Great question with a wide array of diversity Laura. First, twenty years ago for me means age 38, so not childhood dreams regarding relational. That said, regarding a fear I either developed, learned, or was blessed with and did grow out of recently was a fear of falling. Odd too.
1978 I was involved with a car crash. Experienced both anterograde and retrograde amnesia. What followed was some term as the cheesecloth affect or holes in the memory. Long story short, since that accident a recurrent dream was falling from somewhere, floating, flying, and not being able to land. I mean I remember many of those dreams, pondering more, and I could not land. Hence, I feared falling. I didn't mind flying or generally speaking heights, unless I felt like I was going to fall.
I haven't had that dream for near to a year. It was always consistent throughout those years. Longer story, yet connected. Last year I went through a process termed spontaneous recovery regarding the amnesia thing. Maybe the second of third time too. What occurs is something triggers it.
Then it is like watching two or more films going faster than the fast forward of a VHS or DVD simultaneously. One forward and one backward. When they meet it is horrific, since it is like having memory loss of that moment. Then I usually get sick to the stomach if you know what I mean, cold sweats for a day or so, and then totally exhaustion. I have a diagnosis of bipolar disorder, so deciding if manic or that is tough.
The closest I can liken it too is how I feel if I have a rapid drop of blood sugar. Yet, the last episode I checked glucose more often because of the feeling. You get to where you know if Glucose is high or low after awhile. So, that fear is not here now, yet I do not know if one could term it as growing out of it.
That said, now having memories of childhood not remembered for those thirty or so years or having clear recall of them I will share more. Thank you for your time listening too.
As a child my dad would be shipped out with the Marines. My fear was he would not come back. I knew it was temporary. When he went to Nam, I was angry. There was a lot happening in the late 60's then. It was hard to navigate that time period.
I once shared with an interview with hubber marcoujor published here I "the thing I wish I could get rid of is the ghosts of anger." Those ghosts seem to come from the childhood. So, the current fear is revisiting fears I could not recall once.