Zero Tolerance for Boredom

Ho-Hum
Ho-Hum
Don't let it happen!
Don't let it happen!
Stamp out boredom!!
Stamp out boredom!!

What's Your Excuse for being Bored?

To the best of my recollection, the very first time I heard the expression, "I'm bored," uttered by an adult, I still recall wondering what was really meant by that claim. Seriously my friends, I was sure I had misunderstood. No doubt, I was fully aware of the definition of the term bored but I truly had no current personal experience with it. I'd simply not experienced boredom, within the previous four or five decades. That, I think was when I was an antsy 6 year-old being forced to sit still for an hour in church.

Unpleasant as my childhood experiences with boredom were, I outgrew the struggle and finally faced the reality that being bored shouldn't even be an option.


Let's Take a Closer Look. The truth behind the words

Although children can be excused for whining the words, "I'm bored," which can account for a good deal of parental frustration, it should be clear that it's said in place of what's really going on. An attentive parent has figured out this routine.

What our precious darlings are really saying might be a choice of, or combination of the following:

1. "I need more attention from you, Mom and Dad."

2. "These toys are two weeks old. It's time for a ride to Toys R Us."

3. "I'm hungry and tired. It's lunch time and I need a nap."

4. "Can we go to the park or the zoo or a circus or something?!"

This is fine and we deal with it, because....well, they're just kids and it's perfectly normal behavior. As they mature and their talents improve, they learn to use their own ideas to keep busy and be happy. Before we know it, they're students, athletes and artists, with schedules & activities only a juggler can handle. Boredom takes a hike.



Excuse me, but you'll have to go around me.
Excuse me, but you'll have to go around me.
Read a book, take a walk, plant flowers, bake a cake, knit, sew, do a crossword, clean a closet,volunteer, join an organization
Read a book, take a walk, plant flowers, bake a cake, knit, sew, do a crossword, clean a closet,volunteer, join an organization

Bored? I'm afraid I don't understand

Getting back to that adult who actually spoke the words, "I'm bored," let me share what went through my mind. I tried to respond with empathy. I think I may have smiled and more than likely, attempted to use my best, "I understand," facial expression. Truth was, I didn't understand.

I speculated as to whether there may have been an underlying reason, perhaps merely a lack of motivation or energy. I wondered, "Is she serious? She's BORED? She really has NOTHING to do? This is amazing actually because it doesn't strike me as healthy for a young, adult woman to be lost for ideas in activities.

I resisted the urge to ask if she'd like me to jot down a list of possible activities both productive and just-for-fun. It did occur to me that she'd reverted to childhood and her real issue was something else entirely. I was speculating. And although this is always a possibility, somehow I could sense this wasn't the case. This adult woman whom I'd always known to be intelligent and sensible, found herself in the state of boredom. I tried to help a little but I got the impression we may not have shared the same interests.

At some point, I realized I was losing valuable time of my own. This is not wise of me, as I continually find myself wishing for more hours in a day, I was truly curious how some one could be sitting still, struggling with boredom.


A waste of precious life
A waste of precious life
no boredom allowed here.
no boredom allowed here.
Today, I found the most beautiful butterfly atop my baby lilac bush and I ..............
Today, I found the most beautiful butterfly atop my baby lilac bush and I ..............

While You're Sitting There Doing Nothing...

So your body is locked into the idle position and you're sitting on your duff, bored to death. Tell me please, that at least the mind is still in gear and willing to conjure up the pitfalls of doing ...nothing.

All sorts of unpleasant, unacceptable temptations take over when we have no direction ..no goals in mind. This is true no matter what our age, sex or status. Do we not see the ugly ramifications of teens who drop out of school or of men and women without motivation, employment, or hobbies? The result is boredom and from that tree, grow many branches. It's no secret that so many turn to alcohol and drugs, blindly groping to fill the void. Where addiction exists, crime and devastation follow closely behind. The road to nowhere? Not exactly. This road does lead to one of two realities; prison or death.

I will agree this may be an extreme result of inactivity of course, but not the least likely. The slow but steady deterioration of both physical and mental health is a fairly sure result of embracing the demon called boredom. Our bodies and minds are meant to move, grow, improve, participate in all of life's competitions, and stay afloat with the ebb and flow of the Universe. We are not built to be useless, immobile or sedentary and clueless.

