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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    Hey guys...
    I wanted to ask for your prayers and your good thoughts. I have a mole on the back of my head, it's big, but I've had it all my life. Where it is positioned, I have to ask the hair dressers to be careufl because they can and sometimes do hit it, making it bleed and everything.

    Today while drying my hair...I felt it and it has changed BIG TIME. I am stressing out and freaked out by this. I am going to the doctors tomorrow at 10am to talk about getting it removed and tested.

    Please please ask for it to not be cancerous. My family, friends, and especially my husband don't need to stress of me possibly having cancer...especially if its in my head/brain. Thanks guys I totally appreciate it...going to go out for a little but to try and get my mind off of it...it's really freaking me out.

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      Justine76posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Sweetie, your scalp is not attached to your brain.  smile
      Moles of this sort frequently change, every once in a while, it is cancer. BUT!!!!!! Its easily removed, becuase you did the right thing, kept an eye on it, and reported changes right away. Problems happen when people ignore changes. Change itself is NOT an indication of cancer, either.
      I have known several people who have had cancer, got it removed, and were fine. AND several people, myself included, who got freaked out, and it was nothing. In any case, your going to the doctor tomorrow, good for you. It will all get taken care of. No need to panic. I totally understand the fear, but you've got to think positive, and understand moles are NOT always cancer. Im sure you'll be fine, and we are all here to support you, no matter what.

    2. DogSiDaed profile image60
      DogSiDaedposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Chances are it'll be fine. My sister had similar concerns, also on her head, and it was absolutely fine smile Wishing you all the best!

    3. prettydarkhorse profile image64
      prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Crazd, u ok now?> HUGS for you and I will pray for you as well, thanks for the update

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        Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        thanks PDH I am glad it's over with though it is a pain in the butt since I can hardly wash my hair lol

    4. seanorjohn profile image80
      seanorjohnposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I will pray that everything heals cleanly.Pamper yourself and plan a relaxing break with your loved ones.

    5. yenajeon profile image83
      yenajeonposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I wish you the best. My friend recently went through a similar episode, and her mole turned out to be benign. Even if it is not, in today's day and age, you have nothing to worry about. I'll be praying for you like crazy though!!

  2. Misha profile image75
    Mishaposted 6 years ago

    It'll be OK Crazd, I am sure smile

  3. IzzyM profile image85
    IzzyMposted 6 years ago

    Hey calm down sweetheart, there are a thousand reasons why this mole might have changed.
    Maybe your hairbrush knocked off it a few times, maybe it was bleeding when you didn't notice and infection got in.
    Fingers crossed for you, but honestly please don't worry too much. It could be something or nothing, but you are right to get it checked out smile

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    Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago

    I pray for a good report from the doctors.

  5. manlypoetryman profile image71
    manlypoetrymanposted 6 years ago

    Hang in there, Crazd...there is probably a reasonable explanation for the change. We'll wait for the expected good report from the doc...keep us posted!

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    Will Bensonposted 6 years ago

    Crazdwriter wrote: "Hey guys...
    I wanted to ask for your prayers and your good thoughts."

    You have them, of course. Love and good luck.

  7. Daniel Carter profile image89
    Daniel Carterposted 6 years ago

    My best friend was just diagnosed with noninvasive cancerous melanoma. He has a mole and it has also changed. The procedure is pretty simple. The Dr. simply removes it, and they test to see whether or not it's aggressive or not.

    Chances are, Crazd, that it's nonaggressive and can be removed without a great deal of worry or stress. Even if it's invasive, it's not likely that it's advanced since you don't seem to have any other signs of it anywhere else.

    Just want to give you a little practical viewpoint about it. Be as rational as you can about it, and let the facts speak instead of all this convulsion of emotions. The emotional upset won't help your hubby or family at all. It will make it worse. The more rational and calm you are about this, the more it will keep their drama from interfering with what you need to do.

    Sending all best thoughts, energy and prayers. Keep us posted.

