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   Faith Reaperposted 9 years ago

   What type of pain have you endured the most in your lifetime, physical or emotional?
   
   Of course we have all experienced physical and emotional pain.  Which type of pain have you had to endure most during your lifetime and which was the hardest to endure and why?  Thank you for answering.
   
   
   
   

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   Ashley Yahnposted 9 years ago

   Mine would have to be emotional pain. I really don't know what it is like to honestly have a true friend. All my friend's ended with disrespect, hurtful words, and memories that won't leave my mind. We tried to work things out but that didn't get us anywhere. I finally distanced myself from those type of people but now being 26 I am just emotionally drained. I don't know who to trust, how to trust and worst of all how to make friends because of their actions. Emotional pain to me is the worse. I never had physical pain besides my back problems but they come and go.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hello Ashley,  I am so sorry about you suffering such great pain of the betrayal and hurt from those who you considered to be friends, which makes it hard to trust again.  Life is brutal at times. Hope you are able to make new friends.  Hugs

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      Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Where is the love and compassion God gives us and wants us to share. Blessing

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   favoredposted 9 years ago

   Emotional, but I suppose that would be what most would say. Why? For many it is because it hasn't been resolved or had closure.  Sometimes it takes a lifetime for that.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi favored, thank you for answering.  Yes, so true, about the unresolved issues and so the pain is ongoing.  Blessings

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   Penny Gposted 9 years ago

   Emotonal that is connected to physical. I have had 14 pregnancies and lost 9 of them. All but one of these were mid to late term. I felt so alone as people did not no what to say to me, and when they did they'd say haven't you had enough? Give up! The others avoided me or the subject. I just wanted someone to validate that this was a baby I lost a real human baby. I wanted to tell someone how sweet he or she was even if only for a short time. I have a lot of little ones at several BABY LANDS in the cemeteries where I lived. I don't visit. There are no stones. I have pictures of a few, the hospitals were not as helpful in those days. I lost the last one in 1986. My Daughter had a still born full term baby in 2005. I was there for her and relived all my pain I thought I had put away. On a happier note I have 6 children now. I adopted one and carried 5 to a viable stage.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Penny G, such tremendous pain you have endured, dear heart, to go through such in this life and then to endure the additional pain of others' words.  I am so happy you have 6 children now. Blessings and love to you and your family

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      Tammy L Bondposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I can relate to the hurt of losing a child - it's awful, actually I can't think of any words to describe the pain; but to lose NINE - I must say that you are a very strong woman. May you have many, many more blessings.

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      RockyMountainMomposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Your words about avoidance and validation made me think of this clip, which I love.  I am sorry for each of the babies you lost and for all the people that turned away when they didn't know how to listen. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw

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   Curiadposted 9 years ago

   Definitely emotional. The pain of loving others that don't reciprocate in like fashion can be very debilitating. Those memories become a part of one's life, and never really go away.

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      Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      So true ,years do not remove them or even make them fade.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hello Dear Curiad, thank you for sharing.  That may very well be from where the phrase "a tortured soul" came ... to love another one so deeply and not be loved in return.  Peace and blessings

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   MizBejabbersposted 9 years ago

   Both, and one leads to the other. It can be a vicious cycle. First it was migraines from the age of 23 until I was 57, which were so debilitating that I gave up twice. I asked God to either take me or find some relief for my pain. I have also been in two wrecks that have left me disabled, but I have continued to work because the only chair that is comfortable to me is an office chair. I may as well be paid for sitting in one. I suffered emotional pain and PTSD from my sister's violent suicide, and I have emotional pain from a couple of other things I don't care to mention. Now the physical and emotional are related and feed on each other, but I have a tiger by the tail and can't turn loose. If I could, I would go live in the country near a stream so I could sit and peacefully watch the world go by.

