Stop Worrying.

Don't worry. Time for a new you.

How to stop worrying is a subject dear to my heart and I am sure you know someone, if not you, who is a worrier. We have all spent so much time worrying about things which are never likely to happen but we give so much energy to things which don't deserve it, to the point that the things we don't want the most actually become a reality.

Self fulfilling prophecy.

I really do believe that there is such a thing. Events in my life are proving this to me and When I have analysed this, the evidence all points to my worrying about things which were never likely to happen.

Slowly but surely I am changing my thinking processes and things are turning around for me.

And do you know what I put it all down to, the reason for my ill thinking?

The C word. Confidence, or lack of it.

Silly really when you think about it.

For 22 years I had a responsible job in Management and forces outside my control made me so unhappy in work that I had to make some drastic changes, I felt, to keep my sanity.

You see I never credited that I was a character who needed to be around other people at work until it was too late and I went into a job where I worked alone. We never know about these things until we try to make a change. It took me almost 8 years to realise this.

I convinced myself that I was okay and working alone wasn't a problem. I think I knew deep down that I needed interaction with others at work or my mind just had too much time alone in my head to think continuously about problems. The more I thought about a particular problem the more the problem, no, worry became a mental monster.

I have said it before and I stand by when I say that our brains and minds are the most sophisticated computers ever. The amount of information we can process is astounding. So much to the point where what we think without thinking (subconsciously) we can actually make a reality.

You know, you have heard stories about perfectly healthy people worrying about a particular ailment or illness that they can actually bring about that illness in themselves. Well the same is true about worrying. Events we worry about can actually be brought about by our subconscious minds finding a way to get for us, the thing or things we worry about most.

Now is the time to change your thinking before it is too late

There has to be a point in your life where you say 'ok, enough is enough'

I have recently reached that point and am determined to bring about my own success and not my demise, as that is where I was heading.

My thinking was manifesting all of the worries that I didn't want and they were actually starting to happen.

I had, in the past created visions of things I had wanted so much at the time and I had found ways of getting these things. I never put two and two together to realise that I was getting the result of my thinking both good, but most of all ,BAD.

Oh I had read books about this subject and dismissed the ideology that came with the information as being too out there and far fetched. I thought that this type of brainwashing was for looney tunes, who, if they didn't stand for something, would fall for anything. That is a familiar quote, I have used before and it is so fitting in this case.

Concentrating the mind and giving power to the thoughts of things you want to avoid is such a waste of resources. It begins to pull you down, makes you lethargic, even debilitates, makes you depressed and that is not good I can tell you.

Amazingly a shift in the ways you think can have a dramatic change in your life very quickly if you follow it through and be open minded and have faith in yourself that you can do this.

There is no alternative, you have got to change your life for you and by you. Nobody can do it for you. We have a television show here with Jeremy Kyle and is shown around mid morning. I never watch it as I am at work, but Tracey sometimes records it to watch in the evenings as I am at my laptop writing articles. Every so often he will say something like ' you have to grow a pair' , talking to a guy. 'take responsibility' 'get off your arse and do something' or 'man up'.

It makes me smile because these are the things I say to myself when I have little conversations with myself and believe it or not they can be quite motivational.

I'm not saying ignore your problems, that is the last thing I want you to think. But you don't need to spend every waking hour going over and over them in the hope that if you concentrate your mind on them they will get sorted. I know and you know that this will not happen. The opposite is going to happen. You give energy to it and it comes true. What you are telling your subconscious you don't want to happens, happens.

Accept what you know and do the positive opposite. Concentrate your thoughts on the outcome which you want, but without fear or doubt in your mind. That is a difficult thing to do, I know only too well. With practice you will do it and really believe that the outcome you visualise will happen.

Above all at the end of a day, turn your problems over to a higher power such as the thing out there called the UNIVERSE. Your energy will be picked up I am sure and the powers that be will pick this up and bring about the results you so crave. It sounds far fetched I know, but all there is out there in the great divide is matter. We are made up of matter and energy fields so it makes sense that there could be this higher power helping us. For some it will be the power of their faith in God which will get them through. If you are at all religious then turn everything over t your God at the end of each day saying that ' I have done everything in my power today and can do no more therefore I am turning this over to ( God / Universe or whoever ) and I trust that you will bring about the result I so want'.

It seems to work for me and allows me to clear my mind of all the clutter of the day before turning in. Try it and see how you can make it work for you.

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This is how not to worry.

  • Don't dwell on problems 24/7
  • Imagine or visualise what you want to happen
  • Don't give energy to things you don't want
  • Have a clear picture of what you want to happen
  • Turn your problems over to the universe at the end of the day
  • Practice practice practice
  • Analyse you past thinking habits, did you get the things you thought about the most?
  • Help other people to change their thought processes, it may help you understand more.
  • Keep busy, e.g, article writing to take your mind off negative influences.
  • Be proud of your achievements and your progress to date
  • Never never give up trying to improve your situation
  • Believe you can do it 100% and you will
  • Believe you can't and you won't

The rest is up to you now that you have highlighted your past thought processes. You now have to make a plan of where you want to be and what you need to achieve to give you the confidence in your ability to rid yourself of worry.


Good luck, you deserve the best!

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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

Engaging hub! We should not worry over things that don't matter much. I often heard that many people worry even over trivial matters. The points on how not to worry are good points. You nailed this hub nicely. Rated it useful. Vote up and sharing socially.


