Do I suffer from depression or am I just over stessing myself?

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   joyollaposted 13 years ago

   Do I suffer from depression or am I just over stessing myself?
   
   I have notice that lately my boyfriend and I have been arguing much more, when on a normal base we could talk about anything. I almost alway feel sad, like I am good for nothing but to burden people with troubles. I don't care to do anything but sit at home with my six month old twins, lost intrest in friends and hobbies, and always come up with an excuse why I am unable to do anything fun. I haven't gone to see a doctor mostly because I have no time between house work and child care. Since about two weeks ago I have been crying more and pushing people away. Nothing can seem to make me happy.

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   jasper420posted 13 years ago

   Based on what you have said i think it may be a little bit of both if this contiunes you should seek help there is no shame in seeing someone dont beat yourself up try to stay positive hang in there it will get better

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   reeltaulkposted 13 years ago

   I believe you are allowing "certain negative things" (whatever they may be) to steal your joy.  Behavior as such stems from either a negative person or environment.  You can be your worst enemy as well.  Only you know what it is that has you this way.  Deal with it head on and the stressing as well as depression will not take you in the wrong direction.
   
   BTw happiness comes from within, as corny as it sounds that is where it lies.  You can't find it in someone or something.  Anything material or physical can only add, not be the source of your happiness......ciao
   
   
   Vonda G. Nelson

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   jennshealthstoreposted 13 years ago

   Has it been going on since you had the children? If so, it can be post postpartum depression. The same thing happened to me after I had a child. If this the case, then you need to see the dr.

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   Goodpalposted 13 years ago

   You are just focusing on negative things and ignoring the positives. Life is rough at times but then it turns into smooth flow also.

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   Lady Wordsmithposted 13 years ago

   It sounds like you're going through a little PPD, but that doesn't have to be something you need to stress about.  You've recognised it yourself, and that's a very good sign, and shows that you're in a good place for tackling it.  I would talk to someone about it, your doctor for a start (but don't let anyone prescribe you with any happy pills just for the sake of it - you should try different methods first, especially since it doesn't sound, from what you say, as though you're suffering a very extreme case of this kind of depression.)
   
   It's also a good sign that you're still happy to be with your twins - friends will come back if they're real friends, and as your children get older as well you will start to make some fantastic new friends.  All hope is not lost, you just need to work out how to focus on the positive things in your life and squish the negatives.  You can be in control and find yourself again.
   
   If you can, you should get outside with the babies - fresh air is seriously underrated and can be tremendously beneficial.  A little bit of exercise every day, if you can manage it, will help you to restore some energy and to feel like you've achieved something.  It sounds terribly cliched, but it's true.  You don't have to visit anyone if you don't feel like it - but you might be surprised: fresh air can work real wonders.
   
   Take care, hope you start to feel good soon.

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   ravenlt04posted 13 years ago

   I have felt like that since I gave birth to my daughter.  I'm convinced it was/is postpartum depression.  It is a great thing that you want to spend time with your twins.  I sometimes didn't want to even do that when she was really young.   Talk to a therapist.  I avoid prescribed medication for drpression and haven't taken any.  There are natural remedies; I read something about vitamin B.  The bottles list what certain vitamins are helpful for  Exercise, getting enough rest, outlets/hobbies/me time, a healthier diet, drinking enough water, and sex help (in addition to talking to a counselor and taking vitamins and necessary supplements) also.

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