How to Avoid Pregnancy If You Don't Want to Get Pregnant

Avoid Pregnancy, Termination and Unwanted Pregnancies

The subject of how to avoid pregnancy has many myths, old wives tales and falsehoods attached to it, so in this article my aim is to dispel those myths and sort out fact from fiction.

After all, if you don't want to get pregnant and spend the next 18 years caring for someone else, then why take needless risks or listen to age old stories from back when people didn't really understand how pregnancy happened?

Being pregnant and either having a baby or a termination, is life changing in a VERY BIG WAY. If your not ready for that kind of change yet, then learning how to avoid pregnancy is a good lesson to learn.

Myths and Old Wives Tales

Withdrawal - this is when the man removes his penis from the vagina before he ejaculates (or comes). It's probably true that you are somewhat less likely to become pregnant if you do this but there is still a high likelihood of pregnancy.

It is not a reliable method of contraception or birth control because sperm is often released before full ejaculation. As one reader points out it's the strongest sperm that are released before ejaculation - the ones with most chance of reaching the ovum.

It only takes one sperm to reach the egg, so why risk it? This technique is fine if you and your partner are in a long term, stable relationship and neither of you mind becoming parents at the moment. But if you really do not want it baby it's no protection at all. Many, many women have fallen pregnant this way.

You Cannot Get Pregnant the First Time

This is another complete myth! Once you start your periods your body is able to become pregnant even if it is your first time having sex. I know one woman personally, who did become pregnant on her first time and became a single mother at 16. You could call it bad luck, but luck is not something you want to dice with when it comes to pregnancy. The consequences are too big to just trust the roll of the dice.


Douching is when you attempt to wash the sperm out of your vagina after sex. This doesn't work and can damage you. The way that our bodies work are that the man ejaculates right at the entrance of the cervix (the entrance to your womb) and the strongest sperm can get beyond the cervix and start swimming happily to your egg within two minutes. There are on average around 3 million sperm released with each ejaculation, so a great many of them will be in your womb long before you can wash them out.

Douching can also increase the liklihood of conception because it actually pushes more sperm into your cervix.

Avoiding Ovulation

This is all about avoiding the time that your body releases eggs from your ovaries, which normally happens in the middle of your cycle. So if you have a 28 day menstrual cycle - day 1 being the first day of your period, then you can expect to ovulate at around day 14.

The problem with this method is that our bodies are very, very clever. They are geared up to make babies and will do whatever it takes to make sure that we continue the species. It is their biological function and they take their jobs very seriously.

  • If you regularly have sex just after your period your body will release the egg (ovum) early so that it can catch the sperm and fertilize.
  • The same goes for if you try to beat nature by having unprotected sex just after you think you have ovulated. The egg will wait to be released.
  • Sperm can live for up to 7 days. So if you have a 5 day period, then have sex on day 6 - on day 13 (just as you a likely to be ovulating) and by which time Mr Spermy will be right in your fallopian tube waiting - the sperm will still be alive and be eagerly trying to find your egg.

Sex During Your Period

You can get pregnant from having unprotected sex during your period for all the reasons above. You never know when your ovum will be released, you don't know if there are sperm still alive inside you and your body is doing it's utmost to get pregnant.

Jumping Up and Down After Sex

This may sound silly but I have heard people say that this is what they do to try and avoid getting pregnant! Sperm can swim against the force of gravity pretty easily, so jumping up and down is not going to make the slightest bit of difference. Once those sperm are inside your uterus (remember they can get there in less than a couple of minutes) they will be hunting out your egg like little undercover agents and a bit of jumping up and down is not going to stop them.

How to Really Avoid Pregnancy

No Sex Full Stop

This is an option that many young women are taking nowadays and is a wise and admirable option, but it's not for everyone. Young people are especially keen to find out about their sexuality and it's a normal and natural impulse to want to explore this new world of desire and passion and to find out what our grown up bodies can do. It's got to be said though that no sex = no pregnancy and it is the most surefire way of not becoming pregnant.

No Penetrative Sex

If you want to explore your sexuality with your partner, then one way is to make sure you do not have penetrative sex. There are many other ways that you can please each other such as hand stimulation and oral sex that can be just as satifying and pleasurable. You just need to be especially careful that sperm does not go anywhere near the vagina. If you get sperm on your hands do not then touch or allow your partner to touch your vagina. The risk of pregnancy would be slim but it is still there. Remember that it only takes one sperm to make a baby.


My own recommendation for anyone who wants to have sex and does not want to get pregnant would be to see a health professional about getting yourself some reliable contraception. But do remember that no birth control method comes with a 100% no pregnancy guarantee. Every method is subject to failure, especially when they are not used properly.

If you are taking the pill you must take it every single day. If you forget just one you will not be protected for that whole month. You will need to use an alternative method for the rest of that month. If you are on antibiotics your pill may not work and so again, you will need to use another form of contraception on top of that, such as condoms. Don't listen to boys who tell you they don't like condoms - ask them if they would like to be a daddy instead. From my own experience men who say they don't like condoms and would rather take a risk are not worth having. They obviously have no respect for you and no thought to the consequences of what they're doing.

Avoid Alcohol and Drugs

This last one is really important, especially for young people. That's because most teenagers who become pregnant have had unprotected sex when they have drunk too much or have been using drugs. Both drastically inhibit your ability to think properly and make wise decisions. Having unprotected sex may seem ok when you are out of it and caught up in the moment, but I can guarantee you it will not feel ok the next morning nor in the coming weeks when you are waiting anxiously for your next period.

If You Do Make a Mistake

If you do make an error of judgement and have unprotected sex, then get yourself the morning after pill (or Plan B as it's known in the US) as soon as you can afterwards. It's most effective when taken within 24 hours of unprotected sex. It can be taken later, but the longer you leave it the less effective it is at preventing pregnancy and if the fertilized egg has already implanted it will not be effective at all.


Enjoy your youth! Have fun! And look after yourself!

I hope you've learned something about the way fertility and conception works so that you can keep yourself safe and really avoid pregnancy.

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Misha 7 years ago from DC Area

Just don't do it! All the rest falls short of it :) But some methods are better then others. :)

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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

There is a lot I learned here, especially about the the life span of sperm as being 7 days...I didn't know that! I should have been a father a few times over according to your info! Thank you!

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prasannasutrave 7 years ago from mumbai( india )

I think life span of sperm is three days only and not seven days.

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

On average sperm live around 3-4 days but they can live up to 7 days. Thanks for commenting :)

Whiteiris42 7 years ago from Denver

Hmmm...if your body were to release an ovum earlier because you have sex right after your period, wouldn't your cycle become progressively shorter? How would your menstrual cycle know the difference between unprotected sex and protected sex so that an egg is not released? I thought it was estrogen and progesterone that managed that...I'm also not sure on the old wives tales, humans have known for centuries how to stop pregnancy.

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Hi Whiteiris - It's to do with the interaction of both the male and female's body chemistry (so a barrier method of contraception will prevent this form taking place).

One of the main hormones that tells a womans body to release the ovum is prostaglandin which amazingly, semen also contains in very high concentrations. In effect, the semen can tell the ovum to be relseased into the fallopian tube by chemical communication. The ovum also releases chemicals to attract the sperm so that it knows where to go. There are many more of these kinds of chemical interactions taking place to increase the liklihood of fertilization. There's a lot more to it than what we learn in high school biology classes. I'd recommend reading Human Reproductive Biology By Richard Evan Jones, Kristin H. López for an in depth look at how it works.

I would disagree that humans have know for centuries how to stop pregnancy - they may have known some methods of reducing the likelihood of pregnancy, but not prevent it altogether and that's the point really. None of the old wives tales are particularly effective - just ask any teenage mum who has had an unplanned pregnancy.

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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

I have heard about all those myths you mentioned. Your tips for not getting pregnant makes sense. For me I prefer birth control pills than depending on my guy for protection.

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sensational19 7 years ago from south carolina

Hello,im sensational19 and i just wanted to say that i have really enjoyed your hub!!!You did really Grrreat!Keep up the good work.I hope to be as half as good as you.


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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Hey Anamika - thanks for stopping by and having a read of my hub. Birth control pills are great and it's wonderful to have control over our own destiny. What worries me is when I read questions from young women saying that they took a birth control pill after they had sex and they are hoping this will protect them when we us older woomen know it won't. Many young women and men don't seem to understand how reproduction really works or how to use birth control so that they don't have unwanted pregnancies. I hope those young people read this hub!

Hi Sensational - thanks for your very flattering comments. I'm sure your hubs are just as informative!

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jayb23 7 years ago from India

Thanks Susan for sharing this info. The myths that you have spoken about, I wasn't even aware of those. SO thanks for sharing.

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anjalichugh 7 years ago from New York

My doctor once told me that the only trusted way for not getting pregnant is...'No intercourse.' All other methods work only till they want to. I know that might sound far from truth but Nature has it's own ways of playing tricks on us. Perhaps the reason is , as you mentioned, a woman's body is biological designed to give birth to a new life and it does not leave any opportunity to do so. This was certainly a very interesting read. :)

WillOTreeBee 7 years ago

I'm very surprised at the life span of sperm. Their sneaky little bastards, hahaha. I think the best way to not get pregnant besides not having intercourse, is to double up with condoms and the pill/shot.

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Organic Thoughts 7 years ago from North Carolina

great article.. very informative

You are right about the old wives tales... none of them are sure shot protection for unwanted pregnancy..... most of them are not even 50% true.

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

WillOTree - yes they are sneaky as is the ovum! It's amazing what they'll do to try and make a new life.

Thanks Organic Thoughts - glad you enjoyed it!

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streetsmart 7 years ago from San Francisco, California

i am starting to think of getting shots instead of taking the pills.

Ipanz 7 years ago

Thanks you good article

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shamelabboush 7 years ago

That's an amazing topic and some fine tips there...

