Why Grown Ups Need To Play Pretend

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If you're a grown up, you need to play pretend? Why? Well, I am going to use my pet topic of men who wear women's clothing as a way of example here, but this has a much wider application which will become glaringly apparent by paragraph three or four, I promise.

It all started during the debate around the way that men who wear women's clothing try to sometimes pass as women.

(Now, before we start getting tangential, let me officially acknowledge that not every man who dresses in women's clothing is trying to pass as a woman. Some men just like skirts and dresses and whatnot and are quite happy being male, but enjoy female fashion styles. I know you guys hate getting mixed up with those men who really are taking on feminine qualities, so there's the disclaimer.

During these debates, a women claimed that a man dressed as a woman could never be a woman even if he looked just like one. This would seem to be a claim of such monumental obviousness that it barely needed stating, but the fact that it was stated showed me that some adults have grown up far too much and forgotten the supreme importance of fantasy in one's life. They've lost the ability to play pretend themselves, and to understand when other adults are doing it.

As kids, we're encouraged to use our imaginations. Nobody chastises a child for pretending that they're in a rocket ship on the way to the moon. But for some reason, in spite of the fact that adults are perhaps far better at living fantasies and lies as if they were real than children ever could be, adults are not often encouraged in the realm of imagination. (Don't believe adults are better at kids at playing pretend? Most kids climb out of the imaginary rocket ship when it is time for tea, but some adults will make believe that they love someone and actually marry them only to admit months or years later that they never really loved them at all but didn't want to die alone.)

As adults, our capacity for imagination tends to become sublimated and discouraged outwardly, but it doesn't go away, instead it becomes a much more powerful force of delusion, where instead of enjoying our little fantasies, we actually believe much darker, less life affirming things that sap our energy and age us faster than a mother ship full of free radicals ever could.

However, some of us haven't lost our capacity for imagination, fantasy, fun and play. I believe that men who cross dress often fit into this category. They enjoy the feeling of being feminine, they enjoy ladies things and they live their 'real' lives quite happily. Other adults enjoy other types of imagination play, and as long as they are able to put down their toys and go and do the dishes at the end of the day, I think that imagination and fantasy are important parts of a healthy psyche not just for children, but for adults too.

I'm fortunate in that, as a writer, I am allowed to indulge my imagination on a regular basis. Though not a great deal of my fiction is published here, I nevertheless quite often spend several hours a day 'away with the fairies' as they say. When I return from these worlds, I am so much happier and more relaxed than I was when I was indulging delusions of the mundane.

If you've lost the spark of imagination in your life, take some time to rekindle it. Dress up. Write a story. Watch an old movie you've always secretly wished you could live in. Read a book that sweeps you into another realm. You'll be astounded at how just an hour of 'playing pretend' refreshes you, relieves your stress, and makes the world seem a much better place altogether.

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starfiend 7 years ago

You don't stop playing games because you get old, you get old because you stop playing games!


pauls_boat 7 years ago

well said starfiend, i always said i may get older but i will never grow up and i have tried hard to keep that idea up.

i still take my teddy bear to bed every night and have pooh bear bedding on my bed i liked it when i was a young boy and dont see any thing wrong with still liking it i am one of the few who are not afraid of admiting i like childish things in life even though i am older than the norm for them.

when i go round to friends homes who have kids i still get down on the floor and play with the kids i think it keeps you young at heart and also you have loads of friends who have kids.

i know many men who have admited to wanting to play with lego when watching the kids playing with it also plenty of people like model planes and helicopters and spend lots of money on there "toys" but dont like it when you ask how much was there toy plane they dont like to admit it is a toy just like kids have but costing more.

more people should admit to like playing with toys just becouse you have got older does not mean you can not like playing its a way of escaping from the normal life style most of us have (sleep eat work sleep eat work) day after day we should not live just so we can work we should work so we can live and do the things we like.

regards paul


Cyndie_D 6 years ago

There is an old saying, "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy." A good point that the play time can be in out minds, our imagination is maybe the best most effective play we can experience.

Cyndie

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