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      arksysposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      "Sit and peacefully watch the world go by"... I feel the same ... Just wish it were possible at times.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for sharing, dear MizBejabbers.  I am so sorry for all of your pain.  That would indeed be lovely to sit by a stream in the country.  I have had days where I just wanted to sit and look at trees ... so serene and peaceful.  Hugs

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   manatita44posted 9 years ago

   I disobeyed my Guru, and paid the price. I see everything as a sweet sacrifice, really, and most definitely coming from God's approval, sanctioning, or tolerance. Still, at that time I felt serious pain. It was probably the only time that I cried so much inside, so much in my Soul. Sometimes the tears flowed outwardly too.
   
   Remembrance created pain also - remembrance of my Guru, my fellow devotees, memories of satsang (spiritual practices), our celebrations and pilgrimages ...
   
   I have had physical pain, yes, but my spiritual pain was infinitely greater, and I cried inwardly and outwardly for 18 months,
   
   Funny thing, spiritual life. It really is a battlefield and a razors edge. The higher we go, the more pain we feel. The Christ must have bleed inwardly a great deal, and all because humanity - people like me - are ungrateful and non-receptive to the Higher Light.
   
   Love and Light my sweet spiritual Sister.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hello Dearest Manatita, my heart aches so in knowing of the many months of tears, internally and outwardly you have shed in your pain and in your remembrance pain.  Thank you for sharing.  Love and Light to you always dear heart.

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   parrsterposted 9 years ago

   For fifteen years I suffered migraines of such intensity I wished death. Some would last for days, and I endured an attack every few weeks. I rarely suffer migraines today.
   I also suffered depression for twenty years, again of a depth I wished death. I now no longer do.
   Both were a very different pain. In the midst of a migraine nothing else registers, not even my depression. Intense physical pain is all consuming, often preventing us from all else but the focus of its presence while we endure it. Physical pain is also quite apparent to others; everyone sympathises to some degree with physical pain. However, it is also momentary.
   Emotional agony consumes in a different way. It is a desperation so intense it feels like we are dying at some fundamental level of existence. Often hidden, it is rarely understood by others, which only adds to the pain of it.
   It might be said that physical pain is an unwanted addition to life, whereas emotional pain is a robbing of it. In one we gain what we don't want, in the other we lose what we so desperately need; peace and hope. As such, physical pain may be more endurable because we know it will end, it will run its course and be gone. For the same reason emotional pain seems unendurable. Despair replaces hope, anguish joy, and emptiness peace--and no end to the agony of it can be seen.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Oh, dear Parrster, I am so sorry you suffered so intensely with both physical and emotional pain.  You have shared great insight as to the reality of enduring such pain. Profound statements here.  Thank you for sharing.  God bless you.

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      Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I too suffer migraines. Sometimes they attack, then back off when you think you can take no more. I so wish they would fimnd a cure to stop these monsters.

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   quildonposted 9 years ago

   Other than labor pains I've never had serious physical pain, but I've had some serious emotional pain, chiefly betrayal and on account of a wayward child. But God brought me through it in amazing ways.  This has been so difficult to endure because it's the people closest to us who can hurt us the most. Some of it has been resolved and what still exists God has taught me to look to Him instead of the pain. But the memories still remain. Great question.

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      Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hello Dear Quildon, oh, yes, a mother's heart knows of such great pain to bear when her beloved child is wayward. So true about those closest to us, as I am sure, it is those we love most and that is why the pain is so intense.  God is amazing!

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      Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I soo feel your pain. My shild is in prison and has suffered such drama there he has had a mental collapse not knowing even me his Mother. He plans to kill me when he is released and they still plan to release him. SIGH

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      Tammy L Bondposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I also turn to God for every situation I've been in and continue to go through - good and bad. However, having gallstones was worse for me than childbirth.

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    RockyMountainMomposted 9 years ago

    Lyme disease has brought both in spades for the last four plus years of my life.  As others have said, on begets the other in a vicious cycle.
    