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MikeNV 7 years ago from Henderson, NV

The only sure way to avoid it is to not do it.

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pageantgirl31413 7 years ago from England

Just some info that I learned is that the actual sperm that is the strongest will come out before a man even ejaculates. I learned that from my OB after I told them I wasn't going to use birth control pills after I had my second baby. Withdrawl is certainly not the way to go.

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Thanks for that bit of info pageantgirl - that's something I didn't know :) I will be adding that to the article.

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Mardi 7 years ago from Western Canada and Texas

Excellent hub and full of good, practical information. I am with the other comments, just avoiding sex is the really only way to assure there isn't a concern with unplanned pregnancy, even with contraceptives.

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

I agree that the only way to completely avoid pregnancy is to refrain from sex completely. In reality many young adults do not choose that option. For those that do choose to have sex they need to understand the unneccessary risks they are taking and have the very inaccurate information that is banded about challenged.

I write a lot on yahoo answers and some of the things that young people think will stop them becoming pregnant are incredibly naïve - it's scary how uninformed they are.

akshara  7 years ago

i have taken i pills many times.....but scared

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Hi Akshara - the i pill (morning after or plan B) is not something to be taken often because it contains massive amounts of hormones. (It's not reccommended to be taken more than once in 6 months maximum.)It shouldn't be used like a contraceptive - it really is for the very odd mistake. Do think about seeing a doctor for some reliable contraception and carrying some condoms with you. If you take care of your sexual health you will not need to feel scared - you can take control of it :)

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lilmom0413 7 years ago from

Great hub!

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Nicole Winter 7 years ago from Chicago, IL

Susana S: Excellent hub, thank-you for publishing this! Notice that it's mostly guys who are rooting for abstinence? Strange. I've found the most fool-proof method of birth control to be using more than one form of birth control at a time... (Think about it, two birth control forms that are both 99% effective means you've something like a 1 out of a million chance of getting pregnant if they're used properly.) I prefer using condoms and spermicidal jelly (or films, which are less messy.) I wanted to mention to the couple of young ladies who are interested in beginning the shot to read up on it online. Some women have had incredibly adverse reactions to the shot, some have even committed suicide after using it. If there's a three month shot option, I'd recommend opting for that, rather than the standard six month option. Just until you find out how it works for you. I look forward to reading more of your hubs, Susana S!

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japzlloyd 7 years ago

great hub! im only 17 and im thankful that you shared this knowledge about i know what i'm going to do if i'l be a father.. hehe

hooter 7 years ago

wth..yes do have sex!! pregnancy should not be banned, it shoud be moderated. enjoy..:)

Francine Smith 7 years ago

Simple, avoid boys. For at least 7 days!

skotikala 7 years ago from India

This is stupid to avoid pregnancy. God wants us to multiply and be blessed

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Great comments everyone - thank you :)

Nicole - yeh it's weird that it's men talking about abstinence here. I haven't yet met one that wanted to abstain, but maybe that's just in my life, lol. Two methods of birth control is certainly a good way to proceed. Just not two condoms at once! The friction causes them to split.

Skotikala - this hub is not just written for religious people. Many people want the freedom to make love and also be able to decide when they want a family.

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keverp 7 years ago from Waynesboro , PA

I enjoyed your hub, but I see no mention of a man partner getting fixed to prevent pregnancy and avoid any form from any out of relationship sex. I used birth control most my life until hormonal break down, then went abstinence until I found my life partner.Even then I gave my new partner high warning, which happen the condom broke. Yes quickly after my child was born I stated for hubby to get fixed or no sex at all. Yet I still preferred before marriage the men to where condoms anyway to prevent STD's The medical profession still have a long way to go to understand hormones and birth control pills change a female personality more than public are willing to accept to to avoid sex at all.

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

HI Keverp - no I haven't talked about permanent birth control methods because this hub is more geared for young people that will probbaly want to start a family later on.

I certainly agree with what you say about conraceptive pills. I have never been able to take them because of the effects on me hormonally. But most people I know have taken them successfully. Condoms do have the added bonus of protecting from STD's - they're a method of birth control that I'm very happy to use and I have done for many years. Never had a splitting experience though I know that can happen.

Thanks for coming and having a read and leaving your thoughtful comments :)

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sbrown1703 7 years ago

what Do You Think About the Nuvaring? I'm kind of scared to use most birthcontroll methods because of all the side affects that can lead to strokes its crazy I guess the best for me is a condom and then you think its crazy to use a condom uf you been with this person for a long time and isn't use to using anything

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Hi sbrown - had never heard of nuvaring so i just looked it up. Looks interesting! I have no idea whether it's good, bad or whatever. I don't think condoms are crazy in a long term relationhsip if that's what suits you both. Ther best thing about them is that you don't need to use any hormone based birth control.

anjana 7 years ago

Great comment,bt plz suggest wat can i do now .My menturation stops its 10 days now.Im in problem now.Now how can i avoid this in house itself.We use condoms as we do sex but this happens to me now what can i do......Plz advice newly married 23 year old lady.i don't want to have baby now.And here we cannot buy medicine with out docter prescribition.And already i did one abortion so what method should i apply to throw this at home itself.

Now wat can i do?????????????????????/

waiting for your suggestion........

thanks for this article............

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Anjana - I'm sorry you are in such turmoil right now. From what I've understood your period is 10 days late? My advice would be to do a pregnancy test and find out for certain. If it comes back positive and you are pregnant there isn't much you can do if you really do not want the baby except for another abortion. There's no reliable or safe methods you can use at home, unless the doctor prescribed you the abortion pill. If you are in a stable relationship would you not consider keeping the baby? They don't always turn up when we plan them, but they are a joy nonetheless.

You may not even be pregnant, there could be some other reason your period is delayed. Do the test! If it's negative and your period still doesn't come then speak to your doctor.

Take care,

Susana :)

Pooja 7 years ago

Excellent Susana.

At some places abortion is not allowed, in that case what you will suggest to avoid the baby.


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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Pooja - Unfortunately the only thing I can suggest is to refrain from penetrative sex. If you live in a country where abortion is not allowed, then I'm guessing that your country will also not support an unmarried mother. In that case it really is not worth taking the risk unless you are fully ready for the consequences such as being cast out by your family, being shamed by your whole community and trying to bring up a baby on your own or risking an illegal and dangerous abortion.

directsaurabh 7 years ago

I think girl has more responsibility with them to avoid pregnancy. Boy can best help out with no sex because sometimes condoms do fail. It is true that other mentioned things like washing, jumping, etc. are just rumours. A single drop of sperm contains millions of cells to make a girl pregnant, so you can't just fight with it,avoiding penetrating sex is best option lies out. After all sex has made for reproduction naturally, so couple needs to findout other ways to please their partners. Thanks

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Chanell Joyner 7 years ago

I have seven children and have been pregnant 9 times and still learned something from your hub. Actually, I was surprised to learn that the pre ejaculated sperm are the strongest. I've used the withdrawal method successfully several times with no problem. Most of my pregnancies were planned between my childrens father and I by just calculating my cycle which is fairly normal unless I'm stressed out. In which case my cycle would be unpredictable. I wanted to add another pregnancy myth though. Some women believe if they are exclusively breast feeding that they will not get pregnant. That is also not true. I know that one for a fact..I found out with my second or third child. Also, my cousin is a doctor..actually a trauma surgeon now, but he told me that some sperm can live up to two weeks. I was blown away when I heard that. I always counted 72 hours and thought I was good to go, but like I said, most of my children were planned, if not by me (there was a time when I didn't know the science behind all of this), by my children's father. I enjoyed your information :-)

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SuperiorInteriors 7 years ago from San Diego, California

Hi Susana! I'm curious to know how you feel about modern Intra-Uterine Devices? I've heard many arguments for and against them, but as I do not personally know anyone with an IUD, I'd like to hear your take if you have one? Also, I'd just like to compliment you on this well-composed and interesting hub!

Mini 7 years ago

ion of having another one.Kindly advice.

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

SuperInteriors - sorry for the very late response to your question! I have used an IUD successfully before, though I don't have one now. In fact I would recommend it as a contraceptive method for any woman who has had children - once it's been inserted it's hassle free. I also had lighter and shorter periods which was nice! Just 2 or 3 days of light bleeding. The only problem I had with it was having it removed. The string went up into my cervix and I had to see a consultant - luckily he got it out without any surgery!

Nikki 7 years ago

I've actually learned quite a lot on this website!! Its so fascinating how the human body works!! :-) I didn't know that sperm have a life span of up to 7 days and I didn't know that they reach the egg in 2 minutes. That's crazy fast! HAHA. Thanks for all the great information.

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unverm 7 years ago

Thanks for this article. I want to attract attention to another subject: It is hard egoism. Please tell me if your parents had thought as you think of the subject of avoiding pregnancy, you will not be in life now. We must not be so selfish. The children are the most beautiful human beings and the most sincere friends in this life. To me the problem is to feel oneself as god. The best is pure marrying life and to become responsible fathers and mothers. We can turn our life to the happy worship with a happy family and children.

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

unverm - Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I agree that children are a blessing, but I also think that it's ok to choose when it's right to have a baby and to be informed about the process of conception. There are many pregnancies that occur because people think they can somehow cheat nature - which they can't, and because they don't understand how easy it is to conceive!

Often these pregnancies occur outside of a stable relationship, are unwanted, and end in either termination or single parenthood. I don't judge any of these scenarios, but young people especially, can avoid having to make such life changing decisions before they are ready for them, by being informed and not taking stupid risks (like thinking that jumping up and down afterwards will prevent pregnancy!).

Many cultures are now beyond the belief that it's a sin to use contraception - and I'm firmly in that camp!

