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If a person with a terminal illness gives their spouse permission to date, would you date them?


This situation was actually presented to me. A man I'd just met told me he was married and his wife had been dying for years from a degenerative disease. She loved him so much she wanted him to begin to "find somebody" before she died. (He also said his grown children were on board with the idea.) Would you date him? (or her, if reversed)

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Mom Kat says

4 years ago
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    Claudia47 4 years ago

    Thanks for your thoughts. Excellent points all.

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StricktlyDating says

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    Claudia47 4 years ago

    Thanks for your input. I would think almost anyone would be less complicated than this man - or at least less bizarre.

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TIMETRAVELER2 says

4 years ago
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    Claudia47 4 years ago

    Thanks. Very interesting. It's amazing how differently we can all view the same issue.

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    Claudia47 4 years ago

    Thanks for your answer - very thoughtful and caring point of view. By the way, this situation happened a while ago and I made my decision then. I chose not to post the results here, just so I didn't affect the answers.

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    Claudia47 4 years ago

    My condolences on your husband's passing. I think your point of view is a loving, humane one - sad to think there are people who would think of themselves first in a case like that.

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Paula (fpherj48) says

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    Claudia47 4 years ago

    Thanks for that insight. I never even considered that somone could have made up this excuse, but of course, you're right. (I have to wonder how many women would also give this guy a piece of their mind? Wouldn't be pretty, I imagine.)


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Gloria (Gloshei) says

4 years ago
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    Claudia47 4 years ago

    Thanks for your insights. I'd actually never thought about someone doing this for sympathy...this question is turning into a learning experience.

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