    Lyme has also brought the worst of both, because it's been so long and so intense.  Much less so since getting diagnosed and treated.  But before treatment, I'd rate pain from Lyme disease and Bell's palsy worse than child birth in many instances (and I've had two kids with zero pain medications, so I'm not saying that lightly---as all moms know,  it is not a light statement to make regardless of how your child was born).
    
    I listed some of this in my latest hub, but didn't get into the details.  This is a good nudge toward the next hub I started, which focuses more on this....the emotional and physical pain.
    
    My illness got me into legal issues early on, when my federal employer broke a number of laws right in front of the union president.  Unfortunately, being right only makes a struggle like that worse, because they have to protect themselves.  I can't begin to describe the turmoil of being a ridiculously honest person getting attacked, accused, and drug through the mud, all while living with misdiagnosed lyme disease, which reeks havoc on your emotions to begin with.
    
    To be dealing with paranoia symptoms while actually having the government reading your blogs is an awful lot to sort through.  It may not sound painful, but the year and a half long legal battle paired with seeing so many people's disappointing true colors (while losing everything I'd worked for in my life to that point in terms of savings and career) was excrutiating and traumatic.  Getting my job back through a federal case, only to lose it and my health again based on disappointing attitudes of just a few coworkers  has continued to be heart breaking.
    
    Though, this last round, which followed lyme treatment, was much more like what a "normal" person would experience in a bad situation, as opposed to the excrutiating, prolonged fight or flight response a person with untreated lyme disease would experience. 
    
    Even though I've relapsed and am struggling to get better, I have nowhere near the physical or emotional pain in my life that millions of undiagnosed or misdiagnosed Lyme patients are still dealing with every day.
    
    There really are no words that do justice to what people experience with this illness.  This film maker does a remarkable job of it, though https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WMuVy78 … 4C6B9C55E0

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       Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       A person at my work lost her daughter do too too much pain medication for the lyme disease. She was 16, treated in small yown America and I think they put her in charge of it's use. Sad horribe disease.

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       RockyMountainMomposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Penny G that is so heart breaking.  I'm so sad for that family.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Dear RockyMountainMom, I am so sorry you have had to endure such traumatic events and pain in your life, and I do understand about being that honest person who is attacked, which brings on more heartache.  I will read and look forward to your next.

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    Lady Guinevereposted 9 years ago

    Emotional the most and then some pain along with that.  Most of the emotional comes from my rearing, but there is some emotional that is hard to talk about here because we aren't allowed to talk about it on HP.  That was very difficult and brought about lots of emotional pain and to some extent still does.  The most hardest though is realizing that my mother doesn't acknowledge me after my father passed away.  All that grief is writing in my life story that I am writing on here. The physical that I deal with most of the time now is the 3 DVT's that I had many years ago.  It is physical still, but emotional as well because I cannot, no matter how I try, do the things that I once did prior to getting my first one in 1995.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Dear Lady G,  I do hope writing about such emotional pain is helping you to deal with such, along with outside help ...maybe a support group.  To be rejected by one's own mother certainly is most painful. I pray healing takes place in all areas.Hugs

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    Tammy L Bondposted 9 years ago

    Just as MizBejabbers responded, I've had physical and emotional pain. I was in the army for 6 1/2 years and around the fourth year I was sexually assaulted by another service member. As if the physical damage wasn't bad enough, reporting it was twice as punishing. I was treated as if I was responsible for "letting" myself get raped AND the service member went unpunished. That's been 24 years ago and I'm still being treated for PTSD, suffer severe depression, and have other physical symptoms I continually deal with.
    
    This hasn't been all the trauma I've experienced in my life. A recent situation I've experienced requires me to have even more counseling along with my military sexual trauma treatment and my counselor told me that I have endured an awful lot of hurt and pain. I continue to cope and I'm writing a series of hubs describing it.

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       RockyMountainMomposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       I'm sorry for what you went through and that you had to endure the added victimization of what you went through with reporting it.