My own parents had a very hard time when I was conceived as they were not married and the villagers where my Dad comes from were very judgemental. They suffered a great deal at that time. I'm glad I'm here, but I'm also glad that they didn't constantly have more and more children. They could barely afford to raise two children and that has to be a consideration too. What's the point of having a very large family that you can't feed?

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unverm 7 years ago

Dear Susana S. Please don't be angry with me, but I see in what you say some problems.

I see a common problem not only in you, but also in many people of modern world today that these people consider themselves as gods. These gods have got the right of living in luxury, but only they, this right does not occur for anyone except them. According to them these so-called gods are giving nourishment to their babies and are giving life to them... This is very big nonsense. The Almigty God gives nourishment and life to all of the creatures. For instance you are saying "I'm glad I'm here, but I'm also glad that they didn't constantly have more and more children". To me this statement is a very big instance of selfishness. You have right of living here, but your piteous brother/sister has not this right. I consider that this is a very big unjust share. How can I think like this? Who am I? Please don't be agry with me, but we must change a lot of standards/paradigmas in our lifes. We aren't gods, we are only criters of the Same Creator. Who feeding us is only He. And He will also feed our children. I do not want to seem as firm fatalistic, of course I am aware of the difficulties of owning baby, but we must try to establish stable relationships. To me stable relationship means to get married only. We are not animals such as dogs and cats. We are human beings. We must behave as human beings. I hope I didn't snap at you. Because my aim is never to have a rough tongue.

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Hi unverm,

I'm not at all angry with you. I just think we have very different view points and that's ok - I enjoy the debate! I don't see myself as a God, though I do think that a large section of mankind can be very arrogant in terms of feeling themselves above nature (e.g. in relation to the whole climate change debate) - so on this I think we might agree?

I don't see it as selfish to have as many children as one can afford - I see it as realistic and sensible. Isn't it better to have four children that you can feed and clothe sufficiently than have 13 children that are all hungry and in the direst of poverty? To me it makes sense to give a lesser number of children a good quality of life.

Another problem with having no control over the amount of children you have is that it leaves women constrained to a life of motherhood with no opportunity to develop their other very valuable skills that could be of use to the world. This I see as a very backward step and detrimental to the human race. Though motherhood is very important and valuable many women have a lot more to give and quite rightly want the opportunity to do so.

The last thing I think it's important to note is that humans have always manipulated nature for their own benefit. From cutting down a tree to make fire or a shelter, cultivating crops and making metal to making medicine, inventing the car and space exploration. All of these things involve the manipulation of the fundamental building blocks of nature. Who is to judge any of these as wrong or sinful? I imagine that you benefit from many of these manipulations since you are using the internet and are not living like a caveman? Some things I would agree should never have been created such as the atom bomb, but i wouldn't put contraception in the same category. It's simply another example of mankind manipulating nature for his own benefit and it harms no one.

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unverm 7 years ago

Hi Susana S., HAPPY NEW YEAR… I’m happy for that you were not at all angry with me! Of course here is your hubhome, and I’m your guest in your house. And you were very gentle, maybe that is why you are very forgiving. I’m also happy that you enjoy the debate as I enjoy.

In short, I do think we are depository, not owner. We must not forget this fact. If we remember this, all things such as house, children, family, health, prosperity etc. that we handle them do not return to our estates, but return to blessings of the God. And we become grateful for all these.

I am also share -as you share- that mankind are using the nature for their benefits. Because they see all things as their own properties. For instance can a human kill him/herself? If he/she consider him/herself as his/her estate, he/she can kill him/herself. But this is a very big trick. Our bodies are not ours. They are only deposits in our responsibilities.

I do think that this idea/faith is that many of the nowadays mankind are out of. That is ok.

I’m also sorry for my bad english writing.

Again “happy new years”…

Nicks 7 years ago

Go gay - the obvious solution (although, not for me!...

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Hi unverm - Happy New Year to you too :) I agree we should look on the world's natural resources as a caretaker would and not plunder everything willy nilly. I do think that is becoming more of a reality with the threat of climate change. Let's hope so anyway!

Nicks - True! Pregnancy is one thing that gay couples don't have to worry about!

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JERI TROTTER 7 years ago

A very informative article. I will be getting married in May and abstinence won't work for us (Hee hee!)However, I am looking into the best form of protection. I'm sure He won't care for the condoms,so I'll have to look into either the pill or the shot. I have heard women tend to gain excessive weight with the shot. Is this true and is there a high percentage of women that are affected this way?

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Congratulations Jeri! I wasn't sure about the answer to your question so I did a little google search and this is what I found:

It's says here that 70% of women gain weight.

Any hormone based contracptive can cause you to put on weight. I guess at least with the pill there are so many different types that you should be able to find one that does not have this side effect for you.

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freesongz 7 years ago

Thanks for the hub mate! :) I guess most of us need it :P

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Mortgagestar1 7 years ago from Weirton,West Virginia

Many advocates of non pregnancy will urge to educate yourselves on mutual stimulation from oral to safe anal practice.

The Karma Sutra can be used without vaginal penetration and many sexual experts advocate role playing without penetration. Best regards to all working on this issue.

This is a very well written hub!

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Susana S 7 years ago Author

Thanks mortgagestar - I agree that finding alternate methods of sexual stimulation that do not include penetration is a great way to avoid pregnancy. It also helps a couple become more creative and experiemental in learning about their bodies sexual responses.

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stars439 6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

Great Narative.

samantha 6 years ago

hey i am just turning 17 and i was really considering having sex in the very near future. when i read made me realize that i should wait and your info gave me a lot of knowledge on the subject of sex. thank you.

Sid 6 years ago

Good day!4 u what is the best way to prevent pregnancy?

Sid 6 years ago

Im men.. How do i kow if im fertil? Their is sex position to avoid pregnancy? Tnks!

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi Sid, The best ways to prevent or avoid pregnancy are to not to have penetrative sex or use a reliable contraceptive. There is no sexual position that will avoid pregnancy if you are unprotected. To know if you are fertile you would need to have your sperm tested in a laboratory. Hope that helps :)

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katiem2 6 years ago from I'm outta here

This is an amazing hub and extremly well written. You deliver very valuable information and although men will benefit and enjoy your work this chic is super grateful to have found you hubs, not getting pregnant is great information to pass along. Thanks and Peace :)

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi katie - thanks for your positive comments! I think understanding conception and how our bodies work is such important knowledge to have, especially when you consider all the myths around.

13 weeks pregnant 6 years ago

This article and all of the comments are so wonderful to read. I am 36 and my husband is 38 and we both had children very young (they are both grown and gone), but would like to start our own family and reading this article gives me hope that we are in really good company.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Thanks 13 weeks - you're not wanting to avoid pregnancy then, lol?

PrincessKat 6 years ago

Hi, I just wanted to say I love your articles, they have helped me out a lot. One main question I have is, do you have to wait until your missed period to take a test? And also, this makes me sound terrible I'm really never this foolish, but I had intercourse with 2 different on a thursday night...then one on the friday night..took the morning after pill friday and then went and took it again on saturday morning. I lied to the pharmacist in order to get it..this was 2 weeks now. I had just finished my cycle. I've been experiencing a lot of the tell tale signs you described and I'm quite concerned...please help.. but thank you for these articles so much. I have no1 I can talk to about this.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi thanks Princess :) Yep, you do have to wait to miss a period before you take a pregnancy test. In fact your question is very timely because I've just this minute published a new article on cheap pregnancy tests and how to get an accurate result, which you can find here:

Unfortunately there's not much I can say at this point. You may be pregnant or you may not be. If the fertilized egg has already implanted before you take the morning after pill then it has no effect. Best of luck and let me know what happens. Take care x

followme69 6 years ago

condom is the best way.. everywhere available and easy to use. what says ?

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi followme :) I agree, condoms are one of the best methods of contraception and a perfect way, not only to avoid pregnancy, but also to prevent STD's. They're cheap and easy to use and there's no need to fill your body with hormones which can have other side effects such as weight gain.

gnedjs220 6 years ago

what if u have unprotectedsex just a couple of days ago is there any way u can kno right away or i would have to wait till i miss my period???

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi gnedjs - no there's no way of knowing if you are pregnant at the moment. It can take days after intercourse for the egg to become implanted anyway, so you might not be pregnant now but you could be a few days. You might want to watch out for the early signs and symptoms of pregnancy which you'll find described here:

Best wishes :)

Vishal  6 years ago

SUSANA: thanx for ur informative i came to understand the reality about the female reproductivity systems..and i prefer condoms to have protective sex..

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi Vishal - I'm glad to hear it, good choice!

star 6 years ago

i've learned a lot from your page.. my question is that: do i get pregnant even i don't do intercourse.. its just a skin to skin contact with my bf? i am 1 day delayed on my period right now.. now i get worried.. pls help

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi star - it's highly unlikely that you would get pregnant without penetrative sex, but if any sperm gets near to your vagina then there could be a very small possibility. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about.

ewan 6 years ago

what can someone do if she suspected that she could be having a baby which she don't want...let say she "Done it" like a week and a half days ago?? what can she possibly do to make sure that she is not able to pregnant? would it be vanish if she eats a lot of pineapples?

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Hi Ewan - there's nothing she can do right now, except hope that her period arrives. The only way a pregnancy *vanishes* is through termination or miscarriage. If she is lucky enough to escape pregnancy this time, she's going to need to be a lot more careful in the future. You can't cheat nature and it's not worth taking risks with.

tia 6 years ago

can you please help me out susana....please

i am really very tensed about this

2 weeks backs i had an unprotected sex.....but my partner didn't ejacuate....he tool it out before ejacuation....

i didn't care much about that day

but is 20 and i haven't got my periods yet....i don't remember my last months date but it was somewhere around 16...

i am very much worried if something is wrong(i.e maybe i am pregnant)

i am very much tensed what to do now....can you please help me out of this...please

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Hi Tia - my suggestion would be to wait another week and if your period still hasn't arrived take a pregnancy test. Like I said in the article withdrawal is not a safe method of contraception, so if you are lucky enough to escape pregnancy this time you are going to need to organize a more reliable method. Best wishes x

tia 6 years ago

hey susana....

today is 24th

my periods still didn't arrive....i am tensed than ever now

should i go for a test(like a home test) using some strip thing which requires few drops of urine......or is their any other simple test to find out?

