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Virginity. How old were you?

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    AdviceDoctorposted 7 years ago

    I was just wondering if anyone would like to share how old they were when they lost their virginity.

    To make it less shy, I'll begin ... I was 14.

    How old were you?

    1. aka-dj profile image80
      aka-djposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I haven't lost it. I know EXACTLY where it is (was). lol

      1. kirstenblog profile image78
        kirstenblogposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol

    2. missreal profile image60
      missrealposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      For me it was the night before my 17th birthday and it was a rape.

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        AdviceDoctorposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Does rape qualify as losing your virginity ... ? I thought that was supposed to be with someone you care about..

        1. missreal profile image60
          missrealposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          It still technically counts unfortunately. Other than that I guess I lost it when I was almost 18 to the guy I'm still with 7 years on.

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          Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          really?
          of course it counts!! sex is sex, wether you like it or want it or not. it is a horrible horrible thing.

          Missreal, i am so sorry that happened to you, and I hope your well now.

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            AdviceDoctorposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I had no idea that counted...

            And missreal, I'm also very sorry it happened to you.

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              stylekitty3posted 5 years ago in reply to this

              It doesnt have to count if you dont want it to. My 1st time I was 20 I didnt count it cause I didnt mean to lose it at that time so I just put it in my head that wasnt true and i still believed i was a virgin but now I admit I lost it at that time cause now I love that guy I didnt mean to lose it with.

          2. missreal profile image60
            missrealposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Thanks Justine76, it's nice to have support!

            I don't think it matters whether you consider yourself late or early, as long as you were ready smile

            1. Black Lilly profile image60
              Black Lillyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              That's the thing - losing your virginity must be your choice. Noone has the right to use force, on any occasion.
              I hope that idiot got what he deserved.

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                Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                It should be your choice. Many times it isnt, and if it isnt, it can casue life long issues with sex, how you view it, how you feel about it, it can damage your self esteem and how you view your body, it can make it so you dont enjoy it....all kinds of stuff.
                I cant abide the thought of men/boys/males thinking they can just take that from someone. I really wish there was mroe punshiment for this crime, especially "date rape" or "spousal rape". (I realize it does happen to men by women as well, I just dont personally knwo any who have had that ahppen, so cant speak for what it does to them. I am sure it is just as awful.)
                sorry guys..off topic agian...oops

      2. pisean282311 profile image58
        pisean282311posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        @misreal i m sorry to hear what u went through...

      3. Moonchild60 profile image85
        Moonchild60posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Wow Misreal, I lost my virginity to rape as well.  I was 15.  And sadly, it still counts, you still lost your virginity, even if it was forced upon you.

        1. nlowman profile image60
          nlowmanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Moonchild and Misreal, join the club. I was 14.

      4. Moonchild60 profile image85
        Moonchild60posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Me too, raped at 15.

    3. nasus loops profile image80
      nasus loopsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I was 15, approaching 16.  We had a sexual relationship for quite a while after this too. I must add though, that even though the boy/man was a older than me he never once pushed for us to do it before that night.  The next was my husband of 10years now.

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      usahaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      who was the calprit ,disclose pl.

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      me43posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I'm not shy . I was 34 when I lost my virginity . It's better to wait for Mr.Right than to give it to Mr. wrong . But ! I married Mr. Right before I did anything with him . As you can tell , I'm female . Most guys out there will hit it and run . I stuck to my vows with this man until his last day on earth . I've proven myself as a faithfull woman .

    6. BrandenA profile image61
      BrandenAposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I am 17 and I have never had sex with another person.

      1. Harvey Stelman profile image61
        Harvey Stelmanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        What about your hand; does that count? H

    7. hattie82 profile image60
      hattie82posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Well truth be told it s better to wait for mr/ms right, but in today's world it's far from realistic. And 14 is a bit young to be exploring that side of life. But my first time was at 20 and it was not all that joyous for me. BrandenA, i am more than impressed with you and proud of you,that is a very smart thing to hold out at such a young age, you hav somuch ahead of you and thinking out sex should'ntbe one of them. Get your life on track and know who you are and where your going before deciding on such things.