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    lyricsingrayposted 6 years ago

    I've wished it away and to be gone.  And so it will.  Just watch.  Blessed Be.  Good friend. big_smile

  9. Sara Tonyn profile image60
    Sara Tonynposted 6 years ago

    Good thoughts and positive energy being sent to you as I type.

    I'm glad you're doing the smart thing and having it checked out right away. Take care.

  10. Ms Chievous profile image81
    Ms Chievousposted 6 years ago

    It will be OK Crazd.  Try not to think about it so much. Distract yourself with a movie, a good book a walk if you can. Can't do anything about it until you know what it is. Don't jump to worse case secnerios so soon!

  11. Cagsil profile image84
    Cagsilposted 6 years ago

    Hey Crazd,

    I have one on the back of my neck, right in the middle. I have had one hair dresser actually clip it off by mistake. She asked me if I wanted it put back.(and no she wasn't nervous about doing it)

    I told her yes and to this day, I inform every person who cuts my hair to be aware of it being there. Mine has changed, but I am pretty sure you will be okay. smile

    Stay Positive!!!! smile

  12. Ron Montgomery profile image61
    Ron Montgomeryposted 6 years ago

    I had one taken off years ago under similar circumstances.  My doctor said the odds were astronomical against there being any problem, but they have to check it out just to be sure.

    I now have something to blame my brain farts on, even though anatomically, it doesn't add up.

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      Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      lol blame that on your brain farts. that is a good one Ron i'll have to use that one lol think anyone'll believe me?

      1. Ron Montgomery profile image61
        Ron Montgomeryposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        They'll be too scared to question you. smile

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          Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          sweeeeet! lol

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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    Thanks guys I am doing my best not to think about it but dang it's hard...especially because now I keep touching it. I can't keep my hands off of it now lol

    and I know it's not attatched to my brain. Justine, hehee just my imagination running wild with me yet again. damn imagination big_smile
    I've already had to have...two shaved, and two removed...one was an accident but the other two I wanted because two were changing and they weren't in the best place (my left breast and rigth chest) and the second because i was so damn tired of them having to do biopsy because it was on my side of my should/back and it was teh size of a quarter yikes

    so yea I always jump to the negative because one of everything that happens in the family and two I'm adopted so I truly don't know health wise for my sperm and egg donor and their family.

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      Justine76posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I know, everyone does. Its better to jump to the negative and be safe, then say "its nothing" and be sorry.
      Im sure youll be fine. Its only one day, you can hang on. Your tough, your a NAVY wife!!! I know you can do it.  smile

  14. thekidandblue profile image59
    thekidandblueposted 6 years ago

    i am hoping that you will be OK, I'm sure you will big_smile

  15. Beth100 profile image82
    Beth100posted 6 years ago

    Hey Crazd!  Yeah, I know that it can be scary when you first notice the change, and then you're fears overtake your emotions.  HOLD ON!  Don't panic...wait to see your dr. tomorrow -- it's the first step you need to take.  From there, the next step will be presented to you.  Always take one step at a time, and never make assumptions as assumptions will invoke the fear within.  I'm positive that all will turn out the best.  I'm thinking of you Bella!  Hugs, prayers, hugs and more prayers for you. xoxox

  16. girly_girl09 profile image78
    girly_girl09posted 6 years ago

    I had something just like this. It was really icky  - turns out it was just a harmless cyst. The doctor said it would eventually go away by itself and it did.

    Good luck to you - I'm sure you'll be fine. smile

  17. blondepoet profile image81
    blondepoetposted 6 years ago

    Stay positive,as just think of all the stress you will have saved yourself when you go to the doc, to find out it's all good. We are all beside you. smile

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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    thanks again guys...ooo making my mom a St. Patty's wreath to help keep me calm. hopefully I won't burn my fingers lol I hate when I stress. Don't need anymore and I always seem to find other things to add to stress about. Of course this is a big thing but still don't want more unneeded stress.

