Im an Alcoholic, I've aways have had a job, Never had a DUI, Never been in jail so I thought I was not an alcoholic but after going to a AA meeting and talking to ohter like myself I have realized that I an.
Are you powerless over alcohol and has your life become unmanagable?
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2 drinks doesn't mean your are an al. You just shouldn't drive. Alcoholics can't stop. They seem to crave it. Thats why its dangerous. They are destroying their immune system,. Not mention destroying their families,. In the process. It is really a sad disease. Thats when the denial kicks in. Possibly depression also plays a part in this disease as well.
I was a nurse, many moons ago. Alcoholics[then]are people with an addiction to alcohol - like they drink it instead of orange juice for breakfast! Heavy drinkers are those that binge drink because they don't know when to stop while on a session, but when they do stop, for to sleep for example, they will wake up next day not wanting another drink at least until their hangover is gone. And the rest us...well we binge drink occasionally, or have a couple every night if we feel like like it, but can TAKE it or LEAVE it. THAT is the difference, IMO. I will not go with this modern thinking that drinking more than one makes you an alcoholic.
An evening on a binge of drinking can also end up in a alcoholic blackout. The person forgets all or part of what happened during drinking.This is a common problem, and affects 30-40% people who take alcohol. Finally it can kill by causing severe hepatitis and lever damage, inflame the pancreas, inhibit the absorption of nutrients and damage the heart and blood vessels beyond repair.
I binge drank as a youngster, swore off in my late twenties, and have been temperate since. But I've also been a social worker and group home houseparent, and my wife was a binge drinker when first we met. Based on what I've seen:
1. The "typical" member of AA tends to believe everyone is an alcoholic who so much as sniffs a cork...and that anyone who thinks otherwise is in denial.
2. A second cousin of mine came home dead drunk one night, shot his wife to death when she attempted to leave in their pickup, lost his son to the state, did 10 years behind bars, and then worked as a counselor to other still-inmates until he fell ill and eventually died from cancer. No question in anybody's mind he was an alcoholic.
3. I know a lot of folks who'll have a single drink after work, maybe two, but who never show the slightest sign of being under the influence and who don't wack out if they can't find a bottle for a few days at a time here and there. No way they're alchoholics...except in the eyes of the AA member types as mentioned above.
I had an epiphany about smoking as well. I had smoked for 10 years before I quit, and for some reason, I suddenly made this part of my mind up that this was it. Not only for me, but for my kids, for my family, for everyone I love because, essentially, by smoking, I was just committing suicide in a procrastinator kind of way.
It did take me about 3 weeks though to get the habit out of my system. It was hard, really hard, depressing, stressful and dark...but I got through it and it has been 4 years since I quit.
Thanks! I agree with 21 days. It takes at least that long to clean out your system and to break the habit of hand to mouth. Of course, it was still not 'easy' after 21 days, being addicted to something is, in my opinion, something you generally have to fight for life.
For instance, I have a friend who can smoke just on weekends, and not even think about it during the week. Wouldnt that be great huh? But for me, I know, if I even take one puff of a cigarette, I'm hooked again. I know that about myself and thats why I can never smoke again. Addictions suck!
They do. I can relate. I have two addictions, nothing of the kitchen variety. No one knows about them. I never got over them so all my respect goes out to those who have overcome their addictions, whatever they be.
lol i was in a drug treatment center for a year. i had 2 years clean and was the treasurer of my na home group. i use to speak at hospitals and institutions. ive read the big book from cover to cover and i dont mean the bible. lol . id tell you this tho i stopped smoking cigarettes 15 years ago . how long did it take me to quit? the epiphany i had that made it happen . took one second . not 21 days. i am aware
heres how it went . i was really sick , flu plus bronchitis. i mean sick. i was hacking my lungs out . all of the sudden i look down. to the cigarette burning in my hand. i was smoking and really did not notice i was. just at that moment it clicked for me . that epiphany i mentioned . at that very instance the cigarette i was holding became my last. true story.
I'm glad you had that flu then. It's great, because most of the time when they get better people also forget what made them sick in the first place. I'd call you rather special in that you could resist the urge to smoke again after you got better.
