Egotism and Self-love: the Difference


"You are an egotist" is what my best friend, my son, my daughter, to name a few, would say to me every time I quote an anecdote from among my life experiences to emphasize a certain viewpoint under discussion in any given time.

The following is my self appreciation in an introspective form;


Nobody else can love me the way I do to my self.

Nobody else is with me in every second of my life.

I am the only living thing who is with me all the way since birth to present.

No one else knows me from inside out but me.

I was there in every turn of my life and in every event, people, object, place that occur in every phase of my life.


People come and go and so with relationships. Money and all the material things I love that come with it all pass by.

Jobs and careers come and go.

Places I'd been have been left behind so I can move to one that suits me and my needs in a given time; but in all these, I am still with me and I am the one who knows and experiences all the thoughts and the feelings involved in every occurrence, in every step, and in every phase of my life.


I know myself better than any one else know about me; therefore I am the only person who can love me and accept me completely as I am.


Nobody will eat the food for me when I am hungry.

Nobody will study the lessons for me so I can pass my exams when I was a student; and so forth and so on.


Nobody feels the grief for me when my husband died.

Nobody cries for me for my lose and even if they do, I would still grieve and cry for myself.


My parents loved me completely but they loved me because I am their child and they have dreams for me which I probably cannot dream for myself. Sometimes they are around but not every time I needed them.


My husband loves me because I am his wife who he may be happy and proud about and whose company he can enjoy with, for his certain needs but I cannot know exactly what is in his mind and in his heart, and vice versa.


I have flaws, I make many mistakes, I made wrong decisions, I fail on many of my dreams and aspirations; even love ones criticize me and point their fingers on me, friends and lovers may prove untrue and all the unfairness in life may happen and no one may stand by me;

But I have my Self, my reliable Self who forgives all my mistakes and flaws and who is sincerely compassionate of my weaknesses.

The Self that assures me that everything passes by and that every moment is a moment of revival and of coming back to the "Self" who truly knows me;

I am the one who knows why things happen the way they do in my life and so I can always change course when things go wrong.


I love my self; I know that I am a wonderful creature and I am capable of handling my own life to make it better and better and better in all aspects.


Whatever other people say against me do not bother me because I know who I am.

People may judge me according to their measure but I accept myself completely as I am and I allow my self to explore life according to the guidance of the "still small voice" that speaks to me in every turn of the way. I trust that voice inside me; it is the one who had been with me all the way.


I see my own truth and reality and I like it;

I love everything that I am, that I do and that I possess.

I love my self completely as I am, including my pains, my flaws, my mistakes,my failures, my hardships,my difficulties, my struggles and endeavors.

I trust My Self completely and I never betray "Me".

No one else can understand and accept me completely as I do my self.

I have no other life, this is me and I cherish my self;

I cherish my precious life so I don't allow anyone to affect me.
If I am not 100% for "Me" through and through , will anyone be for me all the way?

No, they have their own self too to attend to.


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

diyomarpandan,

Thank you diyomarpandan for dropping by and I am glad you are an "egotist" too, if that is how they call it. Actually loving one's self is far from being an egotist; understanding and loving one's self is actually loving everyone else. Love begets love.

Thanks again and God Bless.


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

diyomarpandan,

Thank you diyomarpandan for dropping by and I am glad you are an "egotist" too, if that is how they call it. Actually loving one's self is far from being an egotist; understanding and loving one's self is actually loving everyone else. Love begets love.

Thanks again and God Bless.


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Violet Flame,

Thank you Violet for dropping by and for having the same discernment within each of us. You are great yourself, I read your hubs and you have such wonderful viewpoint in life too. You also have that Divinity and Divine Guidance working in your life.

I am honored. Thanks again and God Bless.


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Jynzly 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Violet Flame,

Thank you Violet for dropping by and for having the same discernment within each of us. You are great yourself, I read your hubs and you have such wonderful viewpoint in life too. You also have that Divinity and Divine Guidance working in your life.

I am honored. Thanks again and God Bless.


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Violet Flame 4 years ago from Auckland, NZ

Awesome sister!!!

I salute you for your loving commitment to yourself! If every human being in this world can learn to love, respect and cherish themselves in this fashion, there will no longer be any misery. If all of us embrace and nourish our own inner child in self love, there will be no anger, nor sadness, nor crime. This is the decree I also subscribe to. It is important for every human being to know that they do not need anyone else to complete them, for they are complete in themselves. I love it! Bravo sister!

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