Tips to overcome with the negativity and be confident

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Well, there are times that you just don’t know what has actually plaguing your life…somehow, you feel the negativity, wonder why those kinds of insecurity, hurt, fear, blue, helpless, hopeless, and frustration feeling just sneak into your life so unaccountably and unknowingly.

Yes, there are times that one or more of such emotions take place in our life. Well, that’s life! We just can’t evade or ignore but to face it bravely. That’s being said, we have to lead our life bravely and yes, wisely of course. If not, no others but to lead a depress and torturing life!

So, what’s now? What and how should we do then?

There are many ways to charge us up actually and I would like to share with you here bit of my experience that how I got rid of those of my “negativity” and frankly, you know it well that it is what we so-called “depression”.

Leave the house chores aside if the need arises...
Leave the house chores aside if the need arises...

Leave House Chores Aside

Before we start everything, please, leave the house chores aside if the need arises. Put the never ending stream of the regular chores aside.

I always tell my sis that there is not necessary and not a must to prepare every meals for family members or to clean and tidy up the house everyday in order to be a so-called good wife and good mom…(hey, don’t boycott me okay?! It’s true!)

Rest, trust me, get enough rest for both your mental and physical health. I don’t think we need such necessity to shout it out to the world that we all fear and hate routine work?!

Exercise actively to get yourself not only in shape but healthy and full with confidence…
Exercise actively to get yourself not only in shape but healthy and full with confidence…

Exercise Regularly

That’s right, exercise regularly.

Or if you are permitted, exercise actively to get yourself not only in shape but healthy and full with confidence…Yes, before I know that exercise does burn up stress causing chemicals such as adrenaline and cortisol, I hit the gym and surprisingly, it helped me to relax.

If you were like me, try arranging several enjoyable activities spread over the whole week that you really enjoy. Try different group classes instead of doing the workout on your own. By doing so, you can get yourself surrounded by members and instructors that can inspire you up and motivate you while you are doing the classes with hot and beat music. Choose the classes that enjoy you much, be it the spinning class, aerobic class, aerobox class, body jam, body pump, or dancing classes like bolly-wood, belly-dance, hip hop, salsa, cha-cha, mambo or yes, zumba.

Or you might want to try out some yoga or body balance classes with those soothing music lingering around and seeing your body move gracefully. (Take this important note however…avoid comparing and competing yourself to others. That’s what I learned from my yoga master in those dark days of mine.)

Hey, tell me, does it sound interesting and attracting to you? Trust me, you have to sweat it out!

However, if you are just the one who don't want to give in but prefer doing the exercise on your own, that’s fine. Yes, I said that’s still fine.

How about going for a swim? I bet you love it! You guess it right, that’s the exercise that I insist to slot into my daily schedule…

May be you might not want to believe that swimming does shake off our stress and down mood, but in fact, it really would. There are days of mine happen to be so down and vexed but surprisingly, it gets rid automatically after I have some laps and strokes in the pool.

Apart from this “water sport”, oops, I don’t mean that it’s the only exercise that you can do it on your own. Hmmm…you know it well than me that there are lots of them out there. Yes, jogging and running at your own pace at the park or cycling freely and leisurely on the bicycle track…aha, that’s another one that could not be missed out here of course, yes, that’s inline skating! So, does exercise on your own mean that you are all alone and being isolated?! Nope, you are just happily being alone but still with those whom you are not familiar or not known around…

If you are unavoidable to feel the loneliness, don’t forget your mp3 with the beat baby!

Is exercise one of your way to overcome your negativity?

  • Yes, it is.
  • No, it won't work at all.
  • Never try it before.
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Think Positively

How?

Yes, how to think positively?

Well, it’s easier said than done, I know.

How to think positively when we are somehow just that negative? Good question indeed! And that is the challenge. Positive thinking doesn’t simply emerge unless you need it and want it, badly. To be solved, of course, the first step you have to do is walk yourself out.

Again, how? Remember this always, you can think positively naturally only when you allowed yourself to be in a positive magnetic field. If not, the percentage of success is limited.