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       Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       We have come some distance on this horrible violation of people as men also suffer this too especailly in Prisons, but we truly have not done enough. Men in prison raely repot it and women do not beacause of the reversal of blame. It needs exposure.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello Tammy, how horrible for you to experience to be a part of our military and then violated at the hands of a fellow service member.  I know of another female who has suffered the exact same thing.  Only God can change the hearts of men. Praying.

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       Billie Kelpinposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       T, I think your series of hubs  will help a lot with the coping. Coping is key.The concept of "Mothers Against Drunk Drivers" motivates me for an issue causing me pain. I write in case something I say would prevent it from happening to another.

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    Lybrahposted 9 years ago

    That would be the pain of a broken heart.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello Lybrah, thank you so much for answering.  A broken heart takes a long time to heal and trust again.  I pray that healing for you dear one.

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    misterhollywoodposted 9 years ago

    Heartbreak and grief. Joy was somewhere in there a long with hope:)

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello misterhollywood,  I am sorry for your heartbreak and grief, and in the mix you knew of joy and still have hope to find love again.  Blessings

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    tom yamposted 9 years ago

    I have endured both in the past. Without doubt it's the emotional pain i have found the most difficult to deal with. After all, there isn't usually a pill you can take as there is when you are in physical discomfort.

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       Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       I think so many us are together on this. I for one have had so much emotional pain. So many times I would have traded it for physical pain.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello tom yam,  I am sorry you have suffered such emotional pain in your lifetime.  That is a valid point about the pill. I do know of some who have suffered great physical pain where there is no relief as well. Hugs

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    beyoulouposted 9 years ago

    Both, but the greatest pain is definitely emotional pain. I have found the more I accept myself the less emotional pain I feel.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello beyoulou,  this seems to be the consensus for most here.  That is wonderful about how you have discovered to reduce your emotional pain.  Sometimes we are our the hardest on ourselves because of some mistake.  We all make horrible mistakes.

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    lone77starposted 9 years ago

    Spiritual!
    
    I have experienced the pain of Ego -- the source of all evil (suffering).
    
    I have had dozens of incidents, from 1953 on, which illuminated this pain, bit by bit.
    
    I have had relief from this pain only fleetingly, but the bliss contained in each such incident is powerful enough to drive an entire lifetime toward attaining that bliss as a constant.
    
    But attaining it for self is a contradiction -- an oxymoron! This is part of the pain. For self -- as separate from others -- doesn't exist. It is a falsehood or construct -- a bit of ontological code, rather than a real identity. When I deeply desire this for others and even wish for my enemies all that they desire, I feel the bliss, again.
    
    I'm having to unlearn some old habits. I'm having to leave behind old "baggage" called self-concern so that I may love you all -- each one of you -- more thoroughly.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello lone77star, oh, such interesting thoughts here you have shared on the pain of Ego, indeed!  So true, it is so very painful.  Breaking old habits is hard, but a must to move forward, especially so that we are able to love others to the full.

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    Billie Kelpinposted 9 years ago

    Emotional pain is the one I've had to endure the longest and hardest, although I must say that had I had to endure migraine headaches like I did during a brief few months of my life, I'd probably have to say THAT physical pain was close to unbearable. Emotional pain is difficult because you feel responsible for it and it's pain that no one can analyze enough to figure out a cure.  Its etiology is simply too complicated and abstract.  Therefore, it leaves one with little hope that it will cease

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello Billie Kelpin,  I appreciate you sharing here, and I so sorry for all the pain you have endured in this life.  Great insight you have stated here as to physical pain and that of emotional pain.  Blessings and love to you

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    Mena Guyposted 9 years ago

    Emotional pain is definitely the hardest. Physical pain goes away, but emotional pain leaves scars that can't be healed with Mederma.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello Mena Guy, I appreciate you answering here and sharing your experience with pain.  Blessings and healing to you.

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    poeticmcposted 9 years ago

    Definitely emotional... The funny thing about physical pain is, you can become so used to it or accustomed to it, to the point you learn to live with it, and may not think anything of it, long term, but not so much with emotional pain... it usurps its ugly head and its condition in profound ways, no matter how much you try to bury it...