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi Tia, Yes you need to get yourself a home pregnancy test. This article tells you exactly how to do the test to make sure you get the correct result:

Let me know how it goes!

Haritha 6 years ago

Hi, daily we are using condoms, but today condom got damaged. Can i have any preventive method?

Can i take any pill which u have specified?

Should i use that pill daily? Everyday we are using condom.

So please suggest me the good method its very urgent.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi Haritha, you need to get the morning after pill (also called Plan B) as soon as you can. It's most effective if taken within 24 hours hours of unprotected sex, but can be taken up to 72 hours after. Depending on where you live you should be able to get this from a pharmacy or you may need to get it prescribed from the doctor. Best wishes x

pradip 6 years ago

I am father of 4 months old baby. My wife's periods are not started after her delivery. I have done 3 days before unprotactive sex. Is there is chance to re-pregnent of my wife.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi Pradip, Yes your wife can still get pregnant even though her periods haven't started again yet. Some people believe that you can't get pregnant while breastfeeding, but this is not the case as many will testify too! It is advisable to use some form of contraception if you want to avoid another pregnancy at this time.

Celine 6 years ago

Just don't do it if you don't want to end up pregnant.

I was 15 when I first had sex and believed I couldn't get pregnant the first time.

Guess what? I was wrong..........

jetherz 6 years ago

my girlfriend uses a contraceptive, forgot the brand, she took the pill when she had a menstruation period.after 7 days of taking. is it safe to have sex after that...>??

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi jetherz,

As long as the pill has been taken as per instructions for one month she is protected. It takes a while for the hormones to build up to the required levels, so you'll find that the advice given is to use another form of contraception for the first month such as condoms.

Rick 6 years ago


during sex condom got tear.. But I didn't release inside, to be on a safer side used I-Pill..

Please advise still there are chances to get pregnant.. Please sugestion how to avoid it..

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Hi Rick, You've done everything you can to avoid pregnancy, particularly your partner using the i-pill. There's nothing else you can do except wait.

Rick 6 years ago

Thanks a lot Susana S for reply..

I knw I did a mistake but Is there anything else u can advise me please..



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Susana S 6 years ago Author

No there isn't anything else Rick. The chances are very good that your partner won't be pregnant. 1. you did not ejaculate inside her. 2. she took the i-pill. These will both minimise the chances of pregnancy to the absolute minimum. There really isn't anything else that you or she can do. Best wishes and let me know how it turns out!

jasper420 6 years ago

I learned a lot from this thanks for the info

nahuri 6 years ago

Dr susana,m a bit confused with one question , will a girl get pregnant after she had an unprotected sex after the save period of ovulation ?if she will then how to protect the pregnancy it just the PLAN B or there is something else too ?

thank u ..

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi nahuri - first I'm not a doctor :) I used to work with teens, women and families with young children before I was a writer and so became very familiar with the issues around conception, pregnancy and contraception.

The question to ask yourself is do you know exactly when the safe period is? Do you take your temperature or test your urine everyday so that you know precisely when you have ovulated? Do you do this month after month so that you can be sure since ovulation doesn't always happen on a predictable day? Once ovulation has occurred how many days afterwards is the egg available to be fertilized?

The answer is to use a proper form of contraception or find other ways to plesaure each other. Condoms are freely available if you don't want to go to the doctors. Plan B is not a contraceptive - it should be used a maximum of one time in 6 months. It is not good for you to take anymore frequently than that.

Best wishes...

bdour 6 years ago

thanks 4 the inf. bt i wanted to ask about IUD .dous it work only with women who has had children

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

The IUD is only available to those that have had children, so it's not an option for those that haven't.

kcar90 6 years ago

hi. i take the pill (birth control) and it's been effective. but i am now 8 days late. my older sister, who used to work in the OBGYN office at a hospital told me that my body is getting used to the medicine and hormones because i am now taking a stronger dose. i am paranoid and worried that i could be pregnant, even though it has been some time since i had sex. and when my boyfriend and i had sex, he pulled out. i know it's not 100% but i am on the pill and he does not ejaculate inside me so i should be safe, right? im just worried.

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Jimmy Phan 6 years ago

Hi Susana

Me and my girlfriend had sex before i went on vacation, this was around 3-7 days after her period. Today she told me she hasn't gotten her period yet and I'm freaking out. All i can do is just wait until she says she got it but by then i wont be able to sleep for nights. I love her dearly and we are dating behind our parents backs. Is there anyway i can predict her period and deal with my stress? and if she is pregnant what should I do? (and i know it would be my fault for having sex in the first place).

Please respond soon thank you.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi Jimmy, What a pickle! Unfortunately it sounds like you've had unprotected sex just at the wrong time (when your girlfriend is most likely to be fertile). Do you know when her period was due? If you're lucky she may just be late but she'll need to take a pregnancy test and do it correctly to find out for sure.

If she is pregnant, you've both got some thinking (and talking) to do about what you want such as whether you want to have a baby and whether you want to both tell your parents about your relationship. I hope it works out ok for the both of you. Best wishes, x

Pratty 6 years ago

I'm so upset, sex should be an amazing experience- use a condom (sure, sounds good) but with that stupid chance i hate of ending up with a baby takes all the fun out of it, I WISH there was a 100% method cause I'm over stressing the day after, it shouldn't be like that and it's effecting my relationships and sexlife!!!! H-E-L-P. :(!

Pratty 6 years ago

I mean I'm more than happy to use a condom but how can you wipe out the chance of just a bit or semen seeping out of the condom even if you don't ejaculate while having sex??? I heard even if you don't reach that point if your close then your "pre-ejaculate" can cause pregnancy....:(

I'd be so appreciative of your help cause I don't want to not have sex- but how can I control and thus calm my annoying brain.....! H-E-LP- :)

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi Patty, what some couples like to do to be extra careful is double up on contraception - no not two condoms (!), but you could consider using another form of contraception alongside condoms to help put your mind at rest.

There are many options such as using a spermicide, (which would kill any sperm that did escape),a cap, contraceptive sponge or hormone based contraceptives such as the pill, injection or implant.

No one contraceptive is 100% fail safe but using two at once will reduce your chances of pregnancy to a miniscule %. Best wiahes x

Pratty 6 years ago

Glorious! Thankyou so much!!!

mr. cool 6 years ago

Hi Susana!

I read your article and all your comments above and found them extremely helpful as I am getting married in a couple of months and we do not want a child for first few yrs.

Thanks a lot for all the valuable information! :)

XYZ 6 years ago

Hello. I read your article and now I wish I had read it earlier. I had sex with my boyfriend a few days back, though he did not ejaculate in me but I am scared. Obviously I am likely to get pregnant. All I can think of is what to do next. In case I am pregnant, I guess abortion pills should help? When is exactly the correct time to take abortion pills? I cannot discuss it with anyone and that is the sad part.

Please help.

jennifer 6 years ago

this is a nice tip like ur work keep it on well done

Laura Morales 6 years ago

Can I use Plan B two days in a row just to make sure I don't get pregnant?

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Hi Laura - No, it doesn't work like that. If your ovum was fertilized the hormones in plan B prevent implantation in the womb. If the egg has already implanted Plan B has no effect, so taking it twice doesn't make any difference (plus it's really not good for you).

jeanel 6 years ago

hi susana!

your article is very good!but it can prevent population growth but in our religion,it's prohibited!


Mridha Saiful 6 years ago

I am so pleased reading this so important article for couples who had and having sex either with protection or not any.

I have been planning to have sex with my gf withine few days. But all I knew to avoid pregnancy are not correct, i know now. This really helps us.

Thank u. I will not take any risk but keep condom with us when go for perfect date.

Thanks again.



Jimmy Phan 6 years ago

Hey Susana, it's me again i read your response and it helps a lot. Turns out she did get her period and me and her are both happy together. I do have another question though. If even 3 days after her period is when she might be fertile than is it better to have sex on day 1 or day 2 after her period (a time where she is little to none fertile than the other days)? We will be safer together next time thanks a ton for your help Susana.

john kidman 6 years ago

very good informatiob about any one

Kashan 6 years ago


Dear i have heard that both the ipills n birth control pills are much dangrous for females as it permanently weakens their ability to get pregnant in future and the ladies get comlications for it true?

i have heard same about abortion pills

and after taking the abortion pills do we have to suck the thing inside out or just the pills will do he complete job?

Hope u understand what m asking for

Hope to see ur reply soon

Regina 6 years ago

I find your description of the birth control system which involves avoiding sex around the time of ovulation to be lacking. This system works because the woman observes a variety of fertile symptoms which a normally-functioning, healthy body produces regularly every month. These symptoms include observing vaginal mucus, which changes in quality throughout the month; charting the basal body temperature, which has a very definitely pattern it follows during the month; and, least of all, observing the cervical position, dilation, and texture, all of which change in accordance with the approach and passing of ovulation. The practice of natural birth control takes commitment (on the part of both partners) and perseverance.

And, for the record, I know of no woman whose ovulation has moved due to her having sex exclusively before or after ovulation. If that were the case, then the women who were trying to avoid pregnancy would have increasingly long cycles and delayed ovulation. This simply isn't the case.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Regina - The calendar based system doesn't really work though does it? A 25% failure rate is not acceptable to many people and trying to use this method is a particularly poor choice for young people (who the article was written for) who are not in relationships that are stable enough to endure such a high possibility of pregnancy.

