The only thing I can tell you is that you should only have another child if and only if you can bear it. You are young, to be honest, and you should probably wait a few years before you have another one. And before considering having the baby, you should factor in finance, free time, and your stress level. If you have another, you must make sure you'll be able to provide for all of your children. And if you won't have enough free time to deal with the kids, both you and your partner, I mean, then having another will be troublesome. And finally, if you are too stressed, you will have health problems and that is a horrible thing. As for the big tears and loss of a lot of blood, I have no comment. Consult your doctor about that, to make sure that you will be safe enough to have another baby.