Coping with Losing a loved one

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   m334aposted 13 years ago

   Death can be very difficult to deal with. You may ask yourself, "How do I continue living without the person/animal who had lost their life?"
   "A long time has gone by, and the passing of my loved one still haunts me day by day, when will I feel better?"
   
   You may feel as though the pain will never go away.
   
   It doesn't have to be like this, you can continue to live your life and remember the good things about the one you had lost. I am here for advice in these situations, and giving you coping skills.

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      starme77posted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I really don't deal with it too well at all, took me like 3 years with my mother and like - well - a lady that came to visit from a church community service told me I was greiving and then I realized that maybe I am - its been like, almost two years now and I still can't write deceased on my father in laws mail, it just keeps piling up - since I was the one dubbed to deal with all the pprwork - My mother in law , who I take care of, well, she has altzheimers and she is trying to help me deal with this whole death thing - I really suck at it - can't deal with it - funny thing is - I am totally not afraid to die myself ,  just can't deal with other people dying is all

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   chrgubbelsposted 13 years ago

   I have been at the side of four of my loved ones at the time of their passing. I dont know how I gained the strength to do it, but somehow I felt I had to. My uncle, who was a Catholic priest, was dying of brain cancer 6 years ago, and as he transitioned, I was their. It was so surreal for me, and yet I can tell you it was a very empowering situation. Then my wonderful, loving grandfather 4 years ago. His situation was hard for me, because it was so unexpected. Then six weeks to the day of losing my grandfather, my grandmother passed away. Oh......, I dont know how to explain all of this. She was my inspiration in life. Exactly 4 weeks to my grandmothers death, my fathers mother passed away in her sleep. Three wonderful people in my life.............I feel the emptiness without them. It is important to move forward in life, but you dont have to do it without them. They can and to a point should somehow be a influence on you. Basically by their examples they led, I have tried to pass on with my choices. I made a movie for my family to be able to see the good photos that we had together. I cry alot.............I miss them so much. But it made me realize that, based on my beliefs, I will see them again. I know they are watching over me. November 25, 2009, I lost my father-in-law to cancer. His passing is still too fresh for me, and my husband who has now lost both his parents, and hes only 36, deals with it better than me. Its sad, and even when I see the death of a stranger, I cry. I just try to be the rock for my mom, especially, because she is not doing well after almost 5 years now! I dont think we will all truly ever know how to deal with death, but I learned to follow my heart. Cry if it tells me to, and laugh all the same.

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