Chemotaxis, or in other words, chemical communication between sperm and ovum to maximize the chances of conception is a biological feature of most animals and plays a major part in reproduction.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Susana, I'm going to recommend that you do some more research. Regina isn't talking about a calendar-based method but rather scientifically studied natural family planning. If you need a secular source, check out Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, but you can also take courses from the Couple to Couple League (their text is The Art of Natural Family Planning) or Billings (called the Billings Ovulation Method) or Creighton (called the Creighton Model, researched meticulously for decades at Creighton University) or Marquette (currently still being studied but also reliable; begun at Marquette University).

You're spreading misinformation about women's cycles and how ovulation works. We aren't like rabbits or alpacas, whose ovulation is induced by sex. In a woman, the beginning of the cycle is when estrogen dominates. Ovulation occurs (it could be early or late, depending on lots of factors like whether she has polycystic ovarian syndrome or endometriosis or is under stress), and then progesterone takes over. The corpeus luteum (the follicle that surrounded the maturing ovum) produces progesterone until a pregnancy occurs (when the placenta takes over) or doesn't (which is what causes menstruation). There are reliable signs and cross-checks that can be used to identify ovulation. The most commonly used methods are symptothermal (advocated in TCOYF, mentioned above), which include observing cervical mucus and taking the basal body temperature each morning. Some women also check their cervical positions as an additional sign. Other methods rely on biophysical markers, mainly cervical mucus, while one (Marquette) uses a fertility monitor.

Here are some links to get you started on your research. I hope you do it and then update this page with what you learn.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Rebekah - I have reposted your comment without the links. Sadly, you are missing the point of the article, which is to educate young people not to take stupid risks with their biology if they really do not want to get pregnant.

I don't need a biology 101 lesson - I understand the biological processes you describe, but there is a great deal of *new* ground breaking science discovering exactly what is happening in reproduction including the aspects that I wrote about, so I'm afraid it won't be coming off.

I don't know many (or any) teenagers that are taking their basal temperature everyday, checking their mucous or their cervical position and even if they were it would not be as protective (either for pregnancy or STD's) as abstaining, pleasing each other in different ways or using condoms. The reliability of the methods you describe are poor in comparison.

I just checked out TCOYF which has a failure rate of 12-25% - that's fine for long term couples who would like children and don't mind falling pregnant but it's no good not for anyone who really wants to avoid pregnancy.

Rasheedat 6 years ago

I do like your hub,it interesting and educative.keep up the good work.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi Kashan, it usually takes a while after taking the pill for a long time to fall pregnant as the body readjusts. The i-pill taken as instructed shouldn't cause any long term problems.

Here's more info on the abortion pill:

If you or your partner are worried about using hormone based contraceptives there are several other options to look at including condoms.

JAY 6 years ago


6 months ago, after pregnancy test and check up we found that my wife was 4weeks pregnant and at that time we din't want baby. So we took pills to avoid such pregnancy by following doctor's instructions and its results & now we are facing same problem again tough we took all precautions. Again we went to doctor and he gave us the same pill to avoid pregnancy.

So my question is it safe again by having such pill again because doctor said due to pill its much safer than to do surgery and there is no risk at all regarding to future pregnancy but as we all know its human nature and emotions that even after taking such precautions at some point we want a safe and secure answer. So please provide me proper guidance.


pooja 6 years ago

hi.. i'm 24 yrs old.. i'm a girl..iwant to know.. how to avoid the pregnancy? i don't have any knowledge about this? what tablet i have to use? plz some one help me

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi Pooja - do you mean that you are already pregnant or that you want to avoid pregnancy?

If you had unprotected sex less than 72 hours ago, you can get the morning after pill (also called plan B or i-pill) from a pharmacy, doctor or it's possible to buy online. It needs to be taken as soon as possible after unprotected sex, but after 72 hours it will not have any effect.

If you are already pregnant then you'll need to see a doctor.

If you want contraception, again you'll need to see a doctor unless you go for condoms. Best wishes :)

karrill 6 years ago

That was very interesting. i learned a lot, thank u.

Dolly 6 years ago


Last month date 4/10/2010 that was the first day of my

menstrual cycle, then after date 13/10/2010 i had unprotected sex. now till today date 3/11/2010 i not in period ( menstrual cycle). So i want to know that i am pregnant ?

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi Dolly - Unfortunately my psychic abilities are a little lacking! The only way you are going to find out if you are pregnant is to do a pregnancy test.

Poj 6 years ago

Gosh i jst gt scard av learnt a lot. My bofriend and made love recently, we usd the condom. i want kids bt nt just yet.. Gues hve 2 refer 2 plan B.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

If you used a condom there should be no need to use plan b unless it split?

samuel 6 years ago

I had unprotected sex 8days ago with my friend and her menstrual cycle was due yesterday 11/10/10 up till now 11/11/10 9:36pm,it's still not come,I know there can be irregularities but I just can't afford to take any chances.what can we do? im in desperate situation...this pregnancy has to be avoided at all's not even 2weeks old.helpppppppppp

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ben 6 years ago

I went into labour room to witness a women deliver,,, it's definitely scare & lossing interest to make love again... I have 2 kids & I will consider surgery to avoid myself to avoid my wife pragnant again as it's physically & mentally torture & I felt the PAINS of giving brith is unimaginable & be the worst of human being...!!! ANY ADVISE FOR MALE TO DO SURGERY

woman in need 6 years ago

I had an unprotected sex with my boyfriend on Nov 6, 2010. He pulled out before he ejaculated, but he did say that he worried his precum might have came out inside my womb. My last period was Oct 23, 2010, and until today (Nov 30), i still haven't got my period. It's usually like a ticking clock, always there on the early 20s date.

We are soooo soooo scared that I might be pregnant. It's the scariest feeling ever.... We're so not ready for this, even though I'm 26 and he's 27. We're both Asian, and it's still unacceptable to have pre-marital sex, not to mention pregnancy outside marriage. I can't, and I don't want to imagine what it would be like to tell my family and friends if I am pregnant. I might even choose to abort the fetus. I have done pregnancy test with self-kit at home, and it turned out negative twice. But I'm still worried since I haven't even had any usual symptoms that I used to have when I'm about to have my period. I hope this is due to my sudden weight loss, or probably the Acai Berry that I have just taken this November regularly.

Just wanna share with you my story... but I really wish.. really really wish.. I have read your page long before we did that unprotected sex. To all of you women out there, make sure your partner wears protection. If he declines or talk you out of it (like what happened to me), DON'T CONTINUE THE INTERCOURSE AT ALL. Refuse him, even if he'll get angry. It's much better than what my boyfriend and I are feeling right now. He's in deep regret, I'm in deep sorrow and feel miserable and sometimes I blame him. Don't let it happen to you.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Thank so much for sharing that woman in need :) It may help educate others who think that withdrawal is a safe method of contraception - it really isn't.

I hope things turn out well for you and your boyfriend, it sounds like you are in a tough situation. I know I say here on this page not to ever rely on luck, but good luck to you :)

brad 6 years ago

i had sex with my GF ...she is not getting peroids now...does it mean she gng to be was 4 days afraid ....i want to stop it, will it possible

worried 6 years ago

i had sex with my bf 2 days ago...he pulled out before he ejaculates..but still im worried and scared...he even assures me not to worry because he pulled it before it came out...after that i immediately urinate...i also take 2 tblets of painreliever and soda...what will i do?i admit its my first time,i don't wanna get pregnanat!it was a mistake though!!!!:((

jenny 6 years ago

worried:ur worries will end when u get the way,you should not say it's a mistake because both of u wanted to have's better if u take contraceptive pills...avoid having sex till u get married k...

lucy 6 years ago

i had baby .now she is 2 months old .and i don't want next child for few yrs .i had sex with my patner before 2 there any chance of getting pregnant again

how can i know if i get pregnant.but idon't want to get pergnant. plzzzzzzzzzzzzz. help me out to avoid it

plz tell me which pill to take and its procedure of taking .my patner is forcing to have sex

and our relationship is getting bad bcoz of it

lucy 6 years ago

frm ur articles i have learn a lot.thanks for helping every women

only a women can understand womens problem.

i really thank god bcoz i get such a lovely women susana with whom ican share my problem.

now again my husband went angry and went

bcoz i had sex with him last night

iam toooo afraid to have

i deliverd my baby on 17 oct till now i did not have any periods.and 3days before ihad sex. iam too afraid that i may get pregnant again

but i don't want to get pregnant for few yrs

if i get pergnant how can iknow

bcoz of sex our relationship is getting bad day by day

iheard people saying that after delivery periods will not start atleast for 3 months.but during this period i may get pergnant if ihad sex. and how can i know that iam pregnant and how to prevent it.

ihave more and more questions to ask

ihave read all the articles it was interesting and knowledge gainable

plzzzzzzzzzzz answer my questions

waiting for u

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Hi Lucy, that is a terrible situation with your husband forcing himself on you. Try and think if there is anyone you can tell or anything you can do to stop this from happening e.g. sleep in a different room; tell a relative that you trust; go stay with someone else such as your parents. Your husband forcing himself on you is not acceptable - get as much support as you can.

For the pregnancy part of your question, yes you can get pregnant. You can do a pregnancy test to find out if you are pregnant and if you have access to a doctor go and see him/her and get some contraceptives such as the pill.

Best wishes x

darkerboy 6 years ago

i would ask for some opinion from u guys. when i'm having sex with my gf today and i realized that my condom had a hole after ejaculation but at the same time i saw sperm on the bed. i'm worried that she will pregnant as i'm still studying in University. what should i do?

su 6 years ago

I used to have regular periods before and after marriage. My periods are delayed by 5 8 days now and i do not want to be pregnant now. So, i met a doctor and after pregnancy test came to know that pregnancy had just started and was in very early stage. Doctor prescribed or gave me tables to get periods in 2 - 3 days to avoid pregnancy.