People with time on their hands, who lack the creativity to come up with productive activities, have a tendency to cause trouble. We won't hear very much so-called, small town gossip from individuals who are busy taking care of business, specifically their own business. Fewer temptations to pick up unhealthy habits arise when we're occupied doing something positive and enjoyable.

So,whose responsibility is it to provide us with ideas of things to do to avoid boredom? Silly question. Of course we'd have to agree that each person is the best source to suggest what they choose to do at any given time. However, we might like to get some friends involved and collaborate on a group activity. All the better and that's a great way to improve one's social life if it needs a boost.

We 're taught to overcome and defeat boredom. Don't accept it. Refuse to entertain it. Fight it every moment. Should it begin to stalk you, run, do not walk toward the endless gifts of imagination and creativity.

Begin a journal. Right now, today. Transcribe your thoughts and dreams and ideas. Read them again and again. You'll find joy in getting to know more about yourself and realizing the talents you never knew you had. When pen-in-hand begins to glide effortlessly in sync with your muse, perhaps you've stumbled upon a saving grace.

It's really amazing, the hidden talents you may have had all along that suddenly begin to take form because you've made the choice to give something a try. I'm fairly confident, boredom will rarely enter your life once you've made up your mind that you won't allow it.

Right this moment, create a list of things you've ever even thought of doing. Maybe old hobbies, or something brand new. Call a friend who does a lot of crafts and ask if she'll teach you to make something awesome, you might give as a gift. If completely at a loss for ideas or you just want to take time to think....it's the perfect time for a walk, or to sit in the park. "People watching," believe it or not, can be quite inspiring.

Make a vow to see the word "bored," as a warning....alerting you that you and your time are much too valuable to fall into a rut. There's so much to do and things to create. You can stretch your imagination much further than you might think. It's just the first step that seems the hardest, after which, it's an unending adventure! Get busy, stay active and Good Luck, my friend.



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tsadjatko profile image

tsadjatko 9 months ago from maybe (the guy or girl) next door

That is right ole boy Zero-Tolerance-for-Boredom


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Wesman Todd Shaw 9 months ago from Kaufman, Texas

Well at least I won't be bored! :)


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tsadjatko 9 months ago from maybe (the guy or girl) next door

DANGER, DANGER Wes Wesmanson

you are about to find yourself LOST IN SPACE (Don't visit Venus (or Mars) while you are out there, it won't help)


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Wesman Todd Shaw 9 months ago from Kaufman, Texas

Omg! i'm totally getting flattered now!


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fpherj48 9 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Encourage Wes to find a cute little Southern Belle and settle down like a stable American man & raise some young-uns.....He's done just about everything else in life. How can he deny the world another little genius child like Daddy?


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tsadjatko 9 months ago from maybe (the guy or girl) next door

Encourage Wes on what, the cuckoo bird? or makin grandchildren for his Maw n' Paw? Now wait, there is a difference?

Oh yeah there is,that thar first'n is manly, the second thar is what we'ins call women's work.


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fpherj48 9 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Wes......BOX wine? C'mon honey, at least buy a lovely crystal-looking wine decanter and fill it with the wine. Crush & burn the box. Get a couple of real wine glasses with stems....NO, you may not use Styrofoam!

Turn the lights down low, tilt your handsome cowboy hat and strum that GEE-tar of yours for a sweet lovely Southern Belle. Must we start at square one again with your lessons?

I'm telling you~~ Your whole life will be much more fulfilling, exciting and meaningful if you would just SETTLE DOWN and produce a little Wesman or 2. Anything even vaguely resembling boredom will disappear forever. You'll stay out of trouble and just think how thrilled your Mama & Daddy will be with the grandchildren!

Don't try to stop me, Wes. If it's the last thing I do, I will guide you to the altar. You go ahead and just try to write a hub explaining the reasons you've managed to sidestep marriage. It won't make any sense at all! LOL....Love you, Effer (Tsad! I expect you to encourage Wes on this issue!)


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Wesman Todd Shaw 9 months ago from Kaufman, Texas

I flew over a nest of those once....no twice.


