a factor. I think age has nothing to do with it. Just be thankful that you aren't made of stone, with a heart as cold as ice :)

Interesting hub!


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Shalini Kagal 8 years ago from India

Probably because you get more sentimental as you grow older. When you're young, you're so much in the 'now' and let's face it - rather self centred because of that - not always selfish but self centred. As you grow older, while you are practical when it comes to everyday chores, memories and feelings evoke sentimental reactions - and each person reacts depending to how sensitive he or she is!

We're all at the age when we do get sentimental over a song, a movie, a fragrance or poem. Maybe we should cherish the fact that we can feel so deeply :)


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Just_Rodney 8 years ago from Johannesberg South Africa, The Gold Mine City

Maybe you like a lot of us that are growing older, just getting a wee bit soft and soppy. A lot of us phsychotheropists, call it maturing, or mellowing out and finding your true self.


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agvulpes 8 years ago from Australia

Misty, I'll pass thanks I got too emotional!


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mistyhorizon2003 8 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Trish, thanks for commenting, nice answer, and I love the fact you can cry over a card, as I haven't quite achieved that one yet :)

Shalini, I think you are right, it is good that we can feel so deeply. Thanks for posting .

Rodney, I like the sound of it simply being "mellowing out and finding your true self". Thanks for the post.

agvulpes, please don't cry, would you like a hanky, sniff!


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agvulpes 8 years ago from Australia

Sniff Sniff Thanks Luv.


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ripplemaker 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Hi Misty, I was smiling as I read your hub. I guess when we start allowing ourselves to feel and not let the mind get in the way of feeling, the emotions just come rolling in. LOL You are right, it's wonderful to feel. I know because I am like you too :)


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mistyhorizon2003 8 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks ripplemaker, it is so nice to know it isn't just me who feels this way :)


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Feline Prophet 8 years ago from India

Misty...it's definitely something to do with growing older. I find myself getting weepy at the oddest things these days when I might not have flinched at the same even ten years ago. Mid-life blues making themselves felt perhaps? :)


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mistyhorizon2003 8 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I agree totally, I found myself getting emotional after watching '911' last night but one, simply because of the amazing stories of operators talking the caller through the emergency in question.


p.d 8 years ago

thanks


pd 8 years ago

thank


Bryan 6 years ago

Wow this started happening to me too. Now 31. I am or was an athlete taught not to complain about bruses etc...and quite frankly not to hurt at all. I am 6'0 245lb dude that only cried at two movies when I was younger...Bambie, when the mother was shot, and Transformers (80's), when Optimus Prime was killed. But now I just think of crap and start tearing up. I complained to close friends about it, a very select few. Im tearing at nearly every movie where there is a sad part, where as before I either didn't care or laughed at the misery. WTF is going on.

I dont know if its related but during this time I have lost interest in weight lifting. When I try to go it ends up being around 3 times a month if at all. My muscle mass has noticably changed at least in my eyes although other claim different. I am at a loss.


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Bryan, I can't answer exactly what causes it, although I know I suffer from this too. I can only guess it may partly be down to hormonal changes we experience as we mature. It can also be caused by excesses of substances such as alcohol, but in general it seems fairly normal for this to happen to people when they get past their 20's and sometimes their 30's.

It is a little frustrating as it can be embarrassing in public, yet at the same time it is nice to feel that you have the ability to care so deeply now!


Bryan 6 years ago

Lol...it is annoying, very annoying. Its as if I were losing control of my bladder and urinating all the time, just this time its through my tear ducts.

I dont drink or smoke.

I mean literally start watering up over what I'd consider "nothing." Now my eyes water, my throat tightens up, agggghhh....Is there a doctor in the house.


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Yep, totally get it, I have exactly the same problems and dread anyone speaking to me in case I can't answer because I am too choked up. Hubby thinks it is sweet, but I still find it embarrassing even in front of him.

I recently watched something on our local pub's TV on the whole 911 incident, and ended up with tears rolling down my cheeks in a pub full of people. Even the Landlord came up and patted me on the back to comfort me!


Gmorninsun 6 years ago

Thanks so much for your hub, misty. I, personally, think it's part of "growing up". Blinders off; experiences, ability to go beyond our natural self-centeredness when younger. It's all good. :)


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Gmorninsun you make very good points and I reckon it probably is a good thing all in all :)


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camlo 6 years ago from Cologne, Germany

I've found the same thing -- but only as far as TV is concerned. The same type of shows you mention here. Of course, when I was younger, there wasn't much of that sort of thing on TV, so perhaps it has something to do with that, rather than me getting older and less self-centred or whatever ... Here in Germany, T-Mobile advertise using Paul Pott's TV debut on 'Britain's Got Talent' with his rendition of Nessun Dorma. Every time (about once every half an hour on some channels), my throat tightens and tears seep from my eyes. It's terrible when there's somebody about ...

Must say, this Hub had me smiling.

And good to know that it's a normal occurrence.

All the best, Camlo


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks for the great comment Camlo, I am very pleased it made you smile as well :)


BJ 6 years ago

WOW! Just wow! It started happening to me about 2 years ago probably. I am now 30. It doesn't even have to be something sad. It can be something that I think is really cool. Like the other day I was watching "Angel" with my 7 year old and got choked up during a fight seen where I was explaining what was going to happen since I had seen it before. It doesn't matter if it's sad, happy, gross, etc. All I know is it happens all the time to me. If I were to guess at a number I would say 15 - 30 times a day I get choked up and almost cry. WHY????


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi BJ, yes, you are so right, it can be happy or amazing stuff as well as sad, and even programs that are fiction can cause this, (BTW, I love Angel too).

It does get easier to manage I promise, but it might take a year or two, and I don't know how far you are into that period of time.

No idea why this happens apart from hormones I guess.

Thanks for the comment and good feedback :)


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abchs_princess 6 years ago

I really hope that this hub is not something so much true :) Why I say this is because I just passed 20, and I am soooo emotional, that people around me does not know what to do. Sometimes is funny, but sometimes is even for me "GOD HELP ME!". I can cry watching movie, cartoon.. Once I felt tears in my eyes when I was waiting for flight that was 3 hours late, and when finally we got to plane, stewardess started apologizing and so on (she must apologizing so nice hahaha)... I was just thinking "What is wrong with you?" So, I really hope that by years I will become LESS EMOTIONAL, or I feel sorry for people around me :)


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Sorry abchs_princess, but I doubt it will get less as the years go on unless you are very unusual. On a positive note with your past experience you might find it easier to cope with than most.


Tunde 6 years ago

I really relate to this and I hopefully googled to see if this action of mine was "queer" so to say. I'm not further down the age yard (excuse my choice of phrase) and I'm a guy so it always comes as a surprise and I retaliate with anger when I get emotional say after watching a program that ends up with someone's happiness or fulfillment. I'm glad you took to writing out your experience and I've learned from it.


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thank you for sharing Tunde, I am glad you found this hub beneficial too.


robin 6 years ago

have you ever taken a walk and listen to the birds singing their symphony, have you taken the time to smell a clean breeze as it blows by, when you get up in the morning and you look in the mirror, do you see your reflection or the person in front of you. give someone a smile today you have plenty.


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Lovely words Robin, thanks for posting them here.


Salma pathan 6 years ago

yeah very much true I totally agree tat one becomes emotional as they grow old. The reasons are lot like ....getting old,fat accumulation in body,cannot easily accept physical changes,lots of responsibilities, getting departed from parents,brothers and sisters,off course even from close friends,love depression,infidelity,job stress,insecure,brining up children,incompatible with life partner or life style,unhappy with things,difficulties in handling relationships, there are too many factors which lead us emotional in life as we grow up....isn't it :)))).


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Salma, but what I find odd is that even when you have none of those issues going on, you still seem to become more inclined to get emotional and tearful over such things as a touching story on the news. We also seem to cry more at happy things too, not just sad things.