I am worried now if this will cause any problem in future if i want to conceive.

plzzz help.

Rebecca 6 years ago

These info. are very vital i read everyone comment n i must admit i learned a lot . im newly married i don't wanna have a baby rightt now i wanna enjoy my marriage a bit we don't use anything i thought withdrawal was a safe method for us but apparently i was wrong....i learned something i guess when i get pregnant that will be a sign for me 2 step up as a mom because i don't intend in using pills...the side effects can b dangerous plus my husband wanns b on the safe side with me ...n both of us don't like condoms it just kills the real feeling...the great thing is that he's ready to be a dad when im ready to be a mom great work keep it up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!good luck 2 everyone !!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

yoda 6 years ago

Scared, young, can't afford birth control pills, too embarrassed to buy condoms, can't stop...HELP

sneha 6 years ago

taking I-pill do hv side effects.... my doc said so

Ramya 6 years ago

I'm newly married and i don't want to get pregnant .. and both of us don't like using condom can any one suggest on this

plvi 6 years ago

hllo. i hd my date on 18 nov nd had sex on 1st dec , 4 decmbr ,13 dec nd 18 dec .. i used withdrawk method bt he ws nt dischrgd in my vagina. thn hd ipill on 21st i knw i ws late. bt 2day is 23 rd still i din hv my periods.prega news shwd me negetive.. plz reply wat shud i do

plvi 6 years ago

plz replyyy

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

You need to do another pregnancy test in about a week and go and see a doctor. The withdrawal method is not a form of contraception that works, so if by chance you aren't pregnant this time, make sure you protect yourself properly in the future. The ipill has to be taken within 72 hours and if the fertilized egg has already implanted it is not effective at all (so if you fell pregnant on the 1st, 4th or 13th it will not make any difference at all). Best wishes.

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Alyxx 6 years ago

This hub was greatly appreciated!

I'm young (barely legal) and already I've had a miscarriage. I didn't even know I was pregnant until I went to see a doctor! We'd used multiple forms of protection including the pill (used as directed) and condoms. It's true, we're young and reckless, but it's good to know what will help and what wont.

Now days I've come to the point of feeling scared when something's not right. Unfortunatly I suffer from PMDD and sometimes symptoms can match up. I start stressing out and that stress causes me to miss occationaly and scares me even more.

Now, it should be at least a little easier to trace back mistakes. Some of the facts truly surprised me.

abc 6 years ago

hi there...

well i really am scared after reading all this..:(;(

my periods are about to strt from 9th..and i had sex with my bf yesterday...and really it was a stupid mistake..we both are scared..don't want to get pregnant...this is my first tym...nd he did put his thing out before ejaculation... not that long even..he put it out as soon as he put it in...

i am scared wht should i do???:( :(......

TaylorS 6 years ago

Hi Susanna S. About 2 weeks ago I had protected sex with my boyfriend. We used a condom, but that was the only protection we used. Recently I have started feeling a little strange in my abdomen, and I've put on weight etc. I know that condoms aren't 100% effective, and I've started to get a little worried. Do you think the reason I feel strange is because now that I'm worried I'm pregnant, I'm starting to feel weird. Kind of like phantom pains? Or is there still a chance I could be pregnant? Please help me decide what to do.

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Susana S 6 years ago Author

Condoms are very reliable as long as it didn't don't tear or split and as long as he didn't put it in before you used the condom? The only thing you can do right now is see if your period arrives. If it doesn't you can do a pregnancy test. If it's negative and your period still doesn't come then go and see your doctor. Best wishes

Candy 6 years ago

I had sex with my bf but we didn't use anything but he pulled out right before ejaculation but some of his cums were on my back, my question is eventhough he didn't cum inside me can I still get pregnant?but the next day I took some plan b pills and now we r both scared, which best way can we use next time that is safe and won't affect my health?thanks for your advices... U r the best!!!

Candy 6 years ago

I had sex with my bf but we didn't use anything but he pulled out right before ejaculation but some of his cums were on my back, my question is eventhough he didn't cum inside me can I still get pregnant?but the next day I took some plan b pills and now we r both scared, which best way can we use next time that is safe and won't affect my health?thanks for your advices... U r the best!!!

realman 6 years ago

hi susana s.

I would like to ask if there is any possibility that my gf will get pregnant if we made our last contact on January 8, 2011 but I withdrawn long before I come, and her last period was December 1, 2010. Knowing she has an irregular cycle, and up to this date January 20, 2011 she doesn't have her period yet.

And few days after our contact she has a large amount of discharged up to this present date.

Is there any tendency that she is pregnant?

Many thanks!

Ashleybrooke 5 years ago

Is it possible for a girl to know if she's pregnant 2 days after sex??????

saba 5 years ago

my periods are about to strt from 9th..and i had sex with my bf yesterday...and really it was a stupid mistake..we both are scared..don't want to get pregnant...this is my first tym...nd he did put his thing out before ejaculation... not that long even..he put it out as soon as he put it in...

Yogesh 5 years ago

Is it true can anyone help me?

freddieul 5 years ago

Dear saba, "don't worry your period will take away your burden". But from next time on be "Carefull".

Adi 5 years ago

thanxs 4 awearing me 4 myth

Priya 5 years ago

Hi.. Thanku 4 such useful details.. I also liked ur work.. I wantd 2 knw dat after having unprotectd sex.. If we get periods 4-5 days late.. Or it becomes irregular.. Does the arrival of periods means we hav avoided pregnancy.. Is it d only way dat we can knw dat v hav avoided it.. Pls do reply.. I m eargely waiting... Plzzz..

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leela20 5 years ago

i did actually have sex,bt i tried for da first time,my partner ejculatd sperm outside,da same day i had my periods,for 7 days,will i get pregnant?

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Susana S 5 years ago Author

Very unlikely....

aika 5 years ago

hi,. is it possible to get pregnant when you have unprotected sex for at least a minute,.

itanagaar 5 years ago

Pls tell best way to control pregnant ,using condom is not make me enjoyed.

Jenn 5 years ago

I found this article very interesting. Its impressive how well you've answered all these questions over the past years. I had unprotected sex with my husband tonight for the first time since our son was born a year and a half ago, at the time I figured I wont become pregnant because it's very early in my cycle, after reading that the sperm can last more than 7 days I figure I may become pregnant. I don't think the morning after pill is for me. I'm too worried that if it wouldn't work it would be harmful to the baby if you're still answering comments maybe you have some info on this?

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Susana S 5 years ago Author

I have researched the morning after pill previously and there is no evidence that it causes any damage to the embryo at all. It changes the lining of the womb in order to prevent implantation, but if an embryo has already implanted it will have no effect.

hannah :) 5 years ago

I had sex two weeks ago, unpretected. Would I know now if I am pregnant?

nits 5 years ago

i had sex 60 hrs back and i ejaculated inside, aftr which we hv also found difference while intercourse such as no pain and easy insertion. How can i b sure tht my wife doesn't get pregnant ? hv heard tht ipill hv side effects ?

Chayil 5 years ago

Susana, I take contraceptive pills regularly. However, just to be sure, is it a good idea to take ovulation tests or fertility tests before i have intercourse? How accurate are those tests?

ken cabasi 5 years ago

thanks to you i have learn you more about sex...

Edio 5 years ago

I won't my ans. My qustion"After period, can I accept sparm?"........ plz ams....

claire 5 years ago

hi susanna this is a really helpful site my mate thinks she might be pregnant and shes got a question for you but don't want anyone knowing its her. her question is (bit stupid in my head) but u never know, can u maybe be pregnant already but have sex with another man and definitely be pregnant by him? because she still hasn't come on her period from both.

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Susana S 5 years ago Author

Nope you can't get pregnant again if you are already pregnant. If she is pregnant then it would have had to be either the first man or the second - she wouldn't know unless a DNA test was done after the birth.

arush patel 5 years ago

i'm having sex with my wife without any protection but i don't wanted child so early so is der any gud understanding suggetions??

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rahul 5 years ago

thanks this is very helpful

smitha 5 years ago

my last period was feb15 and i had intercourse on march7th and my next period should come on 9th march.. and until today 13march i did not got period.. what should i do to stop pregnancy..? and if i am pregnant how many week of my pregnancy can be said..?

Krizzy 5 years ago

nice hub! I learn from it.

sabit 5 years ago

no thing but getting marrege

Sarima 5 years ago

Hey Susana... Iam really worried please help me out. I had sex with my bf last month and we had unprotected sex but he took out his thing before cum.. and my periods were due last week. They have been one week late.. so do you think iam pregnant ? and how can i avoid this pregnancy without abortion.. plz help me out :(

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Lipnancy 5 years ago from Hamburg, New York

How can we tell anyone not to have sex when we are doing it ourselves? It is such a natural part of life. Please do not wish marriage on anyone. It is not for everyone. After 20 years of marriage, I still hate it. Marriage does not make you a good do. Be responsible use birth control, yes but not having sex and living with someone you can't stand,no. Love your hub.

jaggie 5 years ago

@susana you are doing a fantastic job.. keep it up ;-)

jevy 5 years ago

there's any way to avoid pregnancy. What kind of medicine that to avoid preg.

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mojefballa 5 years ago from Nigeria

Nice and well descriptive article.Great hub with great advice and teaching.I believe all you said but not in agreement with what you said about the sperm living upto 7days.Research more on this.All the same,nice job,thanks.

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Susana S 5 years ago Author

Thanks mojefballa :) The research conducted by Dr Joanna Ellington on the lifespan of sperm invitro is explained here:

Her research showed that some sperm can live up to 10 days.

Vivian 5 years ago

How did iuD look like i lv ur teaching.