Go back to our previous points that I have written…

Get yourself out from where you stuck, leave the house chores aside when necessary, exercise regularly or actively, when you feel good, you would think positive naturally, and then only you can proceed to the last but not the least point.

Applying An Affirmation

Curious of what such laws of affirmation work in your life?

It’s a real fact that it plays an important role in our days that would pick us up now and then after we strive so hard to draw ourselves out from the negative field.

Trust me, try this, and actually…you must!

Recognize and acknowledge some good things about yourself.

If it happens that someone out there have told you they like about you, come on, this is not the time for you to be humble, acknowledge it, accept it and take it in.

Inspire up yourself by giving yourself such an amazing power that you should never underestimate with, believe me, you will find it unbelievable powerful strong.

Share this here with you that it really implies to me. Sorry if I sound like not being humble enough, but it happened just out of my expectation, and that’s after a few months after I have become a so-called gym rat.

Yes, I would have never realized how powerful such an encouragement was until one of my Indian friends told me so in the gym…

“Hi, you look great today huh!”

“No, I am always the same me. Always the lady that makes me felt that inferior…”

“Hey, why you doubt yourself? Remember this, everyone is unique, including you, and you are the one and only you in this world. There is no one else would be and could be you. You are a nice lady, you always being so friendly, kind and considerate, you are intelligent, you are always that active in the gym and attending almost every classes, you are so healthy and fit, you are gorgeous, you have a sweet smile, you are energetic, you are pretty, there is a deep beauty in you…

“But I am short…”

“So you never know that you have a good figure huh? Come on, put it this way that you are petite and sexy…”

I Feel Good (James Brown)

Appreciation

“Appreciate these, these are the real compliment to you.”

Oh my, I would have never known that I can give others such image and never could I expect that I find myself really am when I keep telling by others, and I have learned to allow real compliment and praise to really touch me…

Guess what then? Yes, I was inspired and picked myself up on track since then…

Amazing? From this, you might want to agree with me that regardless kids or adults, somehow we do need praise and positive feedback now and then.

So, know the answer by now huh?!

Keep yourself in a good condition always and you would definitely feel good. Oops, don’t forget to sing “I feel good” whenever you feel like singing…

Cheers!

Do you feel comfortable when others give you compliment?

  • Yes, I know I deserve.
  • Depends, provided they are sincere.
  • No, I am afraid to accept it.
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glassvisage 5 years ago from Northern California

Very good! For me, eating well helps me feel good as well. These are some great tips and I think it's a great idea for a Hub. Thanks!


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

I think you have some solid advice here for all. I especially liked the 'leave the housework' LOL No, seriously--I have watched neighbors who work at a frantic pace all the time...it's an obsession!

Rated useful and interesting.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks glassvisage, you really encouraged me much...


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Hi Denise, appreciate your comment...oh no, i can't imagine your neighbor's never ending work at her frantic pace...hope it's not our obsession...LOL...


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breathing 5 years ago from Bangladesh

This is a good hub. I voted it up. Nice writing...keep it up.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks breathing, hope you enjoy...cheers!


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Betty Reid 5 years ago from Texas

Great advice! I hope it keeps you cheerful!


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fucsia 5 years ago

You have some important advice here, thank you!

"Leave house chores aside" is true... We have to decide our priorities, and one of these is our rest.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks Betty, with you around would be one of the reasons that keep me cheerful, cheers!

Hi fucsia, thanks for your precious time to leave your comment here to me...hope you enjoy my writing...have a nice day.


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Nickylovesyou 5 years ago from Texas

I totally agree with you, especially on exercise. It helps with frustration as well as negativity, and it's all chemically proven in the brain as well! Pretty neat...


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Cathy I 5 years ago from New York

This is a beautiful hub...I am going to send it to a friend. Your words remind us that when we give a compliment, we never knows what it means to the person who is receiving it. Thank you for sharing this with us.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks Nicky, thanks for the nice comment you have given. Hope you enjoy.

Hi Cathy 1, thanks for your kindness for sharing my hub with your friend, you really encourage much...thank you...


