Failed Dreams And Rude Awakenings
Behind The Dragon Is A Failed Dream
Wherever and whenever there is something in your life that has dragged on for too long you can be rest assured that behind the drag on is a dream, a failed dream. When you cannot produce a change to a particular situation or find a solution to a certain problem and life you feel powerless or despondent or even worse, depressed you have come across an area of your life where a dream or a goal has failed and failed miserably. Your failed goal or dream is counter to what you really, really want to be, do and have and you are left sitting in a tremendous loss.
Failed Dreams Are Always Followed By Rude Awakenings
The only way out of your dilemma is to find that dream or goal that was prevented from arriving. This ought to be a simple thing but it is not. The reason it is no easy undertaking is that when you have a failed dream or goal you will have made a decision about yourself and that decision will prevent you from examining the area. The loss of a dream or goal is no trivial thing. Rather, your dreams and aspirations are of extreme value and importance to you.
The key then is to identify the decision you made that is in all likelihood now firmly ensconced in your sub-conscious operating in your life below your conscious awareness. It impinges on and influences you, your moods, your actions, your behaviors and your ability to be what you want to be, do what you want to do and have what you want to have.
When you lose your dream, your goal in life you lose your vision. Very often, too often the solution to that problem is to grab on like a limpet to the first vision that seems remotely plausible. However, it is somebody else’s dream or goal, not your own. You have then lost control of you and your life and are now under the control of others, parents, teachers, peers, politicians, and the like. It is a relatively simple thing to control people, just quash their dreams or sabotage their goals.
What I and others that I work with do is to facilitate your finding the decision you made about yourself when your dream or goal failed. We then work with you to re-establish your dream, your goal which puts you back at cause and in control of Your Own Universe – YOU.
To give you an example of how this works I will share my story with you. Love, Forgiveness and Responsibility definitely come into play here and having those three abilities restored allowed me to get to the source of my dream. This turned out, wonder of wonders to be me – I was the Source of My Dream. The decision I had made was that “I can never have what I want.” Never being a long time, I was definitely hooped until, with assistance, I identified the decision that I had made.
This decision played in the background of my life much to my detriment. While I could readily help others to achieve their dreams and goals I was often left feeling bitter and resentful as they left me in the dust as they went on to bigger and better things in life. But, with “I can never have what I want” droning in the background it is little wonder.
The dream I grabbed onto, I was not the source of, in my universe, Walt Disney was the source of my dream. Happily ever after they walk off into the sunset hand in hand, end of story. My pursuit of that dream did not include the children of which Disney made no mention. The movie stops before the glassy eyed pair ‘go forth and multiply’. Even if the movie had continued to that point I now know with a great deal of certainty that no woman ever gave her partner that come hither look and whispered in his ear, “I want to have your teenager”. There is no mention of a 9 to 5 job, a mortgage, taxes, car repairs and the like.
I cannot lay all of it and the feet of Mr. Disney, there was also Dick and Jane...I was just learning to read for heaven's sake....See Dick run. See Jane run. See Dick and Jane run. See Spot jump. How freaking innocent is that? See mother, see father. Ooohhh and dimpled little baby Sally. The rub is that in my learning to read....which I really, really wanted to do, I unknowingly and without inspection adopted this make believe "family" as the model for how life was SUPPOSED TO WORK. And, then I set about fighting and punching and kneading and kneedling my "reality" into the Dick and Jane box. I even worked tirelessly on my parent's for years to get my own version of "Spot". And P I double SS ed I was, though under the surface, cause in the Dick and Jane world nobody got P I double SS ed, that I got a set of parents who obviously did not know how they were supposed to behave.
My mum has always maintained that things went along in our family quite nicely up until we went to school. I know from having my own children that they adopted things the "teacher said" and I was relegated to the back seat in the knowledge department....as someone who "just doesn't know" and school became a surrogate parent with teachers who knew everything. This was very frustrating at times. My youngest came home from school one day in grade two and announced that her brain made her do everything. When I tried to point out to her in simplistic terms that her brain responds to her, I got back, "Nope mummy, you're wrong. Mrs. Woo says.............................." Aaaarrgghh! Mayhap it was Karma?
"The World is divided into armed camps ready
to commit genocide just because we can't agree
on whose fairy tales to believe."
-Ed Krebs, photographer (b. 1951)
The bottom line here is that I became acutely aware of when I am the Source and when I am not the Source and am instead, just running a program. I do remember that as a child, I did try to convince others that we were just dreaming and that when we were awake we were actually asleep and that when we were asleep we were actually awake. That got me nowhere fast......I could hear the thoughts of others loud and clear. Things like "note to self, don't play with the weird kid."
Well, I am getting a great deal more articulate and I am absolutely dedicated to the art of being present and having the skill to move up and down the mood scale at will...life's music. The dream that was restored to me was one I had as a child. The vision that went with the dream was my leading hoards of people out of a dark, forested and narrow valley into a fresh, open, flowered, sundrenched meadow. In my dream I rode a beautiful horse, sometimes I was a lone rider and other times there were others who rode with me but there were always hoards of "people" following out of the darkness. It was my dream and in it I was not a child. Snow White, Cinderella, Dick, Jane, Baby Sally, Spot and their fictitious Mother and Father were not in that dream.
In an optimum paradigm the outcome matches the vision and it is extremely difficult, if not impossible to get an outcome to match a vision when it is not your vision. It took some work for me to forgive myself and others and to take responsibility for mistaking a yellow road for a golden one. My dream, my big fat worthwhile dream is to be an inspiration. That is what I want to be, it is what I want to do and it is what I want to have. In order for me to make my dream come true I must be an inspiration, I must expand my reach and communicate effectively with others (do) and from those others I in turn, receive (have) inspiration.
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