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      breek24posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I was 13 years old and was with one of my older sisters friends trying to fit in with her crowed. He was 17. I am still not sure to this day if i was ready but it happened i still talk to him I have had sexual relationships with 2 other boys besides him but it was not till high school. Now I am engaged to the man I lost my virginity to.

    9. taylorsweets profile image61
      taylorsweetsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      i was 19 smile hmmmm

      1. lauren03 profile image60
        lauren03posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        the day after my debut lol

    10. caroline22 profile image60
      caroline22posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      i was quite 17 lol

    11. leeberttea profile image61
      leebertteaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I'm still waiting for the right girl.

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      etymologicalposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      16/17, to a friend a few years older. It was awesome. (I say 16/17 because I was 16 for my first sexual act, but 17 for penetrative vaginal intercourse, which seems to be how most people define "virginity".)

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      Mrs. Tiger T 21posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      12years old my first time

    14. Harvey Stelman profile image61
      Harvey Stelmanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Older tan I wanted to be. H

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      Jake Gene Barnesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      15

      Not really a topic that can be expanded upon further. I suppose I could give details of that night, but it being my first time and all... it wasn't very interesting. I was a scared kid making pelvic thrusts for ten minutes before expiring.

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      kinkitty04posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      i was 13
      , i Lost it a Day before EDC june 24 , 2010 big_smile

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      nataliearcher91posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      i was 16 when i lost mine

    18. duffsmom profile image61
      duffsmomposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      19 and on my wedding night.

    19. duffsmom profile image61
      duffsmomposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      19, on my wedding day.

  2. kirstenblog profile image78
    kirstenblogposted 7 years ago

    I think I was a late bloomer, I was close to 20

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    Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago

    I was 16 but I spent years before that trying! LOL!

  4. Pearldiver profile image88
    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    Who gives a rat's butt how old you were? yikes
    Is this the best you can offer this community? hmm
    Get a Life!!
    Maybe one with real qualifications and a brain!

    1. kirstenblog profile image78
      kirstenblogposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Cranky PD?

      Surely this is better then asking, how do I get traffic to my hubs? Or I have been here a whole week, why have I not made money yet?

      1. Pearldiver profile image88
        Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        lol No Not Cranky..... Just annoyed that at my age.... I can't remember lol

        1. kirstenblog profile image78
          kirstenblogposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lol Why not make it up wink surely that is one of the perks of age, that and you can cuss, be rude and shocking and who is going to say anything! I sooo want to be like Betty White when I am old, thinking specifically of her character in the movie lake placid tongue

          1. Pearldiver profile image88
            Pearldiverposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            lol Don't tell Bovine then! Just invite him to Lunch lol

        2. Mikel G Roberts profile image87
          Mikel G Robertsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          LMAO!!!

          http://www.sherv.net/cm/emo/laughing/rolling.gif

    2. THE LIP profile image61
      THE LIPposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      If at this age ur wondering who gives a rat's butt then when are U going to go for the pussy urself or maybe Ur wondering what a pussy once was?
      No offense Meant just feel Sad When Sex Moves Out Of The Pants & Gets Lost Between The Ears!!!

  5. thirdmillenium profile image71
    thirdmilleniumposted 7 years ago

    Believe it or not, my wife was the first. And, after marriage too. And, she is the only one

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      poetlorraineposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      same for me, and i was a very young starter, and i have a husband and not a wife, thankfully

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I often wish I would have been wise enough (or listend to people who told me this was best) to do this. Congratulations to you both, I admire that.
        and lol at PoetL "thankfully"  lol

        1. thirdmillenium profile image71
          thirdmilleniumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          smile

        2. thirdmillenium profile image71
          thirdmilleniumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          smile

    2. kirstenblog profile image78
      kirstenblogposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yours is a rare story these days, good for you, I hope that its brought you enough happiness in your life that you would not do it any other way if you could smile

      1. thirdmillenium profile image71
        thirdmilleniumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Yes,I would not have it any other way

        Thanks

  6. jimmythejock profile image84
    jimmythejockposted 7 years ago

    simple answer lol old enough that it was legal.....jimmy

  7. ragnaworks profile image60
    ragnaworksposted 7 years ago

    For me it was 19.