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illeagle 6 years ago

I would strongly suggest that you stop watching television and stop listening to music. When we allow things to manipulate our emotions we are giving up control of our minds. Experiencing certain emotions like fear and anger can also damage our health. So, in a sense, by allowing tv to invoke our emotions, we are committing slow suicide. The media is a master at manipulating people emotionally. Hype sells. Don't buy it. Our emotions also attract like events into our lives, so it would be wise to have some command over what energy we are resonating. Most emotions are based on illusions. As Guy Finley says, "Our feelings are real, but the reasons for them are not." I would like to be more 'positive', but sometimes we just need to face the truth.

In truth, in spirit, in liberty


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Interesting feedback illeagle, but surely cocooning ourselves away from the world by not watching TV or listening to music etc is really not the answer. It would be like a self-imposed jail sentence including solitary confinement. It isn't just TV and music that can open up these emotions either, it can be something as simple as a person telling you a a part of their life story that is particularly sad! Are we not supposed to talk to people either? It sounds like a lifestyle tantamount to living on a high dose of Prozac or Valium, no emotions, just existence based on it being as long as can be achieved. A little bit like being a member of the "Borg" in Star Trek.


Joyce 6 years ago

I am 54 and have an awesome 3 1/2 yr old grandson. Seems I cry over thinking about losing him or anyone else in my family. He and they mean so much to me and even like now, he has a stuffy runny nose and I feel so sorry for him and had to go in the bedroom and cry. Plus as family members get older, I worry about losing them. I lost a brother 5 yrs ago at 51. maybe that has something to do, but feel like I can't come out of this. On depression and anxiety meds but still feel this way. Any suggestions? I am a christian to boot.


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I wish I could help you Joyce, but I have not got the answer as I often feel much the same way as you do. Counselling might help you if you tried it, or you could search for a support group for people suffering from depression. The anti-depressants and anxiety meds might not be the right ones for you, and you should discuss with your Doctor trying alternatives as there are many such meds on the market. I get emotional virtually daily now, usually in the evenings and feel very low emotionally, but I battle on through it in the hope I will have a good day the next day.

Good Luck


Joyce 6 years ago

Thanks Mistyhorizon2003. It just helps to hear I'm not alone but I don't wished this upon others either. I will talk to my dr again. Been on a lot of different combos but I'm sure there is one that can help.

Joyce


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Joyce, I am sure you can improve how you feel with the right meds combo, but at the same time I would not expect you to become completely emotionally 'numb' so you will still cry and feel emotional at various times, it is just it will be more under control.


Vix 6 years ago

I think it's because when you're young, you haven't much to be sentimental about... because you're still young! Now that my kids are past the half way "growing up" point, things hit me a lot harder (boy that empty nest is gonna be a killer!)

When you're in your late thirties and up, you look back on a lot of things and you can see just how fast time flies. My kids are close in age, and when they all left toddlerhood, I had a few short years where they were "kids". Suddenly I had teenagers. My teens are delightful and very respectful and fun (and hilariously funny) so I have no complaints... but what I wouldn't do to go back and grab my toddlers and rock them to sleep once more, or skate and play Legos with my grade-school kids.

Also over time you develop empathy. It is cultivated in young adulthood (we hope) and by the time you realize you have it, here it comes full force. I used to be the most even-keeled person. But now my emotional-ness often catches me by surprise. It's not a bad thing unless it's a hormonal or chemical imbalance (even that can be helped). If it gets bad for people, a doctor visit is in order.

Mostly for me, it helps to do something about the thing I'm emotional about. Cruelty and neglect to animals really bothers me, so my kids and I (and hubby) rescue horses. Maybe when my kids move out and I'm missing them, I can become a foster parent and make a difference, who knows!

Even the cotton commercials that can make us cry is, I believe, due to our realization that we are only here on earth for just a minute. So we should make every minute count :)


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Wow Vix, what a wonderful and heartfelt comment. You are clearly very insightful and a brilliant loving Mother. There isn't much more I can say other than stating that I think you are correct on so many levels as is made obvious in your words of wisdom. Thank you.


dennis teel 6 years ago

i've always been a bit of a softie anyway,and i as i got older i of course would tear up even easier and sooner/i love christmas movies so it looks like i'd better have the tissues by the tv all through this holiday season(sigh)


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mistyhorizon2003 6 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Dennis, I guess all things considered it is better to be emotionally capable rather than emotionless, and if we do need our tissues at the ready whenever we watch a sad film, or even hear an inspiring story of extreme heroism or bravery, then it isn't such a bad thing. It is our ability to feel such things that makes us human. Thanks so much for commenting.


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J Sunhawk 5 years ago from South Carolina

I cried when they killed Godzilla before he destroyed Tokyo. I think you're completely normal.


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mistyhorizon2003 5 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

That is exactly the kind of thing I would cry over too J Sunhawk.


5 years ago

I am a 34 yr old male. I have had little to no emotion about much since I was little and have just recently noticed these changes. Exactly as you explain. I was thinking im losing it. Glad to see Im not losing it alone!

Salud!


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mistyhorizon2003 5 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi e, thanks for commenting and sharing your experience of this. No, clearly you are not 'losing it', and this is very normal, just a bit disconcerting when you aren't used to it. Of course a person suffering from certain conditions such as depression might be even more emotional still at this point in their lives, a sort of 'double whammy' effect, but sounds like you are perfectly normal.


Netfreak 5 years ago

I don't know what to make of all this... I get deeply sentimental and it hurts deeply when I think of my youths, my pareants brothers and sisters.. and many other things.

It all brings me in a depressing mode.

My question is, How can I life with it without have to feel so sad?

Thanks


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mistyhorizon2003 5 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Netfreak, there is no easy answer to how you can live with it. We all just have to, and keep on reminding ourselves of all the good times and the happy memories we still have. If it really began to depress you seriously enough to be a cause for concern, then I would suggest speaking to a Doctor about anti-depressants.


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CMerritt 5 years ago from Pendleton, Indiana

Misty you know now that you mention it........what is up with that!!

I can hardly make it through an episode of little house on the prairie without having to get up and run out to my garage and fire up a power tool to man up myself a bit.

I was never that way until the last few years....

I just found this hub and boy did it make me think....


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mistyhorizon2003 5 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi CMerritt, Golly, I haven't seen an episode of Little House on the Prairie for about 30 years. Based on your experience I think I will leave it another 30 lol.

Guess we will both just have to cope with that 'emotional overload' we have to endure at our age :)


eric ryan 5 years ago

I cant believe I found this site! I too am over emotional. But this started years ago in my mid 30s and is getting more intense. I cry if something is sad or happy or if I see something beautiful or someone doing something they are passionate about. I just had a great jag tonight watching a 2 legged dog on TV! But, the weird thing with me is there is a strange detachment. Meaning a good friend can tell me something is going on with them and I will be concerned, but if I see someone I do not know tell the same story on TV I bawl. Its very strange, but you all made me feel less of a mess, lol!


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mistyhorizon2003 5 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Don't worry Eric, I totally 'get it'. I 'well up' about loads of things on TV, but probably less so if it is a friend or family telling me the same kind of thing. No idea why this is, unless it is just easier to let emotions out when it is 'less personal'. I don't think we are alone by a long way, this is normal, but disconcerting when you don't realise just how many others are experiencing the same thing but don't talk about it.

BTW, the two legged dog would have had the same effect on me too :)


LoveKate 5 years ago

OMG this it happens to others too?

I'm 37 years old and male and I'm like as a kid what you described, hardly ever cried over anything. One of parents used to say things like "real men don't cry" and always told me I have "nerves of steel". Just for an example, I can remember being about 8 years old watching ET movie and everyone was crying except me and this one parent.

Then I turned 30 or so and I found myself wanting to cry over things I would never have thought I would. Things like on TV where people have missing loved ones or loved ones being killed or just generally sad situations.