  19. myownworld profile image79
    myownworldposted 6 years ago

    CW...it will be ok....we're all here for you! (((virtual hug))))

  20. habee profile image92
    habeeposted 6 years ago

    I sent up a prayer, Crazd! I had something similar on my back, something called a nevis. It was benign.

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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    glad it was benign habee.

    and glad that everyone else who ran into a similar problem that everything was okay. makes me feel a bit better since everyone has been getting positive feedback from their doctors' about the mole or whatever else it could have been.

  22. h.a.borcich profile image61
    h.a.borcichposted 6 years ago

    Crazed I sent up prayers too! I am praying it is a benign dealy you are dealing with.
    Just remember that if it is something else - you have a friend who has been diagnosed 4 times and she is only an email or phone call away smile Holly

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      Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      thanks Holly I totally appreciate that especially the email or phone call away. you rock!

      1. h.a.borcich profile image61
        h.a.borcichposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Crazed, Know I mean it sincerely. And I hope Sir Dent is right smile

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    SirDentposted 6 years ago

    I will pray for you also. It may be nothing, but I know it is hard to think about. Try to stop touching it and thinking about it. People are always bad to fool with things that hurt. Like pulling a scab off of a sore. Sometimes we just need to keep our hands away.

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      Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I am trying not to touch it I swear but now that I know it's changing it FEELS like it's changing so I keep touching it lol I hate that...it feels gross! sad And yea i'm bad at pulling on scabs too. have scars from chicken pox to prove it lol

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    SirDentposted 6 years ago

    I believe it is only infection. This is what I keep hearing in my mind. Of course I could be wrong.

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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    A mole that is infected...maybe but I don't remember hitting it with my brush again. I hope that is all that it is, SirDent

    1. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Don't worry crazd ! I know a lot of people that have this kind of thing in their head or in their back, and it's not big deal.Some live with it, others remove it.
      It's going to be OK smile

  26. BEAUTYBABE profile image85
    BEAUTYBABEposted 6 years ago

    Hi Crazdwriter,

    You and I are sort of in the same boat.
    I am seeing a specialist actually today about a mole on my leg, that I'm told is looking suspicially like a melanoma. I have very fair skin and being a Queenslander, from Australia, I don't go out in the sun very often. I am very worried also because as well as my MSA, I really don't think that I could cope with any more serious illnesses being handed to me.
    I am asking therefore for everyone's prayers today for when I see the Specialist. I think I am going to need them.
    I will also be thinking of and praying for you to Crazdwriter.
    I will keep my fingers crossed for you as well.

    Love Beautybabe x

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      Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Beauty I'll keep you in my thoughts as well. Let me know what they say!

  27. Dale Mazurek profile image58
    Dale Mazurekposted 6 years ago

    Hey my friend.  Hasnt anyone ever told you that fishing is the best thing to relieve stress.

    See you say you stress about everything.  If you took up fishing the stress would go away.  LOL

    Anyways on the lighter side we all know all will be okay and thats because we say so.

    Your doing the right thing by going to the Dr in the morning but dont let this beat you up.


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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    lol lol lol you and fishing Dale LMAO I am not going fishing NO NO NO! lol may be a stress reliever but no way am I going near another fishing hook again hahaha you are too funny. You always know how to make me laugh.

    And thanks Dale for the laugh and for thinking about me. I'll not let it beat me up.

  29. Army Infantry Mom profile image61
    Army Infantry Momposted 6 years ago

    Hey Crazd,.. Keeping you in my prayers,,.. My dad used to get them all the time on his head,.. never turned out to be anything serious,.. So hopefully the doc will tell you everything is fine,.. keep us posted !!!!

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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    Thanks AIM I will keep you all posted on what we talk about. And I do hope that it's nothing too...stupid moles! lol
    HEY you changed your pic. very nice!

