How does one over come the fear going to the gynaecologist?
I believe one of the best ways of getting one's fears into the correct perspective is to consider them from the other party's perspective and to ask oneself: "Why specifically, would this party likely to be scared of me?"
dJust get practical, get a grip and get over it. Do you know how many times you are going to have to go see this guy in your lifetime. Maybe you can find one that gives you a sucker at the end of the visit. Seriously, if you are having kids, along with all the pap smears and the rest, just get used to it, it is a part of becoming an adult.
Getting practical is easier said than done for someone with a true phobia. If you are so fearful that giving yourself a pep talk and taking a deep breath is is not enough to get you to actually "just do it," you may need to get some professional counselling. Hopefully your fear is not that severe and a little self-talk will do the trick.
If you do not get checked on a regular basis it could be that you won't be around to have a family so you need to realise that these visits can SAVE YOUR LIFE. When I went for a simple check up I had abnormal cells, needed treatment ASAP /
You say that you are a mother of one? That means you have already bared your entire soul to the staff that helped you deliver your baby. How much more intimate can you get with strangers than that?!?
Remember that a gynacologist is a doctor. A doctor is someone who is trained to look for ill health or disease in the body. They are not there to judge you or look at you non-professionally. It may help to remember this -- it is a job to them. Nothing more. They may examine anywhere from 10 or more patients during the day.
If it is the "guy" factor that makes you squeemish, choose a female gynacologist. You may find that the thought of a male doctor turns you off. This is common for both genders -- many men do not like a female doctor performing exams on them, and many women are not comfortable with a male doctor performing the exam.
Another suggestion: choose your gyne. Then, make a "meet and greet" appointment -- no physical at this one. Talk with your doctor; have him/her explain what to expect. Ask questions. Share your concerns and your thoughts and your fear. He/she will do what is necessary to calm you down. If he/she does not have a supportive attitude, leave. Go find another one. Do a "meet and greet" with this doctor. Do this over and over again until you find a compatible match. After the meet and greet, make an appointment for your exam as soon after your meet and greet as possible.
And remember: you have a child. If you can't do this for yourself, then do it for your child. Afterall, not only are you setting an example of how important it is to care for yourself, you must do this so that you do not become ill and your child loses his/her mother.
joke intended - however, lots of us have had bad experiences - and we still have to have the exams - my suggestion would be to find a woman doctor (preferably also a midwife) who you can get to know first.