Thing is, I want to cry, like I have that golf ball sized lump in my throat but I still cannot bring myself to actually produce tears probably because I'm still that little boy that's beibg told im not suppose to cry :(


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mistyhorizon2003 5 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

It is so sad that boys are brought up to believe crying is not manly. Some of the most masculine men I know I have seen choked up or crying over various things, be it the loss of a pet, a sad film or whatever. To me this always came across as an admirable trait, not a sign of weakness. I really hope you find a way to let this pent up emotion out, and not feel like you shouldn't. Honestly, after all these years of not letting it out I reckon you will feel miles better once you do. Personally the thing that always gets me crying within a minute or so of watching, is any footage relating to the Twin Towers and 9/11. I am in bits when I watch those documentaries.


disc0 5 years ago

This definitely is related to life experience, in my opinion.

During my late teens/early twenties.. I was known for being cold.. a heart of nails I used to think to myself and I used to make fun of my mother for crying at silly things on TV!

But, after once finding true love, I would well up just looking into her eyes. Then there was a bad break-up and I was pretty distraught at the time. It is after this that I too now cry at most sad (and jubilant) events.. particularly TV.

I don't think it's a bad thing.. but I wish I had more control over it sometimes..


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mistyhorizon2003 5 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks for posting your experiences disc0, You may well be right, and I think life experiences have a large part to play in this, even if only because in many cases we 'identify' with situations and recognise them as similar to things we went through. Perhaps experiencing pain for ousrselves is what helps to wake up our inner emotions!


Retired Blue 5 years ago

I was a police officer for 35 years. There is very little that life has to dish out that I haven't experienced. While working I could handle it all with nary a tear ever. Since I've retired sad movies, happy movies move me to tears and I mean flowing tears I cannot control. It has also worsened since I split with my wife three years ago, I cried for months after that. Then a year after that I lost my oldest adult son who died from a heart attack while vacationing out of the country. Although I was able to handle all the necessary things I was unable to speak at internment and had to have a friend read a eulogy for me. I still cry myself to sleep at times. And the movies,and even commercials still move me to tears. I have a feeling it may have something to do with having to have yourself under control to get your job done (police work) so it's a sense of duty that gets you through. Now that I'm retired there's no duty, so the emotions try to catch up on what they were unable to do before????


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mistyhorizon2003 5 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

You may well be right 'Retired Blue', plus it could be very possible you are suffering from depression based on the loss of your Son and the break up of your marriage. Maybe some anti-depressents could help, or even some counseling. No parent should outlive their children, and this is why it is one of the hardest losses. My Grandmother lost two of her Sons (my Uncle's) and we are sure that this is what caused her to give up and die. I think she died of a broken heart.


David 5 years ago

I am a Marine and have been pretty emotionless for all my life and find myself getting choked at the most simple things now. Is there something I can do to stop this? It pretty embarrassing and exhausting to continuously fight back tears and I'm so tired of not understanding why and what is happening to me. I'm 28 yrs old and stilll have 10 yrs left until I retire from the Corps. and any help would be greatly appreciative.


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mistyhorizon2003 5 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi David, I am not sure there is a solution, or even if showing our emotions should be considered as 'a problem'. You could be suffering from depression too of course, which would probably be helped by antidepressants if you see a doctor, or from counseling if you get referred to a counselor. I know you probably don't think it is ideal to get 'choked' up as a marine, but trust me when I say it is not a sign of weakness, and just shows you care and are sensitive. Most women find the fact a man can show his emotions incredibly attractive. It certainly doesn't make you less manly.


David 5 years ago

Not wanting to be argumentative, but showing feelings in the wrong place and around the wrong people can be huge problem for me. I will give counseling a swing, unless there is some other form of treatment you would advise. Thank you for the timely response!


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mistyhorizon2003 5 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Well I do hope the counseling can help David, it might make it easier for you to control these emotions if you can understand better why you are experiencing them now.

Good Luck


greyarcticwolf 4 years ago

I am working on my masters' degree and I undergone training to assist people with age related illness or problems. I'm not saying you have a problem but as well all get older we enter into different phases of our life. Child birth, marriage, children growing up and moving out of the home, loss of a partner, loss of income; for many these factors cause a change in behavior and are referred to as stressors. In addition to these stressors; older people find they have more time on their hands feeling there is no great urge of importance that requires their full attention compared to their former working conditions. For many they enter in and out of periods of self-reflection, so what you’re experiencing is normal. Hope this helps


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks greyarcticwolf, for many people I would agree with you, and in some ways for myself, apart from a few key points, I never was able to have children, so never had to experience childbirth or the children growing up and leaving home. I did lose my first Husband when he was only 48, but am now happily married again (I am just 42 now). I have not been working for several years now, so loss of income has not really been relevant as I stay home and do gardening, writing etc whilst my Husband is the main 'breadwinner'.

I do agree though that many people would feel some (if not all) of these 'stressors' and they could be a contributing factor as to why they become more emotional as they get older. What I can't fully understand is why it makes them/us more emotional about things that we just see on the television, happy or sad stories, stuff we read in the newspaper etc, in other words things that do not directly relate to us, they just make us cry.


Hawaii 4 years ago

I know this is a very old blog post, but since it is exactly what happened to me I thought I would throw in my thoughts on it. I got very emotionally sensitive and became a quick crier in my thirties. I am in my forties now and I still I have to avoid sad movies and books. I thought maybe it was a hormonal change from having kids but I see you haven't had children and went through it all the same.

I also wonder if it is possible to desensitize? Like when someone is a afraid of dogs and they expose them to it so they get over it? I often wonder if I should devote a weekend to incredibly sad movies and just get over it already. I hate being the one sobbing in a theater with only mildly sad people staring at me, so I tend to avoid any sad movies these days.

It is weird though because otherwise I am not a highly sensitive person. I am pretty straight forward and most people would say I am sensible and level headed. But put a starving kitten on a commercial for the Human Society and I become a puddle of tears!

It is heartening to know I am not alone though. Thanks for the post!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Hawaii, well I am not too convinced that 'desensitizing' would solve the problem personally as I am beginning to think this is actually normal, and the only variation is likely to be caused by the different levels of hormones each of us have after a 'certain' age, (the age may vary as well). I too am in my 40's, and I too react like you do to sad adverts, films, news articles etc.

The good news is that like you say, you are 'not alone', and I guess like me, you just need to avoid the circumstances that bring on the emotions to such a large degree, (I avoid reading any sad articles in the papers now, especially if it involves animal cruelty as I know I will quickly be a blubbering mess).

Thanks for sharing your experience of this :)


42 yr old woman 4 years ago

hormones. i think. I'm tired of crying...its exhausting


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Ditto that '42 yr old woman' (I am 42 as well).


justcallmejohn 4 years ago

I am a retired male 65 years old and I have noticed that for the last few years I tear up easily. The first time I noticed it was about five years ago. We had been shopping and was coming out of the mall parking lot and a funeral was passing and it was a young soldier who had been killed in combat and it made me cry.

I worked for 32 years for a medium size fire department and have seen so much death and destruction during my career and never shed a single tear. I have seen things that people shouldn't have to look at but I always did my job without any emotion. To see me in action a bystander would think I had no feelings at all.

Sometimes the stupidest things will tear me up such as movies with sad endings or happy endings or a song over the radio. This just doesn't make any sense to me.

I have nothing to be depressed about. I have a great wife that I love very much( 40+ years of marriage) A great family, Very nice retirement and everything including our home paid for and everything I have ever wanted I have been able to get. Our health is pretty good and we are both very active and have a large circle of friends. I mean I don't break down and Boo-Hoo but I tear up over the stupidest things.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

My Step Father is also a retired fire-fighter 'justcallmejohn', and he retired as Chief Fire Officer here in Guernsey having formerly been in Liverpool. He is now in his late 70's and his personal circumstances are virtually identical to yours. I have seen him shed many tears over cases such as 9/11 (amongst many others). Perhaps so many years of having to stay under some level of disciplined control in order to function at your best, results in a build up of pent up emotions that you are finally able to release in the safety of your retirement years. Just my theory, but it would seem to hold water.


R. J. Lefebvre 4 years ago

Cindy,

Your hubs are always remarkable. I believe emotions are healthy for all of us, how can we expect sentiment from others if we don't feel it for them? My wife (Barbara) and I just watched a movie: Into the Wind, directed by Sean Penn, and written by Jon Krakauer. We were spell bound emotionally.