BEN 5 years ago

could somone help me?

i am having sex with my gf from last 6 months.

and i am usinng withdrawl method. I thought it is the best way. But when i read this article got a lot knowledge. Now i am feared that my gf can get pregnant.

coz one day we had sex when it was her last day of period without any protection. I just didn't put the sperm inside. but as i read that pre-ejaculation can also be the reason for pregnancy.

one thing that her last period was not normal. very light period. Could somone help me, what should i do?

ariel 5 years ago

Hi i just wanted to comment to all the people who think they maybe pregnant, if you are there is no chance of dealing with the pregnancy other than abortion. Plan B only works after first 72 hours. So if your pregnant you have to deal with it. If not an abortion, give the child up for adoption. My question is when you are on birth control does it damage the baby if you get pregnant? we were going to use condoms but it was excruciatingly painful so we didn't use them. Thanks.

Mike 5 years ago

I am a 21 yr old guy. I have had a gf for the past 3 yrs and both of us are virgins. We plan to finally go all the way in a few months time. Ur article is very informative and i thank u a lot but the problem is dat after reading dis i have becom more scared cause of the potential consequences. Same time I feel that both of us deserve dis experience.

rupam shiwakotee 5 years ago

I appreciate all the above given knowledges. But, guys keep in mind that you are enjoying so its all depend on you & your partner that you want to bring one more baby in ths world or not..

Take Care & ENJOY !

BEN 5 years ago

few days ago i had posted a comment to ask that i am scaared that my gf can get pregnant, coz we were having sex and using withdrawl method.

thank god now i escaped. she got the period. i don't know because of the medicine which she had or it was nothing.

But one thing i have learnt from this article that next time i will never use withdrawl method till the time i don't get married. Will always use condoms.

Aftr few days we are ready to have safe sex. thanks a lot. this article is really amazing.

Raju_22 5 years ago

hi ,

susana,i want to know more about safe period , there are many myth about this. i aggreed on your comments that safe period is not a perfect for prevent pregnancy , still i want to know about safe period ???

paul 5 years ago

thank you hud i learned a lot."

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Sun-Girl 5 years ago from Nigeria

Hi susan,

Am so happy to read this interesting piece of work from you which can also serve as birth control to all hub ladies in here.Learn t a lot and urge my fellow female hubbers to read and slowly digest this.even the men.

Pancho 5 years ago

This actually helped a lot

anxiousme 5 years ago

Hello Susan, I am pretty sure I ovulated today after about 60 hours of unprotected sex. Is there a high possibility that I have conceived? I know I have to wait for 2 weeks to have the preg test done.

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Maggie.L 5 years ago from UK

An extremely informative article which will be really useful to young people. As you say, some of them are alarmingly unknowledgeable about contraception.

Shahana 5 years ago

I'm not taking the oral contraceptive pills from last month. My last period was in 21.04.2011. When I missed a period, I checked the pregnancy test at home several times. The result is negative. Is there any possibility to become pregnant? We met without any protection on 04.05.2011. After that time my husband uses condom.

krish 5 years ago

hi i had sex with my gal friend now i'm feared

judith 5 years ago

great one Susann.over time pill have failed the best form is no sex until you are ready to make babies

sudhansu 5 years ago

hi, susana,

i am grateful to learn lot of things from this page. one thing i have to know

i will be married in coming December. we don't want baby as early. is "copper-T " will be good to avoid pregnancy ? what is it ? can you suggest me in detail.

helen 5 years ago

thanks this is very helpful...keep it up!

hi Susan 5 years ago

I had my last period on 27th July and tried to have sex on 6th august.My bf tried to penetrate(no condoms)twice inside but due to the pain i stopped him from doing so and he didn't even ejaculate. is there any chance of me getting pregnant. I didn't take any pill

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moneycop 5 years ago from JABALPUR

I still fear after reading this coz its unethical to block i think so.

Megs 5 years ago

Hi i have read studys on pre cum it has stated that it does not contain sperm , if was any small amount its dead. Read the only way pre cum will contain sperm is if after ejaculation you haven't gone for a pee . 2 different glands sperm one and cowpers glad separate from that said pre cum is just a lubricant from separate glad . Wats your thoughts on these studys? It was all about withdrawl method saying aslong as guy goes for a pee wash area after ejaculating then no spearm shall b in pre cum.

Sabella 5 years ago

The only thing I do not get is the ovulation thing. My mum always told me while I was visiting her in Liverpool was to make sure I wasn't ovulating if I was to have sex. I just don't get how you can tell... Some say to watch for a change in cervical fluid (or something similar to that!) But honestly, I have no change. It seems I have discharge from the end of my period all the way until my next period, so I'm scared to have sex again. I had it once and I guess I was just lucky because we indulged in quite a bit of oral sex. There wasn't much intercourse, but we still used a condom

amanda 5 years ago

can you get pregnant if u haven't had a period

shelly 5 years ago

thank you for the info it does help..what i would like to know is are there ways of terminating pregnancy without going to the doctor?

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Susana S 5 years ago Author

Megs, I hadn't heard about the research so did some of my own. It seems the earlier study on the pre-ejaculate of HIV + men showed either none or low levels of sperm. But they said themselves that further study was needed as it was as small sample and I would imagine that there could well be effects on sperm production due to the range of medications that HIV + people take.

The latest study shows that sperm are present in pre ejaculatory fluid for some men some times. You can read it here:

Personally, if I really did not want to become pregnant I wouldn't risk it.

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Susana S 5 years ago Author

Sabella, if you use contraception there's no need to be scared. There are various ways of tracking ovulation but it's not a form of contraception I would recommend - the chance of falling pregnant with these methods is huge (up to 25%). Here's more about it:

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Susana S 5 years ago Author

Amanda, do you mean when you haven't started your periods?

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Susana S 5 years ago Author

Shelly, the simple answer is no.

jenny 5 years ago

i took the pill but stopped mid cycle,(i was a first time user but only took it for 10 days) thought ovulation wouldhnt happen for a couple of weeks, but for the last three week now i have been having pregnancy symptoms but getting negative pregnancy results. It seems like the pill doesn't leave your system for awhile!!! Even if i have only taken it for 10 days!

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sandyindia 5 years ago

what are the chances of getting pregnant if u hv sex on 6th day of ur period + u tk ipill in 2 hours + u do a UPT 17 days after sex which comes NEGATIVE

wonder 5 years ago

I use the clearblue fertillty.. I had two high fertillty days then 2 egg days.. meaning ovulation.. the the egg went. if I had sex after the egg was gone, can you get pregnant. ??? when the egg leaves, can the sperm find it.. ? You said, the egg waits ????

For how long ? and when it leaves, does it turn in to blood. or does it live as an egg, as it floats back down the Fallopian tube ?

xx Thank you

UAE 5 years ago

Tell me the simple and natural way to avoid pregnency of my wife. i want intercourse daily and ejeculate inside. tell me the best and natural way to avoid pregnency plz...

Megs 5 years ago

Thanks susana , for taking the time to look up my post , wish they would do a bigger proper study on the precome , as i no heaps of people use it thinking there is no sperm in precum the study u found said it actually does contain sperm . If there was a bigger study into this then im sure people would diffently think twice on using the withdrawl method knowing cold hard facts to keep us all safe. To much conflicting facts makes us all not no wats going on. :) thank u again as i honestly thought there were none in it.

Ladyama 5 years ago

heyl, thats a nice stuff you have here

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Susana S 5 years ago Author

Wonder, the ovum lives for around 24 hours after ovulation. It's released from the ovary and travels down the fallopian tube where hopefully sperm are waiting to meet it. If there are none there to fertilise the ovum it is reabsorbed into the body as it disintegrates.

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Susana S 5 years ago Author

UAE - contraception.

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sandyindia 5 years ago

@Susana S, i m awaiting my ans "what are the chances of getting pregnant if u hv sex on 6th day of ur period + u tk ipill in 2 hours + u do a UPT 17 days after sex which comes NEGATIVE"

rapunzel... 5 years ago

hy... Am 14 so is my galfrnd we actuali wana hv sex with out comdoms bt is not a lng sex..we just planing of once i put my penis in her i will remove it and that will b all. So do u think theres tendency of her getting pregnant?

rajasweri 5 years ago

hy. i have an abortion and had my periods for the following 5 days, after 10 days (the 10th day frm the last day i saw my period) i had sex and the condom broke and i took plan B within 2 hours. i then had my other menstruation after 8 days (8th from the day the condom broke) and i was overflowing. im scared might i be pregnant

AZ 5 years ago

I m 20 yearz old and i have found your atricle to be one of the best guid and support for the young girls like me who sometimes get deviated without knowing the consequences and circumstances afterwards. I really appreciate you the way u are answering the queries of every commentor. By your grace I have decided to keep my virginity safe until marriage and after marriage haven't plan but yup i surely keep ur instructions in mind :)

Thankxxxx aloot :)

pia 5 years ago

hi... actually from the past 3yrs im having sex with my partner with out condom and he removes his penis from the vagina before he ejaculates... upto now we dnt face any problem...but now i got problem in my periods its become it become a problem in future when i want to get pregnant????or any health problem???

M.Ramiz 5 years ago

Not have intercousr is the better way.

yana 5 years ago

just want to ask , after period how many days we have take protection means , if some one wana to make unprotected sex. how many days has to wait after periods

Tara1985 5 years ago

I've just read your very informative page, been searching the internet all day and I really hope you have the time to give some more advice.

So the story is - I was on the pill (Loestren 20) and had the seven day break, my period arrived on 30th August. I was suppose to start a new pack on 4th September but didn’t. Me and my partner had sex on that night (4th Sept) and then on 9th, 10th,11th 14th and 17th September. He is aware I stopped taking the pill (wasn’t agreeing with me) and he has been withdrawing, but ejaculated on 4th – I know this is not a safe method but we have been together for a couple of years and are happy in our relationship – a child would be welcomed and loved.

