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Holiday depression

  1. ddsurfsca profile image78
    ddsurfscaposted 6 years ago

    What is the best way to deal with depression over the holidays, caused by either lack of money, and/or missing loved ones?

    1. Arthur Fontes profile image90
      Arthur Fontesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      This is just an idea but there are many families out there with little or no money this Christmas.  If a person does not have anyone to celebrate the holidays with perhaps providing gifts to children of needy families will give some purpose to your life this holiday season.  It truly is better to give then receive and the knowledge that you have made someone else's Christmas enjoyable may be enough to get you through the season.

    2. prettydarkhorse profile image64
      prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      write write and write some more, join the forums LOL

    3. pylos26 profile image77
      pylos26posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Leave that ole whisky alone...its depressing.

    4. nikki1 profile image61
      nikki1posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Creating fun legal ways to make money.. yard sales, swapping,.
      Getting involved in your community, bond more with your family and friends, make your surroundings that much better. Discuss suggestions with your family and friends and create the biggest Christmas holiday you can..

  2. SweetiePie profile image82
    SweetiePieposted 6 years ago

    I think one of the big mistakes people make over the holidays is buying lots of gifts they cannot afford.  Once people get over the notion that handmade gifts are cheesy, then they can save lots of money.  It is hard when family lives far away, but if you mailed them a handcrafted gift they would appreciate it so much more than a Best Buy card.  When creating you can release a lot of anxiety and negative feelings, which helps with depression.

    1. starme77 profile image84
      starme77posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Thats a great answer couldn't have said it better myself

      1. SweetiePie profile image82
        SweetiePieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Thanks! I am making all my gifts this year, and I know my family and friends will appreciate these.

    2. Mekenzie profile image93
      Mekenzieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I agree - I made a ton of mixes in a jar this year.  They are really fun to make and people are always really happy to receive them..  You can find them online and make it in a Quart sized jar with pretty fabric on the lid - makes an old fashioned yummy present that doesn't cost much at all...  Fun Fun Fun!

  3. ddsurfsca profile image78
    ddsurfscaposted 6 years ago

    Very good ideas, and I thank you...sometimes it is hard to see the forest when so many trees are in the way....you all have simplified it for me...

  4. h.a.borcich profile image60
    h.a.borcichposted 6 years ago

    One cause of depression is the big gap between what we expect and what we get, and not as in presents. If we expect the holidays to be something completely different than our reality -we are likely to feel depressed.
      WHen I get feeling depression like that I try to remember this saying...I felt bad I had no shoes until I met a man with no feet. It puts into perspective appreciation for what I have and takesme out of myself to help others. Just my thoughts, Holly

  5. Bredavies profile image71
    Bredaviesposted 6 years ago

    Hang out with the people you love. That always makes me smile. smile

  6. Lisa HW profile image83
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    I'd say they should put together a much of a holiday as they can, and keep in mind that from one year to another some holidays are going to be better than others.  Try to create a little "holiday atmosphere" but then just enjoy being with whoever it is you can be with.  If you're alone then concentrate on how liberating it is to be able to do what you feel like doing without regard for what you think you should be doing.

    This isn't the same as a Christmas, but one year I had to spend New Years Eve in the hospital because of a threatened miscarriage.  My young-woman roommate and I spent the whole night talking and talking.  We knew we were a pathetic duo, but we enjoyed the conversation all through the night.  As with holidays, the night/day passed, and we got on with life and went on to have more normal New Years Eves in the future.   In the scheme of life, all holidays are nothing more than one day.  Sometimes it has to be ok not to feel very "holiday-ish".   smile

  7. habee profile image91
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    Wanna feel better emotionally? Do something kind for someone else. Seriously - it takes your mind off your own problems for a while.

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      cosetteposted 6 years ago in reply to this


      i like to visit the bunny rescue. they have like a hundred bunnies there and they are so cute. i don't work there, but i visit with the wonderful volunteers and the bunnies, of course wink

      i also keep Christmas music on, turn on all the Christmas lights as soon as i get home, and try not to reflect on those who are gone so much. that's the bad thing about holidays, they mark time's passing as no other time of year does, so you feel the absence more sharply. and yes, don't overspend, great advice!