Ronnie


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks Ronnie, what a lovely compliment :)

Emotions are very important, it is just so strange how we seem to get to a point in our lives where they suddenly become so much closer to the surface than they used to be.

Cindy


noble01 4 years ago

thank you i am 48 male was crying at end of beauty and beast.would not have been bad.but my 5yr old girl.telling everyone oh well


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Nothing wrong with that noble01, I am 42 and I still won't watch Bambi because I know I would cry again :)


Gary 4 years ago

Wow,Wow,Wow I never thought other men had this issue too. Im even tearing up over this thread. Cant watch any shows that cause the slightest bit of sensitivity. Because of this I try not to get in any position that might in the least bit cause me to cry. If fact I was called for jury duty. When I got there I was hoping case was dismissed before trial. Did not want to ball on a jury. Fortunately it was dismissed.

I am currently on a low dose of antidepressants and have been for about 5 years. I talked to my doctor that subscribed my meds about this and he says he has no idea at all why I am like this. If anyone I thought he would have the answer. Anyway.... guys you are not alone.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks for sharing your experiences Gary. Don't worry, it seems this is pretty normal for many men and women, and I suspect it is largely to do with hormonal changes we get as we grow older. One thing is for sure, it is not a bad thing to be capable of feeling and showing emotions, whatever sex you are.


Gary 4 years ago

Its sad though that the stigma is "men dont cry". My wife says that may be true but REAL men do. Note to self: Tell wife you love her. :)


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Your wife is right, real men can (and do) cry :)


Laura 4 years ago

I can say that I have also experienced that emotional change as I have aged. I am terrified of having a complete meltdown at the wrong moment anymore. Unfortunately, it does not matter if it is on television or in real life, I tear up at the littlest things both happy and sad.... e'gads!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Welcome to our club Laura, it just shows we are human I hope :)


SadWillow 4 years ago

I have been crying too often and worst lately. Stressed by bosses, saddened by not being able to attend my son's graduation due to work commitment, depressed by computer crashes.... I just can't stop tearing at the slightest thing. I begin to wonder about my purpose in life. I have been an emotional person but not until last year after my mother's sudden death that I keep breaking down. I must be overworked ...


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

It sounds as if you do need a break 'sadwillow', perhaps even a change of job to one less stressful. Losing your Mum is also bound to have had a huge impact on your life. I hope things look up for you soon.


Terri 4 years ago

I had a heart attack 6 years ago and now I can cre on the drop if a dime. Every thing borhers me and upsets me. I am 58, when I was in my 20's 30's and early 40's. Now since my heart attack I feel worthless. I used to have my house so clean you could eat off he floor.Now I get so tired from doing very little.I wish I had the money for a helper around the house.I wish I had a decent home too the house I'm living in needs to be knocked down and rebuilt.I feel like I'm not good for any thing or any one. Iget yelled at by every one and O can't do any thing right. Some one is always complaining.I can't even work,I have done that since I was 10. And now I can't do any thing. I'm WORTHLESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I am so sorry to hear this Terri, but I am sure you are not worthless. It does sound in your case like you are not getting the support you need at home from family or friends. Additionally I think some counseling or even a support group might be helpful. There must be other people who have had heart attacks who feel like you do and you would probably feel better if you could talk to people who fully understood how you are feeling. My Dad had 3 heart attacks and a clot on the brain in his later life and was very frail as a result. I know he used to get times when he got very tearful that he could not function as the man he used to be. He did go on living until he was 72 though, and although in poor health he had still managed to sit in the garden or go for an occasional lunchtime drink at the pub. I hope you find a way to get some positiveness out of your situation and some support. Good Luck


brian 4 years ago

I am a guy and only 29 years old and have recently started feeling really sensitive and emotional when watching TV shows and movies that never would have affected me at all (similar to your examples in the article). It doesn't bother me much but I'm starting to try and find out what's going on. It is relieving to see it's not so abnormal after all!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Brian, you are far from alone that is for sure, and it isn't a bad trait, just somewhat inconvenient on occasion. I guess it may well be hormonal, but it also shows we have compassion and empathy which is surely a good thing.


grant 4 years ago

I've had this for years and I don't agree it's normal or just being sensitive. I think it's indicative of something wrong with me, that 4 seconds of dialog on MASH can make my breathing go rapid and shallow just so I don't start breaking into sobs. Songs, musical movements, any depiction of compassion or the "saving" of someone's plight. No, I have to believe this is a symptom of something psychologically missing, for me anyway.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Grant, in some cases it may be indicative of something more serious and then counseling or antidepressants may be helpful. It could also mean you are just a very compassionate and emotional person, (artistic individuals are often more prone to being emotional in this way).

Only you can judge if you feel outside help is necessary or if this is simply down to you being more sensitive than many other individuals, (which is not really a bad thing in many ways).


grant 4 years ago

I can't even *speak* the last verse of "American Pie" without breaking down. Oh well.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Maybe this does indicate some counseling or antidepressants could be helpful and 'take the edge off' Grant. I sincerely wish you luck with this.


grant 4 years ago

Terri - is there a church you are or used to be affiliated with? Think hard from an objective point of view who you could turn to. You should not have to feel hopeless, when I KNOW there are people who would want to help you if they only knew. And remember this (so you don't let self-sufficiency get in the way): when you let someone give to you or help you, you're giving something priceless to them.


Dan Lee 4 years ago

when we tear-up with the movies, music, variety shows, sporting events, kids saying the darndest things..it isn't necessarily a symptom of depression. I believe its because I have had a connection with the character or performer or the message in the act. I believe it's because I come across generally as a hard honest to a fault type of man. My upbringing influenced that..I was an underdog fighting for us underdogs. No room for bullshit. The performances access via my gentle side and egress via the lump in my throat that hurts from trying to keep it back. So I let go..and feel good or enlighting for it. Empathy and familiarity with peculiarity to your own experiences and values perhaps.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Very true Dan, it most certainly doesn't mean we are necessarily suffering from depression. Your comment made some excellent points.


Jay 4 years ago

Maybe, as Trish kind of mentioned, now that you are older and mature you can see the frailty of life and realise how short it really is. Do the THINGS we accumulate in life really matter, or is there something more? More then just this life here?


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Yes, that does make sense Jay, perhaps all that we have gone through in life also increases our ability to empathise with others too, so our emotions rise to the surface on their behalf when we see them suffering.


diane 4 years ago

Reading all the posts helped me

know I'm not the only female

filled with so many tears.

I am 67 and recently retired.

Two brothers passed and then

mom and dad. I feel so alone

even though I am married.

Is there any hope of a more

"normal" life? Children grown

and grandchildren almost all

grown now. I am just sad

most of the time!!


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I am so sorry to hear this Diane. Right now your recent retirement has probably not helped you to cope with all these memories of lost loved ones. My Mum lost both her brothers when they were in their 60's, and their Mum (who lived with us) died soon after the second Son was lost, (she was in her early 90's, but no doubt never expected to outlive two of her four children) Grandad had died years earlier before I was even born. I don't think my Mum (now in her late 70's herself) has ever really got over this, but fortunately in spite of her own health problems she does still have good times with our Step Dad and with us (her two daughters). Yes she gets very emotional on occasion, and reminisces often, but all in all I believe she copes fairly well with the emotions that go with the losses she has been forced to go through in life. I sincerely hope the same will apply to you as time passes. Perhaps a part of what you are feeling is a kind of combination of 'empty nest syndrome' and a feeling of 'no longer having a purpose'. If you feel that this may be the case perhaps volunteering for a charity or becoming a hospital visitor etc etc could make you feel more positive about life and what you are giving back.