  8. Black Lilly profile image60
    Black Lillyposted 7 years ago

    Did it quite late - 16 I guess...

    One thing that i remember was a huge relief afterwards - it was such a burden smile

    1. nasus loops profile image80
      nasus loopsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I would not consider 16 late, just normal!

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      AdviceDoctorposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You think 16 is late? I'd say it's pretty early.. I think you're late when you're like 24 or something.

      1. Black Lilly profile image60
        Black Lillyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I think that was late, because I was really feeling uncomfortable with it, for about a year definitely. Feared it a bit. Did not feel confident enough, etc.
        It was a relief, really.

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    betsieposted 7 years ago

    i know where i kept it

  10. fishtiger58 profile image82
    fishtiger58posted 7 years ago

    I became an adult in the 70's the best decade ever, drugs sex and rock and roll. Oddly enough I waited until I was 20 and then was so disgusted by the whole thing I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months. My girlfriends had all lost their virginity and were hounding me about it and so I finally gave in. It was a big mistake on my part.

    1. chigoiyke profile image61
      chigoiykeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      It just happens like that and you cannot take it way. Its just peer pressure. Imagine hanging out with some guys ant they are bragging about stuff and yo:lol: u just keep mute. Awww. You gonna try something. lol lol

  11. keywc58 profile image73
    keywc58posted 7 years ago

    I forgot.

  12. surferdude profile image60
    surferdudeposted 7 years ago

    19 - It seemed a lot more daunting than it was lol

  13. tantrum profile image61
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    18 here. did it not in love, but because I thought it was getting really late.
    and I don't regret it. It was a good start !
    lol

    1. ragnaworks profile image60
      ragnaworksposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Actually I don't think that was late at all. I think it would be a good idea for everyone to wait till they're adults. Nowadays, there are people losing it as early as 12, before they even become teens hmm

    2. Black Lilly profile image60
      Black Lillyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      big_smile
      got someone like-minded here big_smile

  14. Jonathan Janco profile image80
    Jonathan Jancoposted 7 years ago

    I was 18. She was the first and still the worst.

    1. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol

  15. chigoiyke profile image61
    chigoiykeposted 7 years ago

    funny question, but can I really remember?

    1. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Maybe it was too traumatic ? big_smile

      1. chigoiyke profile image61
        chigoiykeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Nah, can I say it was so good that I forgot the day?
        lol lol lol

        1. tantrum profile image61
          tantrumposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          lol

  16. cheaptrick profile image77
    cheaptrickposted 7 years ago

    What a curios way to describe it,i Lost my virginity,it was here a minute ago,maybe it fell behind the couch or i left it in the bathroom.
    In any case,if you did Lose your virginity by mistake you can always go to the Virgin Islands and get recycled,I did.

  17. habee profile image90
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    Almost 18, but I had done other "Clintonesque" stuff before.

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol
      snowblowing?

      1. habee profile image90
        habeeposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Funny! Nah...I don't think many guys are into that. Is this a great way to start a morning, or what???

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          Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Im laughing about the clintonesque word.
          this is one messy morning...

      2. Betty Reid profile image61
        Betty Reidposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        How old were you when you found out what "snowblowing" means?  I just looked it up and now wish I hadn't.

        1. TheGlassSpider profile image80
          TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          You mean it doesn't mean "using a special machine to move snow off the drive way"? yikes

          1. TheGlassSpider profile image80
            TheGlassSpiderposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            yikes Wow...You know...I thought I was pretty well-informed about this stuff. hm.

            1. thekidandblue profile image59
              thekidandblueposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              we call that snowballing round our way

              oh and 19

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          Ghost32posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Yuck.  I see what you mean.  I was 66 when I found out...about 33 seconds ago...lol

          Now, there's also "seagulling"....lol lol

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    ralwusposted 7 years ago

    18 and too young and dumb and full of...

  19. habee profile image90
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    Justine, I'm stalking you now...er, ummm...following you, I mean.

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      lol
      I think Im following you...maybe...hang on...

