When you just feel too much love for others, what do you do with it?

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   Ericdierkerposted 11 years ago

   I do not know of any statistics. I do not know how common it is. But I do know, that I get it. I do some stuff with mine. The first thing I do is find somebody and tell them how wonderful they are to me. I like the internet. It can be immediate and yet lasting.
   Maybe it is not all that common.  Call you mother.

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      AnnaCiaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi.  Too much love sounds like co-dependency.  If we are referring to simple love and caring, well you grow more in character, you can get hurt, you might even make the day of the other person.

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         Ericdierkerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         Good point on the co-codependency. I was thinking more agape love. Just a wild feeling of joy for others. (one could say mania) but that is not what I refer to here.

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            tammybarnetteposted 11 years agoin reply to this

            Give, give, give Give your time, attention, money, food, helping hand, shoulder to cry on....

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               Ericdierkerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

               So far that seems the right cure, but then it just keeps growing and growing. So I guess you just keep on giving and giving.

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      A Troubled Manposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You respect the wishes and needs of others by keeping it to yourself and instead manifesting it into positive deeds in which you never seek attention or ask for compensation. Simple.

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         Ericdierkerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

         I think the anonymous part is really a good idea. One caveat: when being public is about promoting an action, rather then promoting a person.  As in "come join us to walk for a cure for       "

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            A Troubled Manposted 11 years agoin reply to this

            That's fine, too, as long as there are no other strings attached; ie. "in the name of Jesus" or some such nonsense.

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               Ericdierkerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

               That is for another day. But a funny bit of irony.

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   recommend1posted 11 years ago

   Sorry to pee on your parade, but excessive love for random others is a mental condition, a really irritating condition for the targets often.  I don't remeber what it is but I seem to recall it is an excess of lithium or something along those lines, another symptom of the same chemical imbalances that are involved in depression, bipolar, obsessions, etc etc.

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      Ericdierkerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      What a wonderful and caring interpretation. I think you are right. Happy loving people are often labeled with a mental condition. And it is probably accurate to a degree. Especially when others view it jealously.  But you speak of a label. Not what to do with it. Is it your suggestion that someone with too much love for others, go see a doctor?

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         recommend1posted 11 years agoin reply to this

         See a doctor? If you can't moderate yourself then yes.   Shakespeare had it nailed with Romeo and Juliet, where the slighlty dim-witted Romeo fell in love with love and focussed it on the first person to walk into its brightness - "What light from yonder window shines, is it the sun?  No it is Juliet" to paraphrase.
         
         Falling in love with love is to fall in love with yourself.

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            Ericdierkerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

            Very interesting. Narcissism is a very real problem.
            But again this question was about love for others, agape love.
            There are even some strange people that believe that Love is the only true commandment for their lives -- that kind of love, does not entail the diseases to which you refer.

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               recommend1posted 11 years agoin reply to this

               Ah !!  you mean that this love you are talking about is the religious 'love' that slides up to you and hugs you to death - as practiced by those weirdo guys in long dresses walking in front of the colonising armies of south america, bringing god and slavery to the inhabitants, the same guys who slimed their way into African kingdoms, setting up diplomatic relations and then enslaving the people.  The list is endless,  if this is the love you are transparently trying to hint htat you have then it is a total crock of self indulgent crap.

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                  Ericdierkerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                  Very good distinction from the Love I speak of in my question. A Love for others. This would be more like Ghandi, Buddha, Dali Lama, food kitchens, shelters, medical aid, disaster relief, drug addiction counseling. The list is endless of things done in love for another. I think it was Bob Marley that proclaimed, "Love is my religion". I can't find anyone who has said "religion is my love" but I will look.

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                     Mark Knowlesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                     Probably best to go do rather than speak of. Actions speaking louder than words as it were.
                     
                     There is no shortage of self righteous souls on here telling us about the good works they do.

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                        Ericdierkerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                        I will have to keep that in mind Mark. I was hoping for a little input on that "to do" list. I suppose we could say "do not be pompous or vain, but this is really a what "not to do".

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                           Mark Knowlesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

                           Oh - sorry. I don't know where you are in the World, but I feel certain you won't need to go far to find some one in need. In my own experience, the local Bus or Train station is a good place to start. The bigger the better. There will almost certainly be people needing feeding or pointing in a safe direction close to one of these.

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   Ericdierkerposted 11 years ago

   Thanks a bundle Mark. You are very right. You remind me that, that is what my mom did. Scared us kids. She would just go alone at night to the train station, and sometimes she would even bring some cold traveler home.

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