Good Luck


Susan 4 years ago

Hi Misty,

I've been surfing for an hour or so because I too get emotional at silly times. But everything on the net has been about depression and why do I cry when I fight with my boyfriend, blah blah blah. I'm OK crying when something goes wrong. It's normal to cry at a funeral, or even at a sad movie. But I cry over everything. Quite a few posts on quite a few sites talk about the Buffy / Angel TV shows which I'm a big fan of. And I know everyone cries during The Body and The Gift, but I cry during the funny eps too. And I've seen them about a hundred times already! I cry during How I Met Your Mother. I cry during The Big Bang Theory. I cry when I'm reading. I can't read any of the Twilight books in public because I'm just a gonner. And again, it's not the sad bits. And I think it gets worse if I know what's going to happen. As soon as Edward walks into Bella's life, I start crying and don't stop for the couple of weeks it takes me to get through the books again. I cry just thinking about some of these things. I got teary reading the comments on this hub. Other websites had people listing the TV shows and movies that made them cry, and that got me going a bit too.

I too cry during competition shows. Especially singing ones. I cry over their stories, I cry over their songs. Funnily enough, I don't seem to cry as much when they're booted off the show. And a week or two later, I've forgotten their names.

If people around me are emotional, I can get very teary, but mostly I cry on my own. I just don't have those feelings in a group of people. Sure I'll cry at weddings and funerals, but it's not the same weeping that the death of a beloved fictional character will bring on.

But at none of these silly crying times do I actually feel sad. There's no pain there. In fact, sometimes while I'm crying, I'm laughing at how silly it is.

I'm so glad that I found this hub because at least now I know it's not just me. Thanks for still being around after three years to share this.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks so much for your comment Susan, and rest assured, it really isn't 'just you'. Actually you have a slight advantage over many people with this 'problem' and that is (in your own words) 'But at none of these silly crying times do I actually feel sad. There's no pain there. In fact, sometimes while I'm crying, I'm laughing at how silly it is.' So many people actually do feel the pain, regardless of how 'daft' and 'illogical' it might seem, e.g. when it is based on a fictional programme or book.

I guess however and whenever we experience this apparently irrational emotion, it happens for a reason, even if we don't understand it ourselves. I have resigned myself to it now :)


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Rochelle Frank 4 years ago from California Gold Country

I think it is an individual thing--- and, especially for women it can be caused by hormone level changes. I noticed that this was originally posted three years ago-- so, how's it going now?


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Rochelle, no change, I still end up really weepy over stuff that is 'touching' or 'sad'. I had my hormone levels checked out a couple of weeks back for different reasons, and apparently they are 'normal'. Even tonight felt I was getting emotional over the way the adult elephants in a herd look out for the youngest members and team up in order to look after them (I was watching a documentary on a group of elephants). I am now willing to accept this without understanding why I react this way when I never used to in my early years.


Kbug 4 years ago

I do not think it has anything to do with age--sorry! I have always been a crier and very sensitive. I embarrass my daughter sometimes when I try to repeat a story to her and I start crying. I try to control it but it is difficult. It seems to come from some type of chemical imbalance as I have always been this way since I was a little girl. Two of my sisters are the same. I am afraid people will think I am emotionally unbalanced but I do not feel I am. There has to be something that can help this. There is something either lacking in my chemical make-up or I am just wired this way and there is no hope for it. It is good in some ways because at least I can feel empathy for people and I will never hurt anyone on purpose because I know how that feels.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

That is fine too Kbug, and in your case you are clearly a decent and naturally sensitive person (which is okay). What I would say is that for a huge amount of people this emotional reaction only kicks in when people get older, and if you read the comments through here (which might take a while) you will see that many people have had the same experience (myself included), i.e. not being overly emotional until they got past a certain age. I think that this is not relevant in your case, but in many many people it is relevant, and they only notice this emotional reaction change at a certain point in their lives, i.e. as they get older.


R. J. Lefebvre 4 years ago

Misty,

As a youngster I was a quiet listener to understand my environment. When I was in middle age I felt it was wrong for an early teen to be commited for a long prison term after killing his companion, my primary concern was: 'the childs environment was the root of evil.' As I grew older I feel more passion for living homosapiens and any other cretures (with the exception of pesty insects) to live and let live. I think its a shame some people hunt for 'trophys.' My trophy is how I live and share my environment. Misty your measure isw tops!

Ronnie


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks so much Ronnie, and that was a lovely comment. Great to hear from you as it has been a while :)


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PS Ronnie, what does 'isw' stand for in your comment?


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Green Bard 4 years ago from Tenerife

Hi Cindy! I voted up and interesting. I am the other way and cry less I am getting older. I remember reading once that Leonard Cohen once said that he had heard the brain cells that are responsible for feelings of depression die off as you get older and that was an advantage he could think of of ageing. In my experience he has been right though I still cry at times.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Steve, not completely convinced by Lenonard Cohen's theory. Both Mum and my Step Dad are in their late 70's now, and both of them still get emotional over lost relatives, pets and tragedies on the news.

Thanks for commenting with your experiences though. I guess I find I do recover quicker from bereavements (animal or human) as I have got older, but it is the 'things' that make me cry that never used to which I find strange.


Jennifer 4 years ago

I'm just glad to hear I'm not the only one, baffled by this change. Like I had my moments of crying when I was younger, but it wasn't often and it wasn't out of my control. I cry now and just about anything, cute, sad, happy, adorable, any show commercial, movie. I cried over a gift from my mom which was basically her donating money in my name to a hospital. Sweet yes, but I have never just lost it like that, I think my family was just as shocked as i was. I too am 38 and it seems to have started when I was about 35 and getting progressively worse. Thank you for sharing and happy to know I'm not alone in this.


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

You are welcome Jennifer, and thanks for sharing your feelings and experiences of this here too. It all helps other people the same to realise that they are far from alone, and that this is actually very normal.


imbecomeingacrybaby@49 4 years ago

hope we all straighten out!...but thank god im not the only cry baby here...lol...never was like that..i mean i cried at touching movies or heart felt storys but this is crazy.i cry when im watching the dame NEWS!!!,things that happened to me 40 yrs ago all of a sudden are now braking my heart! and NEVER affected me before? WHY???it sucks!!! anyway hope we all settle down and these affects pass ,peace & Love 2all


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mistyhorizon2003 4 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I so know exactly what you are describing from personal experience, so you have my sincere sympathies :)


Kate 3 years ago

Yeah, I'm 30 and I always tear up after watching things or seeing something so cute like a little box with a face or a really sad bear... Gives me that feeling. Even gives me teary eyes seeing a cat or child dying. I used to laugh at everything as a child. Great stuff, aha. When I went into teen mode... or "hormonal teen mode" I was really sad when something very happy was going on or being announced. I was really happy when something sad happened. My mother that is now 49 (I was born when she was 19) used to tell me all these things as a child.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks so much for sharing your experiences here Kate. I have to say that the 'happy when something sad happened' experience is a new one on me, but when you were a hormonal teenager I guess all sorts of things could be going on. I hate to break it to you, but your other emotions are probably only the tip of the iceberg in terms of what you are going to experience, not least because at just 30 you are still rather young to be experiencing what I am describing in this hub. I predict you will find the emotions become far stronger and even closer to the surface within the next 10 years. Thankfully I am sure you will learn to deal with it, although it isn't always easy to accept when you suddenly find yourself in tears for something that happened to someone else (happy or sad events included).


nicole 3 years ago

Thanks for sharing, I was googling why I suddenly have become so emotional now in my late 30's over everything, commercials, tv shows, etc. Things I would never of teared up over before. I was wondering what the heck was going on.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Welcome to my world nicole. I am now 43 and the emotions are still triggered by tiny things. I wonder if there is an official medical reason for this, e.g. is it scientifically known to be as a result of hormonal changes, or something else!


elfmcgnome 3 years ago

Hi

Always thought I was pretty in tune with my emotions. Totally empathize with the posts on a new (in most cases) opening up to really feeling emotions, not just aknowledging the effect situations have on others. Came off Seroxat after 12 years on it and gave up alcohol 2 years ago. maybe these have left 'emotions' coming back with a vengeance! I think I can correlate the new emotionally enhanced me with the deep realisation about my mortality. Im 47. Mind you I did ask for it, so to speak, requesting new experiences for the 'higher good' to materialize. Phew! sucker punch Spirit Guides hahaha. Light and Blessings x


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks for commenting elfmcgnome, I have no luck with antidepressants at all, and mostly they have either done nothing, or made me extremely sick and exhausted. To be honest I don't think they deal with the problem, only smother it, which makes them nothing short of a 'band aid' for a far more serious problem. I so hope you now have a happy and bright future off of these pills :)


Michaela 3 years ago

I'm only 23 and am already experiencing this change. I was raised by a strict marine who told me at a very young age not to cry, due to it's not a controlled emotion. Only within the past year, maybe two, have I become a fountain of flowing tears! I often find it embarrassing when in the company of others, but alone, I find it freeing. I remember when I was younger I yearned to cry when deeply sorrowed but found I could not, now I weep with the drop of a hat. It's quite refreshing. Glad to know I'm not alone in this recent onset of becoming a total, emotional basket case :)


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Michaela, thanks so much for sharing your experience of this. Hopefully now you know you are far from alone and that you are not the only 'basket case' lol.