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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    Well today is the day and I have an hour to go....I am nervous as all he!!. Can hardly eat my cereal...didn't have much dinner..that is the one thing I truly ahte about getting nervous or anxious...I can never really eat sad

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    Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago

    I went in and he removed it for me so now I have to just wait until he gets the results from the lab. I saw it too....it was gross! lol now I have 3 stitches in the back of my head and will get them out in 7 days. Glad it's gone though. Now I just have to deal with the annoyance of feeling the hole in my head and the stitches but at least it is gone smile

    1. tantrum profile image61
      tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Good ! I'm happy for you ! smile
      No big deal! A lot of people have them

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        Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        this is true Tantrum...he said though that this one was GROWING yikes how gross is that?

    2. Sara Tonyn profile image60
      Sara Tonynposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      If I weren't such a nice person (well, at times) I'd make a remark about you not needing another hole in your head.

      Oops. Sorry! It slipped out! wink lol

      I sincerely hope you get your good news soon so you can relax. Take care. smile

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        Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        lol Oh Sara I was thinking that very same thing when I got home afterwards too LMAO it took an HOUR to get it removed UGH

    3. manlypoetryman profile image71
      manlypoetrymanposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I can't believe you looked at...EEEEWWWW...and I was eating lunch while I read this lol hmm yikes tongue

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        Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        lol now you know when it comes to me not to eat when I post stuff...well not all the time but still. And yep I looked. I was curious. I mean it was on the BACK of my head so I couldn't see it and I wanted to see what I had to share the back of my head with lmao

  33. Beth100 profile image82
    Beth100posted 6 years ago

    Glad that you're back...extra hole and all!  It'll all work out fine.  Breathe.  And relax.  Thinking of ya! (((HUGS))

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      Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks Beth..yea it hurts now though sad I hate when it happens...all the nice numbing stuff went bye bye sad

  34. tobey100 profile image60
    tobey100posted 6 years ago

    Sweetie, worry won't help.  Hang tight.  All the odds are in your favor. 20,000 to 1 its nothing. big_smile

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      Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks tobey! I try not to worry but it's hard not to when I don't know about healthwise on the birth people side. I'm adopted and all...

  35. h.a.borcich profile image61
    h.a.borcichposted 6 years ago

    Crazed, I know waiting for results is the worst. Know that I am still praying and that Jesus is already there smile Holly

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      Crazdwriterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Yea waiting is never fun...but hey it's a part of life...if it wasn't nobody would have MADE it lol thanks for the prayers, Holly. I appreciate it.

  36. RealEstateHelper profile image62
    RealEstateHelperposted 6 years ago

    I pray and hope that everything is fine with you smile

  37. Dolores Monet profile image89
    Dolores Monetposted 6 years ago

    CrazD. Millions of people have millions of moles and they aren't pretty. The chances of this one causing you any more trouble than it has is slim. Good luck to you.

  38. triplet profile image59
    tripletposted 6 years ago

    I have been away from my computer for weeks.  I do hope you have had the mole examined.  I hope to hear a good report soon.

  39. wrenfrost56 profile image84
    wrenfrost56posted 6 years ago

    I wish you all the best CW, try not to worry,I am sure it will be fine. Lot's of luck and good thoughts.

  40. Ohma profile image80
    Ohmaposted 6 years ago

    Crazd sending all good thoughts your way! please keep us updated.

  41. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 6 years ago

    WISHING YU THE BEST, CRAZD!  by now, this may all be old news, is there an update - shall I just go back and look at a few pages here?  lol

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    Getfitjourneyposted 6 years ago

    Just a note: a mole is topical. It's within the skin group and not the brain!! So right there you have a big positive.

    I also wouldn't worry, moles constantly change with age. It's actually very normal.

    I always say not to let yourself stress or freak out. I know we read and hear a lot and getting a professional opinion is great but don't let yourself get stressed since THAT harms your health and probably will be the worst thing you experience since I'm sure you'll be healthy otherwise!

    I've been passing this along and it may be something you've come across but there is some really great research regarding Cancer and Vitamin D <snipped link> its worth a read. I'm sure everyone here will be simply preventing anyhow!

    Best of luck and good health!