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tsadjatko 9 months ago from maybe (the guy or girl) next door

I have one for you Wes, I'm sure you could write a doozy HP on the Cuckoo Bird.

I'll be your first contributor.


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Wesman Todd Shaw 9 months ago from Kaufman, Texas

Think I'll pour a tall glass of box wine on ice, stir some shit up on Facebook. Nah....I'm too old for that now, think I'll....ah...hell, there's surely some cat or something I could write a thing about.

Who needs to be institutionalized? Not me, been there and done that, twice at this point. I got some xanax, who needs a xanax? I can shoot them boogers right through the interwebs into someone's ass! :)


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fpherj48 9 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Val Thanks for commenting on my work once again. I appreciate your interest.

As for our annoying fly in the ointment....I would second Tsad's suggestion. DELETE any & all of her jibberish immediately upon seeing it. Pay her NO attention whatsoever. I know of no one at this point who will allow her on their site nor play any further games with her. The pathetic woman clearly needs to be institutionalized, but this is not our issue here at HP. Just try to imagine those who must literally DEAL with her daily via a one on one situation! Insanity!

Delete & ignore. She may realize she has become non-existent.


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tsadjatko 9 months ago from maybe (the guy or girl) next door

Val just mark her comments as spam, I think that might block her ip address from commenting on your hub page, though I'm not sure about that if it is marked spam enough times moderators should look at it..


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ValKaras 9 months ago from Canada

Paula...Your literary talent and wisdom have just proven themselves once again. By the way, High Priestess started using the back door to get to us, by leaving her toxic comments at the bottom of a hub, since she was banned from Q. & A. Do you know of any way to let our officials know about it, so that she hopefully loses an access to our hubs? Or we should just keep deleting her nonsense?


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fpherj48 16 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

color.....Your Mom was very wise. Nature teaches us so many wonderful lessons! Thank you for the visit and thoughtful comment.

We writers couldn't POSSIBLY get bored...now can we!!?..Peace, Paula


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colorfulone 16 months ago from Minnesota

Paula, this is very helpful for people who get bored. When I was young, I told my Mom one day that I was bored. To my surprise, she said she never gets bored. She told me to go sit out on the back porch and look all around me, and that there is no way I could ever be bored if I did that. So! I did what my Mom told me to do. I realized with all the wildlife and beauty of nature there is to see...it would not allow me to bored if I just opened my eyes to see and became one with my surroundings. Ever since that day I not been bored because I don't allow that into my life. Life is too beautiful to be bored.

I can thank my Mom for teaching me to be open to appreciate the possibles and what is. Being bored is one of those feelings I would compare to being lonely, it does a person no good. We can control how we feel if we want to. - Kudos!


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fpherj48 20 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

skye....Always a pleasure and an inspiration to hear from you. Thank you so much......wishing you blessings. Peace, Paula


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skye2day 20 months ago from Rocky Mountains

Paula another fantastic write sister. On the flip side of the coin I think over activity (always thinking we must go and not waste precious time) can be destructive as well. I know I still deal with thinking I need to do this or that to feel worthy. I am still learning it is OK to sit and be still. Gods tells us Matthew 6:32. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all these other things will be added unto you. When feeling discontent, restless or as others bored. Ask God and He will direct your path. He will put someone or something on your path so you can be of service. He is awesome. He never ceases to amaze me. I wake in expectation to serve the living God. God could and would if He were sought. I pray all seek after God. He is the way truth and the life. John 14:6. God tells us in scripture my people will perish for lack of vision. Proverbs 29:8.

Love the monkey Paula, Love to you, Skye

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tsadjatko 20 months ago from maybe (the guy or girl) next door

Nope,

but you just gave me an idea for a new username,

"toidi" or would that be too redundant...?

booooorrring! http://i.huffpost.com/gen/352503/images/r-SCHOOL-B...


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fpherj48 20 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Tsad.....Have I told you today that you're an idiot? That monkey video is hilarious, but I refuse to laugh.