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raakachi 5 years ago from Madurai / Tamilnadu / India

very interesting my friend! I agree with you! I want to tell one important thing that the main reason for the so called "Depression" is "Solitude" (The state or quality of being alone or remote from others). To overcome this - "Be mingle with others",never let you be alone.Hope you agree with this? i am happy to follow you.


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Happyboomernurse 5 years ago from South Carolina

Welcome to Hub Pages,

I believe that exercise is vital in maintaining a positive mental state of mind and also for health and over all well being.

Even taking daily walks, with or without others, helps raise our spirits.

The other tips you mentioned in this hub are also helpful.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

@raakachi thanks for your comment and following...yup, I do agree with you...

@Happyboomernurse, thanks for your precious comment, hope you enjoy my writing...


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Ingenira 5 years ago

yes, exercises are just I need to feel good ! Thanks for the reminder. Great hub! Voted up!


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks Ingenira...thanks for the vote up and comment...from your hubs I can tell that you are someone who leads a healthy lifestyle…


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Green Lotus 5 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Wow...you have mirrored my whole philosophy. I think I'd be a different person now without yoga in my life and of course a positive attitude. Cheers


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epigramman 5 years ago

...well I have to really say that I feel so much better just now - because your words have a healing power and I think everyone in the human race has to work on this idea and in turn be a little more respectful to their fellow man/woman - I will post this most informative and inspiring hub to my Facebook page with a direct link here so hopefully more people can get turned onto your writing - and thank you so much for your royal endorsement of my humble little hubpage - coming from such a great communicator like yourself - that really means a lot!

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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

It's really a great afternoon to me epigramman...your words that filled with full of encouragement and the kindness of sharing this little hub of mine to your FB page...thanks epigramman for taking your precious time, you really light me up!


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jfay2011 5 years ago

very good hub. exercise is really good. I should do more of it. Walking is very meditative. Very good goals in your hub for everyone to follow.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks jfay for your kind words...you made my day...


blog8withJ 5 years ago

great advice...thanks for sharing.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks for your dropping by blog8withJ, hope you enjoy...


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DREAM ON 5 years ago

I am including all your tips right away in my daily schedule.Great advice and I love the positive attitude.Thank you so much.


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Cresentmoon2007 5 years ago from Caledonia, MI

Greatly written and was a good read. Thank you. Voted up.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks so much DREAM ON for dropping by and leave me your precious comment...be blessed always!


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Hi Cresentmoon2007, glad to have your visit again...thanks for the voting and your sweet comment,have a nice day!


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stephaniedas 5 years ago from Miami, US

These are all great tips. Nice hub, voted up.


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2uesday 5 years ago from - on the web, I am 2uesday.

This page contains lots of useful and helpful advice.


pastella13 5 years ago

Hi Injured lamb,

There's so many things that can make us feel better, and I think by smiling at someone or by paying a compliment, you can make their day a little better, and feel happier yourself.


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Lita C. Malicdem 5 years ago from Philippines

This is very useful hub for my early morning read. From here I'll take my usual brisk walk around the yard. That's positive attitude, right? So, let's both start this day with all positivities we can muster and enjoy life! Thank you!


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Appreciate your precious time taken to almost all my hubs and leaving me your sincere comments stephaniedas, you really encourage me much…thanks and cheers my dear…


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks 2uesday, hope you enjoy! cheers!


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

You are so right pastella 13. Smile and pay a compliment to others that would make them happier and ourselves as well…thanks for the comment pastella 13, and I think I really need to let you know that your comment made my day too…


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thank Lita for your kind comment...yes, let's start the days with all positives we can muster and enjoy life, cheers Lita, be blessed!


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SanneL 5 years ago from Sweden

When someone gives me a compliment for something I have done it makes me so happy and gives me an adrenaline rush. Knowing that wonderful feeling, I always give compliments to those who deserves it, because with a simple gesture like that I know how happy that will make them feel.

Injured lamb-You deserve a huge round of applause for this very important hub. Well done!

