This is the most intensive and thought provoking question I have seen, read, heard in a very long time.
I have no true answer, only personal observations to offer.
Positivety is promoted, anger, fear, disappointment, grief, jealousy etc are not. It is a fairly recent event, to see those who encourage crying as an emotional release.
Having never been one to 'wear my heart on my sleeve', and growing up with brothers who would jump at the chance to call me a 'crybaby', I learned young not to express such things openly.
But, I felt them. ( I think that may be a part of why I respect the written word).
Even as a wife, my hubby rarely sees my tears, and he does not handle them well. Still, they must fall.....the shower is a good place. During my walks with the dog is a good time.
Tears fell like raindrops on a Thanksgiving Day on a lonely San Antonio bus stop bench. My dog and God were the only witnesses.
We feel, but we do not reveal.
There is NO comfort for grief.....there are no words that touch it. Perhaps, people feel inadequate in it's face. I prefer to be alone with mine, it belongs to me, it is intimate, it is a validation, pain, loss, grief........I embrace them, they mean I am alive. But, they are personal. They do not belong to you, my hubby, my neighbor. I own them.
Feelings are not facts, they can not be seen by others, nor can they truly be felt, though others have similiar feelings.
My own daughter offered the best summary, I have yet heard.
She says, " get IN your feelings".
FloBe......I did not intend to write a hub !