An alcoholic is someone whose problems with drinking alcohol make problems in their life - because of alcohol consumption they lose friends, spouses, jobs, children, money, they drive while drunk and lose their license and their cars, they do not know when to quit - and often, they sure don't think they are alcoholics. If any of the above applies - than I would say - that's an alcoholic. The amount varies for different people. It is epidemic in America and probably most of the world. I cannot laugh about it, although I do laugh about almost everything else, not alcohol.
A charming, sensitive, witty and caring man works hard to build a successful career. Always a heavy drinker but in control. Decades down the line, things happen in his personal life. He drinks more to numb the pain. In the course of one year, there is a true Jekyll to Hyde transformation. Slovenly, sullen, deceitful, aggressive, he shambles round town, sometimes falling into the gutter. Some days he does not drink, and the real person inside looks out of his eyes. Most of the time, he lives in a nightmare, and the nightmare extends to suck in the person whom he claims to love and who loves him.
I was a hardened alcoholic for about 25 years, and every day after work I drank a 40 ounce malt liquor, followed by a pint of peppermint schnapps, and on the weekends the after work started about noon. One night I was tired of the routine, tired of the expense, and tired of being what i was. There did not seem to be anything I could do about it. Indeed I did seem to be powerless. That night when I finally went to bed, I had a heart to heart with God. I told Him simply this----I cannot do anything about this problem, so I am giving up, it is your problem now, it is all Yours. I fell asleep. The next day, everthing went normally, and after work I stopped at the store, bought the usual, but when I got home and poured my drink, the very first sip I took tasted horrible to me....I let it sit for a few, tried it again, and it just tasted bad. Maybe somethng was wrong with the beer, so I opened the peppermint stuff. Again, the sip tasted like there was something wrong with it. The next day, the same experience. .... and so on, and so on. To this day I cannot stand the taste of any alcoholic drink. So, in retrospect, give your problem to someone else, and it is a done deal
I came very close to that death in June of 2008 with acute pancreatitis. No, not psorosis, as expected I imagine, but my pancreas was shot. Near death, it took me four days in intensive care to come to the realization that I was pretty damned hopeless. I knew I was an alcoholic for a long time prior to this, but along with constant drinking came a depression so deep that I did not care. I know others that suffer in the same way as I did, but have not had God in their lives, or the resources, or the opportunity-whatever you wish to call it-and have succumbed to this horrible and cunning disease. I'm one of the lucky ones.
I think some people who are alcoholics and are in recovery or work at the recovery center tend to think anyone who picks up a drink is an alcoholic. My aunt once said because my father died in the 70's due to drinking and driving because he hit another car head on that he was an alcoholic. He was 19 years old and teenagers make wrong decisions and besides back then people weren't taught what could happen when drinking and driving.
I started drinking my dad's whiskey when I was nine. As I got older, I started drinking beer and spiced rum. In 1987, I drink a one liter of rum a day, not to mention, all the other alcohol I consumed.
That year, December 31, New Year Eve, I made a resolution that I would never drink spiced rum or any other rum anymore. And, I have been clean of that. However, I did remain a beer drinker and not socially...for a number of years I only drank to get drunk. I am now 41 and haven't had a beer or any liquor in almost 3 years.
To me, there was no addiction. I had to make better choices and have. It was mind over matter- as long as you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
Well, maybe it needs to figure out how people are going to react, before it can really do damage? Maybe, the person who asked the question is really after something completely hidden and doesn't want anyone to know?
Who knows? I usually ask a question to get a response. But, that's just me.
i think alot on this topic. main reason for that being i know the subject matter intimately . i was in the program for over two years. they use the words higher power, so as not to scare some off . with confusing ideals not pertinent to the prime objective. the disease wording , and label. for me anyway , never set well . and i still don't care for it.
. JUst think it all starts with one drink. The chemicals in the drink, possibly the taste is good and then.. bam. I feel for the victim and the people involved. victim is the alcoholic. The cravings must be tough/stopping. Its got to be tough.
Thanx for the awesome comments. For those who fought this disease and are talking about it. A high-5.
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