How To Lose Weight if you are unable to excercise.

Not always easy to slim down

In my youth size 10/12 (English size) was considered normal and l never had a problem staying slim no matter what l ate.

After the birth of my 1st baby , l was a size 10 again within a couple of months and never got bigger than a size 12,.

My whole life, l´d been slim wth no effort. l assumed it was just the way l was made.

However..... baby no 2 arrives.!What Happened? Aaaaaaargh! No idea!!

l seemed to pile on the pounds during pregnancy even though l had a toddler to run around after. l don´t remember overeating, it just seemed that this 2nd pregnancy found me larger and a different shape. Yes, l know ´round´is a shape, but not what l was used to.

After the birth l felt like there must be another baby in there , such was my size. l didn´t want to do any strict dieting as l was breastfeeding. Baby 1st, l thought l can diet later. Even so l was not enormous. That particular joy was yet to come.

My lifestyle had changed , of course,. l was a full time mum and had my baby to feed , then my little boy on returning from nursery / school, then dinner at 8.0.p.m. with my husband.

The routine was ok and it´s impossible to be lazy with a baby and a toddler, but l did notice that it was very easy to ´test´the baby food (makesure it´s ok, sometimes it would too nice). Oh so easy to join in with a small snack when feeding my now 4 year old, then still be ready for a fairly large meal in the evening with my husband.

My husband didn´t mind me being bigger (not always helpful, although kind) He used to remind me that when l was a size 10 l had no ´boobs´Thank you for that darling, just wait till l finish breastfeeding, l won´t have any ´boobs´again............

Happy with my life, l was horrified one day when shopping, l had to ask for a size 18.!!! l didn´t even KNOW anyone who was a size 18.! The next time, l needed a size 20...!!!!

How could skinny little me, who had been knicknamed ´the busy bee´when l worked in an office because l was so quick with everything and fitted in extra work. need a size 20?? l just naturally moved quickly.

Well l must have been doing something wrong, because the next shopping trip, yep, you´ve guesed it. l needed size 22. l burst into tears.! No matter how lovely the dress, l thought it´s impossible for me to look good in a size 22. The dress had to be bought, it was for a special occassion., but l vowed that it would be the only size 22 l´d ever buy. l felt so ugly.

Something had to be done.

l had already tried many different diets along my journey to size 22, but whatever weight loss l managed, soon piled back on.

Then one day l heard someone speak the OBVIOUS. ¨The only way to lose weight is to eat less¨¨

Something rang a bell in my head.What´s the worst thing about diets?? Being denied certain foods, don´t you think?. Well that´s how l felt , so l immedately started to put mind over matter.

If l´m hungry l´ll eat. If l´m not hungry l don´t have to eat because the clock says it´s time to eat.

I´m afrad the voluptuous look is not the fashion of today
I´m afrad the voluptuous look is not the fashion of today

My New Lifestyle

l started by putting literally half the usual amount of food on my plate, simply because l´m hopeless at leaving food. Hate waste, so my plate is always cleared.l tried to keep focussed. Some women are large, shapely and look good. l DIDN¨T. It had to go!!

Not only for my vanity but by this time arthritis had set in my spine. A family trait but even so my doctor was concerned about it beginniing while l was so young. Next it was my left knee, arthritis rubbed against the cartilage so badly l could hardly walk somedays. My knee would swell up like a balloon.!!!

Pretty soon it became normal to see much smaller portions on my plate, l gave up nibbling with childrens´tea-time´but l didn´t give up any particular food. Not even chocolate.

We love a great variety of food in our family anyway , so eating vegetables, fruit, anything ´good for you´ wasn´t an issue. l just ate a LOT less. My stomach soon got used to smaller portions, l started to feel better for it, especially as l hung the size 22 dress in my wardrobe, never wanting it to fit me again.

It took me 18months to lose 20 kilos. (more than 3 stone) and best of all 3 dress sizes. It seems a long time, but remember l didn´t have to deny myself any of my favourite foods, just the amount l ate. l did take a vitamin suppliment just in case. Some doctors said there was no need , others said it was good to be on the safe side.

Nice try, Dim. Blend in with husbands´blue shirt

We may not be able to gallop like this beauty, but  gentle excercise, walking is a real help ..
We may not be able to gallop like this beauty, but gentle excercise, walking is a real help ..

EXCERCISE

My health problems increased with age, and the only excercise l could do was walk. Most other types of excercise risk damaging my bones even further. So walking it was.

Everyone has to make up their own mind about excercise. Many of you will be able to do all sorts of gymnastics, but if you have any problems like l do, don´t be disheartened. l´m down to a size 16 now. This is still on the large size for me so l´m keeping going with what has worked for me.

When l lived in a beautiful place with good weather. , walking was no problem, because it was warm l could sit for a while , then walk some more.

Now that l live where wind and rain are the order of the day during this month of April...

l put on my favourite rock music and pretend l can dance like l used to. Of course l can´t and l´d never let anyone see me, but it means l am moving to the music.

Another thing is stairs. My knee hurts but it´s still worth me walking up and down the stairs a few times for no reason other than l cannot do aerobics, jogging or all the other things that normally go with diet. did l say DIET, . Dirty word. l don´t diet. l eat when l am hungry but stop when l´m full. Keep my portions small but they´re not microscopic, l promise. l can eat what l like as long as it´s not chocolate cake after a big meal, just because it´s there! Actually even that can happen once in a while but l just go straight back to my healthier ways next day,.

If l can lose weight( and still it´s slowly coming down, ) then anyone can.

If you´re a bit immobile like me take heart,. You can still do it.

If you are mobile you´ll probably lose your weight in half the time that l did.

All the best............................