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        lyricsingrayposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Great Point xo big_smile big_smile big_smile big_smile

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          bloodnlatexposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Hey there goregous!  There is no need to be depressed.  I'm here to keep you laughing, and for a little holiday cheer as well!

    2. Lisa HW profile image83
      Lisa HWposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      That works when one's problems remain external enough that they're something a person can get their mind off.  The trouble for a lot of people is that problems can be so big or last so long, the person actually has physiological changes that turn problems from being something external to becoming as inescapable as one's own endocrine system.  That's why people sometimes need to recognize that their unhappiness, "blues", is essentially a physiological condition; and they can't expect, at least for a while, to feel happy.  When life has "sucked the life out of" someone they, and those around them, really need to know that others understand it isn't their own "bad mental attitude" that has created such a challenge in overcoming those "blues".  ("Blues" - what a stupid and meaningless word to describe the kind of unhappiness so many people live with, particularly when holidays come around and highlight it.)   hmm

      If I could give one comment to anyone suffering with genuine depression or genuine unhappiness (and they aren't necessarily the same thing), I'd say they should understand that they're dealing with something that amounts to a physiological condition (even if it's "plain old major unhappiness), and that they aren't going to overcome it in the next week or two.   They need to accept that sometimes we don't feel as happy at holiday time as we have at other times, and they (or anyone close to them) shouldn't expect the "blood out of a stone" kind of thing from that, any more than one would expect someone with two broken legs to run a marathon.

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    lyricsingrayposted 6 years ago

    someone called me - my name is depression this time of year yikes

  9. Daniel Carter profile image90
    Daniel Carterposted 6 years ago

    After losing everything twice--homes, belongings, some heirlooms, and even friends--I've decided that what I want most is to spend the time I have with the people who are important to me. I've prepared simple but meaningful gifts for all the people on my list. A friend attended my daughter's wedding earlier in the year, and she took a fabulous pic of my daughter and I together at the wedding and framed it and gave it to me just this evening. I felt stupid when I cried as I opened it, but what a great gift I will always cherish. It's of my daughter walking down the stairs in her gown and me exclaiming "OH!!!...." My daughter exclaimed back "Don't you DARE! I don't have water-proof make up on!" and we laughed, and my friend caught the picture. She is so beautiful, and they are so happy.

    So I'm giving gifts about my relationship with the people I love and what they mean to me. So far, so good. Besides the gifts, I'm making the rounds all day to visit many of these people, play the piano, sing new songs I wrote and eat a lot of food.

    Simple, simple, simple. And so wonderful for me.

    1. wyanjen profile image85
      wyanjenposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Aww, you got me a little teary Daniel. I'm looking at my version of that pic right now. It's priceless smile It sits in a frame right next to my monitor.
      Happy holidays

  10. manlypoetryman profile image71
    manlypoetrymanposted 6 years ago

    If you are slightly depressed...and/or majorly depressed it is important to get through the holidays in one piece. Lack of Money...loneliness...and an existing amount of depression going into the holidays can make a person...go into "depression overload". Find a way to make this holiday as positive as you can for yourself...whether you even practice the holiday or not...whether you have money...whether you have family or friends to visit or not. If you isolate yourself on or around the holiday...you might be inclined to envelope yourself in your own miserableness. Make the holiday...and the time around it a "me" time. Go to a movie...Go for a nice walk (If lonely-possibly at a park where a lot of people go to hike/run...even on a holiday)...Go see some kind of scenery place that would not be closed for Christmas....like a beach or a hill-top view...and enjoy having the whole damn place to yourself. Think ahead, plan for it in advance, definitly invite a friend who doesn't have plans either. If money is an issue...do something for yourself that you will benefit from...that will keep you busy...and you can reward yourself afterwards...maybe with a fun Christmas toddy/LicĀ“our-type drink-(just for the fun of it), or a Tall Cup of your favorite Coffee, or Hot cocoa...whatever you like. Clean out a stack of papers, pile up old clothes to give away, or detail the inside of your car. Do some kind of simple task that you have been wanting to get done that will be something to help feel good about you and your surroundings. Staying busy might help pass the time by a little bit smoother...as well! Just some suggestions from someone who has "been there" on the depression side...and knows that depression can grow and grow ...until it can take over...So don't even give it a chance...to the best of your abilities!

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    janedoe22posted 6 years ago


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