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        Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        yeah, I am..went to your page and it told me to quit following you..

        lol

    2. prettydarkhorse profile image66
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      hi habee, am I a follower yet?

      hi just

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    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    21 when I got married

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      ltplposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Start actual Life and take God gifted love which make Imagine handsom and gloriouse life which you can not feel bebore married.

  21. habee profile image90
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    That reminds me of a poster I saw. YOu know the evolution pic with the series of characters, ranging from an ape to a Neanderthal to modern man? The last guy in the link is turned around saying, "Stop following me!" I don't know why, but I found that so funny.

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image66
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Funny indeed

  22. habee profile image90
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    I think something is wrong with my HP account. I read your hubs, PDH, and I would have sworn I was one of your fans several weeks ago. Anyway, I fixed it! I'm stalking you now, too!

  23. habee profile image90
    habeeposted 7 years ago

    PDH - I read your hub about online degrees and made a comment days ago. I told you about my daughter who is earning her degree that way - but the comment isn't showing up.

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image66
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      oh I will have to check about it habee, thanks

    2. prettydarkhorse profile image66
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      not in there habee, put a comment again, I dont know what is wrong, sometimes I put comment to other hub and then I cant see also if it has been sent, i have prob with that too

  24. AEvans profile image69
    AEvansposted 7 years ago

    Old enough to understand and  wise enough to know I could have waited longer over. Bottom line nobody's business. smile

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    shinujohn2008posted 7 years ago

    I lost it at 19

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      ltplposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Ofter loss in 19 You get actual life  inow you fell you are joine heven with the help of to take god gifted love which is you can feel only not described it in any form.

  26. PrettyPanther profile image86
    PrettyPantherposted 7 years ago

    I was 19; he was 36.  I was in awe of his mind.  And, I've always liked older men.  Still do.  :-)

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    my husband was my first not my only but definitely my first and I was in my 20s...glad I waited for the right man to take it from me smile

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    Ghost32posted 7 years ago

    To paraphrase Bill Clinton, "Define virginity." lol

  29. Colebabie profile image61
    Colebabieposted 7 years ago

    I was 18 when I turned in my V-card.

  30. DogSiDaed profile image61
    DogSiDaedposted 7 years ago

    16 here.

  31. qwark profile image61
    qwarkposted 7 years ago

    In some cultures, as soon as a girl experiences menses, she is expected to start producing children.
    If girls are considered too young, say at 10 -11 years old to have kids, don'tcha think this biblical god thing phucked up again when "it" started their menses?

    1. DogSiDaed profile image61
      DogSiDaedposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Drifting off topic qwark...

      1. qwark profile image61
        qwarkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Dog:
        I redeemed myself.
        Read my last post...right on target...:-)

        1. DogSiDaed profile image61
          DogSiDaedposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Lol yep that still doesn't answer the question xD Funny though

          1. qwark profile image61
            qwarkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Hey Dog:
            Wasn't the question: How old were ya?
            I surely did cover that...in my sleeping bag..:-)

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    Will Bensonposted 7 years ago

    I remember the first time I had sex...I was scared to death.

    I was all by myself at the time.

    (With apologies to Rodney Dangerfield).

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image66
      prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      hehehe, DIY

  33. danielthorne profile image57
    danielthorneposted 7 years ago

    15 and I lasted about 2 strokes before blasting off...

  34. qwark profile image61
    qwarkposted 7 years ago

    I was a 13 yr old boyscout.
    I had a picture of a naked girl in my pocket.
    That nite, in my sleeping bag, I had sex with my right hand and had my first, unforgettable ORGASM!
    I had been introduced to Heaven!
    From that nite forward, My right hand became obsessed with sex and before long "it" became a sex addict.
    The years passed and I found that there is no cure for my right hand. It will have to spend the rest of it's life "walking-the-dog!"
    Thank "god" I haven't grown that telltale hair in the palm of that hand.
    I am not "blind" so the boyscout manual was wrong!
    My G/f understands this powerful addiction. I love her so much. At times, she takes the situation in hand. She handles my problem like a real pro.
    Bless her!