Take care my dear,

Sannel


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feenix 5 years ago

Hello, Injured lamb,

Well, you have turned out another useful, awesome, beautiful and interesting post. As a matter of fact, I consider this article to be a public service and I am very grateful to you for writing and publishing it.

This hub is especially useful for me, because I suffer chronic anxiety, depression and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).


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Freya Cesare 5 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

Hello, Injured Lamb,As much as how sad your chosen name sound turned out you are very positive woman! ^^

Great advice! And I am totally agree. One action will lead to another because our gradually changing mood improving many side of our appearance just as much as it improving our inside.This is good lesson you give in here. I hope it can help many people.

I hope you don't mind that I am bookmarking. ^^ Vote up and useful!

Have a nice day there

Freya


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Freya Cesare 5 years ago from Borneo Island, Indonesia

Hello, Injured Lamb,As much as how sad your chosen name sound turned out you are very positive woman! ^^

Great advice! And I am totally agree. One action result will lead to the result of another actions (activities) because our gradually changing mood improving many side of our appearance just as much as it improving our inside.This is good lesson you give in here. I hope it can help many people.

I hope you don't mind that I am bookmarking. ^^ Vote up and useful!

Have a nice day there

Freya


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thank you very much Sannel, you are indeed a kind person with full of thoughts and care for others...you made my day great, I am really so happy to have such a kind and sweet comment from you Sannel, really appreciate your visiting and love...be blessed...


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Glad to have you visit me again feenix, thanks for the comments and I do hope it will do you some benefits...hope to see a sunny you with a bright smile in your face soon...cheers feenix, be blessed always...


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks for the bookmarking and voting Freya, I must say it is my great pleasure to have you in my fan list and giving me a great support...be blessed my dear friend...


Derdriu 5 years ago

Injured lamb: Thank you for such an upbeat article on the importance of thinking positively and the connection between healthy activities and thoughts!


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks Derdriu, hope you enjoy the reading, and thanks for leaving me the sincere comments on different hubs of mine...really my pleasure, appreciate it much...hoping to see you again and again in the future...best regards...


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mljdgulley354 5 years ago

I just stumbled on this hub. It is great and we all need to be remindedof the things that can lift us up every day if we just apply them voted it up and awesome


Hubertsvoice 5 years ago

Nice article vote up and every thing but funny. I agree that exercise important and I need to get more of it. I always try to stay positive, sometimes I am positively depressed. I get by, as will we all. There seems to be a bond that courses through these pages and connects with us all allowing us to let it all out, or acquire a bit more. Though money is important, it's not everything. Money can't by love, it can only rent a hooker. Money can't buy peace but you can use it to build thicker walls for quiet. Love comes from within, peace comes from God at life's end.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks mljdgulley354 for dropping by and leaving me your precious comment, and thanks for the following of course, hoe you enjoy the reading...cheers!


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Appreciate much for your comment Hubertsvoice, and thanks for the following as well, have a nice day...


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Seeker7 5 years ago from Fife, Scotland

An excellent hub with very good advice for everyone. We all tend to think far too negatively. I've seen people who have turned their lives around just because they trained themselves to be positive thinkers rather than a negative one.

A very enjoyable hub. Voted up + awesome!!


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ladyjane1 5 years ago from Texas

Very good advice here and I enjoyed all your positive thoughts and ideas. Cheers.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks for the visiting and leaving me your precious comment Seeker7?your kind words really encourage me much...thanks...


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Glad to know that you enjoyed my writing ladyjane1, thanks a lot for the visiting and comment...have a nice day...


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PeanutButterWine 5 years ago from North Vancouver, B.C. Canada

A wonderful and inspiring Hub! Thank you for sharing these fabulous tips; You have inspired me, I have decided to get myself back to the gym after years away, wish me luck!


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Appreciate much for your visiting and sincere comment PeanutButterWine, and definitely, wish you luck of course, be blessed my friend...cheers!


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triciajean 5 years ago from Bantam, CT

Thank you, injured lamb. Very good suggestions. Like you, I'm a walker. And personal confidence is one of my themes.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Thanks so much for your comment Patricia, hope you enjoy this hub of mine...be blessed...with love...


