Yes, both of those, just like women! If the partner is wise enough though there seems to be a difference. I have been married to a very romantic woman, but she used her womanly ways to ensure that I remained romantic so I think it depends on the whole relationship also.
Yes mdawson, while going through the long drama with cancer, I lost weight and libido. I told my wife about how depleted I felt and assured her that I loved her often and she eased it in to a conversation that there was a problem with my performance. We were OK, I had to recognize that it was not so much about the sex, but with the distraction of fighting the cancer I had lost focus! Being a typical human I bungled on and we worked it out.
It seems to me that sex although wonderful and important is best served as cream and strawberries on top of a loving relationship when it has been a long one, and love is the right area to examine when we are in a corner. Did not want to write a novel. email me privately if you need a bit of support. I'm no Carl Jung, but I have been there! All my love to you and yours in this difficult time.
Umm I've never been with a guy who had those issues. And in my opinion you should be in a relationship that doesn't bring out your fears and insecurities. If you trust and are comfortable in a relationship then no problem.
What I mean is I have been diagnosed with a terminal illness and I fear that I am not always satisfying her even though she says she is! How do you discuss something that is as sensitive as this, I know my wife does not want to say anything that may lesson who I am and what I was! But I sense dissatisfaction!
So you bring it up without it being too direct or specific. Ask open ended questions. Could it be how often? How long? General satisfaction during? Figure that out first. Then ask specifically what she wants. I see no problem with that At least you identify that there may be a problem and you're looking for a solution.
From experience I know how frustrating it is that my husband is the boss of our family and makes 95% of the choices we face....but I'm also thankful because I have enough to deal with as a SAHM and it's kind of a mental...