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moonlake 3 years ago from America

There is probably a very good reason why you cry so easily. As a woman you may figure out what that reason is. Sounds to me like that might be what’s happening to you. I started this right around 38. Your hub is 4 years old do you know now why your crying all the time? You can get a blood test done and check for it. I'm much older now and don't cry as easily. When I was younger I cried at the drop of a hat. Every little thing upset me. I just don’t do that anymore as you get older you will get calmer. Of course sad things will always make us cry. You really are not old but I have a daughter around your age going through the same thing. I wish you good lucky and less crying.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Moonlake,

No there is nothing wrong with me, I have been blood tested and everything and all is normal (hormones etc). I still cry very easily, but now see it as just a natural part of growing older because so many people report the exact same thing (I am now 43). I guess it is just part of life, and I have grown to accept it now.

Thanks for your concern though, I really do appreciate it :)


Hazie 3 years ago

I am so pleased I have found this hub. I empathise with all of you. I have stopped watching the tearjerking films/reality shows and ads and this helps. Getting enough sleep helps to keep the tears at bay too.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks for your comment Hazie, I know exactly what you mean. I cry over stories of things that happened years ago (after watching documentaries etc), and even as I can see children that were involved are now happy and well adjusted adults, I find myself shedding tears for what they suffered years before e.g. loss of a parent through tragic circumstances etc.

I also still cry over the most trivial things such as a disagreement or difference of opinion with someone I might simply be chatting to in a bar (although I can hold in the emotion until I return home strangely enough).

My late Husband has died back in 2001, yet at least once a week I cry for him and tell him out loud how much I love and miss him (in spite of having been remarried for over 7 years now).

I doubt it will ever change now (and I do get loads of sleep, although not necessarily at conventional times).


Markie 3 years ago

Hi, Nice post I can relate to as well for me I noticed it started happening after my dad died. Initially the first time it happened was one day out of the blue while watching a film called armageddon and at the end of the film a boy gets reunited with his dad.

I just put that down to missing my dad and it caught me by surprise as I'd never cried because of a tv program before. Then it started happening with other things, and over time turned into similar experiences to yours now.

It makes me frustrated sometimes and embarrassing if I happen to be round some family's house and the tv is on and I'm watching a program and something catches me unexpected like that I have to get up and pretend I need to blow my nose or something! :(


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks for sharing your experience of this Markie, it sounds like possibly losing your Dad was a factor for you on some level and possibly triggered some kind of emotional release, maybe by putting you in touch with emotions you had never had to deal with previously. I agree at times it can be rather embarrassing as it happens in public places too (has happened to me more than once in our local hotel bar when something on the TV has set me off). I guess it is just a part of growing older though.


david1701 3 years ago

I am a guy, 58 years old, soon to be 59. I am so glad to find this site. I can be moved emotionally extremely easily, even by programs/stories that I have heard many times before. I know the outcomes! As a school teacher, it is extremely difficult showing some programs because of this. At least the lights are off, and I can sit in the back - away from the view of students.

My students are primarily juniors and seniors in high school. I was asked the other day if I am going to cry at the graduation this year; I guess this student expects everyone to cry. I said "no," but I know good and well that an event like that will bring on the tears.

Even hearing our "national anthem" will bring on the tears. I think I was always susceptible to being moved emotionally over certain events, but in later years, it is more evident, and manifests itself at times that I don't think are convenient. (I think that just means that those times are "embarrassing.")

Anyway, it has been good reading that others too struggle with this. As someone once said, it's hell getting older. It is; but we can manage.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Don't worry David, hopefully it will actually be educational in the long run for your pupils to see that even adult men cry when the situation warrants it. It is clearly a 'human' trait, therefore we all probably over-analyze it because we think there is something wrong with us. You are right, it is 'hell getting older' but as you also said 'we will manage' (as did our predecessors).


Mac 3 years ago

There may be a biological reason: as we get older, the frontal lobe of our brain - which is the control center of expression, impulse control, etc., can change how much control it has over our emotions.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Interesting thoughts Mac, certainly worth considering as a viable possibility.


Doug 3 years ago

I'm having the same issue. I was diagnosed with late-stage lung cancer five years ago and after some pretty grueling chemotherapy and radiation - and refusing to let the doctor take out my lung - I've been in remission. I cry very easily now, especially when I hear music or songs from my past. I feel very fortunate, and am not depressed, but feel extremely overwhelmed that I've been given a chance to "re-live" my life, and I've sort of re-invented it. But the crying is becoming embarrassing. Last week my boss of ten years was moved to another position and I had a very difficult time keeping my composure when it was publically announced. I'm 6'1", work out a lot, never cried much as a teenager or in my early adulthood... but I've become a totally different person now and I can't understand why I get emotional so easy.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Hi Doug, my heart goes out to you sincerely. I am so glad you are now in remission. I lost my first Husband to bowel Cancer two weeks after he was diagnosed, a close relative has also just had a 6 week course of radiotherapy (hopefully she won't need the chemo too). There is no such thing as an 'easy' Cancer and it is heart rending for those who care about you to have to watch you go through it. I think it is totally understandable that you would feel the way you do having survived this, and the second chance to appreciate so many things in life is bound to be an emotional experience because you know how close you came to not getting that chance. I am sure your boss would have been very touched if he knew just how choked up you were about him leaving, it is a nice thing, nothing you should feel embarrassed about (although I do understand why men feel this way about being seen to cry).

I wish you a long and healthy life now, and hope you have many more years of being able to enjoy and appreciate the people and things around you, even if it does bring your emotions to the surface.


Jbh37103 3 years ago

Hi, Im a 48 yr old male. I've been in the same boat as the other men and women posting on the hub. Some songs or an outstanding performance will bring out the tissues. Omg The Oscars last night?, What a mess, glad I was alone. HA


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Looks like we are all very much 'in the same boat together' Jbh37103. Kind of glad I didn't watch the Oscars now ;) I also get incredibly emotional when they show the annual awards for bravery, usually featuring lots of children or adults that risked their own lives to save others (incredibly moving stories). Then you have the awards for bravery in the military which are equally as touching. In a strange way I feel good about being emotionally moved by these stories because they help restore my faith in human nature (including my own).


