Suzzycue, all these answers are very good. I would also add that I found, a long time ago, that prayer, meditation, being grateful, and associating with people who do the same, will help bring joy, peace and contentment. In the end the old saying, "Folks are just about as happy as they make up their mind to be" is very true. If there is habitual turbulence and restlessness within, then joy, contentment and peace become elusive. One must start by wanting to seek joy, contentment and peace in life if one is to find them. Meditation opens a dimension within our deepest self that is still, peaceful and quiet. Practiced long enough, it will produce lasting results of peace and inner stability. Yes, people (especially family) will come banging at our door bringing their dramas and antics with them, and there will be storms and choppy seas around us, but Jesus' words, "Peace, be still" not only will keep us afloat, but also will keep others from being able to rob us of our inner joy, peace and contentment, because they will have become part of the fabric of our being.