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tsadjatko 20 months ago from maybe (the guy or girl) next door

Every time I see the pic of your "bored"chimp on this hub page I can't help but think that's not the Chimp's whole story. This can be what boredom leads to, with chimps anyway, here's "the rest of the story":

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0P-FuwMDq5s

http://www.zwani.com/graphics/happy_birthday/image...


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fpherj48 20 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

No, you didn't and it's about time! You are a trip!


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Sunshine625 20 months ago from Orlando, FL

Not sure if I wished you a happy birthday yet! LOL! I sure hope you had an exciting day and weren't bored! :))


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fpherj48 21 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Mary......You may have something there. I always think when I hear someone say that, perhaps their seeking "suggestions" from someone......."What can I do now?".....Thanks for visiting!


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aesta1 21 months ago from Ontario, Canada

I used to say these words when I was in university. I think I was seeking attention. But I don't know what happened. Maybe the nuns helped me out. Thank God I have never been bored since I was 20. Even if I don't work now, there are plenty of things to do.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Wow....and I say AMEN!.....to your lively comment. Way to go and stay active and busy, whowas!!! Boredom is OUT....Imagination is IN!!

Thanks for the visit!!


whowas 4 years ago

Indeed, indeed, how can one EVER be bored? It is a concept that I have never understood.

I remember my father saying many times to those who claimed to be in a state of 'boredom' that it was an indicator only of a lack of imagination.

I think in part he was right but I would go much further than that. Boredom is simply a failure to be properly alive. What is lacking, in even the most mundane of experiences, that could possibly lead to boredom?

Wake up, people who say they are bored! Enliven your senses! Touch, taste, smell, see, listen, imagine, explore. Live. Ask a question and seek the answer. Enquire. Live!

Thanks for your marvellous hub.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

frogyfish.......When I think of "bored," I think....an individual who either doesn't WANT to do anything...OR...one who cannot THINK of anything productive to do........I can almost forgive the former......we do get LAZY now and then....but the latter? That's simply BRAIN DEAD!! LOL


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frogyfish 4 years ago from Central United States of America

Sensible, responsible....and yes, sic those chores on anyone who dares to say 'those words'. Enjoyable and interesting hub!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Dr Pooja......I agree. I don't believe I've been bored one minute of my life! Whenever I hear an adult voice this complaint....I automatically think they suffer from depression.....but they are unaware and so they "think" they're bored. They're really just weighted down....Thank you for stopping by!.


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Dr Pooja 4 years ago

Interesting hub!! I don't remember saying the phrase I'm bored a kid but hear it too frequently from kids these days as they play less and watch more T.V.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

emilybee &

lovedoctor926

Your Mom was right. Bored people ARE boring.....and they bring their lax attitude and sad face around and poison us with apathy!! They ccoze negativity and are experts at whining and complaining.......Think about it girls......they get more bored because they have to live with their boring selves! Sounds like a nasty circle of yawning and crying. YUK!


lovedoctor926 4 years ago

Voted up!

Boredom? What's that? Lol.... I don't think I've ever been bored in my life. There are just so many things to do and I am not talking about sitting in front of the TV with a pint of Ben and Jerry's. I know so many people with the same shit different day type of mentality and they can zap the energy out of those around them. These types of people are always looking to hang around their friends because they are bored.Sounds like they need to find some hobbies of their own right? The best prescription for this ailment is exercise.


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emilybee 4 years ago

I'm bored. ;) Well, I was a little bored sitting here eating this delicious cookie when I happened across your hub. My mom always said bored people are boring people, so I've tried my whole life o not be a bore, lol.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Daughter.....IMO, you hit the nail on the head.....I think it is that people (especially women) will say they are bored.....when in fact, they have clinical depression which zaps their zest for life......they either don't realize it's depression....or they do, but remain in denial or don't want to admit it.....That's sad, because there is so much wonderful help for clinical depression.

They need to understand how it can change their entire attitude and thus, their life!

Thank you for your input!!


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Daughter Of Maat 4 years ago from Rural Central Florida

Great hub, and so true. I don't know how anyone can be bored. Depressed yes, bored, no lol. I have so much to do, I could never be bored!!

Voted up and shared, hopefully it will prevent s few minutes of boredom for others lol. :D


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

THANKS!! Now I have them both!! of course!! lmao.......I'll be gtting back to you!. You're a doll.


