How to know when to fire your doctor.

" Your fired "

Have you ever been to the doctors and waited for what seemed like an eternity to be seen? Then once inside the exam room you are forced to now wait while wrapped in a paper garment for another twenty minutes or so, wishing you had brought the magazine you had been reading in the waiting room with you. It's not just the waiting that is frustrating, it's the attitude and lack of bedside manners you are greeted with once the Doc finally gets to you. This only adds to your already mounting frustration and makes you want to emulate Donald Trump as soon as he enters the room, " Your Fired!"

Unfortunately some doctors feel they have an abundance of job security. Especially the ones who have studied a specialty. Surgeons and Cardiologist are at the top of the list. ( at least in my experiences. ) Anyone who has worked in a hospital know's exactly what I mean. But for those of you who have not, these doctors strut through the halls with their heads so high; they dust the ceiling tiles as they rush by you on their way to the doctors lounge without ever making eye contact with anything but the heavens.

If you have ever found yourself in the office or hospital with this type of doctor, know your rights. Even If he has come to you highly recommended and regarded amongst his peers as " The best," you still are the one in charge! I have found the best way to handle the ego filled doctor is to speak to him in big words. If you have the time and the tools, search the web for your condition. This way you will be familiar with the course of treatment, side effects and general diagnosis. However, some doc's may get irritated with you for trying to one up them with your new found knowledge and suggestions of treatment. They don't take kindly to you questioning them, after-all they are the ones that spent over 8 years studying their profession and lets face it, they are exempt from making any kind of mistakes. So proceed with caution. You may want to keep in the back of your mind that the academic requirements to be a doctor does not include bed side etiquette, this means they have never been educated in the art of empathy, patience or common courtesy. They will not hold your hand or comfort your family members. They won't spend anymore time than is absolutely necessary speaking with you or family members regarding your condition, that is the nurses job. Unfortunately, while the nurses would love to sit with you and offer back rubs, like in the early days, they are now bound to the nursing station filling out required paper work to cover there's and the Doctor's hides with tedious documentation of everything they do.

So what can you do if you are presented with this type of physician. Firstly, he is working for you, and only you. Your life and care is more important than the initials that follow his name. If you feel he has not answered all your questions, tell him you have more. Write down question prior to your office visit in case you get nervous and have trouble remembering all you need to ask. Have a family member with you incase you are on medicine that might render you forgetful or if your anything like me, and are just plain forgetful. If your doctor has difficulty explaining your condition and seems to get frustrated with you for not understanding what took him 8 years to learn, and refuses to explain it in terms you can understand then maybe it’s time to get a second opinion. You may get lucky and the next doctor will actually believe in the oath they took. If not, remember, you are the boss and reserve the right to say, “ YOUR FIRED.”


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tsmog 5 years ago from Escondido, CA

Hip-Hip-Hooray! Well said. Maybe they are too focused or busy at times, yet as you said it is about "ME!" I am the patient / client / customer! HMO's and clinic approaches make it tough to be a DR. I imagine, but hey what about Hippocrates?

I have the following

primary care or pcdoc in chat language

psychiatrist or pdoc

therapist or tdoc

dentist or ddoc

ophthalmologist or odoc also means optometrist

cardiologist don't use that in chat

nutritionist doc or ndoc

and other specialist I have been referred to

about 7 yrs ago I started mood/med charting & keeping a wellness journal. Now I go in with my binder & my charts! And, I say wait a minute take a look at this! Now, I get along much better with all of them. But, it is hard work, kinda' maybe a half hour here and there, a moment or two for recording blood glucose readings and 5 minutes to chart the day. I will be writing hubs on this soon. I will say that with the firing process you suggest I learned there is a greater sense of compassion with the female gender for doctors. Most of mine are.

Thank you for sharing this vital information.


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J Burgraff 5 years ago

I get pretty fed up when I see my doc and am told that she is only dealing with 'one' problem today, meaning that I need to make another appointment and return to pay another co-pay. I have somewhat solved that problem by making a list of everything I want to talk to her about and when I make the appointment, I make sure that the scheduler write's down everything. For some reason, they think it's ok to not address your problem if you didn't tell the scheduler that was on the agenda. Then, bring that list with you to the doctor and don't let them out of the room until you are finished.


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wildove5 5 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

I recently traveled 3000 miles and closed my business to speak to my mothers cardiologist. He informed my father that " he did not do phone calls, if I needed to speak to him I needed to be there. " So I went, but before I did I had my mothers records faxed from the hospital to a cardiologist friend of mine, he called me after hours and answered ALL my questions. I then flew to meet this arrogant Physician, after going over my mothers diagnosis and treatment plan, I explained my total dissatisfaction in his lack of responsibility to my mother to allow us as a family to make an educated decision regarding her treatment, I was apologized to and offered an extended hand and a promise of future calls. Sometimes doctors need a gentle reminder that they are not the ones in charge! Next time you have more than one issue to discuss with your doctor you may want to remind them that they are treating a whole person not just sections, and perhaps your concerns are related. Good luck!


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epigramman 3 years ago

...when my doctor checking for signs of prostate cancer put his cowboy hat on and stuck his finger up my anus and shouted merrily - YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEHAWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!


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epigramman 3 years ago

....but seriously I have never thought about this most interesting question.

I personally always have a good dialogue with my doctor and he listens intently to me and I also feel that I am talking with my friend.

Doctors are only human and they are not miracle workers but sometimes a 2nd opinion could save a life or unnecessary risks.

I live in Canada as you know and we have one of the best health systems in the world so I am very blessed in that sense. Let's face it with your health - life is tough enough but without it - life just became a lot tougher like dragging a ball and chain.

Thank you sincerely for taking the time to put this hub subject together - it would make for an interesting question in the Hub forum section.

Sending as always my good thoughts and energy to you from Colin and his cats (inbetween periods of the hockey game) at lake erie time ontario canada 9:09pm


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wildove5 3 years ago from Cumberland, R.I. Author

YEEEEEE HAAAAWWWW,,,,your too funny! I have worked in the medical field for over 13 years and can honestly say, boy are they human! I can understand mistakes, I just have no patients for arrogance. I treat everyone the way I would like to be treated and wish others felt the same. You are very lucky to live in a country that has a health care system. I keep telling my boyfriend I want to move to Canada, but he is more of a warm weather lover. I could care less were I live as long as I'm happy and healthy! I think I may post this as a question, thanks for the suggestion. It will be interesting to see what others think! Enjoy your game and kitties!

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