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Why does losing someone you love to death have to be so painful?


I understand its written in the Bible; but why does it have to hurt so much? How do you cope with the pain? Why does it take longer for some of us to overcome, while others continue to move on like nothing happened? The reason I ask is because it has been almost two years since mom passed away and I still cry for her and miss her. There are days when I am fine and times when I can't stop thinking about her and cry. I am still trying to find Peace after mom's passing and our dog's nine days after her. Why am I so emotional and how can I overcome this somehow?

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    Julianna (AEvans) 4 years ago

    Finally I am able to comment. What a beautiful poem Mickey. It made me cry, those words are so true.


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    Julianna (AEvans) 4 years ago

    That is beautifully written. We do have to live for the living, as a way to honor their memory. It can just be so hard. :(

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    Julianna (AEvans) 4 years ago

    That is beautifully put. I remember your story about your son. You lost him right before mom and wrote about it. I have to also remember that mom is in my heart along with Nazoo and my Uncle until we meet again. Thank you.

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    Julianna (AEvans) 4 years ago

    HLKeeley: You are so right. When day I will see mom again; but for now I am sure she would like for me to smile. I am still trying to work on that.

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    Julianna (AEvans) 4 years ago

    At least I know I am not alone. My favorite Uncle passed away Mar 9,2011 5 months after mom. I cannot seem to get pass the hump. People often wonder why I disappear and appear. I have good days and bad days and people tell me the same thing. :(

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    Sheila (Conservative Lady) 4 years ago

    I too recommend GriefShare - they were so helpful to me after my son passed. I think the pain we feel after losing a loved one is there to keep us focused on what is really important in life - people, relationships, and love. Not stuff......

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    Julianna (AEvans) 4 years ago

    Your words do help and now I know I am not nuts when it comes to the process. My mom would like for me to live life at its fullest and not be sorrowful. Our dog I believe is with mom and he to is always with us.

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    Julianna (AEvans) 4 years ago

    Beata, I was mom's caregiver and you are right, we do have to accept their death. This also includes my Uncle and our dog. It's hard for me to wrap myself around the truth when it comes to them being gone. I hope to get into the light again soon too.


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    amyarlene61 4 years ago

    I just felt my noise get very hot as it does when I'm about to cry after I read this answer from Mitch Alan. And I believe from the bottom of my heart that it is true. It really is better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all.

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    Julianna (AEvans) 4 years ago

    I will read that verse. Odd because someone just pointed the same verse out to me. Thank you so much. (((Hugs)))

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    Julianna (AEvans) 4 years ago

    I am trying hard with my faith. I have also lost many friends; because they have told me to suck it up and get over it. I keep busy with work and writing; but sometimes a movie or a song will make me cry. I will work on God's way, I promise.:)

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    amyarlene61 4 years ago

    I really believe in a passing on and feel as connorj has written. The hardest part in losing someone you love is missing them, especially if you live together. It's the every day things, the little sayings you share thats hard.

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    Julianna (AEvans) 4 years ago

    I am going to try grief support in our Church. My emotions are like a train wreck sometimes and out of nowhere comes a flood of tears. We only had Nazoo for 3 years and there will never be one like him; but I continue to love my others just the same

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    paul otieno 4 years ago

    I have since lost both my parents but my mother's death was the most difficult one to overcome having happened when I was only ten.That of my father occurred 14 years later in 2009 although painful, found me more mature to accept death as real.

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    Sid Kemp (SidKemp) 3 years ago

    Thank you. Beautiful and true.

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    Angela Blair 3 years ago

    billmuldoon -- I can say, with all honesty, the death of my only child was tremendously painful and in no way delicious nor something I've gloried in and refused to give up. To date I've also found no way to "admire" my loss -- and I'm very strong.


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    It is always painful when a loved one dies, but we have to be prepared to let them go. If you believe in God and heaven, then realise that your loved one has gone to a better place, one where there is no more suffering. Rejoice for them.

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