How to Find your True Self?
When life gets too stressful, heavy, or sad, we sometimes want to escape reality day-dreaming we could be someone else. Share a short survey on the most popular choices people dream of being. In reality, the dream comes true when you find your true self. Your true self is the sum-total of your life's experiences shared with those around you. Your true self is a person you are happy hosting in your body. So how do you become that person that you can accept and love? We begin by studying others.
Who Am I?
Imagination is like an angel who helps us through hard times. Soldiers in the trenches cling on to their sweetheart's photograph dreaming of home. Patients meditate while being tortured by doctors and dentists. A hurt child gets distracted from its pain by mother kissing it better and promising that the pain will soon go away. So temporarily imagining what it would be like to be someone else, to stand in someone else's shoes, someone who has more luck, and seems happier, is only a natural escape from reality.
Who do Most People Want to be?
A survey of some of the most frequent answers to the question: "Would You Be Better Off Being Someone Else?" reveals that, for the most part, people wish they could be rich. Second, they dream of being a celebrity. After that, the list goes on from historical figures to famous artists or musicians. Someone even chose to be a baby again! A few wished they were an animal, from a cute kitten, a strong gorilla, a dolphin, to various types of birds.
There is nothing silly about occasionally day-dreaming that we could be someone else. A psychologist might say that such behavior is a way to seek a certain quality in the person or animal we want to be. That quality, perhaps weak or missing in our own personality, then could be nurtured to grow, to improve by example. Let us look at the favorite choices.
Performers always put up a happy front, even if deep inside they feel terrible. It works though. Just acting happy makes you feel better.
Many women want to be Angelina Jolie for the privilege of hanging out with Brad Pitt, for intimidating people with the sexiest-woman-alive glare, and for her wonderful contribution towards helping children in Africa.
Bill Gates for his philanthropic efforts at relieving poverty in the third world. One person would not only take Bill’s money, he wants his stocks and his wife in the bargain! Another person said he wouldn't like to be Bill Gates because his life must be very stressful what with running a corporate business and having to deal with people begging for money all day long. Well, fame and fortune bring extra responsibilities.
Others wished they could be Barack Obama. One person, for the privilege of being able to fire his entire administration and then resign the presidency. That would not be very helpful. Good thing we are talking hypothetically here.
One man preferred to be an African King in a culture where the king gets to choose a new wife every year from a group of beautiful virgins dancing for him to compete for his attention.
A Member of Cirque du Soleil
Someone wished she could be a member of Cirque du Soleil, learn all the routines and remember them for everyday use. "Performing as they do must be as close to being superhuman as it can get", she said, forgetting that a performer for Cirque du Soleil must go through much effort, pain, and sacrifices to attain such virtuosity.
“I would like to be my sister. She has a 3-year-old and is pregnant. I would love to experience her life. Aww, to be a mother would be great!”
“I would like to be a Baby again. I would love to talk in monosyllables, to spill my food, to have my uninterrupted 10 hr beauty sleep, to be pampered and loved by everyone. I would love to get all excited when I see a butterfly or a rose. I would love be completely aloof of all the worldly sorrows & troubles.”
The last person must have forgotten what it is like to be a baby what with pooh stuck in your pants, nappy rash, and, worst of all, not being able to communicate your needs. I don’t think so.
The List Goes on & on
Others wanted to be
- Skateboard champion Rodney Mullen
- Paris Texas
- Lady Gaga
- Princess Kate
and so on.
Stay the Same - Be Happy with who you are - Shan Jaca
And lastly, some people do not wish to be someone else. They are happy to strive to be the person they truly want to be on the inside.
Quite a few people said they wanted to be themselves, which is encouraging.
“I would be myself. What makes life meaningful is being yourself. Everyone is unique, born with his/her own strengths and weaknesses. You are more special and wondrous than you know."
So Who are you Now?
Do you still wish you could be someone else?
The next fable about a Donkey and an Eagle might bring you closer to finding out who you really are. Or if you don't like poems, then skip down to the revealing riddle below "Who Am I?" as it will surely give you incentive to find your true self.
The Donkey and the Eagle Fable by Sue Adams
Hey you Donkey, said Eagle
Wah dye want from me?
We swap lives for a day?
By me, that’s quite OK
So the Donkey grew some wings
And the Eagle grew a tail
And they swapped all their skills
And thus began to play . . .
But Donkey had a fear of heights
Flying so high above the sky
Eagle didn’t fancy thistles
Began to miss his missus
I’m not so sure anymore
If Eagle is my score
Being a Monkey might be nice
Or shall we try turn into mice?
By me, that’s quite OK
Said Donkey who liked to play
But alas unfortunately
Not for long mice they be
Another donkey accidentally
Trod on the mice not so gently
Another eagle flew down low
Had them for tea above the snow
The moral is:
Stay who you are
And live like a star
Who Are you then, Finally?
Enjoy the following info-graphic but read and scroll down slowly so as not to reveal the answer which would spoil the surprise.
To Sum Up
This article "How to Find your True Self?" shows that you are the sum-total of your history and your habits. If you don't like who you are, it may have inspired you to make some changes towards becoming the person you like and are comfortable living with. Because if you don't who will?
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