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anapaula76 3 years ago from Florida

Hi! Wow I can relate so much to your post, I'm 36 years old and I have noticed that for the past 5 years I too have become more compassionate and more in sync with the feelings of other's, I have always been very sentimental, watching a movie like Ghost would make me cry, but now when I go to Pet Smart and see the cats they have for adoption I cry because I feel they don't get the same treatment as some believe they aren't loving when they really are, is just on their terms, or if I watch Special Delivery, or America has Talent , and for some reason when I even speak to someone that I wan't to be friends with and they treat me nice I feel this joy and I shed a tear! someone suggested it could be because of someone's passing and I think in my case it could be, I lost my loving amazing Daddy in 2008 and ever since then I have been very sensitive, but thank you for posting because is good to know there are many like me with such an amazing compassionate an loving heart :)


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks so much for your comment anapaula76, I do think the death of a loved one can trigger this level of emotions on some level, especially if it is someone very close. I lost my first Husband in 2001 to bowel Cancer when he was just 48. He had only been diagnosed with it 2 weeks earlier. I am sure I became even more emotional from there onwards.


sleepingqueen 3 years ago

I am a 26 year old lady and within the last 6 months I have been a crying machine. I have always been fairly in tune with my emotions but it seems like I can't get past even a simple reality show without shedding some tears. I cry multiple times a day, if just for a moment, and it's generally the same content everyone here is discussing. Happy moments, incredible moments, amazing stories, hardships, sad stories and even just the right picture to the right music. The other day I cried when I thought about how complex and amazing our subconscious memory is! Maybe we're all just using crying like some people use screaming; just another use of an emotions? I don't know, I know showing emotion was once viewed as a weakness in the past, perhaps it's just another emotion. I think it's hilarious and my friends have a riot over it. I have embraced my crying tendencies because hey, at least I am proud of how I feel!


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I am so glad you have come to terms with this sleepingqueen. It seems the only option any of us have available to us in any case. I for one don't see any harm in being able to show and feel emotions, and in many ways I warm towards those who are able to feel this level of compassion, empathy, sympathy etc in some of the situations that cause this flood of emotion.


Kory Thompson 3 years ago

Sorry if I am repeating, didn't have time to read all the posts. (I did read many of them, however.)

Here is my take on it (and yes I am afflicted with the same thing):

I believe it's a combination of:

1) Experience

2) Charity/Love (that we possess)

3) Hormones (or lack there of)

4) Empathy

The more experience we have, the more likely we are going to empathize with someone. I just dedicated a song

http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=LMOma_dy4tE&fe...

to my children. Why? (And it's a tear jerker.) Because the story this man tells, is the story that I feel. It makes most cry, but me especially, because like the performer, I hope that what I have done for my kids, is enough. (Sometimes, I feel like it isn't, so it really hits home.)

Some don't want to factor in the hormones, but clearly as we age, our hormones change (decrease), and in the case of men, the guy (above) that talked about his muscle mass has gone down, as his desire to lift weights, I do believe that is hormone related.

Finally, when you love deeply, which I believe is a gift and increases with intention and also because of the type of person you are, that that, mixed with less hormones, in my case Testosterone, I find myself feeling much more deeply than before. Blend that with life experience, it heightens one's ability to really SEE (or understand) what the storyteller is talking about. Until you have such experience, and you have actually been in their shoes, it may not be as important to you, because you don't relate as closely.

Just my thoughts. On the one hand, I hate it, and on the other, it is extremely fulfilling to FEEL SO DEEPLY. It is a bitter/sweet situation. I like it and hate it all the same time.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

An excellent well thought out comment all round Kory, what more can I say apart from, thank you for making it.


oldstaysi 3 years ago

Well, just wait til your 62! I cry about the least little bit of sappy happy stuff and the somewhat sad stuff, commercials even. I have never been this emotional ever in my life. I have always been softhearted when it came to animals and kids. But this lately has just gotten to be way too much. I'm even thinking of seeing my doctor about some medication to stave off some of this extra emotion! I can barely watch ANYthing on t.v. anymore! I thought that it may be due to my blood pressure medication but I can't find anything on the internet about this particular malady. It's always about post menapausal women which I am way beyond that status. So just what is this all about?!


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I have no idea what it is about oldstayi, but what I can say is that at the tender age of 43 I am not 'post menopausal', and this problem has been affecting me for some years now. I am completely the same as you, someone who doesn't understand why this suddenly happened to me in my life, someone who loves animals unconditionally and someone who gets emotional over every TV program, including ones like 'Air Craft Investigation'. It is a complete myth to assume this is about post menopausal women (read the comments from men here), when in reality it affects men and women alike, and of many ages, but mainly over 30.

Why on earth would you want to go to your doctor in order to get medication that will inhibit the emotions nature intends you to have? That is effectively giving yourself a chemical straight jacket!


Egan2013 3 years ago

Interesting stuff. I pulled up this site as I was crying a bit over a friends loss of a loved one. I find comfort in understanding feelings and that's why I look. Old PTSD guy. Genuinely, I know this is part of being human and don't feel bad about it. Wouldn't exchange my empathy for meds or anything. Empathy sometimes comes from experience. Some are born with it, some learn it.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings on the subject here Egan2013. I think empathy is an admirable trait and something we do tend to learn more as we grow older and wiser.


surf tech 3 years ago

I found this thread from a google search and as I started reading the comments I was hoping it would still be active so long after it started. I'm a guy about to turn 43 and this pattern has really taken hold in me lately. Like some others mentioned, even reading the thread got me teared up. I have been more sensitive to emotional events or situations for years now but as I come off a two year dose of anti-depressants it's much more pronounced. It reminds me of coming out of anesthesia when I had wisdom teeth pulled decades ago. I balled for 15 minutes and had no control of it. In addition to virtually all the previous mentioned situations I was surprised to find myself in tears at a Fleetwood Mac concert the other day when everyone in the building jumped to their feet as one of their best known songs started. And the last mass our favorite priest performed a couple weeks ago before moving to a new parish probably dehydrated me from the loss of tears. I do appreciate being empathetic and able to recognize and experience emotional events but I would prefer to have the level turned down just a bit. I was wondering if my ADD meds or after effects of the SSRS drugs were a factor but it doesn't look like it from what others have posted. Guess I'll work on appreciating it more. Thanks Misty.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

You are very welcome surf tech, and I am glad you found this thread so you could realise you are far from unusual in finding yourself becoming more emotional at this time in your life. Personally I have recently been watching myself more closely to see exactly what things trigger me off, and one of the things I have become aware of is that I begin crying when I see other people crying. This seems to be an empathic response to their tears/situation. Although it isn't fun being tearful or overly emotional, it does make me feel like a nicer person as a result (I would rather be like this than not care about another person's plight). I think the best thing to do is embrace it as you are unlikely to be able to change it. The trouble with a lot of antidepressants are that they often suppress emotions we are 'meant' to feel (which can't be healthy). It sounds to me like you are simply reverting to normal emotions for your age group.

Good Luck.


neverinfrontofthewife 3 years ago

I still live in a world where men don't cry. Especially not in front of people. I now allow myself a cry once in a while. Alone. Otherwise I leave the room if others are around. Sudden need to go to the restroom usually suffices. :) NEVER EVER in front of the wife.

As a 49 male, I too tear up way more than I would like or ever did in decades past. There are certain known factors for some like illness, drugs or depression.

These don't apply to me. At my age a normal drop in testosterone would be a big factor. Ok easy enough. BUT I think this combines with my life experiences to elicit strong emotional reactions to simple situations that never bothered us before. I'll try to elaborate keeping in mind I speak for myself only.

My father whom I nearly worship is 73 and not doing well for many years. Now any time someone dies (RL or TV/movie) I think of him and his possible passing. Or I think of life without my wife and best friend of 30 years. Why? Because we're older. Lots older and more fragile. Not just them but me too. I no longer expect to live forever. There are no more do overs.

I've always become emotional over animals dying on TV or movies. Now I truly cry over them as I compare it to the many wonderful animal friends I have loved and lost. These comparisons aren't always glaring and obvious. Later in the emotional episode I think of them and realize they are the main reason for the waterworks.

These are just two simple examples. I think the combination of my aging chemical balance, life experiences, and the looming finality of life itself goes a long way to explain all of the various and sometimes odd emotional events.

Just more human silliness to deal with. I just chalk it up to life and keep on truckin'.


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

You sound like a wonderful, warm and compassionate person 'neverinfrontofthewife', I think these emotions are sign of our humanity, and that quite possibly we should be more worried if we don't experience these. So many of the examples you gave mirror my own thoughts and feelings, I guess like you said, we just have to 'chalk it up to life and keep on truckin' :)


Egan2013 3 years ago

Well here's something strange... I did something that was unbearable for me. I can't handle being around crowds, public speaking and a long list more. I agreed to become ordained and officiate a wedding. Shortly afterwards, I knew I had found inner peace. I am confident that I am no longer PTSD and my emotions are now controllable. I went so far outside of my comfort zone that I am now solid. A friend recommended that I look at Brenee Brown's book Daring Greatly. If it might help anyone else.

