I was willing, and was my father's primary caregiver for the last six years of his life, until his death in August of this past year.
Although I know that I made the right decision for my father and for myself, the last six years were without a doubt the most challenging and the most difficult of my life, and I didn't fully realize the enormity of the sacrifice that I was asking of my husband and my children.
Do I regret my choice? Absolutely Not! Even knowing all that I know now, I wouldn't go back and change my decision, for every sacrifice that was made, my family and I were rewarded with moments and memories that would have otherwise never have been. However, speaking from experience, I would have to caution anyone who is faced with the decision of what to do concerning their parent or grandparent's long term care to exercise caution and careful consideration, there is so much more to consider beyond one's willingness when making this decision, and not everyone is suited to take on this role, for some, it is just not their nature, or is beyond their physical or emotional ability.
The bottom line in making the decision is about what is best for the overall health and well being of the parent or grandparent who needs care, and having a caretaker who has, out of willingness and love, or a sense of obligation taken on more than they are capable of isn't good for either the patient or the caregiver.