My mum told me a couple of weeks ago that her mother always smoked a pipe, da d

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   EmpressImaniposted 13 years ago

   My mum told me  a couple of weeks ago that her mother always smoked a pipe, da da, so that...
   
   explains why I smoke now.....but seriously, have you found out anything about your parents or grandparents that have a link with you as a person now?

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   ShackDposted 13 years ago

   Apparently my dad was a really paranoid, and I wonder if that has anything to do with my paranoia today... *sigh*

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   Inspired to writeposted 13 years ago

   Wow, what a question?
   
   As most of us are mainly brought up & are constantly around our parents we certainly do tend to pick up such habits from folk.
   
   After all, these people are our role models in life & learning starts as soon as we are born & possibly before!
   
   What we witness within our role models at an early age before we can decipher if it is the right or wrong thing to do we will tend to do ourselves anyway.
   
   Regards Dale

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   kozmicbluejposted 13 years ago

   Wow there are so many things when I think about it! My favourite chocolate is the same and my grandads (smoking match too!), my favourite style of food the same as my grans. Then there are just the mannerisms that I've got from my dad and the way of looking at the world from my mum. I'm a complete product of my family, yet totally different from all of them too!
   
   I live my life in a totally different way to what they would ever dream of, yet strip me down and I'm one of them!

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   Sterling Carterposted 13 years ago

   Good question.
   
   I have one twist to add to that. I think the way we act and think may actually go much deeper than who we where raised around. Let me explain...
   
   Those of us who have children should be able to relate to this. I noticed my kids doing things that I know they never witnessed me or anyone else doing.
   
   My boy was the one who I noticed most often doing things that I had done when I was about the same age as he. For instance the way he would cast a fishing pole. It did not matter that I was teaching him how I do it now, he did it his way... my old way, exactly like I used to do it.
   
   There where other things too. Like the way he acted in certain situations and such. Some of his actions looked as if he was a carbon copy of me back 25 years younger.
   
   But there is more
   
   My oldest child was born blind.  I know for a fact she never saw anyone do anything. She had eating habits that used to exhibit. I don't mean I ate taters to she ate taters either.
   
   I used to eat sandwiches by holding them on my fingertips and rotating them so I could eat the crust first.  I know this sounds odd but It was very methodical.
   
   She started doing the very same thing about the same age that I had done it. Why? How could she have known to do that?
   
   I think that it is possible that a little bit of us actually is transferred to our kids, not just the physical attributes but also a little bit of who we are. Our memories is some strange way.
   
   There are many more example I could give but heck that would take a book and this is only an answer.

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   EmpressImaniposted 13 years ago

   Thank you for all your thoughtful contributions. I never met my grandmother, she lived and  died in Jamaica, but the funny thing is that my mum has never ever smoked, neither my dad. Women of my mum's generation back home were viewed as 'fast' ie wild to smoke in public and up to now, I still have not smoked infront of my mum

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   duffsmomposted 13 years ago

   No, my parents died when I was a girl, so their secrets died with them.

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