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"To err is human; to forgive, divine." ~Alexander Pope
What is a sociopath?
A sociopath is almost undetectable at first. They will be your best friend and supporter. They will convince you of their undying love. They will look into your eyes and lie with an unflinching smile. You can not ask a sociopath a question and get a reliable answer. They are prone to distorting situations at will. Sociopaths can be compulsive liars but they are so conniving they believe their own lies enough to convince others.
We all see small bits and pieces of ourselves in many definitions. What does define us morally? If I have been a bad friend - does that make me a sociopath? If I hurt another person's feelings, does that make me bad? If I experience a moment of anger or say something in that moment what does that say about me? Aren't those the answers we really want to know? If the answer is yes - then you are clearly not a sociopath. Sociopaths do not care or have feelings of remorse. They reject the idea that they are anything less than perfect.
A sociopath is not the type of person who is going to lose sleep because they are worried about how someone else feels. A sociopath would accept your kidney if they needed a transplant and then tell you how selfish you are if you denied them your last stick of gum.
A sociopath lacks empathy - emotion. They do not care about other people. If there was only one apple left in the world and a sociopath had it - they would let the world starve while they ate every bite.
It's all mine!
Well Known Sociopaths
- Ted Bundy
- Joseph Stalin
- Aileen Wuornos
- John Wayne Gacy
- John List
- Susan Smith
- Edward Gein
- Gary Ridgeway
- Jeffrey Dahmer
- Belle Sorrenson Gunness
- Charles Manson
- Mary Bell
- Dennis Rader
Sociopaths are extremely charming, charismatic - cunning. A sociopath is a chameleon and will change their character to fit the color of the room. The true sociopath appears to be very well put together, educated, witty and exciting. These people are the ones that have all that magnetism and are the center of attention.
The sociopath is very convincing and will tell you how much they admire/love/adore you. They have the knack of being very believable and this person is very good at exploiting weaknesses in others. Sociopaths are willing and able to lie at any moment and are so believable they can fool lie detector tests repeatedly.
Sociopaths do not have to be serial killers, in fact they don't even have to murder one person to be a bona fide sociopath. Sociopaths are not that uncommon. I have had experience with one or more and certainly most adults have been exposed to a sociopathic lover or co-worker at some point in time because this type of personality is abundant . According to statistics at The National Institute for Mental Health, approximately 1% of the population is a sociopath.
Dr. J. C. Pritchard is attributed with the first use of the term "moral insanity" in 1835 when he wrote, "There is a form of mental derangement in which the intellectual faculties [are uninjured], while the disorder is manifested principally or alone, in the state of feelings, temper, or habits...The Moral...principals of the mind...are depraved or perverted, the power of self government is lost or greatly impaird and the individual is...incablable...of conducting himself with decency and propriety in the business of life."
Pschopaths and Sociopaths are different in some aspects though they share many of the same traits. A psychopath is more organized and controlled emotionally, a sociopath tends to be more impulsive, anxiety ridden or prone to angry outbursts. Another difference that has been argued is the etiology of the different types of disorders.
Sociopaths are not gender specific and symptoms often present themselves in childhood. This is when therapy is found to be most effective and rehabilitation is said to be possible if caught early and treated.
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Beneath that bewitching mask a true sociopath is controlling, conniving and wants to rule the universe. Many people are confused about what a sociopath is - there are signs and criteria but these people hide their flaws well. Sociopaths are filled with anger and hostility but it is covert. They have a huge sense of entitlement and derive pleasure from the negativity they create and those they are able to humiliate.
A sociopath will blame and project their emotions onto everyone around them. Sociopaths do not care about anyone but themselves. They lack empathy and sympathy. A sociopath wants to be gratified with their every wish and command and will go to great lengths to achieve that. A sociopath is filled with hate and will brood over small issues and plot and plan to get their revenge. Making others feel bad is what makes them feel good.
What Motivates A Sociopath?
Greed, the need to be powerful, number one, the need for affection, love and undying devotion is the motive. A sociopath enjoys the havoc they wreak and thrives on feeding their addictive needs whatever they may be. Simply feeling as if they are in control of another person is the reward. A sociopath lacks true feeling and emotion so they thrive on their victims turmoil. While sociopaths often steal things or commit robbery they most often do not need a monetary reward to fuel their need for power and control over others.
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What Can You Do?
Sociopaths begin their careers early. According to the DSM to qualify as a true sociopath the person must have had behavioral or conduct issues before the age of 15 but they must be at least 18 years old to meet the criteria. Sociopaths, while hard to identify, will burn their bridges. They will have left a graveyard of lost friendships, family members and acquaintances in their wake. A sociopath will usually have many work related issues and a scattering of jobs in their pasts without having held any one particular job for a long period of time. They tend to have poor work ethic. They also have trouble academically usually due to atypical behavior. Many have issues with alcohol or drugs and risky behavior.
A sociopath will hurt your feelings and then say they are sorry and offer small gifts or rewards to show good faith in their apology though they really don't care if you are angry or hurt. They pretend and preform so well it's Oscar winning. They really are seeking constant validation from friends and family. People are mere targets to them...they don't feel loved and do not feel genuine love for others.
Sociopaths rarely benefit from therapy. While they truly do know the difference between right and wrong - they do not feel it is important. They choose to do things that are wrong. A sociopath is totally capable of convincing a professional therapist that they have been rehabilitated. A true sociopath can not be fixed. Genetics, biology and environment are suspect in the origin of the condition though the cause is not completely understood. They can become dangerous and are even capable of murder. This is not the type of person one should antagonize.
It is best to steer clear of these people as they are capable of flashing that winning smile and kissing you on the cheek while they steal your soul. They will lie, cheat, steal, apologize, convince, lie, cheat, steal, apologize, convince, lie, cheat, steal.....it is the addictive cycle that keeps their motor running. That is the reward for the sociopath.
NOTE: I am not a professional psychologist and this article is not intended to be used for medical advice.
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