Giselle Maine 5 years ago

An inspiring hub. I enjoyed your positive, upbeat writing style. I think a lot of people will find encouragement from this hub.


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Hi Giselle Maine, thanks for the visiting and comment...hope this hub of mine did give some encouragement to fellow readers...have a nice day...


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RedElf 5 years ago from Canada

Swimming is my all-time favorite exercise - a great way to lose weight and get in shape. Thanks for all the useful information!


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Injured lamb 5 years ago Author

Oh give me five RedElf for we are both swimming lover, have a nice day...


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Dee aka Nonna 4 years ago

Negative energy can be very hard to overcome. You made some excellent points on how to do that. Enjoyed this very much.


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Cyndi10 4 years ago from Georgia

Hello Injured Lamb, such good advice all the way through this hub, especially the affirmations and the exercise. I walk the dog twice a day for 45 minutes to an hour each time. Keeps me feeling like I'm in shape. Thanks for sharing the good tips.


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Injured lamb 4 years ago Author

Thanks for the visiting Dee, appreciate your comment and glad that you enjoyed...cheers!


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Injured lamb 4 years ago Author

You should be in shape, walk the dog twice a day for 45 minutes to an hour each time is a good habit ever, thanks for leaving me your sincere comment and I am really glad to see you here...regards...


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Bail Up ! 4 years ago

Exercising regularly plays a huge role in how you feel physically and mentaly. When your body feels sluggish so does your mind. Nice hub to encourage pulling us out when we are feeling a bit blue.


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Injured lamb 4 years ago Author

Thanks Lisa, glad to have your comment here, appreciate your time for being here with me...be blessed always...


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mathira 4 years ago from chennai

Your hub was full of positive energy.


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sunkentreasure 4 years ago

ALWAYS HAVE A DREAM By BERNARD LEVINE

Follow your heart

to the path of greatness

that lies within you.

The secret of life

is to have something

to look forward to

everyday.

Find a dream that excites you

and make plans

of how you are going

to achieve it.

Feed your mind daily

with positive energy

and words of inspiration.

Take your life to a higher level.

Stay focused and go forward

with your eyes on the prize.

When you run towards your destination

with passion in your heart

you will see your dreams come true.

© Bernard Levine


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Injured lamb 4 years ago Author

Thanks mathi, hope you enjoy the reading...


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Injured lamb 4 years ago Author

Oh that's very kind of you sunkentreasure, thanks for taking your precious time to be here for the sincere comment...really appreciate...


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Seafarer Mama 4 years ago from New England

Great tips you have here, injured lamb. Especially the one about leaving household chores undone..I usually feel the need to catch up once in a while...but there are times to just get out of the house and enjoy the sunshine and fresh air.


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Injured lamb 4 years ago Author

Thanks for following me and being here to give me your support...enjoy the sunshine and fresh air? Oh yes, give me five Karen!


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kevins blog52 4 years ago from southern Indiana

Hi Injured Lamb, That was a very true as well as inspiring, Reading through the lines If I may say this site is a God sent for your own well being. fell free to message me if you feel the need to talk.


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Injured lamb 4 years ago Author

Oh really appreciate much for your comment and kind words kevins, I sensed your kindness and care...thank you...


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samsons1 4 years ago from Tennessee

Welcome to HubPages and thanks for the follow. I enjoyed this article very much and look forward to reading your insightful writings. Voted up, useful and interesting. I wish you much success...


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Injured lamb 4 years ago Author

Hi Sam, really glad to see you here...thanks for the words that filled with encouragement, appreciate much for the voting as well Sam, have a nice day...


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amymarie_5 4 years ago from Chicago IL

Great hub! So true how negativity creeps up on you. These are great tips that you have here! Rated up, useful, awesome and shared!


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Injured lamb 4 years ago Author

Thanks for the encouraging comment Amy, somehow...your comment energized me up and gave me a great feeling...appreciate much for your kindness Amy, be blessed...with love...

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