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello poeticmc, Welcome to HubPages!  Wow, very insightful comments you have shared here.  It certainly does all of that indeed.  Blessings

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    Hendrikaposted 9 years ago

    Without any doubt emotional. People can really hurt you without even knowing it. Physical is immediate for all to see and can normally be dealt with easily.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello Hendrika, yes, we certainly can hurt and harm each other and leave scars on our hearts for a lifetime no doubt.  Thank you for answering here.  Blessings

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    Shivani Galaposted 9 years ago

    Emotional for sure. I have come to realise that if you peacefully endure your emotionally testing times you rarely develop any sort excruciating physical pain! After all it's your emotional state of mind that reflects on your body, because body is just a medium to manifest what your being feels.
    
    I must say you have asked a very deep question. Thank You and Love.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello Shivani Gala, I appreciate you sharing your keen insight here, very interesting!  I am overwhelmed at the responses here, as I did not imagine all sharing here so freely.  I do hope sharing helps all. Love to all.

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    junecampbellposted 9 years ago

    Emotional pain, hands down. I haven't had a great deal of physical pain (I am fortunate) so I can't truly compare which would be worse.  Extreme physical pain would be devastating, I am sure, as is emotional pain.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello junecampbell, thank you so much for answering.  Yes, both are debilitating for sure.  The physical pain will sooner or later come if we live long enough, at least for most.  Blessings

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    kyjdsposted 9 years ago

    You have no idea how hard that decision is to make, because I've endured excruciating physical pain, and debilitating emotional pain... I have different things wrong with my body, such as Fibromyalgia, arthritis, and the worst pain is from Scoliosis as if my spine is migrating straight into my shoulder-blade!
    
    Emotional pain is more likely to cause suicides than physical pain, all depending on the conditions. I've never wanted to commit suicide, and never will I attempt it! But because of the double-whammy with both physical pain and emotional pain, I have 'wondered' what it would be like if I were dead, and if I never had to feel pain again.
    
    I must admit though, if you are looking for lifetime struggles, it started out as just emotional pain, so it was the worst to deal with over physical pain.
    
    Much blessings to you, Faith Reaper.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello kyjds, I am so sorry you are suffering with both! Yes, when we internalize the emotional pain, it actually makes us physically ill. One day we will have new bodies AND there will be no more tears, precious heart. Thank you for sharing. Praying!

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       kyjdsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you so much. :-) I wish I had something else meaningful to say, but your kindness has said enough. ;-)

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    pstraubie48posted 9 years ago

    o, definitely emotional. Physical pain, and I have had some goodies, eventually goes away or at least can be 'lived with.' Emotional pain is another matter. Yes, one can learn to live with it but its little whispers keep popping their little heads reminding one that it is not quite done.
    Soul searching and long and serious dialogue with our Father is how I overcome the pain that comes.

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       Faith Reaperposted 9 years agoin reply to this

       Hello my dear friend, PS, thank you for answering.  Love your new avatar.  I know you have experienced both.  Yes, in that constant communication with our Father certainly helps all pain, dear heart.  Love and blessings always

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    DeeDeeLaRochelleposted 6 years ago

    I would say Emotional Pain. It can be as bad as and even worse than Phyical Pain. Physical Pain you know, what it is, where it is, where it came from, and what remedies to eliviate it. However Emotional Pain is Pain that is on the heart and mind. It can be very hard to know how to remove the pain on those spots. Sometimes it will linger for years without being taken care of. Just because you don't know how to deal with it. I think Emotional Pain can mess up a persons whole world. It can mess up how a person functions day to day and with other people.

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       Faith Reaperposted 6 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you, DeeDee, for answering. Yes, emotional pain can certainly do all of that and take its toll on every aspect of our lives and even cause us to experience physical pain when the pain is prolonged. To be human is to experience pain  ...

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