I had no charts or graphs for my sons, 31 (with autism, working part time, rides horses and bowls) and a son, 28, who was in the Navy, is a grad of NY's Culinary Institute of America and is full time in a D.C. restaurant as a front server/future wine expert.) Both saw what I did and learned by routine to help out. I did not praise, but simply thanked. I used words like "mature" and "helpful." I never spoke of myself in the third person either. I said what was needed and they did it. I took Systematic Training For Effective Parenting classes and Parent Effectiveness Training classes, too. I believe both helped both my sons individually to do what was needed in the morning, the afternoon and the evening. For instance, at 7, my youngest son had his own key to get in my Mother's door. Each had to carry a lunch and put bookbags by the door. I was/am their Mother. We're all in this thing called life together.