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Social Issues, and Self Esteem Issues

  1. m334a profile image61
    m334aposted 6 years ago

    Are you having trouble socializing with people?
    Do you feel so down about yourself most of the time that you can't present yourself in a social situation, or is it handicaping your life? I am here to help you through it. It doesn't have to be this way.

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image66
      prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I am shy with men and sometimes I don'nt know how to react when they asked my name etc.

  2. Cagsil profile image59
    Cagsilposted 6 years ago

    Welcome to HubPages!

    You seem to be off to a good start. I do hope you enjoy yourself.

    As for having social issue? No. But, if I can ever help, just ask. smile big_smile

    1. WryLilt profile image85
      WryLiltposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I'm a closet narcissist and I'm an opinionated person who never shuts up. Is that a socialising problem? I've worked in retail so I also consider 99% of the population idiots.

      That's why I write on hubpages - I generally don't have to put up with people actually telling me what they think of my opinions big_smile

      1. m334a profile image61
        m334aposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Hi WryLilt!

        We all are opinionated to different degrees, and that makes us human and individuals. I personally have worked in retail too, among many other jobs where serving or selling to the public can be a bitch. Sometimes I have lost faith in humanity at times because people that come into your work to buy from you can forget what that sales associates are humans too, and at jobs like that we can be seen as "servants"; does that sound like you could relate to that feeling? lol, it can be a a bitch. Also, dealing with people in retail, you deal with all sorts, and including those who don't give off the most intelligent impressions when coming into that sort of establishment. There's a lot of people we can think of as idiots, and will piss us off, but there are a lot of good people out there too. Thing is, people will come in, people will go, people will piss you off or rub you the wrong way, life goes on.

        But in terms of being opinionated, it's only fair to share your true opinions but it doesn't always have to be in the harshest manner. Sometimes being overly opinionated can suggest traits of low self-image and wanted to project your own problems onto others without realizing it; I do it too, and I'm only merely suggesting that might be one reason you feel overly opinionated. Also, jealousy and hurt of the past can cause a passive aggression to make you feel better to not accept others. But people make mistakes, and you do too. We have to remember that sometimes. When I have a bad day and theres a slow person driving in front of me and didn't put on their directional, yeah I'll impulsively shout out, FUCKIN LEARN HOW YOU DRIVE YOU GEEZER...but in the end, express your opinions, but theres the right time and place for everything. I would refrain from expressing an opinion if you felt its only benefit would be to hurt the other person or put them down, being somewhat unnecessary. But if you feel strongly about an opinion, and you feel it would be for the right reasons, then say what your heart feels girl! We just have to balance our filters of what to say and what not to say. Sometimes we forget, and that's ok. But take a minute before opening your mouth to think about what the outcome will be, positive for you and the person listening, or something that will just make you look bad and perhaps you should keep it to yourself, or simply rephrase an opinion to not sound so harsh.

        I hope that helps, I'm just trying to state MY opinion simply objectively. smile

        1. WryLilt profile image85
          WryLiltposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Haha dare I suggest you put that time and effort into writing some hubs on the topic? smile

          1. m334a profile image61
            m334aposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            I'm just learning how to use this thing, perhaps I shall smile

            1. WryLilt profile image85
              WryLiltposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Well writing a hub on a topic means you can give information to thousands of people without having to writ it thousands of times. smile Check out the FAQ for a guide.

            2. Cagsil profile image59
              Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Here is a list of hubs you might consider reading, to help you move forward.

              Frogdropping and Darkside, respectively, both great hubbers and writers. Their links are below.

              http://hubpages.com/hub/Hubpages-Help
              http://hubpages.com/hub/hubpages-blueprint

              http://hubpages.com/hub/how
              http://hubpages.com/hub/capsules
              http://hubpages.com/hub/howhubworks
              http://hubpages.com/hub/Hubscore
              http://hubpages.com/hub/hubpages-works

              Those will get you started. smile big_smile

              1. Rafini profile image86
                Rafiniposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                Do you have this post saved in your computer files to copy and paste whenever there's a new hubber?  lol  big_smile   (I just find it interesting is all smile )

                1. Cagsil profile image59
                  Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Each link is bookmarked. wink The post is not saved by itself, if that's what you are trying to get to. I took time to post each link. I happen to think that they are two of the better writers who write about HubPages.

                  With regards to help for new people. smile

                  1. Rafini profile image86
                    Rafiniposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    I think you're right. smile
                    (I just found it interesting how you always post the same thing for new hubbers)

      2. Pcunix profile image89
        Pcunixposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I am quite sure  you have under-estimated the percentage.

    2. m334a profile image61
      m334aposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Thank you, you too. I joined literally a few seconds ago and am already getting welcoming responses. I've always been quite the social butterfly so I thought I'd start a post to help others.

    3. starme77 profile image85
      starme77posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      cmon cagsil give up your social issue problems smile

      1. Cagsil profile image59
        Cagsilposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Hey Starme,

        I don't have any social problems to speak of, however, I do realize that millions of others do. wink

  3. Rafini profile image86
    Rafiniposted 6 years ago

    Hello.  Welcome.


    I don't know if anyone would be willing to jump into a conversation with you without first knowing your style and knowledge.  A few helpful hubs with forum participation would do the trick.

  4. starme77 profile image85
    starme77posted 6 years ago

    now the social issues - I have no prob with - everyone knows I'm nuts and they like me that way smile

    1. m334a profile image61
      m334aposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      theres good nuts then bad nuts....i love being nuts and it makes you alive

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    Michael E. Hortonposted 6 years ago

    I feel great.

  6. DaMan92 profile image22
    DaMan92posted 6 years ago

    Why is it that everyone feels the need to smoke Marijuana or drink alcohol to fit in with everyone else. if shouldn't these people accept yo for who you are and not try to influence you to do bad stuff.

  7. Mike Lickteig profile image89
    Mike Lickteigposted 6 years ago

    I am shy by nature but trying to do better.  I have made good strides, and I am a reasonably skilled public speaker.  I am somewhat shy in normal social situations, however.......

 
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