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

Yup, no probs!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Gosh Jools...I haven't received it yet......oops.....I wonder, can you pull it up and re-send it? I hope so!


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

I did and i have replied!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Jools99......I can't imagine that you would ever be bored......you're much too full of life! (I sent you an email...did you receive it?)


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

I don't think I've ever been bored in my life. I think when it happens, it will come as a shock to my system - I always have things to do, places to go, things to watch, books to read, things to write.

Voted up and shared.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

alocsin......You are brave. Three years olds can certainly keep you busy....they can also wear you down to a frazzle!! Bless their little hearts......The "I'm so bored," stage starts around 6 or 7....but fortunately doesn't last long.

All I can come up with to explain a "bored" adult.....is either "laziness" or total lack of imagination and incentive!!


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alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

I don't know that I have time to be bored -- if anything I wish I had more time where nothing is happening. Was with my three-year old nephew today and he doesn't seem to get bored either, always running around and climbing and exploring thing. Voting this Up and Interesting.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Stella...enjoy the moments of what you refer to as "boredom, as long as you can.....Soon enough, you will have forgotten the word and certainly not recall what it means!! Peace


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StellaSee 4 years ago from California

I feel like as you get older you don't get bored as much as you did when you were younger.. because you take on more responsibilities, the fun stuff gets crammed in for the weekend..but! there are times during work or school that I have gotten bored, but I think that's more because what we were doing at the time wasn't really engaging.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Sharyn....Good to know you enjoy my writing as I certainly love yours! (Mutual fan club?)

I'm with you! We'll remove "boredom," from the dictionary...and replace it with "Hey! get a ife!!"

Thanks for stopping by, Slanted ONE. Appreciate your visits.


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Sharyn's Slant 4 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

I love your writing Paula and your take on LIFE. I am never bored. I always have a list (or two or three) written down of things I must/want to accomplish. I have additional lists that stay in my brain and seem to come out when I am trying to fall asleep. Boredom is one of those words that should probably just be removed from the dictionary. Fun read as always!

Sharyn


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

lol!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Nell Rose....And just look at us, darling!! We're as famous as can be! The mere mention of the name, "Nell Rose," brings shouts and applause. I can sound like an entire audience! Thanks for granting me a visit Your Highness!! You're a Rock Star.


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Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

I think the problem is that when someone says they are bored its because whatever they have to do or can do is not entertaining them. And that's the trouble these days, back in the day we did everything from cleaning to going to work as something that had to be done and done well, these days there are so many kids who want to be famous that to go out to work or do chores is 'boring', it drives me mad! lol!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Lyn.....You're so right. There doesn't seem to be enough of the good old fashioned playing outdoors in fresh air and using the imagination.

Thanks for stopping by to visit and comment. Good to see you!


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Lyn.Stewart 4 years ago from Auckland, New Zealand

You hear this said more now days than when we were growing up. I believe it's because so many children are growing up not having to pretend or find something to do outside. They sit inside playing playstation, going on facebook, watching t.v or movies and texting.

My children had to play outside if it was sunny and in bedrooms or sunroom on rainy days and only got to play on the puter or playstation once in a while. They were so hard done by. Voted up etc.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Eliza....I'm so glad you brought this up! In my case too, I had to learn that kicking back a bit and/or "relaxing" was not at all related to boredom or lazines. This would be ludicrous. We all need a break to rest and refresh

I do believe my upbringing (Oh yes, here we go again, blaming Mom & Dad) steered me in the direction of Being in control of all things within reach...go go go...be busy and productive, take care of matters etc....So, that if & when I would sit and twiddle my thumbs, I literally felt like a criminal! LOL.

Boredom, on the other hand, I see as a strange sort of refusal to wake up and see that there is always something to do that isn't necessarily unpleasant!

I'm happy for you that you met a man who has taught you to BREATHE now & then. lol.

Thanks for stopping by, Eliza. I do enjoy your work.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Motown.....So good to see you. Always interested in your respected opinion. I'm glad I could motivate! & thanks so much for sharing. You're a peach!!


