Thank you for all your advices, I love my daughter and its been a really tough time. I now have spoke to the school she goes to, and they are having a meeting with me on Friday, then a meeting with my daughter and another teacher, whom my daughter thinks the world of and can talk to.
We are going to work together and see if we can sort it. My daughter has agreed. She doesn't like it when she explodes, There has been a lot happen to her, bulling, self esteem knocked also she is dyslexic and selective mute. She gets very frustrated and takes it out on me. Hopefully this will help as she trust the teacher and will talk to her.
Will let you all know how things develop. She is 13yrs