Do you have a narcissist in your life? I have two very close to me (mother and brother). I've also dated a few and been friends with some. I seem to attract them! Given my upbringing, I've been trained well to tolerate them after all.
Those who study Narcissism say that they almost never seek therapy (Why should they? It's everyone else who has a problem, not them!), and find it almost impossible to change their behavior because of the very nature of the disorder.
In my case, I have made a decision to estrange from my mother after a lifetime of torment with no end in sight.
How do *you* deal with a narcissist?
How to deal with a narcissist:
Don't acknowledge their behavior.
I've always believed my ex is a narcissist. How did I deal with it/him? I left the relationship.
A narcissist looks at people as consumables. After they deplete you of whatever supply they need they will cast you away. I have known a few narcissists - leave before they devaste you. They will never view you as an equal person. And get a good lawyer.
Thank you for your advice I left him a few years ago. Now settled in a wonderfully equal and mutually healthy relationship.
He (ex) didn't get to cast me off. I doubt in our case he ever would. Way back when I looked into it, I remember reading about narcissistic wrath - which he definitely shared more times than I care to remember.
I like to torment them by replacing all mirrors with Fun House mirrors, hide secret cameras to record them when they are acting/talking stupid and replaying it for them (in public) so they can't tell me: "I never said that!" I also like to take pictures of them when they first set foot out of bed, and post their pictures on the internet for everyone to see their resemblance with Big Foot!
my first lover suffered from narcissism. dealing with him took more patience, gentleness, and understanding than i had. he eventually broke up with me because i let him know what i needed and he was not willing to give it. i'm now married to a guy whose strongest quality is a huge capacity to love and be loved, i.e., the world's sweetest guy.
not sure what one is - but it sounds like I been dealing with one of em for 20 years and he drove me up the wall - not sure if he was narccists or bi-polar or what but he always blamed me for everything , not checking the oil in the car , not taking out the trash , not making the bed or getting a bill paid - making his lunch - all kinds of crap - see I was supposed to do everything - I mean everything and anytime something went wrong it was my fault - is this a narccist? oh and conspiracy theroies anything that wasnt right was done wrong just to make him mad what the hell?
The only way you can deal with a narcissist is to be one yourself. From this moment on, when you're with your mom or brother or any narcissist, it's all about you and if they can't stand it they'll leave. Ooh, I just wrote something really deep and eternal.
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