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Comments 26 comments

SilverGenes 5 years ago

Dim, thank you for a fantastic article! I love it! By the way, you look cute anyway blending in with your husband's shirt. I'm doing the exact same thing at the moment and mobility is an issue for me, too, so it is slow going. Now that the warmer weather is here and everything isn't covered in ice, I can get out walking most days. I used to dance a lot so it took a toll on my knees over time and I had to laugh at your knee description - it sounded like you had seen mine! LOL. I'm not a large framed person and I have no business being more than a size 4 EVER and better at a size 2. Right now it feels like I last saw that in kindergarten! But I'm not quitting.... plodding along will still get me to the same place eventually :)


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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

A truly brilliant article. I am fully aware that weight can creep on unannounced! I make certain that the food on my plate is never more full than the amount I could put on my cupped hands. That is the size of my stomach!


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

thanks fort the comment sivergenes.. l am small-framed too, that´s part of the problem. Leep plodding along as you call it... My weight loss is far slower than most peoples but it´s so worth the effort to me..

Take care,

Dim xx


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Hi acaetnna,

Sounds like you´ve got it sorted. Good for you. Gñad you enjoyed the hub,. Take care x


Sunnie Day 5 years ago

Great hub Dim,

You have said it perfectly..all about what you take in. I have read some studies on mice where decreased calorie helped heal conditions. Less demands on the body. Thank you for writing about a struggle most of us have had.

Sunnie


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Micky Dee 5 years ago

Beautiful Dim. You are! Great hub. I have to watch what I eat too dear Dim. I'm protein shake with fruit, eggs, yogurt, etc. It's a "lifestyle". I have been the "clean plate" guy because my family believed, "take all you want, but eat all you take". I just should not have taken so much. God bless you Dim.


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Hi Micky, ¨take all you want , but eat all you take´´ l love that. You sound like you hav a good diet that you´ll need for all that cycling. It can´t be easy. Keep healthy. Love you, man, as always, Dim x


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Thanks Sunnie Day!!!! Glad you stopped by my page.

Didn´t know about decrease in calories helping ailments. good to know. Thank you. Take care.


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Winsome 5 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

"Eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full" Now why didn't I think of that? Ha ha Dim it sounds so common sense and taking half portions and not letting the clock dictate when to eat are all very helpful pieces of advice. I am working on an article that shows less food means greater productivity.

Congratulations on taking control of your life in this way! Voting you up just because I want say hurrah. =:)


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Great comment. Thank you.


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Timothy Donnelly 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

There, somebody said it! You are right on the money Dim! People should KNOW, it's not the food in the store that makes one gain weight (OK, fat), it's the eating of it (too much)!

Now, just to put that wisdom to work, exercise (even if modest) is tremendously helpful, as you say. Things won't happen by themselves, even with all the knowledge available, people have to DO it.

Good tidings Dim, keep up the great work, and Keep On Hubbing!


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Great comment. Very kind ofyou. Thanks.


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Genna East 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

Eat when we are hungry is what many people just don't seem to do, and that is how they put on the pounds. Once in awhile I catch myself wanting to grab a bite out of stress, and I catch myself. Great hub! You look great by the way. :


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Thank you Genna, l´m still losing slowly , thank goodness. People tell me my patience wil pay off because sometimes if you lose weight too quickly , you can very easily put it back on.. Take care.


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Tamila Roberts 5 years ago from Canada

That's a pretty nice Hub :) It's important to be all that concerned about your Health. I'd like to add my opinion if you don't mind. I was really impressed with your work and here to share some tips.

Actually, if you really can't exercise at all because of joint pain or obesity you should try driving to the beach or going to a sauna. Slow to moderate aquatic activities don't cause joint or limb injuries.

About the sauna, we all know the vaporous fumes and high-heat vaporous smoke can be hard to control.

Bring a friend and try staying in the sauna at least ten to twenty minutes. go out and repeat the process that can help you lose weight naturally AND you don't have to exercise.

You can start off by doing half an hour, if you don't feel like it or are not very patient you can bring a friend with you too. It is pretty relaxing and can definitely bring you to lose weight by sweating off the extra pounds.


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Thank you for that information. It all helps.


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Angelique Newman 5 years ago from Canada

Great advise, I really enjoyed reading your hub! You look wonderful; congratulations with your success :)


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Thank you for the lovely comment. Hope to see you around hubpages again.


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sofs 5 years ago

This is an excellent hub..I just can't stand those that recommend some soups, powders and pills..sensible eating and exercise is the key..you give so much hope to those that struggle with weight issues, you are indeed a brightly burning lamp :) Thanks for sharing!!


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain Author

Brightly burning lamp? You mean l´m not DIM?. Ha! Ha! Thanks for stopping by and for your lovely comment.

Take care.x


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Jameshank 4 years ago from Japan, NY, California

Hi! Enjoyed reading your hub and you are right diets are about smaller portions.


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Hello Jameshank, thank you for reading and taking the time to comment.


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Peanutritious 4 years ago from Cheshire, UK

I loved this! you have a lovely engaging style that makes me want to read more and more! I hate the word diet too! I was always a size 10 but have been a 14 for the last couple of years. I do go to the Gym and do Body Combat but not every week. I seem to find it difficult to get into a routine but must for my own sanity (and vanity for that matter!) I will try and have smaller portions too.


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Pleased to meet you on hubpages.... Peanutritious.!

Thank you very much for your comment.


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phdast7 4 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

Wonderful Hub Dim. Great read, great suggestions. There is hope even if there seems to be no way. Thanks for sharing your personal experience.


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Dim Flaxenwick 4 years ago from Great Britain Author

Thank you for commenting.

Where there´s life there´s hope.

I still struggle with my weight.

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