Motown2Chitown 4 years ago

Absolutely brilliant....and timely! Thanks for this. It's just the motivation I've been in need of. :) Sharing with everyone in my little world.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

LMAO......Oh, Tillie.....my mind is like a super highway all right...no doubt about it.....BUT, you read my last hub about directional dysfunction....right? Need I say one more word?

I'll pit my kitchen sink up against yours anyday.....not to mention, the laundry room, my closets and cupboards.....(I use the old trick....if it's in the way or sitting out......shove it in a drawer or closet) Oh yeah, and under the bed!!

Not that we should discuss the 800 lb gorilla in the room or anything.......I mean, HubPages may play a tiny part in this ever-growing collection of "things to do." I'm just sayin................................


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

I thought they omitted bored from the English dictionary years ago! How could anyone in this world, day, and age be bored! I don't have enough time to do anything, just check my kitchen sink!!

Another brillian hub by a brilliant mind. Who else would write about boredom and make it not only interesting but correct! "...boredom and from that tree, grow many branches" Reading that I'm thinking your mind is like a superhighway with thoughts racing every which way!

Voted up, awesome, interesting and SHARING.


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eatforcheaper 4 years ago from London

Thanks fpherj48 :)


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ElizaDoole 4 years ago from London

I had to learn how to be bored. I was one of those youngsters who was so energetic and needy that I could never stop my mind or my body from being busy and active. I would rearrange my dolls into hollywood movie plots, read voraciously, exercise and undergo two weekly sports activities in addition to school. It wasn't until I was 37 that I went out with my current boyfriend who is so laid back I thought him lazy. He's taught me to slow down and sit on the sofa watching television without getting up every advert to cook, clean, tidy, write a letter etc. Honestly, I don't know how I got by.

Interesting hub! Love the cat too. Thought provoking. Voted up!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

eatforcheaper....Starting your own thing or something new.....I think you're onto something exciting. Go for it. Never settle for less than what you want!!

KIM:

Check the marriage license.....I think the word "forever" is in there....you're screwed!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Blissful....No, not even at work. Especially not at work..I'm now retired but I was fortunate to have an extremely interesting career......and if it hadn't been, I'd have MADE it interesting or simply changed jobs.....Thanks for stopping by. Its nice to hear from you.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Victoria....I know EXACTLY what you mean. I can't tell you how many times I have asked myself, "How the heck did I manage when I worked full-time??" Boredom is simply not an issue! Thanks for the visit.


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Kim Cantrell 4 years ago from Deep In The Pages of a Book

Oh yes, the boys do it too but they have a leader. So it is forever - aargh! lol


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eatforcheaper 4 years ago from London

I understand what you guys are saying but what if you're in a job that you can't stand and you say "I'm bored"? Haha! Unfortunately, that is my predicament at the moment! Sorry to hear that Victoria Lynn but at the same time I'm not sorry if you are happy with life - sounds good to me and I also wouldn't be bored with the things you say you have to do! :) I'm am working on changing this awful dilemma...and I hear of so many people that have quit work to start their own thing or something new....watch this space haha!


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BlissfulWriter 4 years ago

Haven't been bored for a few decades? Not even at work? That's pretty good. I get bored sometimes. Which is fine for me. Because I don't like excitement and drama. I also try not to do too much things. Keeping my plate a little bit empty is a good thing.


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Effer--I could have written this (although probably not as well, LOL)! I'm in shock when I hear adults utter that they are bored. There are times when I feel lazy or unmotivated, but NEVER, NEVER bored. Since I lost my full-time job 3 months ago, some friends have asked what if I don't have enough to do, will I get depressed??? Not enough to do, seriously? I am so busy with part-time work and writing that I can't get the yard and housework caught up that I had hoped would happen. Will it ever happen? I don't know. I could NEVER work at a job again and never be bored. I always have organizing and cleaning at home, projects and repairs to do, beautifying the garden, visiting family and friends, reading, catching up on correspondence, cooking--it goes on and on and on. And that's if I weren't trying to get my freelance career going...and trying to make a living and pay my bills! Great hub. I can relate perfectly. All the votes and sharing!


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Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

Seriously no adult should utter such words. There are zillion things to do and if he is super efficient then he ought to join hubpages and try following such great hub bears...example-fpherj48. Following up on hubs and commenting will make him forget what bor mean...lol

Voted up, my friend and shared across


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

OH...you were referring to your husband?? I thought you meant your boys......