Nothing wrong with tears but they can't control your life. They were controlling mine.

Best wishes...


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I am glad you are happier now Egan2013 :)


Egan2013 3 years ago

Still smiling Misty. Thank you...


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mistyhorizon2003 3 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Good to hear Egan2013, keep it up :)


doleba 2 years ago

Hi mistyhorizon2003. I'm a guy who's experienced this change. I'm 45, and first noticed a change at about the age 37. The first tip something was different was at an art museum in Chicago. As I stood before one of Van Gogh's self portraits I was overwhelmed with emotion and equally taken back by this reaction, as I'd never done this before in response to such a picture. When I thought about it later, I noted that both my grandfather and father grew more sensitive as they aged. My grandfather was well known to tear up and get sentimental, but stories of his youth painted a completely different person. I didn't see my father's softer side until he was about 50 or so. I just assumed this was either natural for all men, or something I'd inherited through my dad's family. My maternal uncles seem to get more confrontational and stubborn as they age. When you think about that, isn't that a heightened sense of emotion too? Like you, as I age I'm amazed to find myself handling things much differently then I did in my youth. For example, hearing of a child being abused and/or murdered, can greatly upset me with a mixture of watery eyes and frustration, sadness, and anger. Mind you such news was always upsetting, but I never blubbered over it in the past. All in all, I'm not too concerned about these changes. I think that it made my father, paternal grandfather and a couple of uncles on my dad's side better men, who were more grateful for their families and more sensitive to the needs of those around them. I noticed in men this seems to kick in about the time they should be getting grandchildren. So I'm wondering if it is part of how we adapt from the making families stage to the nurturing and teaching younger generations stage that most grandparents fall into. Quite possibly, just normal aging for our species.


R. J. Lefebvre 2 years ago

Misty,

isw is a brief for it 'is what' matters, indeed you are supreme.

Ronnie


PAUL 2 years ago

I am a 63 year old man and I have this problem too. I was taught to be tough and never show your emotions but I cant. Should I seek help or just continue on. It hard and embarrassing to be so sensitive.


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I think it is nice to be a sensitive person, and it is actually a very atractive trait in man as it shows he is good hearted. I would consider speaking to someone about this if it really concerns you, even if only so they can reassure you that it is perfectly normal for this to happen as you get older and that it isn't such a bad thing. It is when you feel nothing you want to really worry.


Shorny1 2 years ago

This happened to me as a man in his late fifties. I initially worried, a bit, but the answer of finally being able to open up works for me. x


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mistyhorizon2003 2 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I think you are right Shorny1, it is good to finally be able to open up to your emotions. X


adrian 2 years ago

I get weepy when hearing anything sad. I'm 50 yr old male and lost both parents 4 yrs ago. I have a beautiful 4 yr old son and nothing to worry about. Life is good but I seem to be hyper sensitive to anything remotely sad.


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mistyhorizon2003 2 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Don't worry Adrian, this is perfectly normal it seems and I don't blame you for having these feelings after losing both parents so close together.


Mumbai_girl 2 years ago

Hi Cindy

Thanks for this post. Glad to know I'm not the only one experiencing this. I'm 27 and have always been emotional. But over the last 2 years, I've become much more so. Be it tv shows,commercials, news, cards... I can tear up over the slightest things... But unlike many others who have posted here... I don't get emotional due to stress or stressful situations.

I have always had a happy life so far and the only major incident I can remember after which I started noticing these changes is a really bad breakup wit my boyfriend of 5 yrs who cheated on me, when I was 25. At that time I thought the sadness and depression was the cause. But its been 2 yrs since and I'm still extremely emotional though I have gotten over the past.

Also, I have PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) since I was 16 and I was worried that this could be a hormonal problem. I might still check with my gynaecologist about it.

This post has helped me understand that by and large being emotional is normal and acceptable.

Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences.


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mistyhorizon2003 2 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thank you for sharing your experiences too Mumbai_girl. They always say a problem shared is a problem halved.


Dan's Dad 2 years ago

I puzzles me that I'm so easily choking up. Male 57 years, pretty successful, moderately athletic. Who knows why? But "misery loves company," as they say--how much it helps to read/share with you all.

I cry remembering O' Henry stories, singing some songs. I can't get halfway though the Pledge of Allegiance without crying, which is truly weird, since I'm rather cynical and definitely not a right-wing flag waver. Who knows? Bless us all!


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mistyhorizon2003 2 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

At least now you know this happens to a huge amount of people Dan's Dad so you are not alone. Thank you for sharing your experience of this here too.


Dulce 2 years ago

Im noticing that too, and im only 20. I watched mulan the other day and found myself crying pretty much throughout the whole first part. Even when mulan meets the matchmaker and screws it up. I never used to cry during movies unless someone or something died, but now I cry whenever something somewhat emotional happens


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mistyhorizon2003 2 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I absolutely understand Dulce, but I guess it isn't a bad thing overall


Yeanomaybe 24 months ago

I have the opposite experience. I lost several friends and a couple of very important adults in my life in my early childhood so I became emotionally strong in that regard. I became a realist, a look at the facts and see if there is a positive solution kind of person.

I have compassion for others (volunteer/work with children/helpful friend to elders/take care of my mom as she becomes more incapacitated with COPD ...) but I look at life and at each situation as it is - and deal with it in an objective manner.

I feel emotions, but I know that it will not do anyone any good if I become emotional.


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mistyhorizon2003 24 months ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thanks for your feedback Yeanomaybe,cit is good to hear another perspective


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Amy Heflin 23 months ago

Wow, I am so glad I am not alone! I am so sick at getting teary eyed over stupid things. One simple word can send me in tears. Has anyone figured out how to overcome this?


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mistyhorizon2003 23 months ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I don't think they have Amy, you just learn to accept it as part of being human I guess.


Bruce 21 months ago

Thank you all for sharing and helping. There are so many insightful thoughts and directions to gain strength from here. Yes i am crying at the outpoor of caring, love and compassion.

Last year both parents passed, my Fathers a long process and i was fortunate to have had time with him. I have always been sensitive but during the course of last year when Dads illness started so did the crying. I really don't want to control it but rather embrace and understand, which reading here has helped.

Thank you

Bruce-admitted sensitive man


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mistyhorizon2003 21 months ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

I am so glad this article has helped you Bruce. Try to be strong, we are all going through this and we can survive it and embrace the fact this is a part of life we cannot avoid.


Cubanitafoxx 21 months ago

wow! i thought i was becoming an emotional wreck myself=) but now after reading this whole post i realize i am not alone in this, and that what i have researched on this subject and humanity and what is truly our purpose i come to see we are a very unique race. i am only 24 and i used to be hard and knew very well to keep my emotions well hidden and now basically any movie cartoon or not with a little sentiment bring me down in tears and it can't be held back i just can't. when i try my vision becomes blurry under tears its really annoying! lol anyways like a said before i have come to realize through searching this topic that we really are all ONE and we were made to love though corrupted by specific individuals with power in our world (Governments,media) that easily introduce us to hate one another, compete with one another, they showed us Greed, its plain horrible what negative individuals have made most of the people into. Im so glad there are other people out there who really our finding their true purpose and self. that we are meant to love. =)


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mistyhorizon2003 21 months ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

Thank you for commenting and sharing your thoughts Cubanitafoxx. We are meant to love and be compassionate but maybe we suppress it when young and it only truly shows itself as we mature.


ALVIN M. MARTINEZ 8 months ago

I thought i was the only one. Some say I'm too sensitive but truth is i just feel too much. Every word, every action and every energy goes straight to my heart...


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mistyhorizon2003 8 months ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands) Author

No you are far from alone in feeling this way Alvin, but it isn't so bad and it shows you have compassion, empathy and sincerity. That is a nice person to be rather than one who simply doesn't care.

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