  35. qwark profile image61
    qwarkposted 7 years ago

    Oh! Dog..
    Ya mean ..oh ok..I gotcha!
    See I was raised on a farm in oregon.
    My gramma used to send me to the chicken coop for eggs.
    I guess I was about 14 when I figgered, hell, if those big eggs come outa that chicken..oh yeh! I should be able to fit in!
    Lemmee just say this, if ya havent tried it, don't knock it!
    Chickens are GOOD!  :-) and they can't say no!   lol

    1. chambersgirl21 profile image60
      chambersgirl21posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      thats so gross

    2. THE LIP profile image61
      THE LIPposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Better Eat Ur Chickens After U've Beaten Them Else One Of These Days One Of Em Is Going To Ring The SPCA doorbell & Get U & Ur Girlfriend Inside A Coop 4 RAPE & More!!!

  36. qwark profile image61
    qwarkposted 7 years ago

    Hey Dog:
    Just in case yer wonderin' My G/f knows about this too.
    When I need a little variety, she holds the chicken.
    Damn I love that girl.  :-)

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    Millionheirposted 7 years ago

    15 over here and boy did i regret it....

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    Denno66posted 7 years ago

    Um, qwark that's not a version of the H1N1 serum, dude.

  39. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    So, what you're asking, is if I want to tell a bunch of strangers how old I was when I lost my virginity?  You are kidding, right?  Why would anyone want to know?  Its a slow news day, must be.  Nor do I really want to hear about their ages! I thought I was rhe frivolous one, but now I'm realizing how deep I actually am!

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      Denno66posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Yes, the Hub Tribe is silly, huh? big_smile

  40. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
    AdsenseStrategiesposted 7 years ago

    You're assuming I'm not still one

    1. Jonathan Janco profile image80
      Jonathan Jancoposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Hey I'm a virgin, now! Well, a born again virgin, that is.

  41. Anamika S profile image71
    Anamika Sposted 6 years ago

    21. After i got Married.

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      ltplposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Start Actual life .You can feel Heven in earth with the help of god gifted love which make your life bewetiful,excellent imagine and glomeriouse which you can feel only not Imagine.

  42. Hokey profile image59
    Hokeyposted 6 years ago

    I was 14 and it happened during a game of strip poker with two older girls. They took turns. I am grateful for their experience because I sure as hell didn't have a clue.  big_smile

  43. Bill Manning profile image70
    Bill Manningposted 6 years ago

    Damn, I think I was the oldest out of all of ya! I was 22, she was a slut. Wish I had waited for someone better. smile

    1. SweetiePie profile image84
      SweetiePieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Yeah and you were so much better than her since it takes two to have sex smile.  This and the chicken comment early in the thread, well at least people are not attacking anyone, but this thread is just weird.

  44. Rafini profile image86
    Rafiniposted 6 years ago

    I was 18 - with a guy I barely knew.  Just wanted to get it over with, didn't think it was such a big deal.  Now I think I was wrong to feel that way.

  45. gsus_17 profile image80
    gsus_17posted 6 years ago

    I was 15 with a girl I barely knew... I was really freaked out because I knew she had done it before and I didnt want her to think I didnt know what I was doing..

    It's safe to say it didn't last too long and she definitely knew I had no idea what I was doing.. lol

    it was fun but I would have liked to have done it with someone I actually cared about..

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    Jared in Vegasposted 6 years ago

    I was 19. We had to be really quiet. We were at her dad's house for spring break and his room was right below hers. He was a district court judge and I was scared of him.

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    StormRyderposted 6 years ago

    15...No big story to with it.

    1. Faybe Bay profile image83
      Faybe Bayposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      3, I think, or 4 or 5. Dunno. Remember, but don't know.

  48. brianzen profile image60
    brianzenposted 6 years ago

    13 and so lame of a story.

  49. Mikel G Roberts profile image87
    Mikel G Robertsposted 6 years ago

    I was 16, the night I lost my virginity was after the first basketball game at my school, after I had my liscense, and it was in my first car. The next night I had my second and much better experience with another gal in the back seat of my buddies car while he and his girlfriend did it in the front seat.
    The second time was... the second gal...I should have hung on to. I was her first.

  50. haiidot profile image59
    haiidotposted 6 years ago

    I am happy to say that still now i dint lose my virginity. now i m 22.... i dont like to lose before my marriage

     
    working