Oh no, cutey....I'm not talking. My lips are sealed....No speak-ee inglish ....

forever is a very long long time..........LMAO!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Kelly.....There really are not enough hours in a day. Let's not forget that all these things that we need "to catch up on"....have been building up as we hub, hub along..lol....To say a hubber would NEVER get bored is an understatement!

Some laziness may be disguised as "bored," but it's mostly lack of zest for life! Thanks for stopping by...always like your comments!


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Kim Cantrell 4 years ago from Deep In The Pages of a Book

I presume the gratitude comes from the sons - right? Well tell me what will the snickering 42 year old turn his into....because, really, I'm thinking he's gonna be like this forever.


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Hi Effer - I don't have time to be bored! In fact - there are not enough hours in a day to accomplish what I'd like to. I have a list as long as my arm of catch up stuff:). Boring just sounds lazy...and I do get lazy sometimes but I don't feel bored with that even! Lol


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

farmloft....Ditto! I hear what you're saying...There really is so much...too much. If one gets bored...it's no one's fault but theirs ....and they may just be looking to be LAZY?

teaches12345:

I imagine a teacher has to hear this fairly often...although it beats the heck out of me how much MORE kids need to keep busy, active and happy!! Or, could that be the problem? Too-much-too-often-too-soon overload and here comes the crash and burn?? I don't know what the answer is.

But I do know there isn't an acceptable excuse to be "bored." Thanks for your comment. Good to hear from you, teaches!!


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teaches12345 4 years ago

As many others have stated, As a former teacher, I heard this from children in my classrooms a few times. I like your list of reasons for boredome and your suggestions fro overcoming the feeling. Your advice is good food for the brain and will get us motivated to do something!


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farmloft 4 years ago from Michigan

I have too many things to learn and study. Too many people to call or visit or help or enjoy. Too many places to go to or dream of or read about. Too many to ever be bored.

I agree that Bored is a pattern. When you stick to the pattern the excitement is lost, then you have to look outside of your comfort zone. Not always easy for everybody.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Sunshine....I do hear this now and then coming from the mouths of adults you would think are a bit smarter than to allow this to enter their world....but I usually bite my tongue and slip away ...because you know, when you go around swatting people in the head and screaming at them to GET A LIFE!! people look at you funny...

Now that you mention it though, I think the best "cure" for these dead beats would be to be forced to follow me or you around for ONE day! Lmao...


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

KIM ...YES and YES...I do have BOYS and I know what you mean...from an older Mom with all this behind her....listen carefully.....Today's snickering becomes tomorrow's Gratitude & admiration. Long awaited, but well worth it!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

The only people who could possibly get bored are boring people! There are no ifs, ends or buts. Until they realize this, they will continue to be boring people being bored. There is always something to do or to learn. I pity the fool who says they are bored to you! Or me!:)


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Kim Cantrell 4 years ago from Deep In The Pages of a Book

"on the ball" at my house would result in a lot of snickering...you've got boys, so you know what I mean. :). Good to see you too, dear!


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DzyMsLizzy 4 years ago from Oakley, CA

Thanks, fpherj48--this is my outlet--my bordeom antidote besides the kitties...I appreciate your compliment. ;-)


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Dzy....I hear you...really, I do. There's not as much bounce or speed involved in my activities as years ago...and there are definitely things I wouldn't dare to do these days, without the EMT'S on stand-by....but I can tell you this much for sure.. YOU certainly keep your fellow-hubbers very well entertained! Keep writing!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

KIm....you are too damned funny. I love your sense of humor....especially where your mothering skills are involved. Your kids are blessed to have a Mom as "on the ball" as you! Thanks for stopping by. Always good to hear from you!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

Jaye...why thank you so much!! I see we have a mutual admiration fan club going here.

I'm not surprised we like each other's writing....via our comment exchanges, I'm discovering quite a few like-mind-sets.

I too was a part-time "only child," due to my sis being years older (off doing all things to avoid the "little brat," I'm sure) I was a self-entertainer and I remember it all so well. I'm sure it must be due to lively imaginations.

