yes advice given freely and i am 50! Mind you I found myself advising my eldest today so perhaps i will end up like my mum- just sit back and enjoy- After my mum has been to stay we have to find everything again!
I guess my mom wasn't exactly the advice giving type...or maybe the problem was she didn't exactly communicate with me. Anyway...now I'm the one giving advice and my adult daughter hates it! lol She also doesn't like it that I call her my child. My response? "Well, you're not my adult are you?"
My mom doesn't give advice. She just loves me. Once in a great while if I ask for it, she'll offer something.
There was huge drama and upset growing up all the time. I love my family because they grew beyond all that. We don't communicate more than once or twice a year. However, when we do communicate or get together, it's with love, acceptance, and happiness. It's a joy to get together.
I never knew I had a great family until I turned 50 (I'm 54). And my mom is a very large part of the reason.
no...only if I ask or basically if I want to get a different perspective on something...she's from a very different generation and her personality is very different from mine. I think she learned a long time ago to be careful with some of her advice to me.
She's always there for me however. And I truly appreciate that!
I have decided it is just part of the 'rules' - sometimes I bite my tongue because I know I'm going to get advice but then on another level, I think it is an indicator that she truly does care about me and love me that she takes so much time to worry and say something. BTW, I'm going on 57 - and she is 81 - and she obviously still thinks she needs to impart her wisdom. It is all good and I only hope one day I remember all that she said that was wise or good advice!