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Keith Abt says
Wow, I think most of us would agree there! You're not alone, though it may feel lonely to carry such a memory. I'm fairly certain that, where life and death are concerned, there's very little you can do to "help", though you may want to.
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Helen Murphy Howell says
Thank you, Seeker7, for being an angel for those who need you the most at a most delicate time in their lives. I'm sure that you are appreciated for every little thing you do and say to ease the transition, for those who will remain living and not.
Have you ever seen a friend or family member die?
I, for one, have not. Most of my family died when I was young, back when the hospitals would not let young people in a dying person's presence. My last memory of my Grandma was years before her death when I was 6 because of that hospital's rule :-(.
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You are truly an angel, xanzacow, for no one I know of wants to die alone, yet the burden on you must be great. I am fascinated by your description of the "hallucinations" and equally puzzled by the "burning hell" person. Perhaps it was his disease.
Perhaps, Laura, I am still baffled by that one. I suppose the loss of blood flow to the limbs, as usually happens with a slow death, could account for this.
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Laura Schneider says
Judy Specht says
Tirelesstraveler, you have traveled a difficult road indeed. Your mom isn't gone when she has folks to remember her in such a positive manner, both her life & her graceful death. Peace be upon you and your family, for your mom would surely want t
LucyLiu, what a sweet but sad story. Thank you so much for sharing it. I'm certain that your grandfather knew you were there and was equally glad that you were there. I have no doubt that he was squeezing your hand at appropriate moments. Peace.
Rick Grimes says
I believe you--thank you for sharing your experience. I have found the same to be true with my memory. In my case, sound is what I remember the most.
Oh, I'm so sad for you! To carry such a memory and to be that close to him and unable to help... Thanks for sharing such a terrible/sacred/poignant moment with us!
I'm so sorry! Proudmama, please do something very hard: ask a therapist, clergyperson, psychiatrist, etc. to help you put your life back together, no matter how hard it is to ask for help. Your kids need their proudmama back and so do YOU! It's time.
Omigosh! I'm SO sorry, duffsmom! I hope that you have come to terms with this and are able to keep that memory separate from your good, living memories of your father. I wish for you a peaceful heart and solid footing and all the best.
Evans Abby says
Wow! Indeed, death is unfair and unavoidable. May your memory of that event fade quickly into the back of your mind and not trouble you any more, for there is no accounting for such things logically.
I'm sorry, JThomp42, for your losses may be very great and your burdens may be very heavy. I hope that, though you never get over it, yet you get through it and it becomes part of your soul in a meaningful way. Thanks for answering; and be well, JT.