And to this day, I am also quite happy and comfy in solitude (on those RARE occasions!) Being alone does not equate to lonely...not in the least.

Like you, unless I am fatigued or ill, I can come up with no less than 2 dozen "things to do," in less than 60 seconds.

Thanks again and see you 'round the corner.


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York Author

bill....Hi there Olympian...(I thought I might throw some hubbers off.....thinking you are a gold medal winner)...

Funny you should say what you did....my sister and I had this mental telepathy thing between us, continually. When we'd listen to someone bellyaching about how and why their life sucked....one of us would invariably catch the attention of the other, who would hold the "finger-gun" to her temple and pull the invisible trigger.........the shared message we were in sync with was "just shoot me."

This, of course, was a great lesson in self-control for both of us laughing hyenas. Really, Mama said don't ever laugh at someone in their face!

So.....I may not really shoot you....but I'd send step by step directions to Bev on how to bitch-slap a deadbeat upside the head!! Adios amigo......


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DzyMsLizzy 4 years ago from Oakley, CA

Hmm...well, I do recall the childhood boredom routine...and as you say, it usually meant something along the lines of "I'm tired of doing all the usual things--can't we go do something EXCITING?!"

I dealt with it with my kids, too. Unfortunately for me and for them, we were not well-to-do, and the "exciting somethings" were not usually in the budget. I used to get so frustrated with them, listing innumerable suggestion of things to do, only to have all of them rejected, that after a few years, I finally would just tell them, "Figure out something for yourselves--you always nay-say anything I suggest, so stop asking!"

I was never bored as an adult until I recently learned how that can happen. It sneaks up on you slowy, as you age, start to have health issues, worry over dwindling finances, and depression with worry over your spouse's health being worse than your own...no money to even buy a book most of the time....finding FaceBook games childish and irritating....the body refusing to do things you once enjoyed (painting--hands no longer steady; eyesight not so good anymore); hiking, camping (bad knees & back--can no longer do those things); gardening--bad knees & back again--cannot get down there--have to ask grandkids to help do those things); etc. I could go on, but you get the picture. Basically, my cats are my remaining connection to sanity. I hate to say it, but yes, sometimes I get do bored because I can no longer do all the things that used to keep me so well entertained.


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Kim Cantrell 4 years ago from Deep In The Pages of a Book

As far back as my memory serves me, I never used the words bored around my parents. Doing so resulted in a multitude of chores - in addition to the ones I was already responsible for.

And now I proudly carry on this tradition with my kids. :)


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JayeWisdom 4 years ago from Deep South, USA

I do so love your writing! This is such a marvelous hub and written so well (which is par for you) that I voted it UP and across the board!

You're so right that no one should ever be bored. I don't even recall experiencing boredom as a child, because I always had a book close at hand and paper on which to write or sketch. If I ran out of reading, drawing or writing materials, I could find something to do, being blessed with a quite active imagination.

When very young, I would stand atop a large stump in my grandmother's yard and either sing at the top of my lungs or present speeches to imaginary audiences. Did I mention I had a lively imagination?

I think it was during the first nine years of my life before I had any siblings (for all intents and purposes an only child until my brother put in an appearance) that I learned to be comfortable being alone with myself. That didn't change with adulthood.

I've never been one of those people who needs someone around all the time--even at the other end of the phone line or email--in order to feel engaged. Someone who doesn't feel lonely when there's no one else around is more likely to find something to occupy her (or his) time and efforts, staving off even the possibility of boredom.

Suffice it to say, I may get tired sometimes...but NEVER bored!

Jaye


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

I heard those words for years as a teacher but I managed not to strangle the little darlings. When I hear those words spoken by an adult I wonder if maybe they underwent a lobotomy! Sweet Jesus and Mary, get out and do something!!! I don't have time to be bored; I don't remember what the hell it felt like to be bored if I ever felt it!

I know you don't do Facebook but you'll see a lot of this on Facebook...daily as a matter of fact..."I'm bored!" or "Can anyone suggest something to do?" Really? Paula, if I ever ask you to suggest something for me to do because I'm bored you have my permission to fly to Washington and shoot me.

Oh, by the way, great hub!

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