How to deal with cancer... I think the answer is as unique as each person who is given the diagnosis. For me, the first thing I had to do was tell those who were close to me: my husband and children, my parents, my siblings, my grandmother. Telling them I had cancer was the hardest part of all. I then decided I was going to research and get all the information possible on my kind of cancer, I made a list of questions to ask the oncologist, I researched treatment options. Knowledge became power and I wanted to be powerful.
Finally, I never ever allowed cancer to think it was going to beat me. Nope, I had cancer but it didn't have me -- it was coming OUT, it was going away and I was staying and that was that. Keeping a positive attitude through it all helped my family and friends deal with it too.
On a side note, I do believe that the cancer expperience strengthened my marriage. I learned that my husband was capable and good at taking charge of the kids and their activities as well as taking care of me. He was a tender and no nonsense nurse. I remember apologizing to him for having cancer, he got kind of mad and said, "Hey, remember when I promised that 'through better or worse in sickness and in health' stuff? Well, I meant it! Now, don't apologize again!" It was just what I needed.