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poshcoffeeco 4 years ago from Cambridgeshire Author

ishwaryaa22 Hey thanks for the votes and great comments, I really appreciate you taking the time.It is a sad fact that we do worry over trivial things. Do you think it could be that we like doing it? I am not sure. If I had the choice I would choose not to, wouldn't you?


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Melovy 4 years ago from UK

Interesting hub, I hadn’t seen this side to you before, so didn’t expect it to go so deep. You are absolutely right that what we think affects our experience - and for those who aren’t into the metaphysical aspects of that, it’s not even necessary to think of it terms of the universe to see that. Eg if you think someone doesn’t like you then you react differently to them, and their reaction to you will fuel your belief - and so it goes on.

Coincidentally I am working on a series of hubs on a similar theme, so when I’ve got them all up I will link to yours. I have a couple up already but as the one I am working on just now is specifically about a way to turn around stressful thoughts I think it’s the one that I’ll link yours to. I’ll bookmark this. Voted up.


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poshcoffeeco 4 years ago from Cambridgeshire Author

melovy, great comments,thanks.I will check out your's also. Thanks for the heads up about the link. Have a great day.


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Robin Oatley 4 years ago

Interesting hub. I believe many people are suffering from their own worrying, and don't know how to stop it or even know that it is happening. It's really difficult to turn things around, after all these are very persistent habits. Many people could learn from you on this topic, and I wish you the best of luck pursuing your dreams instead of your worries!


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writer20 4 years ago from Southern Nevada

Great hub with tons of good information. Vote up useful and interesting. I'm going to try to send this to my sister as she worries a lot.


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Movie Master 4 years ago from United Kingdom

I am not alone in my 'worrying' then?!

An excellent hub, well written and very useful - you certainly nailed this one and get all my votes!

Best wishes Lesley


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poshcoffeeco 4 years ago from Cambridgeshire Author

Robin Oatley, thanks for the comments. Thanks for the best wishes.

writer20, nice to hear from you again. Hope your sister benefits from the info.I know how difficult it can be.Thanks again.

Movie Master, you are definitely not alone. Thanks for the great comments and all your votes. Awesome.


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland

I hope I can take your suggestions to heart. I worry about everything all the time and it makes me sick - like literally ill :P Im glad you have found a way to fix this problem for yourself. You give me hope that it can work!!


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poshcoffeeco 4 years ago from Cambridgeshire Author

Don't get me wrong Ardie, I am working very hard at this part of my life at the moment and it is difficult to take your own advice. But, at some point you have to say, enough is enough and just get on with it and believe that you can get better at not thinking about negative things.

I didn't have you down as one who worries for no apparent reason. Maybe we are all like this in one way or another.

You will get over this,I am sure if you believe that you can.

Thanks for the comments. As always I really do appreciate it.


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Ardie 4 years ago from Neverland

Hiya Posh. I'm glad I don't come across as a nervous wreck (which I am!). I try to act cool calm and collected when in actuality I am such a worrier that I developed ulcers at age 7. Who woulda thought hahah WE can overcome this together to meet our successes :)


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Cloverleaf 4 years ago from Calgary, AB, Canada

I'm a great believer of clearing the mind of clutter, although I don't do it often enough! Your hub really inspired me to take control again. Voted up and sharing :)


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poshcoffeeco 4 years ago from Cambridgeshire Author

Cloverleaf, Aww thanks for your vote and share. Glad you got something from the article. It's always great to here from you and your Mum.


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Jrandol62 4 years ago from Where ever the road takes me....

Good hub friend! I agree with your hub, worrying will break you down and put you in the hospital if you let it. I put it ALL in God's hands when I wake up in the morning...If it's meant to be, then it'll happen. If it doesn't happen, then move on to the next thing and don't sweat the small stuff. Life is too short to worry about every little thing...Enjoy life, your family, and let the rest happen like it happens. This from a guy who survived cancer x2 and a heart attack at 47 years of age! I give GOD ALL the glory for bringing me through it all and allowing me to still be here on this great planet we call earth! Thanks again for the hub! JVR :)


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poshcoffeeco 4 years ago from Cambridgeshire Author

JVR thanks for taking the time to comment. I agree with your philosophy on life.'Don't sweat the small stuff' is such a brilliant quote. Have been meaning to use it in a hub for ages.


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Jrandol62 4 years ago from Where ever the road takes me....

I hear ya buddy....no sweating here...LOL Have a great day friend!!


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Jeannieinabottle 4 years ago from Baltimore, MD

This is great advice. I tend to worry more than I should. I've gotten better with it over the years, but I still need some work. Great hub and voted up!


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poshcoffeeco 4 years ago from Cambridgeshire Author

Thanks so much for sharing this for me and for the follow back.


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ktrapp 4 years ago from Illinois

I can relate to a lot of what you wrote. I have always been a confident person but becoming a mother twenty years ago brought the worrier in me out. I think the root of my worry is fear - worrying about the what if's - but I really have overcome it a lot. Your suggestion list is really good.


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poshcoffeeco 4 years ago from Cambridgeshire Author

ktrapp, thanks for your comments and for visiting my hubs. Thanks also for the fan mail, you are very kind.


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suzanno 4 years ago from kerala, India

your hubs are extremely help full.....Im glad to be your follower.....:)


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poshcoffeeco 4 years ago from Cambridgeshire Author

Hi again Suzanno. Thanks for reading and commenting. I am glad you are following me as I am also following you. I look forward to your hub friendship!

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