I have been experiencing cramps in my stomach (and legs), feeling very tired and today started having headaches when I never usually suffer from them. My mum even commented on the size of my boobs yesterday!! From the dates, when do you think I should take a pregnancy test ? I have another week and half until my period (if I follow the 28 day cycle) and wanted advice in the mean time. Thanks so much x

Ravi Ranjan 5 years ago

hi susana

i am planning to have sex with my gf , and i have heard that if i do it after some particular days of her prriod , she would not get pregnant . would u plz help me and guide me ????

Danielle 5 years ago

Halo in 17 jeers old and my boyfriend reassembly came back from the USA after 8 months at this stage I’m very confused ... I’m still a virgin but wants to have sex with my boyfriend ... I can’t ask my mom to poet me on the pill coz then she would know, condoms is an option but heard that it is not nice to have sex whit them ... we have prepaid a wail to have sex but I think my period will start in the following week ... I’m supper confused what do I do know

unknown 5 years ago

...what if ....they don't have sex but they having kissing!! ...

naturalsolutions 5 years ago

I really enjoy reading it, you are definitely right, there's a lot of way in preventing pregnancy but the only way and the most advisable way is full stop. Stop having sex, just do it when you are ready to become a parent.

cinta andini 5 years ago

Hi susan, i'm cinta.. i would like to buy Plan b pills but i'm still underage.. do the casheer will ask for my id? please this is 911

Gift 5 years ago

I love your corment

1982 5 years ago

great article...lots of information..great job susana..ur helping many..with no cost..truly appreciable..:-)

mp85 5 years ago

gr8 article!.. was wondering, if one has had a period and then intercourse teh day after as well as the morning after pill within 8 hours, are thre chances of getting pregant?

Garima 5 years ago

I am 18 yrs old

Me n my boyrnd had sex 4 days bak

I ws feelin a litle unwell and wen i read d symptoms i think may b m pregnant m realli scared

Tell me wot can i do to avoid it

I cant go to doc as well

muneera 5 years ago from ras al khaimah, uae

garima this site is onother shit...u better take plab b or consult a gynecologist..b4 u do this..i wud suggest u to check out ur pregnancy with home pragnancy tester at early morning after u woke up n check ur first urine n u will get ur result..if its possitve than u better consult a gyna...coz now its been 4 days ago so plab b dosnt seems to be work out so u better consult a gynacolgist doctore :) n next time have safe Sx

rahul 5 years ago

hi susane this was a wonderful article

i want to know that we had some unprotective sex 0n 18aug girlfriend got her period on 26 aug this month she is still not getting her period as on 28 sept.2011.are their still chances of getting pregnant.

reply early .i m tensed

jocob 5 years ago

i had sex with my girlfriend 2day before her period. 2days later she received her period is there any likehood that she can get pregnant?

kdog 5 years ago

Will my gf becoming pregnant make her even more grumpy than she already is?

peter 5 years ago

its SO simple. if you feel your not ready for a child of your own, then DON'T. HAVE. SEX. i understand it can be hard especially for those with a very active social. eventually your bound to meet someone you like and that likes you especially if youra girl, and the temptation will be there. but you MUSNT give in until you feel your totally ready for motherhood. its pretty simple.

Ibrahim Mobolaji 5 years ago

Having sex with my husb through out the month,will it prevent getting pregnant?

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miiaiid 5 years ago

Hello Susana S,

I would like to know if there is a chance of pregnancy on this particular case.

My gf is having her menses, and on the third day, we had sex, and I've been permitted to ejaculate inside her vagina.

She was sure at her point that she will not be pregnant as she was on the start of her menses and all will be drained.

I's is the case?


LadyRealitycheck 5 years ago

I gave birth in my 20s to my ONLY biological (i also have one adopted). For years my husband and I weren't able to get pregnant again(doctors couldn't explain why we couldn't because everything was "normal").

Then in early 30s i got pregnant again but had a miscarriage 12 weeks later. That came with a D&C and the pronouncement that the likelyhood of my getting pregnant again would be significantly lower.

My marriage ended.

Thankfully, I had my two children(one bio + one adopted) so i was perfectly happy and didn't want any more.

I inquired about birth control after my divorce at age of 41 but doctors mentioned that given my history of NOT getting pregnant successfully and my advanced age, the likelyhood of my getting preggo was less than 1%.

12 years (after my miscarriage) surprise surprise i became pregnant at the age of 47!

For years i didn't use protection and then when i entered my mid 40s i knew the "likelyhood" of my getting pregnant even in the best of circumstances was slim-due to my age and history.

The only thing that i could think of that i did differently that i had not done in the past with my ex-husband or my fiancée was to go on a fruit smoothie and veggie juicing diet, add flaxseed and omega oils to my diet, cut out alcohol, junk food and especially caffeine drinks completely, added exercise and lost 15lbs.

When i began changing my diet and adding more healthy habits i had a lot more energy, my libido was heightened (though i didn't necessarily have intercourse more often)my cholesterol lowered, blood pressure improved and i was healthier. Unfortunately,I think this change toward healthy lifestyle contributed to my ability to get pregnant again despite my age.

My Fiancée (also in his 40s with grown kids) and i were shocked to say the least and not prepared to have another child.

7 weeks later i miscarried.

For us no more listening to docs. It's birth control pills for me from now on.

Oh and by the way, when i went to the OB there was a lady there who was 60 and 8 weeks pregnant. Which she (and doc)thought was an impossibility since she was in poor health and had already gone through menopause!

Lesson to be learned--Don't underestimate nature!

J92381 5 years ago

Just got word that i can't have kids After a vasectomy DR Said all Sperm is dead Does that mean its Safe? just Curious and i Apologize for bad typing and spelling

Alia 5 years ago

hi dear im newly got married bt we both dnt want child for 2yr bcz i hv 2 do how can i secure not 2 become pregnant

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Diddy 5 years ago

i am 13 and this girl at my school wants to have sex and i don't no what to do she keeps taunting me and its getting on my nerves

Misty 5 years ago

I had my daughter in april. and bled for a month and 3 weeks. Then stared back in july and ended aug 5.. After tht i started again aug 30th and ended sept 7. after that i haven't had one..Is this bc my periods are irregular.. and plus im smoking so could tht cause it too.. and i have really bad cramps. i usually get them a week or 2 b4 i start my period.. and they gave me the patch for birth control but told me not to put one on until i have my period.. then i go get the mariena put in the 25th of this monh.. plz help

Ce ce 5 years ago

I heard sperm only lasts three days at best and my doctor told me the pull out method is 88.5 percent effective. I have been using the pull out method for 7 years and it has been 100 percent effective for me. To me that means the pre sperm are not stronger and the guy just has to be good about getting out in time.

Gunjan 5 years ago

This is Gunjan,23 years old female.I had protected sex

with my boyfriend. But , I have missed my periods. Am I pregnant? If I am positive for the same. Please suggest me TABLET which I can use to avoid this pregnancy. Thanks in advance. I feel very shy to visit

Gynecologist that why seek answer.

tiara 5 years ago

hi im 16 yrs old and i wish i read ur article sooner ...cause i think i might be prego and i just wish i new tha kind of stuff it is very useful for young kids like me ... thnx for the info

Jinny 5 years ago

Hi dear.. thank you very much for this informative article. I am soon getting married but do not want any children. I want to spend my years caring n loving someone else. My reason are various, one of them is finance and life is very expensive these days and growing even bigger day by day.. I prefer not to have children than to have a get a difficult life ahead. I'm not god or selfish but Just being sensible. Thanks again

Alps 5 years ago

I am 27 years. I m married since 5 years and me n my husband have mutually decided that v do not want baby even in long run. V use condoms usually and sometimes have to use i pill. i am not taking any birth control pills, just safe sex. i get my periods regualr, just only when i took i pill my periods came on worng dates. i wish to know that does not getting preganant affect women health in long run?

jimmy yong 5 years ago

i think you should wrap ur bait be 4 u mate

TARA 5 years ago

I am 22 years. i have a one year baby now or don't want to any kids more now . now my husband do safe sex but last one month my period not coming so i am wherry . am I pregnant?

what can i do .plz help me .what I can do so my time is come . 30 day left and my period is not coming . can i use any tablet. Plz as soon as help me .

loretta 5 years ago

hi ive been reading your comments and everthing i been with this boy for three years and we don't wont a child but we don't like condoms and he loves coming inside so what should I DO

John 5 years ago

Me and my girlfriend had sex for the 1st time a few days ago and we used a condom correctly and it didn't break but she was ovulating during that time so she's pretty worried about getting pregnant. what are the odds that she acually is pregnant?

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Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

Good and practical information. Well written

rogell 5 years ago

i had sex with a women that had a period..we do it on the 6th day of her period..and my sperm came out inside of her..i just want to ask if that is safe?

Levertis Steele 5 years ago

Just don't do it. Every male and female should save something for marriage. Some say that the honeymoon was not anything special. That's not surprising when everything has already been done. Getting married after being worn out and used up is not a good start for married life.

meeka 5 years ago

i had sex wit my lover. but he took his penis out and got end outside only.. but my periods r getting late.. wat shuld i do now..wil it be a problem.pleas tell

Paolo 5 years ago

Thank you so much, this blog is so much appreciated by me

Nick Guerrero 5 years ago

Tnx.. i learned how to control my self.

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Lou1842 5 years ago

I definitely don't want to get pregnant as I have just had a baby (now 5 months and planned!). But I should know by now (at 34 years) what you have to do to avoid getting pregnant! Although accidents still do happen to many people. I like the point about avoiding alcohol as drunken nights and mistakes can get you into a lot of trouble.

Rami 5 years ago

If i had sex before 2 days from a girl's period would that be dangerous ?

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