Sticks and Stones May Break Me, Words.
Words and What They Mean
Sticks and Stones...
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me"; Lies told to children.
Words are the most powerful tools we as human beings own. People use words to communicate. Words are the catalysis of speech, writing, and reading.
Any person who has read, heard or repeated a quote from wise leaders, such as Buddha, Moses, Chief Seattle, or Mohammed, has become a part of the power of those wise words. As a partaker in these ancient words, many humans have been transended, using words quoted by great leaders.
Their words once published, or spoken, will live as long as the last human is around to cipher them.
Whenever I listen to the wording used during conversation, I tune in to what the speakers are saying. If there is a phrase or grouping of words used; and it is something that does not sit well with me, I cannot help, but put my detective cap on.
We humans are heavily influenced by what language communicates to us, and others. In a period of conversation, when me or loved ones, use the words; die, murder, kill and death more than once in a conversation, I make note that me, or my loved ones are being influenced in a negative way, and bringing possible negative energy into their lives.
Humans are able to discern when there are warning signals, of negative movement or energy bombarding them, but humans have become desensitized, ignoring instinct and that inner voice. Listening instinctually, has become such a low priority, that It has gotten to the point where many two-leggeds would not move out of the way if they were standing on a train track, and felt the rails vibrate. This goes for the torrents of positive and negative words and phrases swirling around them.
There is a newer phrase that has been in use for the last couple of year, that stops me in my tracks, every time I hear it: “Ooh, I love her/him to death”.
I have a friend; "Ray". Raymond's Mother tells him,“I’ll kill you” . She smiles, and laughs, saying it several times throughout each conversation. It makes me cringe after the first half dozen times. Ray's Mother is really is killing him, his dreams and aspirations. She has done this his whole life.
Every good thing, and opportunity he has attempted in his life, has been undone by her manipulation, and meanness disguised as love.
Different Words Leave Lasting Effects
There are different reasons why one speakers’ statement can cause physical or emotional discomfort to others. Oddly, words used by a speaker, can cause the orator themselves emotional, and physical distress.
Two common reasons are familiarity and creative power. Familiarity can come from family relationships, structures, sayings, chants, curses, blessings, love, hate, nurturing, or abuse. Creative power is what all creatures with a voice or imagination have.
Familiarity comes from the root word, familial. Familial has its origin in the word, family. Those who bring us the most happiness and contentment can be the ones who hurt us the most. Strangers, or acquaintances, may use words of love, and adoration, but they have little impact on our emotional state. An acquaintance can use words that cut, but not like words used by a familial person. One of the definitions of the word sarcasm is, gnashing
The Combination of Familial and Creative Words
When we combine, familial and creative words, there are felt- affects of powerful words on generations of families, tribes, villages and individuals. These can be blessed meaning words, or curses.
Humans' ability to create is a physical reality, proven every day. Very few realize the power they hold in thought and speech. “I am lucky”, “I feel lucky”, “good things always happen to me”. We know these people, and they are.
In every group, there are those who insist on being sick, ill. They are the ill-mannered person. “I know I will catch the flu”, “You make me sick”. “You are going to catch your death of cold”. These speakers have a love for everything medical. They are frequently in the doctor’s office for themselves, their children or others.
These types of curses and blessings rule the path before us. Ever heard of a person who has real ailments and they are reeling in pain. They go to the doctor, and after weeks of expensive tests. Even with the wonders of modern medicine, the doctors cannot find the cause of the malady.
The brokenness and sickness are very real. This type of sickness and dying is via homemade curses. Homemade includes familial and creative. The cure…is an undoing of the curses.
Last Chance For...
Leaders Can Cause Blessings or Curses
Leaders, those who have authority, or charge over others, have the power to bless or curse. Mothers, Fathers, Grandparents, priests, pastors, bosses and teachers, have familial and creative ability to affect those under them, in lineage, for a few minutes, or many generations. Words, formed to mold, are powerful. Some speakers, machine-gun-spray words and intention like Chinese throwing stars.
Powerful Patriarchal and Matriarchal figures know to use words. They home in like heat seeking missiles making sure those who come after them will be blessed and powerful. These are aggressive in making sure their prodigy gets first, and the best of everything. Their children and heirs have self-assurance, and begin life with a solid foundation. The kids of the blessing usually do well, and are decent people.
A Leader's Words, More Powerful Than Actions
The Person in the Mirror, is the One Whose Words Have the Most Power For You
Mirror, mirror on the wall. The person reflecting back at you is the one with the most power of word. The words spoken by an individual about himself or herself are self-creation words. “I am an idiot, I always mess ________ up”. “I am the luckiest girl in the world, everything always works out for the best, I love you, you are pretty, handsome, smart, courageous, brave, strong, kind, successful, happy, a loving person, a sweetheart”.
Words spoken are the building blocks of who a person is. Thoughts are only thoughts. Like clouds, they come bounding in all shapes, sizes and color, but they are not all rain clouds. Words and intention do make a person. [Do not be sad, we can change the words we use about ourselves, and campaign for a better life.]
No matter what mean or misguided words have broken your bones, given you heart disease, obesity, poverty, solitude, barrenness. Words used against you, can be undone. It starts with you.
Speak only positives about yourself, and those you love. It may take some little time to change the way you talk about yourself, but each time you start to say, “I am… complete it with positive truths.” Get into the habit of speaking well about yourself and all you love. You will notice a positive change.
The very best to you all.
© 2011 Lori J Latimer
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